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I had something almost exactly like this happen to me. Except I was the friend.
And the girl was married to my next-door neighbor.
I was in their wedding, and lost touch with them for about a year...then helped the wife (who i hadn't really met before) throw a birthday party at my house...that I helped plan.
They ignored eachother at the party and he was rude to her and paid attention to some old flame from high-school...so I started talking to her to see what was up...she kept pulling away from the group so I'd check on her.
I called them later that week to see if they wanted to hang out, and he was gonna be gone all day, but she said she wouldn't mind hanging out just the two of us. I ended up being a shoulder to cry on about how bad their marriage was going. As far as I could see, there was no relationship...it was dead...they were living in different parts of the house and trying not to talk to eachother.
We started hanging out, and then going out...she'd been so used to taking abuse and being ignored that any positive attention I gave her made her light up like i'd given her the moon.
Eventually she told her husband she wanted a divorce. I really hope that she already wanted one before we started going out, but I can't quite convince myself. I stayed with her for eight months, and then broke up with her because of other drama.
I don't feel like a bad guy...I convinced myself (true or not) that the relationship was dead before I got there, so I wasn't killing it or hurting him, I was just cheering her up.
Anyways, I'd like to patch it up with my ex-friend, and take my lumps if they're coming...just so I know i'm not gonna get jumped in an alley, if nothing else....but I'm not sure how to...I haven't talked to him in six months....he still lives next door to my parents.
Anyways, I realize this isn't the exact scenario in this thread, but I thought I'd contribute a different perspective....
feel free to flame me or cut my balls off
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