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Ya know, all the self-help aphorisms in the world can't help when they crumble in the moment of action and you're stuck like a deer in the headlights. No offense meant to Cyn, that's all great stuff. But I think would be more effective is a plan of action.
Pick a girl you see around every once in a while and ask her if she'd like to go out for a cup of coffee sometime. "Sometime" is the key thing here--keep it casual. Go out for that coffee, and if things go well, let it wait it marinate for a few days and ask her if she'd like to go for lunch "sometime." If things go well, marinate again, then ask her out to dinner. At the end of the night, you may get that kiss when you walk her to her door. If not? Wash, rinse, repeat, until you hit that goal. You're still young and you have plenty of time to go through this. Keep in mind, though, that you don't want to ask someone who already considers you "just a friend." Start with a clean slate. And when asking someone out for a dinner date, ask in the middle of the week, no later than Wednesday. Don't want to sound like you have nothing better to do, or have poor planning, or are desperate.
The point is, keep moving. Don't let yourself stop and stew about it. If you start getting blue, go out and hang with a friend, or watch a movie, read a book, or do something creative. Maybe you like to cook, or garden, or work on your car. A hobby.
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"The idea that money doesn't buy you happiness is a lie put about by the rich, to stop the poor from killing them." -- Michael Caine
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