So straight guys...ever get hit on by someone of the same sex?
 

I was at the mall one time and I was at Sam Goody walkin around lookin at CD's and some guy comes up to me and says "Hey um hate to bother you but my friend wants to know if you're into guys?" and I said "Excuse me?" With a somewhat confused look on my face thinking surely I must be mistaken...Surely I did not just hear what I thought I heard...Perhaps Guys is a band I'm not familiar with and he's asking me if I've heard of them..."Excuse me?" "My friend he wants to know if you're into guys." So I wasn't mistaken...I simply and calmly justs said "Oh..no" and shook my head. Then he started trying to talk to me he was like "Yeah I told him you probably weren't he just wanted me to check." And I'm just nodding my head and pushing my eyebrows downward like "Yeah yeah I understand yeah it's cool." But in the back of my mind I swear it was screaming "GOOOOO AWAAAAAAAY!!!!!" haha.

That was kinda weird. Kinda messed me up for a minute. Started thinking "Well wait a minute do I look gay?" No offense to those of you who are haha. "What could I have been doing to make him think I was gay?" Y'know stupid stuff. Prolly the guy just thought I was good looking and wanted to know if I like guys...he'd have to ask that girls don't usually have to ask guys if they're into girls but the same does not hold true for gay men. I am however kind of "fashionable" and I walk around with a walkmen cd player singing all the damn time so I guess that might throw some wrong signals haha. If thats the case I could care less I'll keep doing that regardless.

I'm not sure if it was the very same day or the very next when I was at the mall but I got hit on by a girl too so that made me feel better. Then I started worrying if it was gonna be a pattern haha....Guy then a girl, then another guy, etc.

Hope I didn't offend any of you with that. That was a first time thing for me so it was a little weird..Guess I shoulda been flattered haha...

So any a you other straight guys or hell even straight girls ever get hit on by a member of the same sex? Did you have a similar reaction or am I just a dickhead? :p

Asta!!

I've been told by pastors that I dress "gay". When I asked what that meant, it was usually a compliment that I was up to date and stylish. Then came "metrosexuality". It fit me like a glove. I've always been interested in the arts, style and most of my friends are women. I've been hit on by men and women. It's flattering more than anything else.

You're no dickhead. Your opinion is closer to equality than the average one. The average man would have made some overly agressive or rude comment and overcompensated due to insecurity.

Well thats good to know.

Asta!!

I get picked up by gay guys all the time... its scary.. and starting to get annoying.... When I tell them I'm not gay, they almost don't belive me.. Kinda like they think they know better.. I've actually had gay people insist that I was gay, and lying to them.... ack! :crazy:

^ Wow! That sux man. I bet they could see you making out with a chick and then taking her right there and be like "ugh..he's faking it!" :lol:

Asta!!

yes i have been and kinda enjoyed it... was thinking about going further just to see what it would be like but i got a really weird vibe from him. my friend who i was out with got the same weird vide so it wasnt just me...

i would take it as a compliment, doesnt matter whether they are the same sex or not.

There has been instances where I would make out with a platonic female friend of mine to get them off my case.... kinda makes me not want to keep that relationship platonic any more :D

Well shit you already made out with em why not go the whole nine yards? haha

Asta!!

I had a friend once that hit on me, I had no idea he was gay because he was date a female friend of mine. I guess she was just a beard. He told me he had feelings for me one night and I said "ok, um I have to go now" I did not hear from him much after that. last I heard he was working for an airline.

Yeah I've been hit on before.. I just take it as a compliment, I guess.

No big deal.

I don't get hit on by people of either gender.

I was never hit on directly....

but when I was a freshmen in college, my girlfriend's roomate had a gay friend named Brandon. One time a few of us were hangin out in her dorm room. He stopped by with a few of his gay friends. I left the room for something (I don't remember why) and when I got back, my girlfriend pulled me aside and said that one of the guys had asked about me and said I was cute. Brandon told him something along the lines of..."No you don't want to mess with him, his girlfriend would kill you". When my girlfriend told me this, I was like..."Yeah, plus the fact that I'm not gay". It was a little wierd for me at the time, but now I look back on it and laugh.

I used to get hit on by guys all the time when I would go to the quarter with friends. Would make one of our gay friends jealous because I got more action than he did.

I've never been hit on, but it's been assumed several times over the years that I was gay.

I'm just an unusally private guy, at least, when it comes to who I sleep with. I didn't draw from the high school date pool and I don't typically date co-workers. It's not like I won't share them with people if they ask, but they do have to ask. As there was no obvious evidence of my heterosexuality, they assumed that I was homosexual.

The really sad side of that story is.....when my sister came out of the closet and it was discussed amongst family and friends the typical response, at least from what I've heard, was that they always expected it to be me and not her.

