Who actually enjoys dancing?
 

Maybe an odd question, but a friend and I were at a bar a couple nights ago, shooting pool. The dance floor was full of women, to which my friend said to me "why don't you go out there and dance?"

I said "hell no, I dance like a retard."

He said that no guy actually ENJOYS dancing, they just put up with it to get close to the women.

Is this true? Now that I think about it, I've heard many women say they "just wanna dance," while I've never heard one guy say it.

Well, I know my brother and some of his male friends like to go dancing, and not *just* for the girls. *shrug*

The concept of guys not liking to dance is a new one to me... but when I was at the bar, I saw only girls on the dancefloor, except for one guy who was dragged out by his girlfriend. The guy was just dancing like a dork, dancing like the Jackrabbit Slim's dance in Pulp Fiction.

dancing on ecstacy is fantastic. i love dancing.

I admit the main reason I dance is for the girls but I enjoy it at the same time. I can generally only get going when I have a few drinks though ...

I love dancing, but I am the first to admit that I am absolutely horrible at it. Luckily, 85% of the male population dances nearly as badly as I do (or worse) so if I decide I have some nuts that night I'll dance it up in public too (although for me to dance in public, the majority of the time I need an incentive such as a lady). ;)

If I was a good dancer, I would dance all the time. But I look like a dog jumping for a snosage. I always end up watching a guy who looks like he knows what he is doin g, and I simply copy him. I realize how sad that is, but I don't currently have time for lessons (which is my only hope).
Maybe it'll be like "Shall We Dance" (the Japanese one, not the crappy American copy)!

i think i had a traumatic dance experience when i was younger that i must've repressed
because i know that i was a dance fiend when very young
but i avoid it like the plague now, no matter who asks me or how much money they offer
(yes, i've been offered large sums of money to dance with girls)

Well dancing is not my thing but i do it if someone asks me... But well as former breakdancer i think its more fun to battle people on the dance floor...

In the town that I live in, if you're male and you enjoy dancing for dancing, there is a high chance that you're gay... or at least that you'll be called gay.

I actually used to like dancing when I was around five years old. This has since been drilled out of me over the years.

I enjoy dancing. Growing up in Miami where not knowing how to dance amongst a population of males who where taught to dance from birth may have something to do with it. You simply cannot be of any gender in Miami and not dance. Every family get together is one large excuse to put on salsa and dance with every aunt and uncle you never knew.

That being said, I once was of the opinion I could not dance. My Fiance fixed that quick.
I believe I said "I'm a white guy, I can't dance."
To which she replied "And I'm Honduran and you'll learn to dance if where going to keep dating."
That was 4 years ago. Now I dance at every bar and club I encounter. I grew up with mostly latin freinds, and all my guy freinds go dancing every friday and Sat on South Beach. Drink a little, dance with a nice young lady or 10, laugh, be merry.
If I wanted to get drunk, I'd do it at home for a lot cheaper.

I lived in the Yankee bastation of Providence for a while, and went dancing with a young cuban guy from my school. In a place where the guys line up at the bar while their girlfreinds dance, I got a good laugh at how girls would dance close to me, get frustrated at me, then just turn around and dance with me. Sometimes girls would walk up to me, pull up my sleeve to see if I was 21, then dance with me. That was just hilarious in my mind.
I remember one young woman who though I should go home with her because "Thank god, a guy who's confident enough to dance." She wasn't happy to find out I was taken. For some reason she thought I was a tease for being straight and dancing while taken.

I somehow suspect I've typed this for the sexuality forum before, but maybe that was V3.

Anyway, learn how to dance if your male, and remember that it's actually okay to just go up and start dancing with a young woman dancing. Don't cut her freinds off, just dance next to her and see if she's interested. that means actually making and maintaing eye contact with her, not the ground. Most young woman are happy to encounter a guy who enjoys dancing.
And for the love of god, don't just try and rub your crotch on them. Unless you like being kicked in the nuts of course. Becuase your just saying "Please assault me for being a perv towards you."

Booty dancing is great, but learn how to control and move your hips without moving your upper body before you try. Same for any latin dancing.
Not possible you say? Bullshit, I do it every weekend, as does every latin male in the world.

Now stop wondering why latin guys have the reputation they do and read between my lines already.

*starts whistling and trying to look innocent*

I've never liked dancing. Even before puberty came along and turned every innocent action into a supremely embarrassing one.

stick a couple of drinks in me and I'll dance

I like dancing. It's fun. Most guys don't do it because they think they can't dance good but if they'd look around the dance floor they'd notice none of the guys really dance good. For the most part girls don't care...they just want to dance thats why they just say fuck it and dance with each other. Because no one desirable has asked them to dance...that or they have a SO and don't wanna dance with another male. But I have noticed girls don't care if you're not the greatest dancer in the world as long as you'll dance with them. They just wanna have fun and a good time...you show her yer cool with doing that she'll love you for it. Last time I checked they didn't want the guy stealing the show away from them either it's more like "Look at me I can dance! I'm sexy!" If ya can dance though it's even better...cause when ya have both a guy and a girl who can actually dance all eyes are on them..ladies love that too and every girl will wanna dance with you if you can dance haha. Just say fuck it and go out there I mean any jackass can at least do the rock away haha.

