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College years are frequently the years where people who are really homosexual finally realize that they can't fake being hetero, or don't have to. This is an extremely difficult time for your friend, if this is what is going on. The problem is, if he has just now, finally realized that he is gay, then it sounds like he doesn't know how to go about it in an acceptable manner.
Try not to be freaked out or hostile. Try to explain to him that you are not "into" that. That you are not gay. Maybe tell him that if he feels like doing homosexual things that that is cool and all, but that that is not your thing. He's going through a tough time. He needs to find people like himself. Maybe there is a gay social club or organization that you can put him in touch with. Those folks will have all gone through that already and might really be able to help him out. If you are true friends then your friendship can survive this. There is the possiblilty that he could have late onset manic-depression or scizophrenia, or something related. This is not a high probability, but these things can exhibit themselves between 18 - 19 yrs. Happened to my brother. If he seems more generally weird and unstable, and not just a difficult sexual awakening, then try to get him checked out. They have incredible drugs for these things now - much better than 25 yrs. ago when they had nothing for my bro.
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