How's that for a confidence booster, eh?

^ Man. Thats a slap in the face. Don't worry man my folks have said some pretty similar very fucked up shit to me in the past so you're not alone buddy.

Asta!!

It's happend to me once aswell. I was hanging out at a bar with some friends when the bartender started buying me drinks. First I just thought it was because I was a regular but then he asked for my phonenumber. I guess I just didn't expect it, it's not often anyone hit on me so I don't seem to pick it up untill things start going too far.

Anway, what happend was I did the stupid thing of asking "Why?" with my usual completly innocent quizzical look (still hadn't figured it out). "Oh, never mind.." was his answer and then he turned to another coustomer.

I had no idea what made him do it, I met him later the same week at a party and he sort of just laughed the whole thing off, but I could tell that he'd been hurt.

haha poor guy I probably would have said the same thing you said.

Asta!!

I've been hit on. I look like a thug, so maybe he was a pain slut and wanted to get treated rough by some "hard biker dude". I declined his offer.

A couple of times, actually. This one dude grabbed my ass, which creeped me the hell out. It isn't like I'm homophobic or anything like that, I probably would have felt the same way, whether the offender was male or female.

Most of the other times it happened they subtly tried determining my sexuality, but I didn't catch on - so the answers I gave were a bit ambigious. When the asked for my number or whatever, I was usually a bit surprised, and pretty much kicked myself for not seeing it a bit sooner. Not that I minded, I just felt like I almost lead them on...

I think when a member of the same sex is attracted to you, that's when you know for sure that you indeed got it going on. :-)

^ I guess I never looked at it that way before haha. Thats good to know :)

Asta!!

Yes, for me it was the Year of No Women.

I had moved to Florida ostensibly to gain an advanced degree, although it was really to get away from my situation in New York. While living in Florida I had aboslutly no luck with women at all. No one that I hit on would go out with me or even have a cup of coffee with me. I had made some female friends, but anything even remotely amorous or sexual was doomed to failure.

So, one of my female friends wants to drive up to Norfolk to visit an old friend. There's going to be a party, and we will be staying for the weekend. Cool, I'm in. I've heard a lot of fun stories about this guy, so there should be plenty of people to meet and friends to make. We drive up there, and I have a good time, fun party, but I don't get a vibe from any of the women. One guy is horsing around and trips over a chair and lands in my lap. I help him up and he checks me out. He gives my leg a squeeze and tells me that he has some crash space if Liam's place is too crowded if I want to sleep or if I want anything more. I tell him that I'm cool, and he goes his way. I talk to my friend later about it and she says, yep, he wants you. You're just his type, and he's bi.

I felt really wierd about it for a little while, and a little depressed. While a little curious, I doubt that I would move on any opportunity, and I was depressed that the only action I could find was some that I didn't want.

Later that year some other guy hit on me, and I said no thanks, and we went our ways peacably and without stress.

And then I left Florida, and was never hit on by a guy again.

^ Wow! Thats some story man. I feel for you. Have ya had any luck since then?

Asta!!

I've never been (seriously) hit on by a guy before. But I met a cool guy at college earlier this year named Tim that I saw at shows a few times and saw with mutual friends. One time, maybe the 5th or 6th time we'd talked, I introduced him to my girlfriend and he said "Oh... girlfriend...? I always thought..." and then shuffled away.

So that was embarassing. :-P

I guess that could be a slightly uncomfortable situation huh? :lol:

It's happened to me a few times, no doubt due to my "metrosexual" tendencies rather than any mannerisms or any gay vibe. It doesn't bother me at all and I take it as a compliment when it occurs.

When I was younger, and actually when out to clubs or parties, I would get hit on quite regularly... The first time it happened I was a bit wierded out. Mostly because I was quite young (19) and wasn't sure how to handle it.

I thought about it and realized it was actually quite a compliment. Not only were women interested in me, but so where men. Neat.

It was no big. There have been women who've hit on me in which I've had no interest and turning them down was no different from turning down a guy in which I had no interest.

I think I've been hit on more times by guys than girls. The joys of having lived in San Francisco :crazy:. It's never bothered me, though. I take it as a compliment.

wow, this thread is just proliferating the "gay male" stereotype...

imagine how much courage it took for each of these people to ask. and, in the case of the original poster, to have the response be "But in the back of my mind I swear it was screaming "GOOOOO AWAAAAAAAY!!!!!" haha." have some respect for others.

To be honest,I have had a few Gay friends.....express....feelings to me. It was not completely comfortable in any of these instances. That said I have been approached by female friends as well, and the situations there are no less uncomfortable. It is in the details of "How" the flirtation takes place, not the gender of the person who does it.....or so I will continue to tell myself.

