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denim · 04-02-2004, 08:17 AM

I have two good friends. I was friends with them before they got married, and I'm still good friends with them. I generally visit them around once a year for a week or so. There's no sex involved between me and either of them.

Four years ago, we were getting along really well. I was out of work, doing a job search and they invited me out to their place to search in their area. At the time, I was living in Texas, and they were in Silicon Valley. So I went out there, with my cat, to job search.

I was there for two months. We learned several things. One, we learned that it can be useful to have close friends that close-by. Two, we learned that while we could compromise all over the place, we couldn't live together.

I've also seen a situation which doesn't quite compare to what you're talking about. It was a five-way sexual relationship with two women and three guys. It was two married couples and a third guy. I wasn't any of the guys, thank God.

Here's what happened, as far as I could tell as an outsider: the relationship wasn't stable. One of the women was okay with having multiple guys as long as her guy didn't go with the other woman. She was a bit selfish. Just a little bit. Still is, too. The other woman ended up splitting from the guy she had and going with the spare, then moving away. I don't want to think too hard about what the guy she split with felt like after this.

I can't offer any serious advice. All I can do is relate what I've seen. I have enough problems dealing with one woman at a time.

04-02-2004, 08:17 AM	#33 (permalink)
denim Banned Location: Massachusetts, USA	I have two good friends. I was friends with them before they got married, and I'm still good friends with them. I generally visit them around once a year for a week or so. There's no sex involved between me and either of them. Four years ago, we were getting along really well. I was out of work, doing a job search and they invited me out to their place to search in their area. At the time, I was living in Texas, and they were in Silicon Valley. So I went out there, with my cat, to job search. I was there for two months. We learned several things. One, we learned that it can be useful to have close friends that close-by. Two, we learned that while we could compromise all over the place, we couldn't live together. I've also seen a situation which doesn't quite compare to what you're talking about. It was a five-way sexual relationship with two women and three guys. It was two married couples and a third guy. I wasn't any of the guys, thank God. Here's what happened, as far as I could tell as an outsider: the relationship wasn't stable. One of the women was okay with having multiple guys as long as her guy didn't go with the other woman. She was a bit selfish. Just a little bit. Still is, too. The other woman ended up splitting from the guy she had and going with the spare, then moving away. I don't want to think too hard about what the guy she split with felt like after this. I can't offer any serious advice. All I can do is relate what I've seen. I have enough problems dealing with one woman at a time.