motdakasha

if she was, in fact, attached before, then you'd only be disservicing her by trying to patch things up and start over again. it would not only be hurtful, but selfish on your part. utter disregard for others' feelings in order to get what you want sexually or via sex (which i see as malicious) == the makings of a slut. sad, but true.

however, if you broke it off because you were projecting your fears of commitment onto her by imagining she was becoming attached, then that's a whole different can of worms. personally, i don't think being upset and hurt is enough evidence that she was attached in a romantic sense. how you break up with girls alone can determine if she will get upset or hurt, even if there was no romantic emotional attachment. men tend to equate sex with being romantic; women typically do not. chances are more likely that you were confusing a physical relationship for something more and were perhaps frightened. something else that you should realize that inevitably occurs during most extended physical relationships is intimacy and friendship. if you were confusing these for romantic emotional attachment, then that's a fault on your part, not hers.

it doesn't sound like you asked for her opinion on emotional attachment before you broke it off. which, to be honest, is unfair and abrupt.

(please to note: i "verbed" disservice. disservicing is not a real word.)

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