When I was young, I was what one of my dates called "a pretty man." Slender, fine features, somewhat sensitive and soft-spoken. So I got hit on by gay men a fair amount --maybe a couple of times a year -- especially after I moved to San Francisco. It never bothered me. Generally it was all very courteous and above-aboard. They proposed, I demurred, that was it. I had had gay acquaintances since I was 16, and was pretty familiar with the scene while not being part of it.

What bothered me was the reaction of straight people to my appearance, even in San Francisco. Once I got a spectacular deal on a black bomber jacket and started wearing it regularly. After a while, I referred to it as my "faggot jacket," because when I wore it, teenage boys would scream "faggot" at me as they sped past in Dad's car. In those days, and maybe still, groups of teeny boys would drive up from San Francisco's more working class 'burbs with a couple of six packs and drive around the city harassing gays.

It happened elsewhere as well. Once I was walking on the "Miracle Mile" of a military base town with another young man -- rare enough, everybody else was in cars -- and we both had ties on because we'd come from a function and were both fairly slender and well-groomed. It was Friday night, and I think we were challenged by young males in cars three times in two blocks.

The car thing is important -- they get to yell "faggot," and run. Because they're still kids, and kids never want to face the music. One time, I guess I caught a group of them at the beginning of their run, because they were parked at the curb as I walked by, opening their twist tops. It was a side street in the Polk Street district, a big gay neighborhood, and I was wearing the faggot jacket. The kid riding shotgun looked out the window at me and tentatively said, "Fag." I just let them have it. And they scrunched down in their seats and took it.

The only people that have been hitting on me lately are gay guys. I was talking to a friend of mine a couple of weeks ago and I told him that. He said, "Hey, take it as a compliment. Just wait till you're my age, then you won't even get gay guys hitting on you." Funny.

I'm hit on a lot by guys, it's not my thing but I'm not offended by it.

Actually I would say in the last year I've been hit on by 7x the amount of guys then girls... Sometimes I kinda wish girls gave bigger signels out. Or maybe they just don't like me :)

i've gotten hit on by guys a few times... and believe it or not, my girlfriend was with me more often than not. one time in particular, we were in express men and at the checkout counter and the male clerk blatently asked me out to dinner with my girlfriend standing right next to me. lol

got my ass grabbed at a party this year. freaked me out a little but I got over it and decided to take it as a compliment.

Thanks. :) My mother and father are both the same way, they don't like to talk about their respective relationships unless asked. I mean, my father had been dating his recent girlfriend for eight months before I found out and only then because I helped him move in with her.

I'm not worried if anybody thinks I'm gay, it's the rapid leap in logic that throws me off kilter. "Well, we haven't seen him dating any girls, so, we must assume that he is gay." They haven't seen me date any guys either, but that doesn't seem to figure into the equation.

Oh well, what can you do?

Today, earlier, I was at rehearsal and we were dancing when a guy named Liam walked up to me and told me I looked handsome. I thanked him and told him he was too but I wasn't interested. He said "Thank you for not being a dick" and I said "It was my pleasure." That Liam...

i've been hit on a couple of times by guys when i've gone out to clubs. one time was when i went to a gay club with my ex-girlfriend, so i was kind of expecting to get hit on. the other times it took me by surprise, but i didn't mind. i was actually kind of flattered. but then again, i'm maybe a little bi-curious. i can find some men attractive, and am comfortable with my sexuality. but i can totally understand how it could bother some people.

this one gay guy keep hitting on me and asking if i wanted to have sex... i turned him down.... i wish girls would ask me for sex like him, lol

Once, but I was in a gay bar, so it was to be expected. I'm not gay, but some of my friend are and they like to hang out at the local gay bar. It didn't bother me. It wouldn't bother me if it happened out in broad daylight either. I like the idea that people might find me good looking, male or female.

I'm sorry I offended you. I didn't mean to offend anybody. I made that clear when I started this post. Didn't know gay guys hitting on straight guys on occaision was a stereotype either. Look I can't help what I thought in the back of my mind. At least I didn't say it to the poor kid. I have no control over my subconcious and it in no way reflects the kind of person I am. I'm a good guy and I'm nice...I would have been saying the same thing in the back of my mind if it was a girl I wasn't interested in. I have no good excuse to justify it but I was just being honest. It's not like I was trying to hurt anyones feelings though. It was the first time it's happened and I've since learned to not worry about it and take it as a compliment.

Please do not turn this post into a gay bashing post either. You and I both know thats not what the post was about it's just a discussion. I'm sure I don't have to tell anyone to refrain from offensive comments in your replies either.

Sorry if I was disrespectful. If you like I will gladly remove that little piece from my post if it makes you feel better. Just say the word.

Asta!!

my parents were both worried that i was gay for the longest time because i was pretty shy in high school and didn't do the typical boyfriend/girlfriend routine.

