trusting?
 

Well I've been talking to a nice lady online for a little while now, and she wants to give me my first dose of lovin'. The only problem is that she thinks the first time should be done skin-to-skin. She says she's on birth control and has been tested, but I'm not sure how much I trust her yet. What would you do in this situation? I'd probably be more comfortable wearing a condom, but she seems to really want it to not be there.

Well, if I were her I would want you to use it. At least until you got to know each other better. If she doesnt understand why you want to use it, maybe it is not the right time for lovin. Just my opinion.

I dunno man... I would be much too scared to not use a condom.

That's what I'm thinking. She seems pretty set on it. Maybe I can talk her out of it.

Let's see, she says everything is OK and you wind up with: herpes, aids, gonorrhea, syphilis, warts, or the clap. The first two don't go away, ever. The last four you can get a shot for. Is an hour of fun worth any of that? Don't think so. Wrap that rascal or stay home.

She might just give you your first dose of something...

I would question what the heck is the matter with her, that she's willing to have unprotected sex with someone she met online. How does she know you aren't lying about your sexual history?

The condom comes off when you have been together for a while, are committed to each other, and have both been tested. This is your health and your future you are dealing with.

(but I've been around too long, and seen to much -- others might be less jaded than me)

AIDs is forever, child support payments just seem that way.


Not a chance in hell I wouldn't use a condom.

Mal, as always, says it better than I could have myself. And no, Mal, it's not because you're jaded. It's because you're smart. I'm young and I agree completely--wrap it before you tap it.

Slam your dick in a door first.....at least then you can be sure its gonna swell up and fall off.

If she's insisting on going bareback for the first time when she doesn't know anything of your sexual history and you don't know anything of hers it makes me wonder how much of a "nice lady" she is to begin with. Also, you shouldn't be having unprotected sex with someone when you both haven't been tested---and even if she were to present you with negative results for STD tests I'd wait 6 months before going at it bareback and get tested again to confirm she's really disease-free.

Something tells me she might have had bareback sex with several guys, so chances are she's carrying something and is eager to share it with you.

Sounds like someone scamming to get pregnant. If there are women out there crazy enough kill a woman and cut out her fetus, she could be crazy enough to use this type of scheme to get pregnant. As a bonus, she has your name, you are the father and locked in to child support for life.

If you hook up, keep it covered and for safety sake, bring your own condoms.

no shoes no shirt no condom no service. or something like that...

use protection. end of story . . . a moment of love is a couple hours at most, a std is your whole life . . .

don't compromise on this one my friend. it isn't about trust or emotion, and if she trys to make it about trust, just tell her straight up, that you trust her but you want to do things right . . . and using protection . . . is the correct way to kick off your sexuality.
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sweetpea

Don't even THINK about it.

I dunno... I could do it without shoes or a shirt...

But yeah, I agree with everyone else, wrap it up or stay the hell away from her.

it almost sounds to me like she is just using you in the hopes you get her pregnant.

I agree with everyone here. This situation sounds very shady. BYOC if you do meet up with her.

I have two initial thoughts:

First, this is a woman looking to get preggers and ride the gravy train at your expense for the next 18 years.

Second are you really totally completely beyond a shadow of a doubt sure that this is a woman you're dealing with? As Austin Powers once said.....

Just be careful.

This is wise advice. If done right after screwing, you won't have to worry about spreading whatever she gives you.

Let's look at this another way. Would you, after only seeing what I've typed on TFP, visit me for the purpose of creating some Jackass-like video stunt, allow me to load a gun, chamber a round, and fire it at your chest, even though I assured you it was a blank?

Spoiler: It doesn't matter, I wouldn't point a gun at anyone I didn't intend to kill unless I was using a prop weapon under the supervision of a professionally trained stunt coordinator.

haha eribrav

This situation is seeming more and more shady, I think I'm gonna put her on my block list. I talked to her again and she seemed very adamant that she knows her sexual history and has only slept with two guys. If she's willing to sleep with some guy from the internet she barely knows, how has she only slept with two other guys? No way.

I agree. More than likely those two guys also brought their brothers, and their friend's brothers, and their cousins, and so on and so on etc. etc. Let me put it simple for you, she's so loose, it'll be like throwing a hot dog down a hallway. Don't even think about hitting that.

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A hotdog down a hallway!!
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What a visual!!

*Ahem* Any girl worth respecting is one who wouldn't push the issue of a condom. She sounds like she's either easy, stupid, or conniving...in any event, I'd keep her at "internet's" length...no one's life (not yours or an innocent childs) is worth what she (so easily) wants to give up...

Two guys, my ass! No, not literally...perverts. :lol: