keeping it down
 

I recently obtained my first girlfriend (dont laugh, lol). I have a problem however keeping it down when we are together. This isnt a problem when we are fooling around, but it is very embarrassing when she is sitting in my lap with a bunch of friends around. She doesnt say anything until we are alone, and she is never mad, but it really bothers me. Is there some trick or does it just take time? I try thinking about things that arent sexual, but that doesnt work. Thanks for being understanding.

If she's sitting in your lap, she's probably trying to get that reaction out of you. I don't see a problem here. How old are you two?

we are 18, and still in highschool, so im sure you can understand my predicament if it were to get out that i had a woody all the time, lol.

I know that can be embarrassing but it will eventually wear off and not be so frequent. At least she is understanding about it.

And on a humorous side not, it is better than the opposite occuring.

Wear more constricting undies... that will prevent poppage?

You're 18 -- i thought that was a permanent condition of 18 year olds :)

roll of duct tape. Strap it down. :)

Seriously though, there is no trick. She arouses you, your body reacts. Sure it is unfortuante at certain times. I had the same problem with my wife. I was just always attracted to her. I was actually afraid something would come up during the wedding, which luckily it didn't :thumbsup:

Wear some tight fitting jeans. Put your piece in between your stomach and the wasitband of your pants/underwear. With your mental imagery, go one better and do what Austin Powers does: think of Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day.

Snake it down your leg, Underwear bands help too. Jeans are good cause they tend not to tent so much.

Who cares?

Just tell her something along the lines of "I'm not ashamed of how my body reacts to your beauty/hotness/attractiveness/spankin' ass. Your body is so amazing/hot/smokin'/etc. that I couldn't stop the feelings I get when we touch, even if i tried."

Just tape a sign to your chest with an arrow pointing at your crotch with the words:

Sorry, but my girlfriend's a hotty.


People will understand.

If it's the tenting you're worried about, jeans are great. Just make sure to adjust yourself to the up position when ready, or else it's going to get mighty uncomfortable for you.

If you think there's something wrong with you, you need to understand that it's not something you have much control over. Sometimes it just seems to have a mind of its own.

Oh, and the same thing happens to every guy, so you're not alone :)

Start having more sex together or do it yourself more often. Sounds like your pipes are ready to burst.

totally normal.. i remember when i was your age sitting in chemistry class trying to think of the worst things just to get rid of them...oh the memories... (and yes margaret thatcher naked on a cold day could be it)...

anyways, its normal, they wear off..but just make sure you dont wear boxers AND tracksuit pants at the same time, you'll be pitching a circus tent..best option would be undies and jeans if you want him under control.

My boy still reacts this way to me... I actually take it as a compliment :p

I seriously doubt its as obvious as you think it is, and if it IS... try tighter fitting clothing, maybe..

I love your wording... "obtained". :)
I always went with looser jeans... it managed to get lost in the folds somewhere...

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Damn, I miss being 18.

Why does it bother you?

You're 18, with a girlfriend and raging hormones shooting everywhere in random directions.

There is no trick. Your penis is only responding to the physical stimulation. It has no other 'choice.'

On that note, who cares if you've got a boner? Be proud of your boner! There are plenty of other things to get hung up on (pun intended) you should leave your Willy alone. (you know what I mean :) )

Constrictive clothing isn't going to help, in fact, there's a good chance it's going to exaggerate the fact that you've got wood.

I'd imagine, if played the right way, your girlfriend will find it more of a compliment that you can't control yourself around her.

In summary, there's not much you can do, so, for chrissakes, be proud of your wang! Have affection for your erection!

Frankly I'd be worried if you weren't reacting. It's all good and healthy. Oh, and tell her that if she makes you uncomfortable like that one more time, she'll pay for it later. Tell her with a big smile...

Tie it to your leg with a bandana under your pants.

I'm with you dude. I still get hard ons from holding hands :|
I always wear jeans and have my hands in my pockets when I'm with a girl though.

It kinda ruins dancing for me because I'm always worried the girl has noticed it and is annoyed by it or something. I don't know who I'm kidding though, I'm pretty sure girls can feel it when you're grinding together..

