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Seaver · 03-08-2004, 03:07 PM

Dude, your problem is your self-confidence, not your physical appearance.

I'm 6'3" 205lbs, very athletic. I have a friend who is 5'8" 260lbs, and looks more like an M&M than a Greek scuplture. Believe it or not he gets more girls than I do.

Yes, the M&M gets more girls than I do. He gets shot down more often, but the end result is in any given month he has about 4-5 more dates with different women than I've had in my best month.

It's not that his standars are lower, or that he relies on rofies/alcohol, he only picks up perfectly sober women.

The reason is he talks to EVERYONE. Old ladies, hot girls, waitresses, taxi cab drives, bartenders, bouncers, everyone. Try this out, and you'll see the genious of it. Have you ever talked to someone you have no physical attraction to? The converstation is easy. Now I imagine you choke up when talking to hot girls? Well eventually if you talk to enough people talking to the hotties will be just like talking to a friend.

Your self-confidence will grow, slowly at first, then by leaps and bounds.

Look them in the eye when you talk, talk light, crack a few jokes, and ask them if they want to get coffee tomarrow. If not who cares, even if you have a 1% success rating that's probably a hell of a lot higher than you're currently getting, and is 100% higher than not asking.

My friend gets shot down about 7/10 times... yeah, not a very good record. But you have to realize no one has a greater than 50/50 chance, even Greek gods. I get a date about 4/10 of the time, the key is to keep attacking, keep asking.

Your physical appearance is only part of your confidence problem, go work out if you feel that will help you out, it definatly wont hurt. Good luck.

03-08-2004, 03:07 PM	#25 (permalink)
Seaver Junkie Location: Fort Worth, TX	Dude, your problem is your self-confidence, not your physical appearance. I'm 6'3" 205lbs, very athletic. I have a friend who is 5'8" 260lbs, and looks more like an M&M than a Greek scuplture. Believe it or not he gets more girls than I do. Yes, the M&M gets more girls than I do. He gets shot down more often, but the end result is in any given month he has about 4-5 more dates with different women than I've had in my best month. It's not that his standars are lower, or that he relies on rofies/alcohol, he only picks up perfectly sober women. The reason is he talks to EVERYONE. Old ladies, hot girls, waitresses, taxi cab drives, bartenders, bouncers, everyone. Try this out, and you'll see the genious of it. Have you ever talked to someone you have no physical attraction to? The converstation is easy. Now I imagine you choke up when talking to hot girls? Well eventually if you talk to enough people talking to the hotties will be just like talking to a friend. Your self-confidence will grow, slowly at first, then by leaps and bounds. Look them in the eye when you talk, talk light, crack a few jokes, and ask them if they want to get coffee tomarrow. If not who cares, even if you have a 1% success rating that's probably a hell of a lot higher than you're currently getting, and is 100% higher than not asking. My friend gets shot down about 7/10 times... yeah, not a very good record. But you have to realize no one has a greater than 50/50 chance, even Greek gods. I get a date about 4/10 of the time, the key is to keep attacking, keep asking. Your physical appearance is only part of your confidence problem, go work out if you feel that will help you out, it definatly wont hurt. Good luck.