I get hit on / compliments from gays a lot now that i'm living in nyc. and i'm going into entertainment. I pretty much just take it as a compliment. Kinda wish girls were that sparing with their compliments.

probably the most interesting story is when i went with a bunch of girls to a bar called something like, "dont tell mama".

It wasn't a gay bar persay, but it was a broadway show-tunes bar where the patrons would get up and sing, and everybody would sing along. So while it isn't officially a gay bar, its pretty close to it.

When i first walked in i was like, "oh ...what the fuck did i get myself into"

Anyways, after getting over the feeling like i was at the auction ready to be sold b/c so many guys staring at me, i just thought, "hey, have a good time, not many nights u get to go out with 5 girls on your own"

Had some drinks and had a good time. When i left i was kinda dissappointed nobody bought me a drink, although thats a good thing. It was just kind of a culture shock, as it happened within the first month of me living in the city. I would do it again, but I'd make sure to bring a date to avoid confusion.

Embrace it Cris . . . you're a cutie. Attractiveness transends the boundaries of gender . . . :)

You should be pleased ;)

Sweetpea

^ Thanks Ash haha. I needed that. :)

Asta!!

I disagree, and I just want to tell all you guys how impressed with your maturity I am. "Just say no and shrug it off" and "take it as a compliment" are not the responses I'd expect to hear from men on this topic. You too, forkies, as your comment shows a lot of understanding of how difficult it is to put yourself out there. Good job, guys! :thumbsup: That's why I'm here on TFP.

I never get hit on by anyone....male, female, or canine. It really gets kind of depressing.

all one needs to do is scan these posts for "i dress nicely and am slender, BUT I'M NOT GAY" jesus, do people honestly think homosexuality demands such characteristics? stereotypes upset me, but the people who uphold them upset me more.

isn't that emotional reaction from you kinda the same as their emotional reaction to the situation? Everyone is people, better to let them believe and do as they wish. I find it better to only be upset if I myself disapoint me, not if others don't stand up to the pedastel I form in my head.

Due to my size, very few girls are willing to overcome the intimidation and come right up to me. I'd say that I'm at least a foot taller than 90% of girls I meet, and for pretty much any girl with an average body type (not really big or really small,) I would be able to put my right arm around them and be able to touch my left shoulder with room for her to breathe. As for guys, the height/size gap is narrowed a lot, so the intimidation factor isn't as prevalent.

Result: I get hit on by more guys than girls. Neither number is particularly high, but they're close to even with the number of guys a bit higher. If I were a bit shorter and thinner, the number of guys would probably go up because there wouldn't be the fear of being beaten senseless by a 6'8" homophobe (I have no problem with anyone, but homophobia is so widespread that most guys can be expected to at least call someone "fag" or worse.)

Never that I can think of. Then again I typically can't pick up on being hit on by anybody unless it's very very blatant. I'm not the most subtle person in the world.
Although now reading through some of these tales I MIGHT have been hit on a couple of times as a few gay co-workers have asked for my number and have done the old shoulder rub but I always just thought it was general friendliness. Because girls would do the same thing to me and they weren't at all interested in me in that manner.

Gay guys are usually really handsome and delish. Id be flattered.

I never get hit on and my guy friend, whos straight, always gets hit on by guys. Someone up there is playing an evil, evil game on me.

More times than I care to admit. I'm not sure what about me it is that attracts these particular males, but I wish I knew how to turn it off. I mean, I have nothing against homosexuals, and it is flattering, but it's not something I'm interested in.

^ I'm pretty sure I saw yer pic over in the portraits section and you were cute if I remember correctly. Don't worry they'll come around...lots a guys get intimidated :thumbsup:

Asta!!

It's happened a good couple of times. My previous girlfriend told me it was because i was handsome, but i'm not the type to believe i'm handsome. even though she told me constantly... and my current one does too, except she more often says i'm really cute. Again, maybe they're blind or something ;) , but I just don't see it.

I see it as a total compliment, no matter who it comes from. I think, "wow, this person (regardless of sex) thought enough of me to risk rejection, in whatever form, just to find out more about me. That's awesome, and I wish more people were that bold."

Pretty much the normal response i give is something along the lines of, "i'm sorry, dude, i'm not- but thanks for thinking of me." One guy was kinda beating around the bush and flirting real shy-like, I could tell he was trying to find out or maybe ask me if i was interested. We were in a store that sells music, movies, videogames, all that, and we were browsing the DVD section. He finally asked me what I was doing later, and i smiled and said, "i'm flattered that you asked, but i've got a girlfriend (which I did, not a lie)"

He started backtracking and apologizing and I told him to not worry about it, he shouldn't be embarassed. I told him he seemed like a good guy, and that some lucky guy will be very happy with him. We chatted about movies for a bit more, and then he left. Right before he left, he told me that most straight guys he asks aren't very nice about it. I think that's horrible. I told him to forget about them, just like straight guys ignore prissy "i'm going to reject you with a 12-gauge because i'm SOOOO much better than you" bitches. He thought that was hilarious.

