An anus is an anus is an anus.
Wear a condom. Too much lube is almost enough. Start small first (fingers, plugs) and work your way up. If the receiver is on top, entry is a lot more pleasant and the recommended position for beginners/first-timers.
It's only painful if you don't do it right. That goes for any gender.
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I also just realized that I misread your post.
If it's so tight it hurts you, you're probably injuring the receiver. GO SLOW. BE NICE. USE TOO MUCH LUBE. Work at the receiver's pace. Start with a lubed (preferrably gloved) finger to get the rectum/anus ready and slippery. If it's a girl, massage toward her vagina since it's feels like the equivalent of fingering her vagina, but from a different angle. If it's a guy, feel for a small bump (which would be forward, and where a vagina would be if it were a girl) and massage it (the prostate gland, a.k.a. heaven).
Then move on to penile insertion when the receiver is ready. Once you get the head in, give the receiver time to relax and get accustomed to the size before making small, slow thrusting motion until the rest of the penis is in. Then you may proceed if receiver gives the go ahead.
Please notice, do not do anything until the receiver is ready.
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