Same situation here, i ussually try to hum the notre dame fight song to keep it down and think about very unsexual things like the blood pressure difference in the aorta then in the superior vena cava, thats pretty much the lest sexual thing i can come up with. I have gotten caught huming the fight song before and it leads to an interesting story none the less

The exact same thing happens/happened to me when I first started going out with my girlfriend and still even today, she just looks way too good for it not to turn me on!

I'm with the others that said it's nothing to be ashamed of... I guess if your friends saw it, it would be embarassing. But infront of your girl is nothing to worry about it. I bet she takes it as a compliment - and if she doesn't see it that way, she should :thumbsup:

When my boyfriend gets hard around me for no reason except that I'm close to him, I find it very flattering. I'm sure your girlfriend must too.

it happens, dont worrie about it. just tell her there is only one way to get it to go down. just be luky you have a hot girl

All is good, it happens us all. I tell you all the times I had to fake my shoelaces being untied so I could tie them hehe...

Trust me, I was a late bloomer too, but it just comes with time. I'm used to being around my wife now, but of course I was always a little bit more "nervous" in the sense that I wasn't used to the physical contact. You just get used to it with time.

I've been married to my wife for almost 10 years, I'm 35, and I still have that same problem. As someone said above, be happy it's not the opposite & you need Viagra. Maybe it will go away, maybe (like in my case) it won't. If I'm within 10 feet of my wife, it's probably going to happen. We still have sex regularly, but I find her to be the hottest mother around, so walking around with an erection is just part of my day...

Ummm yeah...4 years, 1 kid, and if the wife bends over or changes clothes or is showing some cleavage or just looks at me funny I get hard instantly. She loves it. And once again, if she's sitting on your lap, she's probably expecting it.

Ditto :crazy:

Congratulations, your penis is functioning properly.

When this happens to me, i bite my tounge really hard and think about anything posted on Rotten. Usually it works. I'm now 21 and it doesn't happen nearly as often as it used to.

This thread put a smile on my face :p

that's cute...it's just life, and it must be flattering for your girlfriend.

My boyfriend does the SAME thing EVERYTIME we are together i think that it is cute how excited he gets. Dont be ashamed of it just say that she excites you with her beautiful/sexy body. That is what he tells me and it makes me feel good so tell her that and it will prob do the same. We just laugh about it its nothin to be embarassed about!!!

dont worry about it but since you obviously are (other wise you wouldn't have posted something about it) you have a few options.
many have said tighter clothes (but that can be painful)
and then there's always sacred "TUCK" which is always a great solution
if all else fails and you still get a hard-on then your new task is to get rid of it. reciting the alphabit in my head over and over again always seems to work for me
best of luck to ya

I remember when I couldn't control my erections. Now I'd be happy to keep it up long enough to get through the damn talking before the sex scene.

the glorious age of being 18.... not soo long ago I was that age.... and hell, I have some stories... but thats for another thread... just get comfortable with it.... heck if she is comfortable with it... means shes a keeper.

nwlinkvxd says he thinks about pelicans.

Hah that's just about the best thing i've heard all day...almost as good as my friend saying: We should patent '3 hour abs' ... It comes with a toilet and a fifth of tequila

Kudos!

Oh yeah, and I guess I should actually contribute something meaningful to this thread: DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT!!!

happens all the time when i'm with my girlfriend. And how can your friends see it if she's sitting in your lap ;) Be happy with your virility while it's there!

Shit I'm 20 and it's still a permanent condition for me. I have no control over my guy and if I'm not careful it's pretty fuckin obvious :|. If she sat on your lap and noticed it once and kept on doing it my guess is she likes it! My ex was laying her side over my crotch once and just kinda looked at me and said "It's poking me" I said "Sorry" and she said "No it's okay I like it" after that she couldn't keep her hands off it. I need a new girlfriend :(

Asta!!

i had similar problems with my girlfriend, i just got used to being around her. It still happens when we're alone, but if others are there it just doesnt come up anymore. No pun intended

Same here, 5 years, 1 kid, and every time the wife gets into bed or sits on my lap I get hard. Hell I'd be seriously disapointed if I didn't, and we'd probably be part of that large percentage of people that get divorced somewhere around this point in the marriage. Getting aroused by a mate is about the most natural thing there is, it's a basic part of the human condition =)

Um, if my wife were sitting in my lap, and I wasn't popping a boner, she'd get offended. Seriously, don't worry about it. She should take it as a compliment.

