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From the perspective of the person you hit, how do you think it feels? Do you really think this kid is going to feel "oh well I deserve that, I wont hold a grudge agaisnt that person for hitting me at all"
The only way that is possible is if he accepts what he did is wrong, and if he accepts that he wont do it again anyway, so there are only two arguments I can see
The best way to make someone see that something is wrong is hurt or damage them, to use violence against them
You arent really hitting him to make him see he was wrong, you are hitting to either hurt him because you think he deserves to be hurt or damaged for doing something wrong, or you just want to make him too scared to do what you dont want him to, because he knows he will be beaten for it.
Neither of these arguments make me feel comfortable...
The goal is to make this kid not do something like this again, and my belief, again, is that the most effective way to do that is to make him understand why it was wrong, and make him feel the guilt about it. Just hitting him teaches him more about violence... and when he is 18 maybe he's bigger than you are and the lesson goes the other way round.
And yes, kids probably always have bullied each other, and older brothers probably always have beaten up their younger brothers in many cases - and most people survive it and it doesnt do them any long term harm, but it doesnt mean it doesnt hurt them, and it doesnt mean it isnt wrong.
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for all things are plain in the sight of Heaven. For nothing
hidden will not become manifest, and nothing covered will remain
without being uncovered."
The Gospel of Thomas
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