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Long story short: I married my son's biological father when our son was 6. It was amazing to me how many traights he had that were similar to his father. I then knew biology has a lot to do with how we turn out.
On the other hand, I took on twin step-sons; one of which had spent much more time with his mother than the other. His actions prove to me that environment has a huge effect on how we turn out.
So, Untitled is right -- it is both.
(As for the child you mentioned above, I have found that all children desire and deserve boundaries. That boy is crying out for someone to say, "I love you enough" to put boundaries around you and help you succeed in life.")
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