Fingerin'
 

Hey, what are effective ways to finger a woman, that feel the best. Kinda hard as a guy to know what they want. Any advise will be appriciated.

There's no one right way. The necessary tactics will differ from girl to girl. Just keep an eye on her reactions, really. When you find something that works, keep using it, then stop using it until she begs you to use it again. Pretty simple formula when you get down to it.

one finger at a time. ;)

I've been told, that you finger around, but never in, in is not that exciting, and unpleasant to some girls. Most girls seem to prefer that. Anyone care to confirm?

My gf loves when I use two fingers.

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I can tell you some girls like the "rub it out like a bad mistake in math" and others like it "traced like a gentle snowflake"

try both and see how she responds.

I haven't really thought about much since my fingers are simply a fore runner to my tongue

finger + tongue = good.

play some with her ass = better ;)

My experience has been that it depends completely on the person.

I've been with women where this is true, but I've been with one in particular where she liked extremely forceful finger thrusts.

Just talk it out with your partner, especially during the act.

It seems like the best tactic is to try all of the above. Left side, right side, over the top, tracing the lips, etc. It also helps to get her to show you what feels good. With some encouragement, she can put your digits on the right trigger spot.

Always remember...counterclockwise swirl. Never clockwise.
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hot dayum! :D

"one fist at a time" :D

Does going inside feel any better, or is it best to stay out?

the recent ex liked to have 2 fingers in and around and one on/in her bum...

index and middle in the honey pot and one of the remaining ones in the fudge bowl up to the second knuckle... give it a little push and watch her eyes roll back in her head...

good stuff... wish she was still around to make that face!

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the wonderful thing about fingers,
are fingers are wonderful things

hehe

You know what?Ive always liked it up and down as a aposed to the round or in and out. Glad my bf found that out ;) Though he needs more practice with his tongue..But if your giving oral..a little sucking now and then does her body good ;) !lol

As some have already said, it not only varies from woman to woman, but it varies depending on mood. Watch for reactions. Talk it out if you have to. And of course, practice makes perfect!

the only thing I would have to add to this is: don't do the same thing continously.. Switch things up, going back to things more often if it gets a better reaction... if she really wants something, then they will sometimes ask for it..

the worst thing I can think of one doing is the same old motions to the point where it becomes numb... hopefully your girly doesn't let you get that far ;)

Like everyone says, it depends. Good to experiment and pay attention to her body language. Make sure there's enough light to watch her face and do different things.

Try two fingers, malm up when she's on her back. Keep the finger pads on the upper surface as you go in. A few inches in, the texture will change a bit and it will get softer. Swirl around there a bit.

Also try extending your finger straight out and see if you can find a firmer protrusion coming from the far wll (like the tip of a nose). That's the cervix. Some women seem to like it when you swirl around it gently, or just above it, especially when they're getting closr to orgasm.

Oh, also try putting your index and middle finger inside as far as you can while keeping your (well lubed) thumb gently on her clit. Swirl thumb and fingers around in the same motion, like you're polishing your glasses.

Like I said, try different things and see what she likes. If you're not sure, ask her if what you're doing feels good.

Oh, and oblar is spot on, don't do the same thing forever. Do it long enough for her to enjoy it, not long enough for it to get annoying.

The c-spot(mound) seems to be key. Ask your girl to help you find it. I'd recomend giving it up to the c-spot with your thumb and the g-spot with your pointer finger. Ask your girl for directions to both spots.

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Yes they are! But I can think of one or two better things..

my girl likes 2 fingers. and yea. the come here motion works. it hits the G-spot. like rite behind her abdomen

For me its about the rhythm and intensity for the build up for her to climax with power and vigor. Starting softly, evenly and in sync with the motions your girlfriend will provide.. Her body and sounds with give you many clues to follow.. Most importantly enjoy her pleasure with the joy of you being the one to provide it for her..And have a blast.

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my lady, depending on her mood, really likes to grind on the fingers, like she's getting boned. If she is having a hard time concentrating, i put another one in there. When she is seriously worked up, and wants the monster orgasm, I get all four fingers in there, up to the point where the fingers join the palm, and I let her work hard up against them, and stroke them in and out everynow and then. just about makes her head explode. of course, i am licking everything i can get my tongue on at the same time. seems to work for me.

Most of the last few girlfriends like it with thumb on the clit, two fingers on the G-spot and the pinky in the butt. The trick is to get all of them to move in the right way. Takes a little practice.

You don't need to do this long before you switch to tongue on the clit and two fingers on the G-spot and thumb of the other hand on the butt. Then your face gets a bath! ;)

My current girlfriend isn't crazy about the finger in the butt unless she's very horny, like after a couple of joints and a vodka. She's got some bad memories of a previous BF who used the butt a little too much.

I would just like to point out that you do have two hands. What you do with that second hand is almost as vital as what you do with your "working hand".

Well yeah. A girl has more than just a pussy.

But the subject is fingerin'.

Depending on where you are and how your sitting or lying or whatever, you'll likely be fingerin' with one hand. The other will be under you or her or holding her or the groceries or the umbrella or whatever.

When you're on the bed and you're both naked, then maybe you can get in there with two hands. A cliteral/G-spot/anal triple header.