It is normal.....I just wish I was normal more often :s

Feeling a guy's hardon is the ultimate compliment. It's even more complimentary if he has one in a situation where you know as a girl he would really rather not have one and he's trying to control it as much as possible.

One of my exes had this same issue. I thought it was cute. Made me feel good about myself ;)

I aways have this problem, my gf finds it incredibly funny and constantly teases me about it. It was worse when i went to her parents for christmas and banged myself on a door.

Why are you worried about this??

Go with the flow.

Go to your local metal shop, and get a Prince Albert. Then buy some twine :thumbsup:

Simply duck tape it to your thigh! just be sure to shave first.

Ouch! :( That sounds painful.

edit - but not nearly as painful as some later posts in this thread...

I have the same problem. I've been with my girl for about 5 months now. I do have sex with her, but I still have that problem. Everytime I talk to her "he" seems to wake up. I'm glad my girl likes it. =P

When i was 18 years old, I had permanent boner syndrome. Any little bit of excitement, even vibrations sitting on a bus, would make me stir. Don't worry about it, i'd be worried if it didn't work while she sits in your lap. Plus she knows whats she's doing and probably gets turned on knowing that its poking her.

Best way i found of stopping it was to jack off. Not on the bus obviously.

Oh sure, go and ruin it for all of us onlookers! :rolleyes:

Given, I'm not much older than you, so I can't really speak for time, but it still happens to me whenever there's a slight vibration, movement, etc. in the general vicinity of my crotch... (I never realized how exciting a road trip can be...) Ditto for pretty much any contact with a girl I like. It just happens, no big deal.

In way of "taming the beast" as one of my friends puts it, I generally wear boxer briefs and slightly loose pants. The bb's keep it against my leg, and the pants being slightly loose keeps any growth from being readily apparent.

And for the record, pretty tight jeans can give just as bad a reaction as really loose. Where the loose jeans can tent out, the outline of your penis is extremely apparent when you're hard. I actually got noticed a helluva lot more for that before I figured out how to hide it. (Of course, if you're looking to impress your friends and have considerable size, tight jeans might not be such a bad idea. :lol: )

same problem. but i was just thinking, if you're embarrased about your friends noticing it, well how often do you notice one of your friend's boners when they're with THEIR girlfriend? well i can't remember a time when i have, i guess that's because i don't really look at other guy's crotches often :) so it shouldn't be too much of a worry.

How flattering and tantilizing to have a guy react when his girl sits on his lap. Let's hope you can trust in your girl that she isn't a blabbermouth...meanwhile, enjoy your little "secret".

Yeah man, just let it fly. Otherwise, I just tuck it up and tighten the belt, if it seems to be in an inappropriate situation. Shit happens.

Bad idea. If she does something really exciting you run the risk of kicking her in the head. And that just kills the mood.

It's a normal thing don't worry about it.. it's a good thing.. if you are worried about it and you notice yourself getting hard.. just say this 3 times (quote from Cruel Intentions II)

i'm 19, so i'm still pretty virile, but here's a trick that's been working for me since i was like 14:

think about lou piniella
http://espn.starwave.com/i/magazine/...la_kicking.jpg

Just pay it no attention. I was never ashamed of my woody when I was younger. It just happens, especially around that age.

If you're really worried, practice this at home. Look into a mirror, and without breaking a smile of any kind, look directly into your eyes and say "Yep, pretty big, isn't it. Must be to be so noticeable"

Break that out next time anyone points it out to you in any way.

Or, if you're feeling puckish, go with, 'Don't worry, it's not for you." Then grin a really big shit eating grin. :D

Ha. That rules. :thumbsup:

my motto has always been: "... an erection is a terrible things to waste" i like being reminded that i'm a sexual being often. can't say i've had an erection i did like ...

rock on dude!

