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X_789_X · 03-13-2004, 12:43 AM

Yeah sooo... Basically I just want a woman's opinion or what-not but first my sad story (Oh, and the girl I'm talking about is a member here, but I really don't care about her seeing this). Basically, my girlfriend decided to break up with me for her ex (but it's not the normal thing *sorta'*).

To make a long story short, this woman and I had a pretty good relationship. Well, a great relationship. Or so I thought. I mean, we had our problems like most relationships do, but we always worked through them. We always did things together, many nights we just stayed up and talked, we shared each other pains and joys etc. When she was feeling down, I always tried to make her feel better. According to her, I made her feel special and I gave her a tremendous boost of self-esteem.

Now, also according to her, her ex was nothing but a jerk. He ignored her, treated her like crap, made fun of her to make himself feel better, they never spent time together etc. Basically, she always cried to me about how shitty he made her feel and how great I made her feel.

So yeah... You'd think that she'd choose the guy that treats her with dignity, right? Wrong! She tells me a couple of days ago that she still has feeling for her ex (which I can understand) and that she wishes she didn't because she hated him. So I didn't think anything of it. Then, yesterday, she tells me that she's been thinking and that she loves her ex moreso than me. And this I can't understand. She ADMITS that she hates how she treats him and how she doesn't want to go through the same thing again. She even admits that for the first time in her life, I made her feel needed. But then she turns around and does this to me. In my opinion, she doesn't know what she wants.

So right now she's off talking to him and I'm left here, practically in tears, wondering why this sort of thing ALWAYS to me. So basically, I want to know why it seems women always chose the jerk over the nice guy. I guess this is more of a rant than anything, but I just want to know why (some) woman chose the guys that they know aren't going to respect them or their feelings???

Anyway insight would be GREATLY appreciated.

03-13-2004, 12:43 AM	#1 (permalink)
X_789_X Upright Location: In The Deep, Deep South...	Nice Guys Finish Last. But For How Long...??? Yeah sooo... Basically I just want a woman's opinion or what-not but first my sad story (Oh, and the girl I'm talking about is a member here, but I really don't care about her seeing this). Basically, my girlfriend decided to break up with me for her ex (but it's not the normal thing sorta'). To make a long story short, this woman and I had a pretty good relationship. Well, a great relationship. Or so I thought. I mean, we had our problems like most relationships do, but we always worked through them. We always did things together, many nights we just stayed up and talked, we shared each other pains and joys etc. When she was feeling down, I always tried to make her feel better. According to her, I made her feel special and I gave her a tremendous boost of self-esteem. Now, also according to her, her ex was nothing but a jerk. He ignored her, treated her like crap, made fun of her to make himself feel better, they never spent time together etc. Basically, she always cried to me about how shitty he made her feel and how great I made her feel. So yeah... You'd think that she'd choose the guy that treats her with dignity, right? Wrong! She tells me a couple of days ago that she still has feeling for her ex (which I can understand) and that she wishes she didn't because she hated him. So I didn't think anything of it. Then, yesterday, she tells me that she's been thinking and that she loves her ex moreso than me. And this I can't understand. She ADMITS that she hates how she treats him and how she doesn't want to go through the same thing again. She even admits that for the first time in her life, I made her feel needed. But then she turns around and does this to me. In my opinion, she doesn't know what she wants. So right now she's off talking to him and I'm left here, practically in tears, wondering why this sort of thing ALWAYS to me. So basically, I want to know why it seems women always chose the jerk over the nice guy. I guess this is more of a rant than anything, but I just want to know why (some) woman chose the guys that they know aren't going to respect them or their feelings??? Anyway insight would be GREATLY appreciated. __________________ When a woman says she'll call you, she means when she gets home. When a man says he'll call you, he means sometime before he dies...