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Originally posted by motdakasha
1) stop invading your wife's privacy
2) if you have an issue with her supposed loyalty, discuss it with her in a mature matter. i wouldn't go for a direct approach, but ask her if she's happy and what things need to be worked on (as a couple) to improve the relationship.
3) there are other ways to look for signs that don't involve illegal invasion of privacy. statistics have shown that when a partner is cheating, they buy themselves gifts (or receive gifts) more often.
4) if you are really intent on going behind her back and spying, hire a professional who knows how to do it legally so that if you need to go to court to prove it, you won't get in trouble.
5) if you are still sexually involved with her, use protection.
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i can not disagree more, she has shown that she cheated twice before. having a "relationship" with another person while married is against the rules of maraige. the disreguard of the rules of maraige is much worse than the breaking a rule of privacy. she is breaking the rule of having a "private" relationship with you while married. she is denying to be cheating, what else does he have to do but sit back and watch his entire life emploe on itself. if you have to go behind her back to prove that she is denying the most important oath she ever took, then thats shows that she doesn't care enough to let you know it is over and only thinking of herself. there is no excuse in the world to cheat, bad communication, job, wealth issues, sickness, or just boredom, there is no excuse. cheating is like rape, molestation, abuse, and total disreguard of human feelings all rolled up into one big ball of "i have lost all respect for you as a person and thats it".