And speaking of which... i hear constantly about how guys are fed up with snobby girls being total bitches about letting someone down gently due to disinterest, and how girls are so mean about it and just verbally kick you in the balls sometimes... but then apparently there are many men who would turn around and do the same shit to a guy who's interested in him. Weird, hmm?

Honestly, I get hit on by guys almost as much as I get hit on by girls. I think it's because I dress more "european" (aka I wear tighter clothes than most, and always wear designer brands), and I'm not always (only most of the time) oozing testosterone out of my ears while screaming about football. It used to bug me out a little, but I really stopped caring. Normally just a simple, "Thanks, but I'm not into that" and we can continue our conversation. The only thing I don't take well is if I'm in a club and a guy starts dancing with me. That can definitely incur a negative response (not hostile, just strongly negative).

Sorry forkies, but I still disgree. I looked over the posts here and, although they're not all the epitome of sensitivity, I think they're not so bad at all (and I'm pretty aware of stereotyping and related issues). It seems that you're upset and I'm sure you have a very good reason, but I'm really not seeing a homophobe-fest here. Try scanning over the posts as you suggested with an eye for what I pointed out, and maybe you'll get a refreshing change in perspective. :)

^ Haha that would kinda get some funny looks from me too. "Are you trying to dance with me?" "Oh okay just checking no thanks" And the comment I made was to Mew...although nothing against Bacon masta..I'm sure yer a cool dude too haha.

Asta!!

This is going to be a short post but, sorry, can't say that I have.

i have a personality that seems to sway in neither direction. this confuses people. yesterday, i was out to the club and my friend's gf offers to hook me up with one of her friends. i think... "hey, this could be good." b/c she is attractive. then she tells me that "HE is gorgeous." i just blush and tell her i'll ask her to hook me up when i'm interested.

This is definitely a hazard of living in West Hollywood. It's only happened once or twice though because I don't exactly go down to the gay bars on Saturdays and hang out. But I don't mind because, hey, at least SOMEONE is hitting on me. Women sure aren't. ;)

^ haha word!

Asta!!

Yes, indeed. I have my own little barony in the PNW. I've been married to the Baroness Opal for four years now and we have a little Baronet scampering about. The Florida trip was... 11 years ago? Something like that. And, one of those platonic Florida ladies hooked me up with the then future Baroness. So, it all worked out alright. :)

I was told by a guy that he had feelings for me. He was a good friend so I sat down with him and explained that I was not gay. He turned every shade of red and had that "Get me outta here" look in his face. I told him that it was perfectly OK, and that our friendship was still important to me so not to never call again. We remained friends for a year or so after that until I moved out of the area.

I don't know why, but it didn't weird me out and I made sure to let him know. I even contemplated it for a little while. He was a nice person who was in a very fragile state at the time, so I couldn't just say no without explaining it. People tell me that I have a way with other people, and that I am very easy to talk to. Maybe that is why I majored in Psych in college. Too bad I never finished.

29 years ago a college professor of mine took me out for drinks on my 19th birthday. He then tried to get me to go home with him. I politely declined.

almost off topic, but...
I used to get hit on by the boyfriend of a gay friend of mine. He knew i was straight and he knew that i was friends with his SO. After one particularly obvious move was made at a table with both my wife and his SO present, my wife asked him if he knew I was straight. He said of coarse he did, that's what made it fun. After tossing this around the table, his theory was that it was better to hit on me as he knew nothing would come of it, and if he got caught he wouldn't get in trouble. If he were to flirt with someone he weren't sure of, his partner would consider it cheating.
They broke up not long after that. My friend realized that although faithful, he was a nut case.
At least he found me attractive, and at the end of the day If your not interested does the sex of the other person really matter ?

I've been hit on a number of times when I was in 20's. At that time I was pretty shy, and looked younger than my years. I've only been hit on a few times as I aged, but I can't say I was offended. Guess usually it was a compliment in my eyes. I have always tried to be kind when declining the invitation. Now I am too old to be of any interest to anyone

Several times, have been told It's my cute ass that does it, I was in gay clubs most times so It wasn't completely unexpected, one guy was a bit much though wouldn't take no for answer kept wanting to buy me drinks and was happy with his hands.

In my twenties I got hit on by gay men fairly often. Didn't really bother me. It's always nice to be considered attractive. One older gay man wouldn't leave me alone after I politely turned him down and assuring him I was heterosexual. That was a little annoying but over all that sort of thing doesn't bother me. After all, how is a person to know if another person is gay if they don't ask. Its not like there is a gay uniform of some sort. For that matter even if there were how would you know if another man was interested if you didn't ask? Doesn't really happen anymore, I'm older and don't go to clubs and the like.

