why did you get married??
 

did anyone here get married because they was okay with spending their life with someone?

did you get married because you were deeply inlove....

let us know people!

I got married so i wouldnt get kicked out of the country.
heheh...

I got married because I was too stupid to be realistic about the situation, at the time I was in love and couldn't see through my rose colored glasses well enough to see that she wasn't and never really would be. Not much comfort now that I'm divorced and still care about her.

By the way, if your best friend doesn't like your SO, that should tell you something!

Cause there wasn't any other thing we could have done, once we realized we loved each other!! It was definitely one of those "when you know, you know" moments... from day 1! :thumbsup:

Dave and I are getting married because

(using a quote to answer the question)

You dont marry the person you can spend the rest of your life with, you marry the person you can't live your life without

We are getting married, because as a wise one once said...

"A love which depends on something, when that something disappears, so will the love. However, A love which depends on nothing will last forever."

Unconditional love...kinda crazy, but it happend.

got married because I realized that I didn't want to be without Skogafoss ever. I proposed in 2000 we were just trying to figure out when to get married. After 9/11, I decided that we could not wait any longer for any reason. I did not want to die with her not being my wife.

Wow. I'm going to sound totally unromantic here, but we got married because of finances and the fact that we couldn't live together otherwise. He was in the military and we rarely saw each other because the single Marines had longer work days than the married guys, and we'd be better off financially, so we got married. We'd already been together for four years and loved each other, so it wasn't a big deal to us I guess. We just had the vows done at the courthouse, no wedding or anything. We've been married for five years now, and our relationship is stronger now than it ever has been, so I guess even though it wasn't the romantic wedding that a lot of other people have, it's working!

We got married because it was the obvious thing to do. We didn't do the whole romantic proposal down-on-one-knee thing. We talked about it and decided that, given we were both graduating at the end of that year and her grad school plans were going to take her across the country, what there was to do was to get married.

for me it was one of the 'i know because i know because i know...... that this is the right one.' we dated for 2 months, i proposed, and then got married 5 months later, 6 months after that, we have baby on the way, 6 months after that, is today.

I'll get back to this one when (or rather if ever) I get married. Don't hold your breath.

...and because I didn't want to be without him, ever. :)

Lurkette, I like your side of things. :D Ratbastid, did you have plans of your own, or were you free enough to just follow Lurkette for the time being? And why did you choose to get married, as opposed to just live together? (just curious/nosy) :)

I got married because I realized that my wife was my perfect match. I never wanted to get married. I thought the institution of marriage was bankrupt.

As far as I was concerned we were married on the day I proposed to her (as opposed to the day we exchanged vows in front of our friends and family).

We almost broke up for good in January/February 1991... We didn't and as a result of a lot of introspection I realized there was no one else I wanted to spend the rest of my life with...

When I asked her... I asked her to grow old and have kids with me. When we exchanged vows, I promised to love her for as long as I could (I didn't want to be a hypocrite and say "forever").

18 years together and 16 married. I can't imagine being with anyone else.

We had been together for 6 years and we really just wanted to be together.

This is how Dave and I feel as well

I married her cause I am selfish, and didn't want anyone else to have her :lol:

Actually, we pretty much knew after like 6 months of dating (we were in high school at the time :), but we waited until college was all done so we could both grow up and see if our love was true or just an infatuation. It was true :)

Hmm... I honestly think that with my ex husband, I just wanted to have sex. Yeah... coulda done without all the stupid bullshit (including him even now, after being divorced for over a year, still trying to fuck me over) for the shitty sex.

I'm thinkin' I'd love to be with my hunny forever, and it's just because every_single_day, he's the one I look forward to seeing, and I still get all jello-legged when I get to be with him, even though we live together.

[QUOTE=hambone]I married her cause I am selfish, and didn't want anyone else to have her :lol:

I knew after our third or fourth date that I would ask my wife to marry me. I was just out of college, she had two years to go. I was having a party at my house, we were pretty drunk & needed food. My gorgeous blond haired blue eyed girl throws on a pair of my tennis shoes (about five sizes too big) and my leather jacket (also five sizes too big) and we hit an all night pizza joint & dine in. We couldn't stop laughing at each other, though to this day I'm not sure what she was laughing at, my clothes fit perfectly (maybe my zipper was down, who knows).

