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Originally posted by mr sticky
CHAUVINISM ALERT!!!!!
Wow you guys are way more self-actualized than I am.
Your buddy screwed you over. In guy code, the jump on a grenade for your buddy code, girlfriends are off limits! You may NEVER date or be romantic with any chick a buddy has loved. Now, this doesn't include one-night-stands and the like (unless said buddy dug her massively and SHE put the brakes on it). But any girl he's said I love you to is forever off your radar. Period!
Now as far as I'm concerned, you could forgive and forget, but you were betrayed! I personally would never have anything of substance with him again.
As for the GF, it's really not about her to me...if your buddy had your back, then the break up may or may not have happened. But if he was a true buddy, then even if she dumped you, he would be taking you out for a night of drunken commiseration and telling you everything that he hated about her, and how she didn't deserve someone as cool as you. Not consoling her before your body was cold.
I know this is a bit neanderthal in approach, but all my close friends and I live by a certain buddy code. It's not written, never spoken, it's just known.
And guys, before you start razzing me on my low-brow approach, picture self as the betrayer, think about your best friend...could you...would you do that to him with a clean conscience?
HELLL NOOOO!!
Forgive the knee jerk approach... but I swear it's how I really feel. I never have...I never will...fuck over a buddy.
Remember, your friends are the family that you pick!
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yup, the "code" was definately broken. actually, it was totally disregarded, cuzz this guy not only is hooking up with a best friend's ex, he was the cause of the breakup.
i personally would beat his ass. just to make it known that he fuck up was total bullshit. first explain to him that what he did was dick, then beat the shit out of him, shake his hand, and tell him that he WON'T do it again. shake his hand, forgive him, and depending on how good of friends you are, you can either pretend it never happened or just move on.