K-wise, I think you are cute.

I never get hit on by men or women, but I think it has more to do with me being a homebody and married for the past 7 years. Not my devastating good looks or witty charm.

I have a few gay friends, and when they moved out of town to go to university I would occasionally visit them. When they went out, they went to a few gay clubs in the area and I went with them.

It was a lot of fun, actually. Almost every one of the people my gay friend hung out with had something to say about me, and a few times I did get hit on. It was nothing more than a pure ego boost. I've even had a few people cop a feel. I have been curious to know what it might be like to date/have sex with a person of the same sex but I'll probably never know.

Both family and friends comment that I dress "metrosexual". Well, if that is what they call dressing with a little style, then so be it. I do like to look good when I go out. *shrugs*

I also have to comment that gay clubs are much more fun than straight clubs. I like dance/electronic music (but mostly into old classic rock), so I enjoy not having to listen to rap and hip hop all the time. Also for some reason, there is less hostility at gay clubs. Yes, plenty of drama... but no fist fights and it was an odd occurence to ever see a police cruiser around.

I highly suggest that all straight guys visit a gay club once in awhile. If you don't enjoy it, at least it will open your eyes to how others like to spend their time.

I have been hit on by guys a couple times, it really doesn't bother me, I usually just tell them I'm straight and that's the end of it. This one guy hit on me in a bar and I told him I was straight but he kept buying me drinks everytime he seen me. One of my best friends is gay and he was laughing his ass off because he wasn't having anyone hit on him all night and I was. :D

I don't recall ever being hit on by a gay man, but I don't think it would really bother me if it did. I would just shrug it off.

I guess indirectly that I was hit on.

I was at my wife's sister's birthday party one year. I can say with 100% certainty, that my wife and I were the only srtaight people there. I had just got out of the military, so I was in pretty good shape. I was in the house playing video games with a few of the guys that were there. We all talked some trash and had a good time and I thought they were o.k. guys, just a little different than me.

So ,the next day my wife's sister calls to thank us for coming over, as she didn't invite any other family members to this little party. She tells me that one of the guy's that I was gaming with had asked if I was available. She started laughing and told him that she didn't think so, and that was that.

I'm not 100% sure what I would have said if he had asked me, but I'm positive I would't have flipped out about it.

Man thats great! Rock on!

Me too man. I have the same..well...I consider it a gift..hope you do too.

Totally thats actually a really good point. Yer not the first to say it either I just think you worded it well.

Hey thanx! :)

Man I know the feeling! Same stereotype forkies was talking about I guess. See in my case it's because I like to put on a MATCHING shirt and pant (sometimes the shirts a nice one) and actually comb/style my hair. Thats it. It gets on my nerves haha. It's like it's not cool to look "nice" anymore.

Asta!!

Been hit on by gay men on occasion. Especially since I used to work in a company that, come to find out, I was the ONLY straight guy there. It was cool, none of them ever hit on me, but sometimes if we were out someplace together others would assume.. The amusing part was watching one of them, who looks a LOT like Dennis Leary, tell them, "sweety, your Gaydar is SOOOO of today". None of it ever offended me. It's no different than a woman hitting on me that I am not interested in, and I certainly don't find it necessary to be unkind to anyone who's exposed enough of themselves to speak up about a possible attraction. I've found a simple " oh, thanks, but I'm not gay" with a smile, always does the trick with no harm, no foul.

I used to go to drag shows a lot with a group of female friends during my first few years in college. I was the only straight guy they could get to go with them, and it worked out very well for me because: 1. I like to dance, and 2. I had between five and 10 ladies to dance with all night. I'd get hit on by guys fairly often, and it really didn't bother me. If anything, I always saw it as a compliment and was flattered. (Aside from the fact that I would be a complete fucking moron to go to a drag show thinking there was no way I would get hit on by anyone.)

I don't go to the drag shows anymore, but I still get hit on from time to time. I guess it doesn't bother me because in my opinion there is no reason it should. I'm straight, and I know that. If someone else thinks otherwise, that's fine with me. If someone finds me attractive/interesting enough to come and say something about it that's pretty damn cool in my book, regardless of what they've got between their legs. It doesn't matter if I get hit on by a guy or a girl, because the answer is going to be the same: "I'm very flattered, but I have a girlfriend." And there's no one in this world, male or female, that I'd give her up for.

^ Ahaha I have a friend who used to love to go to drag shows. He said they were fun and hilarious and some of the guys are pretty convincing. He said I should go with him some time haha. He's as straight as they come too.

Asta!!

