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Seen the other women in my family fall prey to the expectations of having a family and raising them. In the culture i'm from though the timeline is a bit different from on the one you mentioned. In Mormondom it typically looks more like: marry between age 17 and 18, have five kids by the age of 23 or feel like a loser of a woman.
My sister felt she was an old maid at age 21 and was somewhat relieved when she found out she was unexpectedly pregnant with twins because that would mean her boyfriend had an excuse to marry her.
pretty junky if you ask me.
my mom gave up a career in fashion design and merchandising to raise my brother and the rest of us as we came along. She lost a major part of herself and in my whole life has been nothing but a stress case and an empty shell of a human.
I want nothing to do with the patterns they have followed. I will not submit to the timelines of others. If I decide to have a family, If I decide to get married, it will be in a time frame that will be of my choosing. It will be to a kind man, not a jerk that I barely know. And it will be right.
Stupid, stupid culture. Stupid expectations.
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