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Originally posted by Anomaly77
Twenty-first century or not, society still puts a lot of pressure on women to marry and raise a family. As a married yet, childless woman, I quite often have others "reminding me" that this is my role.
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And so, what I am wondering is, for the women who do desire this or who have a timeline planned out; at what point do you/did you succumb to the pressure? Would you/did you sacrifice some of your standards in order to marry and have children? And for those that did, any regrets?
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Hi Anomaly77,
You are right off course, women still are considered to have the "duty" to get married, clean the house, do the dishes and raise some children... A good friend of mine isn't sure at the moment what she wants to do with her life --amongst the main issues is the question if she wants children or not-- and a lot of the people surrounding her don't really understand this (including her own mother)
I myself do want children i guess, one day. I would also like to get married, or at least find a man (found him already actually) with whom i want to live the rest of my life with.
But, I wouldn't sacrifice anything for this... I think that if you do this, if you give up things that you really want for yourself -like a career or whatever- to give in to having children, just because this is expected of you; this will "rebounce" upon you later, not in a good way.
I just think that a lot of women, at a certain age, really want children, and give up what they found more important earlier, because for them -at that time- they want children more, then their previous ambitions...
This isn't just because they want to match the society-expectations, this is because their so-called biological clock is ticking and the ticking gets louder and louder,
i think that most women really want to have children, because the want it; this is logical, it is genetically defined, and off course, with reason...