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*Nikki* · 03-02-2004, 06:23 PM

My boyfriend reminded me the other day how much he likes an "independant woman" and I got to thinking about what the hell this means.

I think of myself as independant. I live alone, I support myself 100% without help from anyone, I am a part time student and a full time employee. I got the job I have all by myself without any help. In fact I do a whole lot of things by myself.

But here is the catch and the part that has got me wondering.

I don't like it.

I would rather have him with me 90% of the time. I would rather have a partner who helped pay the bills and help take off some of the stress of living alone. I would like to be married. To have someone always here to come home to.

So does this really make me codependant? Because it seems that I am not independant so much by choice....as circumstance.

03-02-2004, 06:23 PM	#1 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	Are you considered an independant woman? My boyfriend reminded me the other day how much he likes an "independant woman" and I got to thinking about what the hell this means. I think of myself as independant. I live alone, I support myself 100% without help from anyone, I am a part time student and a full time employee. I got the job I have all by myself without any help. In fact I do a whole lot of things by myself. But here is the catch and the part that has got me wondering. I don't like it. I would rather have him with me 90% of the time. I would rather have a partner who helped pay the bills and help take off some of the stress of living alone. I would like to be married. To have someone always here to come home to. So does this really make me codependant? Because it seems that I am not independant so much by choice....as circumstance.