Rule 1: Wash your hands first.

and cut your dang nails

yes, verrily important!

me and my bf both keep ours short enough...

skin in certain pleasure areas is very delicate ;)

Couldn't have said it better myself.

If it's just one finger, is there a preference of which finger?

you learn new things everyday
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go way slower than you would want a girl to touch you.

Each girl is different. Know her anatomy. if you touch her clit and she does like it (yea I know that doesn't happen) then you don't do it. If you're fingering her and she pulls away with her body, she doens't like it, if she rides up on your fingers and comes closer to you, you've found something she likes.

Find what she wants and use it.

Every woman is different, watch her reaction and adjust accordingly.

i agree with most of these posts - the "come here" motion with a finger is spectacular for a lot of women because it often directly stimulates the G-spot. You're looking...err, feeling...for a spot a little less than an inch across and less than that deep. It feels like it is ribbed horizontally.

Another good spot I've found it a very small nub down and toward the back of the vagina. It seems to elicit some very good responses.

In addition to methods for inside the vagina, there are two important areas to cover outside of the vagina. One, of course, is the clitoris. It is a nub hooded at the upper intersection of the two labia (or "pussy lips," as they're commonly called). Be sure to stimulate this, but be careful, as it can be very sensitive (but that depends on the girl - my girlfriend can enjoy a roughed-up clit). I suggest lightly pulling back the hood with your fingers and, at first, delicately tonguing the revealed pink nodule. Do circles around it and otherwise play with it with increasing pressure to get a feel for what she likes.

Besides the clit, the labia are very sensitive and erotic. The large outer "lips" are the easiest to see, manipulate, and...suck on. So give those a shot, and see what she thinks.

However, the best method (as HFrankenstein pointed out) is to try different things, use what you see works, and then take it from her to make her want more.

Good luck - and be sure to let us know of your adventures!

A little pointless to ask all of us instead of the person who'll be on the receiving end of the attention.

That said, a little bit of teasing and suspense always works for me before the, um, plunge.

I'm glad I read this thread - I have learned a lot. I'll be trying some of this on my gf soon... :-)

I call this <b>DJ Pussy style.</b>

The way I explain it can be altered however you please. The particular descriptions in this tutorial are there for sake of keeping it simple.

First lay the girl down horizontally. Then put your hand over the pussy to where your fingers are pointing down to her legs. Massage, or mix, that pussy in either direction you want- I do it clockwise because I'm right handed. Make sure to be in contact with the clit while you're doing this. Start out really slow and soft, and then gradually progress, getting faster and harder, as time flies by or as she starts to breathe heavily.

You can do this while making out. You can do this with her clothes on (if her clothing is thin enough). Getting the picture? It’s a very easy tactic that doesn’t have to be messy and doesn’t require many prerequisites –maybe it would help if you already knew your way around a vagina- if any.

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Depends on the situation and the person - but most of the women I've been with enjoy a fingers in them if they're getting some other stimulation as well (oral or more fingering to the labia and clit).

For the original poster: like most things i sex, you gotta ask to find out what works for the person you're with, or she's got to tell you. And believe me, the best thing for a good sex life isn't a hot bod, it's someone you feel relaxed enough to ask questions of and give suggestions to.

To offer some contrasts: I've been with women who want light stroking of the labia and find any touching of the exposed clit painful (too intense) and can only be touched through the hood; conversely, I've been with women who want the clitoral hood peeled back and the clit pulled and tugged directly.

More arousal tends to make women appreciate more vigorous work, but it's all down to the individual.

That is great, what a hillarious diagram

i love using the shocker......two in the pink, one in the stink

my current girlfriend hate touching down there with hands for some reason. It really bothers her (which kinda drives me nuts), but in the past, I know I have gotten the best reaction from using actual penetration sparingly and mostly staying in the neighborhood of the clit using at least a couple fingers. But as mentioned before, everyone seems to have their own preferences, best to let the one you're with tell you what they need.

Most of the time my girlfriends comes with two of my fingers inside her, my tongue on her clit and a finger from my other hand playing with her ass. It's easier to get the finger action happening if you're lying on top and the opposite way to her; which, incidentally, also gets your dick sucked. :suave:

sub zero - lol!

That is "the shocker"


Way to go!:thumbsup:

clean hands, short trimmed nails...
technique I like..
with palm on top of mons pointing down (obviously after some nice clit stroking and labia stroking to make sure she's all wet) insert middle finger (like she's a bowling ball) about 3 inches inside and then push upwards towards belly.. be firm but gentle, you may need to explore a bit but when hit the right spot - you'll definitely know it. Once you've found it - she will let you know when you're there, masasge, insert more fingers if nexxessary, respond to her reactions, a rocking motion and not thrusting is also better IMO - fingers really aren't made for fucking in that way.

Have fun :)

oh lord TRIM YOUR NAILS BOYS!!! long nails HURT! ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE PLAYIN' W/ ASSES! at least the pussy's relaxed... scatches anywhere in there hurt, though! so be careful.

I'm guessing it's all good as long as you cut your nails.

That is right WK. Short nails are a must.;)

the pointer finger gives most people more control, but the thumb is good too