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forseti-6 · 03-21-2004, 12:32 PM

Ok so in a few months, I head to Fort Benning Georgia to begin my Army training. I'll be at basic training for 9 weeks, 14 weeks for OCS, 21 weeks of Infantry OBC, 3 weeks for Airborne, and 6 weeks for Ranger. Now that totals over a year I'll be in training. I recently just entered a very good relationship, and I'm trying to think of ways to make it work out. Through basic training I mostly likely will only have scant access to a telephone or internet. OCS will be the same. OBC I'll be able to call and write often. Airborne and Ranger I won't have any access to phones or internet probably.

So is my relationship doomed? We both really like each other - frankly we haven't known each other and been together long enough to use the "L" word. I know she also wants a career, and being a potential army spouse might not be appealing to her. So I'm wondering what my options really could be. Do I just say, "I'd like our relationship to continue, but in the next year or so it's going to be rough. If we can make it out of it together, we'll have smooth sailing. "

I know they say separation makes the heart fonder, but almost a year? I love the Army, and becoming an officer has been a lifelong dream for me. But I feel that this girl is "the one." I need advice!

03-21-2004, 12:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
forseti-6 Existentialist Location: New York City	Need Advice - Long Distance Relationships Ok so in a few months, I head to Fort Benning Georgia to begin my Army training. I'll be at basic training for 9 weeks, 14 weeks for OCS, 21 weeks of Infantry OBC, 3 weeks for Airborne, and 6 weeks for Ranger. Now that totals over a year I'll be in training. I recently just entered a very good relationship, and I'm trying to think of ways to make it work out. Through basic training I mostly likely will only have scant access to a telephone or internet. OCS will be the same. OBC I'll be able to call and write often. Airborne and Ranger I won't have any access to phones or internet probably. So is my relationship doomed? We both really like each other - frankly we haven't known each other and been together long enough to use the "L" word. I know she also wants a career, and being a potential army spouse might not be appealing to her. So I'm wondering what my options really could be. Do I just say, "I'd like our relationship to continue, but in the next year or so it's going to be rough. If we can make it out of it together, we'll have smooth sailing. " I know they say separation makes the heart fonder, but almost a year? I love the Army, and becoming an officer has been a lifelong dream for me. But I feel that this girl is "the one." I need advice! __________________ "Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." - Dr. Seuss