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I have seen this many times in my life. I don't quite understand it, but a large percentage of women love "the bad boy" whatever the hell that is. Another arguement is that if you make a woman feel too secure, it's the kiss of death. (I truly believe this one.) I think it's because on some deeply subconscious level, they want their men to behave like men. Nurturing guys tend to be equated with feminine characteristics.
Your GF obviously falls into that category.
I think they basically LOVE the drama of it all. On some subconscious level, these "bad boys" represent a challange to them, or the enjoy the humiliation of being treated like crap at some level. I am sure one could do a master's thesis on the subject.
It's interesting because men by and large do not duplicate this behaviour. Sure, there are some men who enjoy being dominated by their females, but very few men seek out the female counter part of the "bad boy" - "the bad girl???"
Now, looking at the broader picture, not all women are the same. Many have a lot more going for them and want nothing to do with an asshole. Which raises the question, is your GF's ex an "asshole", or a "bad boy" There's a difference.
I don't know how old you are, but my observations are that as women get older, this desire to mate with a "bad boy" fades. By the time she's in her mid 30's, it's pretty much the opposite. Most "bad boys" at that age have huge beer guts, are unemployable (note i said unemployable not unemployed) , and have severe personality disorders, and often abusive. (Stereotyping perhaps)
The romance of the notion of the "bad boy" wears thin.
My recommendation would be to buy yourself a harly and start chasing other women. This will drive her crazy with desire.
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