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Originally posted by cynicalgrrlll
Why would it fuck you up? Did you watch them have sex or something? The fact that it bothers kids when their parents divorce has always been a mystery to me, you weren't part of their intimate relationship, so don't worry about it.
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What a callous outlook.
Human Sexuality In A World of Diversity
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Wallerstein and Blakeslee (1989) reported that about four out of ten children in their case studies showed problems such as anxiety, academic underachievement, decreased self-worth, and anger ten years after the divorce. A "sleeper effect" was also described. Apparently well-adjusted children of divorce developed problems in early adulthood, especially difficulties trusting that their partners in intimate relationships would make lasting commitments. Researchers attribute children's problems after divorce not only to the divorce itself but also to a subsequent decline in the quality of parenting. Children's adjustment is enhanced when parents maintain their parenting responsibilities and set aside their differences long enough to agree on child-rearing practices (Wallerstein & Blakeslee, 1989). Children of divorce also benefit when divorced parents encourage each other to continue to play important roles in their children's lives and avoid saying negative things about each other in their children's presence.
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Children born before a divorce are often used as tool or instrument to attack the other spouse. It's also known that the mortality/abuse rates skyrocket (hundred times more likely than a child raised by birth parents) when children are raised by an adult parental figure that isn't their own blood (step parents).