Only once, and despite the fact that it defintely threw me for a loop for a second, I was flattered and said so also saying that I was straight. I'm secure in my sexuality (straight as an arrow) so it doesn't really offend me or anything, just not into guys. If some other guy came on a little stronger I'd probably be a little less friendly though.

I'm straight but I like to tease.

I actually had to file a complaint against a customer for groping me. I used to service ATMs and one particular teller would pat me on the ass or fondle me while I was leaning into them. I told him to buzz off, but he just laughed it off. I talked to the bank VP that contracted with us and told him his ATM would stay broke if whathisname was there when I came to fix it. I never saw him again.

I've been hit on by a few gay guys. It's flattering, I guess.

i live far in the south and i've been hit on by more guys than girls. and that depresses me to no end.

In a serious way? Not that I could tell, but I'm fairly clueless so unless someone is really blunt and obvious about it, I probably didn't catch it. My ex-bosses (two of whom were gay) used to jokingly flirt with me all the time, and I played along while I worked there.

Some of my friends used to think I was gay... well not some just 2. I guess its cause I'm really skinny and tall and usually dress pretty nice. My other friends told him I wasnt cause I always talk to them about girls and stuff but for some reason he still thought I was. I wouldnt care but he told other people he thought that and that was what made me mad.

[EDIT] I just read earlier in this thread that that was a stereotype. I was gonna delete this post but I guess I should just leave it. I just always thought that homosexuals try to dress a certain way so other homosexuals can see that and avoid having to ask people what they are. Didnt know that this was just a stereotype but I guess now I do

I've been hit on a few times by men, though in most of those circumstances, I was in a gay bar, so I was asking for it anyway. I agree with most that it should be taken as a compliment. We all want to feel that somebody sees something in us to be attracted too, even if we don't share that attraction.

one of my best friends hits on me sometimes. i kissed him one night when we had had a few drinks and since then he has sorta hit on me at differnet times. he is engaged etc but has confided in me that he wants to experience one more thing before he gets married.

doesnt bother me and would prob jump into it except that we are really good mates and i have seen what happens when friends get together... other than that i think its great. makes me feel good that someone finds me attractive (i think i have said that but you get that).

well thats just another little story of mine... :)

Actually yes, I do. I enjoy talking to people and helping people.

I got hit on once. Kinda creepy actually, cause I noticed this guy stalking me for a few blocks. I stopped around a corner and pretended to text on my cell. The guy stopped as well, and started small talking about christmas shopping etc. We walked 4 or 5 blocks, I kept my responses to a minimum, and told him I was picking up my girlfriend from work. The guy was polite and nice though, so I kinda felt like an ass giving him only one syllable replies. Also I'm from Norway where people are a bit more, well frigid, so I though alright, this is the US, home of the brave and all that, maybe this is totally acceptable behaviour. At the last ped crossing before my gf's work he said "So, uh, do you want to head back to my flat for some fun?" I rejected politely and told him I'm straight, to which he replied "Oh, that's okay, I'll do all the work". :lol:

This happened in San Francisco but it was downtown, not the Castro. I had scruffy 1-month beard, an Adidas hoodie with food stains, cheap GAP jeans and dirt on my boots from camping, so I really can't see why the guy would hit on me.

I'm a hetero male, it's been like 5 years since anyone has directly hit on me(the first and only time so far, but I'm young, 20 yrs old), but I've had numerous occations from every type of person slip into the conversation that I'm attractive. Guys, girls, people 20+ yrs older than me...

I can't figure it out, I'm not sure if my sexuality is so ambiguous so that both types think I'm the opposite of their's, or that people are just too afraid to approach me ..I do usually have a serious visage, people have thought I was depressed or mad at times when I was neither. Or if I just seem uninterested to everyone as I tend to be a private person and find it hard to express my emotions.

It's kinda funny too since I tend to be really empathic but when it comes to having to do with others having feelings for me I 2nd guess my instincts too much.

Live and learn though, I'm sure Ill get the hang of it soon.

Oh ya, forgot about my original meaning for posting before I went off on that little escapade.

I was in my anthropology class last night, upper class (jrs and seniors) at a university, we we're talking about greeks and when the topic of how homosexuality was intrinsic to their culture came up someone (I think a female) let a loud EEEWWwwwww....

I'm like wtf, this is a class of adults and they are so affected at simply talking about it that they have to voice their disaproval like some fucking kid?

This made me depressed, and pretty pissed off, I feel like I'm loosing faith in humanity...it makes me strongly dislike people like that, racist, homophobes, etc. But I feel wanting to enact violence upon their mortal coils makes me nearly as bad as them which makes me confused :crazy:

I just don't understand our race and I'm tryin hard.

Yeah, I've been hit on more than once. In fact, one of my best friends from high school, after years of being overly critical of the girls I dated, admitted that he was, in fact gay...and in love with me.
I had suspected as much, and wasn't all that surprised.
Frankly, I find it flattering, like Harshaw said, when anybody finds me attractive.