I'm 34 and have the same problem with my wife. If you really want to do something about it, you could look into some "stiffies underwear"...

http://www.stiffiesunderwear.com/

Awesome find. I think I might order some of those suckers.

Buy a muzzle.

Seriously, don't worry about it. I get a hard-on just looking at my g/f.

well i dont really have anything to contribute to this post except a bill maher quote:
"an erection is always appropriate!"

whenever i get wood.. i make an 'adjustment' and line it up against my belly.. that way its not so visible (at all for that matter) and eventually when its just left standing there and sees that its getting no attention, it gets sad and goes away

oh and obviously you dont make that adjustment on the spot like "hold on i need to put my hands down my pants and recalibrate"

go to the washroom or something

when i first went out with my girlfriend, it happened to me all the time, and i'd always get really wet with precum too. the second we made any kind of contact, i'd start getting hard, and wet. now, that's still true, but it seems to have intensified. even being near her, just talking can do that to me. its like, my body really wants her, and she likes it, so it's all good.

I remember as a kid this bothered me ALOT!! I used to wear tighty whities to hold the little man down, and boxers on the outside, for "style" aka in the locker room and what not...

I had exactly the same problem as you do. When I got my first girlfriend at 17, I would get a boner from just hugging, or holding hands while walking down the street. It was pretty embarassing, and many times did she ask why I had to tie my shoes 2-3 times while we walked together holding hands. After got past the "holding hands" stage, the problem gradually went away as I discovered new means of arousal with her. It will pass once you get over the whole "OMG I'm with a girl!" phase.

i learned to control my woody
if i dont feel like poking a girl while she sleeps next to me i just concentrate hard on telling it to go down and not right now, save it for later. eventually i got too good at it and i had to cencentrate to make it go up ( got too used to being shot down for a while i guess, false hope is the devil)
now i can send him up or make him stay down at will or even keep him standing when it wants to go down. its kind of cool :)

Me and my wife have been married for 5 1/2 years. I still get wood when she sits on my lap. Just something erotic about that to me.

-Dunta

If you fuss at the poor fellow everyone will get all concerned and such and eventually you'll have to haul it out just to show them that everything is ok. It took me a while to realize what all you young folks were talking about. I seem to remember those things - don't worry about it because eventually the problem will simply stop.

Those underpants are good except if you curl down, like me. It would hurt like hell to bend like that banana.

Oooooh to be 18 again...:lol: And no...at that age I don't think the undies trick will work.

Relax and enjoy, in a few years you'll have the opposite problem!!

word, im happy im not the only one.

Think about baseball...

i think that an erection is quite possibly the most genuine compliment a guy can give a girl ;)

if your girlfriend is that understanding, have some fun with it! see how obvious you can make it to her, while keeping it secret from everybody else ;) some of the best sex of my life has been after situations like that

Yeah. I had the same fears. Seriously, Tux pants are not the most concealing. That would have surely killed the moment pitching a tent in the front of the church infront of the minister. :)

ahahhahaha that had me our of my chair

i rember my freshman year of highschool math class always did it for me

....and no one in that class was attractive ROFL

Flick the head really hard, that will keep it down!

You and your girlfriend should be a LOT more concerned if jimmy doesn't react to her (I'm assuming) nice ass on your crotch.

mh , how about doing something else ? what about a talk with some1 with your friends about an interesting topic which u r interested in , so u wont think about your girlfriend that much

same problem here... my g/f laughs that i have to "adjust" quite often. personally, for control i go with boxer briefs that are as long as possible and regular to slightly-loose jeans. together they have the power to hold the beast until adjustments can be made. (warning- this combo can get a little uncomfortable, but that's the price you pay)

i will admit that the only thing worse is getting one for no reason somewhere public. it sucks.

i was watching a movie the other night with my gf, fooling around and what not, so i was constantly re-adjusting, trying to hide "it". she had her head on my chest, with a clear view of the tv..and of course my lap. however, i thought i was doing a good job until the washington monument came up on the tv. she just looked up at me and laughed.. :)

One of these babies'll keep it down fine:
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If that doesn't work:
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