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neoinoakleys · 05-02-2003, 09:40 AM

Let me put it this way...

Sexual incompatibility is a major cause for unhappy marriages and infidelity.

In my opinion, there are many aspects of sex that need to be explored before commiting to anyone. Without this information you don't know if you are compatible.

Let me give it to you like this, I have a friend who one day told me that he is a virgin and wants to wait to have sex until he gets married. My initial reaction was "good for him...that is really special." Then I thought about it and put myself in his place. I thought about not having the knowledge that I have from HAVING sex. I began to ask myself, why I HAD sex before marriage, and this is what I found.

I have sex because everyone wants sex in different frequencies. I need to know that we want sex in the same increments. I need to know that she will want sex everyday, week, year...whatever, just like me. This is part of sexual compatibility. Last thing I needed is someone who wants sex once every OTHER year, and I want it every 2 days...that would just make me frustrated and might lead me to give in to temptations and maybe infidelity.

Next I need to know that she wants the same things in bed that I want. Not to be crass, but if I like blowjobs, or doggy style...I want to know that she is going to be able to provide that for me. Vice versa, I would want to know what will make her happy, and she is not some freak that wants to introduce midgets into our love making or something. This is knowledge that I need in order to be sexually compatible. Again by knowing this, I will have a much better idea of whether we will be physically happy with our relationship, and be able to be committed without wanting it from somewhere else.

Although, sex is not the only thing to consider it IS however a one of the MAJOR pieces.

Just like anything else...I like to make informed decisions. You would never buy a car without thoroughly checking it out, so then why would you make a MAJOR decision that could impact the rest of your life based on incomplete facts?

my $0.02....

05-02-2003, 09:40 AM	#51 (permalink)
neoinoakleys Psycho Location: Michigan	Let me put it this way... Sexual incompatibility is a major cause for unhappy marriages and infidelity. In my opinion, there are many aspects of sex that need to be explored before commiting to anyone. Without this information you don't know if you are compatible. Let me give it to you like this, I have a friend who one day told me that he is a virgin and wants to wait to have sex until he gets married. My initial reaction was "good for him...that is really special." Then I thought about it and put myself in his place. I thought about not having the knowledge that I have from HAVING sex. I began to ask myself, why I HAD sex before marriage, and this is what I found. I have sex because everyone wants sex in different frequencies. I need to know that we want sex in the same increments. I need to know that she will want sex everyday, week, year...whatever, just like me. This is part of sexual compatibility. Last thing I needed is someone who wants sex once every OTHER year, and I want it every 2 days...that would just make me frustrated and might lead me to give in to temptations and maybe infidelity. Next I need to know that she wants the same things in bed that I want. Not to be crass, but if I like blowjobs, or doggy style...I want to know that she is going to be able to provide that for me. Vice versa, I would want to know what will make her happy, and she is not some freak that wants to introduce midgets into our love making or something. This is knowledge that I need in order to be sexually compatible. Again by knowing this, I will have a much better idea of whether we will be physically happy with our relationship, and be able to be committed without wanting it from somewhere else. Although, sex is not the only thing to consider it IS however a one of the MAJOR pieces. Just like anything else...I like to make informed decisions. You would never buy a car without thoroughly checking it out, so then why would you make a MAJOR decision that could impact the rest of your life based on incomplete facts? my $0.02.... __________________ It's My Duty to Please That Booty!!