lurkette

As most of you know if you've been hanging around for a while, I'm bisexual. I'm married, and we are in (for lack of a better turn of phrase) a polyamorous relationship with another couple. (More questions about that in another thread.)

The only people who know about this besides ratbastid (my hubby) are my sister and my good friend Lesley.

It feels so weird to be hiding this side of myself, and I've been wondering lately about whether I should come out to other people. On one hand, it would feel really good to be known for who I really am and not have to hide anything. On the other hand, I'm chicken about how some people (mostly family) would react. On the other other hand, do I have some political responsibility to be "out" and visible so people know that g/l/b/etc people exist and are okay? (Most of my friends are pretty liberal, it's mostly my rural MN family I'm thinking about here.) On the OTHER other other hand, our umfriends are both teachers, and they're pretty selective about who they're "out" with. I don't know if my being out might affect them - the amount of time we spend together could take on a distinctly different light if people knew I was bi and they know she's bi.

Anyhow, the whole thing makes my head spin. There are some people I'm really close to (some of our friends, my mom, my aunts) that it feels like lying not to tell. There are other people (my boss, some of our less-close friends) that I don't really care if they know or not. And there are some people I'd rather not know - my Dad.

Any advice?

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