Anyway, after a few dates I just knew she was the one, we got engaged on our 1 year of dating anniversary, and got married two years later on the same day (I did myself a favor & have only one day to keep track of besides her birthday).

Why did I marry her? She's great to be around, beautiful, a great person inside & out, and I knew there wasn't any way in the damn world I could ever do any better than what was standing right there in front of me. We also went through some similar experiences with asshole ex-es. She's everything I could ever want, that was 13 years ago, and it's only gotten better as the days go on. We now have two children & every day is better than the one before. Hard to explain unless you're in the situation I guess.

I will add that we may not have done quite as well if we had lived together first. One thing we are slightly (scratch that, majorly) different at is picking our shit up. I'm a neat freak, I pick up as I go. She can leave shit laying all over & spend 30 minutes running around picking stuff up once a day. Had we lived together I probably would have lost it at some point. I'm glad I didn't...

When I really think about it ... I don't know why I got married. I know why I got divorced, but the marriage thing was definitely a mistake.

We did get married too young, though. When you're 19, you don't really realize how much you change as a person in your twenties.

To fullly experience the essence of life,pain,love,and commitment.

And because there is simply not enough truly destructive emotion in this world for me....heh

For me it was to experience it. It was someone that I could have spent the rest of my life with. I could have been married forever (she couldn’t). Next time it will be for much better reasons that I do not know yet.

I got married...well, because she's "it." There's no one else I'd rather be with...period. So, I got her drunk and married her ;). J/K Seriously, it now been almost 13 years and we've had our first child. Now, my wish is for my daughter to be as happy as I am.

I don't really know how else to explain it.

I got married because she was my wife, even before she was seen as such through the eyes of the law/church.

I have trouble remembering things without inserting her into places. She's even in my childhood memories.

I was in one of those shit or get off the pot situations. We were together 4 years and she more or less gave me the "it's time to make a decision" speech. We broke up for a few weeks after that, realized that we were unhappy without each other and got married 8 months ago. It's been an interesting ride to say the least. We are VERY different people and have had some trouble adjusting to living together, but we love each other and work hard to keep everyone happy.

I wanted kids, I was tired of dating and my wife is pretty and a great friend.

I got married because I knew I couldn't spend the rest of life without him: my best friend, my lover, my confidant, my best hug, my best sex...I even moved 5,000 miles from my native country to be with him...it was the easiest decision I've ever made as I knew that my life would be so incomplete without him. It's been more than three years and I can't imagine how life was prior to meeting him.

Uhhhh, because she was 6 months pregnant and my insurance didn't care.


We were perfectly happy living together in commited monogamy. The legal and religous status meant nothing to us. But a difficult pregnancy with unbelievable bills made it a lot more attractive. Tomorrow will be our 25th wedding aniversary (we already celebrated in New Zealand). It seems to have worked out well, I guess she's a keeper.

the shape of love is a circle...not a heart...thats why its so hard to tell a well rounded person from a big fat zero....
I married her cause i found out she could suck the chrome off a trailer hitch....
all that aside it was i just knew she was the one

because her parents own a golf course.
j/k

I married for all the usual things love, friendship..etc. but the major factor was that we both shared the same goals in life. We both wanted kids, the white picket fence house...etc. We really enjoy the family aspect of it all. I never had that growing up neither did she, we both value the little things like making dinner, eating as family, spending sundays reading the paper playing with the baby. We never fight, we laugh alot and make sure to be respectful of each other.

that and do everything she says, pronto.

Because we're deeply connected. Because it felt right. We're best friends and fuck buddies, who better to spend your life with?

We've been together 9 years, married 3 years . . . i guess we're two dorks hoplessly in love and we like it that way.

sweetpea

I like her side of things too.... ;)

I guess the thing I wanted to share was how very pragmatic our decision to get married was. Literally, we sat down the summer before our Senior year and talked about it, and by the end of that conversation we were engaged.

I didn't really have plans. I was on line to graduate with a BA in English Lit and nowhere to be after that. And I was pretty clear that living across the country (hell, across town) from lurkette wasn't going to work for me at all.