I've been hit on a few times and after replying nicely they usually get over it, but this one friend would not leave the topic alone.. and for months he kept hitting on me over and over.. finally after awhile he got the hint (after me telling him I am not into it 1000 times) and things were back to normal again.

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I've come to the conclusion in my life if you try to place humanity on a pedastal, you will be in a world of hurt.

If you take it for what is, and realize like your own self that it has inherent issues and live with them then people aren't that half bad.

I know what I believe in, and that's what is important to me. What others believe in is their own business, and if I don't agree with it then it's my choice to either not pay attention or to let it affect me.

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With how many people that are openly gay now, is it really even considered "Coming out of the woodwork?"

(joke) Soon I'm gonna have to hide the fact that I'm straight (end joke)

I used to get hit on by guys, constantly. I even had a guy junior year of high school who made it his goal to, if not prove I was gay, make me so.

But even still, I get hit on by guys all the time. And, unlike in high school, it doesn't bother me at all. So they think I'm attractive... half the time they are too. It's nothing but a compliment, why worry about it?

Same here.

Thank god I've never been in that weird situation, I don't know how I would react. I'd probably be embarrased at first and then laugh about it later on.

I've been hit on many of times by gay men. I find if flattering. A little unsettling, but still flattering.

When I worked at Gap, there we a couple guys who would hit on me a lot. That became an annoyance becasue they knew that I am not gay. But as a general rule I try to be nice about it. Probably more so than I am with girls who hit on me.

I work at Gap (animosity used to work with me) right now and work with a lot of gay people, but I've never been hit on by any of them (I'm disappointed, maybe?). I have been hit on by a customer. The customer called up and was very nervous sounding and asked me if I liked men. I told him that I didn't and he apologized. I think I thanked him for calling instead of asking me in the store.

I wasn't flattered by the whole thing, mainly because the guy was kind of creepy sounding.

I don't mind working with gay people (i wouldn't work at Gap if i did). I wouldn't be offended if one of them hit on me. Being hit on is being hit on, whether it be a girl or a guy, so I take it as a complement and go on my way.

Several times, I take it as a compliment, and let them know, politely, that they're....well...barking up the wrong tree. Two incidents stand out. First time, I was 16 and flying from Denmark to NY. Long flight, so I got up to strecth my legs. Got to talking with the cabin crew down in the tail-end galley ( I think it was a TWA 767 or 777, but It was almost 10 years ago, so I forget). End up chattin' with this guy for about an hour. Ends up with him letting me know I should get in touch with him if I came to the city, I could crash at his place, etc. (I was spending the summer on Long Island, so wouldn't be in the city much.) I was completely oblivious to the fact that this guy was very much hitting on me, until I told the story to someone and they said:"you realize he was hitting on you, right?"

Second time was a couple years ago, at a party thrown by a lesbian friend of mine. Of course, the gay community was heavily represented. So the evening advances and I have a long conversation opera divas, audrey hepburn, the qualities of rural cooking, etc(those were the subjects, I kid you not), along with an ever-increasing amount of drinks, with a very cool gay guy. At around 3 am we're hanging out in the kitchen of this tiny flat, talking, when I get pinned in the corner by a very drunk gentleman to who the term "hunter gay" (no insulting intent with that term at all, purely humor, and hopefully you'll appreciate this by the end of the story) applies. This guy is about 40, slight paunch, not very tall, high paying job in some creative industry, and an appreciation of guys much younger than him. So this guy, very drunk, and in no way intimidating, is practically purring at me. All of a sudden, the guy I've been talking to all night steps in to "defend me", explaining that I'm straight, etc... I about busted a gut laughing when the guy hitting on me realized I was straight. highly amusing!

I've had a few passes made at me. I've generally been complimented by it. The only time I've really been annoyed was one fellow in college just didn't believe that I wasn't gay. He was in his thirties, and openly insisted that he could 'convert' any man he wanted. I'd imagine that, say, a regular hygeine regimen would have helped him a bit there. No matter how many times I told him that I was not, in fact, interested in men; that I found him generally unpleasant to be around; and that I'd like him to please leave me alone -- he just wouldn't let it die.

I spent over a year fending him off every time I ran into him on campus. I was flattered the first time or two, but after that, unwelcome advances get old fast. I don't think it is a gay/straight thing, either -- I'd imagine some women in bars have been just as furious as I was over the whole "no just means not yet" attitude. Finally, I lost my temper (it takes me quite a while) and told him that if he ever spoke to me again I would file charges for harassment.

Generally, it's nothing but a little ego boost -- and, depending on the situation, an awkward moment. I'd rather be perceived as hot to somebody than to nobody.