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Yakk · 03-03-2004, 07:07 AM

motdakasha's point is a good one.

If you just install a keyboard logger or start intercepting/reading her mail, what good does it do you other than "ooo, I was right?". That and 25 cents can get you a quarter.

If it doesn't stand up in court, you won't be able to prove that the divorce wasn't just you breaking up over nothing.

There are professional investigators who know what evidence is admissable in court. They will gather this evidence for you and provide you with all the proof you need, probably more successfully than you could.

Just like spying on her, doing this is unethical if she is innocent, but justified if she is guilty. Realize that by doing this you are taking an ethical risk. And avoid the logic-trap of "I hired a private investigator. I am an ethical person. I would only hire such an investigator if she was guilty. Thus, she is guilty."

Even using private spying to gather evidence that will salve your conscience and lead you to hire an investigator might taint the private investigator's findings (I Am Not A Lawyer).

If you hire a PI and the PI finds nothing, then you are in an interesting place.

03-03-2004, 07:07 AM	#44 (permalink)
Yakk Wehret Den Anfängen! Location: Ontario, Canada	motdakasha's point is a good one. If you just install a keyboard logger or start intercepting/reading her mail, what good does it do you other than "ooo, I was right?". That and 25 cents can get you a quarter. If it doesn't stand up in court, you won't be able to prove that the divorce wasn't just you breaking up over nothing. There are professional investigators who know what evidence is admissable in court. They will gather this evidence for you and provide you with all the proof you need, probably more successfully than you could. Just like spying on her, doing this is unethical if she is innocent, but justified if she is guilty. Realize that by doing this you are taking an ethical risk. And avoid the logic-trap of "I hired a private investigator. I am an ethical person. I would only hire such an investigator if she was guilty. Thus, she is guilty." Even using private spying to gather evidence that will salve your conscience and lead you to hire an investigator might taint the private investigator's findings (I Am Not A Lawyer). If you hire a PI and the PI finds nothing, then you are in an interesting place. __________________ Last edited by JHVH : 10-29-4004 BC at 09:00 PM. Reason: Time for a rest.