Asta!!

with a cigarette in one hand and a bootle of beer (or whatever alcopop is fashionable at the time) in the other, find your ideal woman and go up behind her (do not ASK to do this invariavbly you will get a no answer, this should not put you off) now grind away in the closest semblence to the beat of the song as you can manage. If this classic show of male dominance and confidence does not impress your chosen prey just move swiftly onto your second choice. Repeat this until you are successful (or you run out of potential victims, a fight is a good way to relieve any tension you may have built up if this happens).

I didn't select an answer because my option wasn't up there. No, I'm not a hermaphrodite, I'm a guy who doesn't consider himself a "dancing machine" but also likes dancing. The music has to be right but, of course, if there are women involved I'll compromise.

On a side note, I won't dance to pick up random women, I would do it on request for a women I was talking with already or if the music were good enough.

Yeah, I am with the, "I'm a guy, I like to dance, but suck at it group." Yes, ladies make it more fun.

yeah i like dancing. i go out with my female friends and we usually start dancing around in some weird way... we will hold each other like we are going to dance a waltz (you know, the close factor) then go nuts... but i dont dance much if im not drunk


i think you should have put a "i like dancing when im drunk" one in there...

Haha, fuck dancing....my sentiments. I don't know any guys who dance for the sake of dancing. I will personally put forth the bare minimum required dancing effort in order to get a phone number, after which time I will sit my ass back down and talk about how much I hate dancing.

I don't know what you guys are whinging about. Dancing is fun! I don't care how I look when I'm dancing. It's not about how you look. I'm not performing for anyone. I'm letting myself go and DANCING.

We should clarify what we're talking about. I like club dancing, though I don't do it much. I like swing dancing, and I do that at least a couple-three times a month. Many of my friends I met swing dancing.

And look, if you're only interested in the ladies... Well, it says a lot more about you that you're out there boogying. All this self-consciousness that gets in the way of you dancing is NOT a turn-on for the girls.

^^^^

i agree ratbastid. although i go out clubbing with my female friends a lot (im the only single male guy in my group of friends) and im in it for the fun, not to pick up. there has been many-a-night when myself and my lady friends have been the only ones on the dance floor dancing... ahh many a great night had..

I love dancing and don't do it nearly enough...

After reading these responses I've decided to go out on a limb and actually consider dancing next time. My main concern is that, yes, I do dance like a retard (for lack of better comparison), but it seems the opinion of many people here is that dancing is just dancing... not a skill contest, right?

Fuck it, next time I'm at a bar, and I feel the music, perhaps I'll shake it for a song or two.

What are some more dos and don'ts of dancing? I got don't rub your crotch on them, and don't just cut in. Ah, am I making too big a deal out of this? Last time I danced was about a half year ago, but that was with only 5 others in someone's living room, with people I know. Maybe I should drink more when I go out.

I love dancing, and I'm so glad ratbastid has finally come around :) Used to be I'd hear some music come on - at home, at a friend's house, in the mall - and say "oooh, oooh, dance with me!" and he'd mumble and grumble and maybe do a couple of half-hearted steps. I'd say "fuck 'im" and just dance by myself :) It's so much more fun now to dance with my honey. Although I still dance by myself all the time. Belly dancing, swing dancing, just boogeying down when I'm cleaning the house.

I hate dance music. I don't mind dancing, if it is music that I can actually listen to as well.

I love dancing, and usually dance alone unless it's slow dancing with my husband.

I chose the middle one, even though I like certain types of dancing. The whole hip-hop let's go to a sweaty club where you can barely move and end up just rubbing your crotch against any girls ass I don't enjoy (the rubbing up on girls isn't a problem, just the guys out looking for fights to start).

I'd much rather do some swing dancing, or some nice slow dancing holding my girl comfortably and moving together with the music.

i'm not a big fan of dancing, but will do it if needed. i'm 6'6" and stick out on the dancefloor. i have no moves and everyone would see that.

Yeah, I'm 6' 3", so not quite as tall as you, but tall enough to be noticed if I dance badly.

I'd rather have a root canal.

I have the grace of a ox. I really don't have any desire to demonstrate it in public.

My level of intoxication is directly proportionate to the amount of dancing I do :p

That doesnt mean that I like it however, that just means that Im willing to do it when Im less sober. I cant stand dancing.

And this pains me to no end. Though I've managed to get some slow dances out of him, I think that's all I'll ever get... :rolleyes:

I enjoy dancing. Have to say though, don't see many guys doing it...dunno

As a guy, I don't llike to dance. I also think that dancing men look... well, bad in some unidentifiable way. Most of the time I think guys go for dancing to get close to girls, but some of them do enjoy it. Also, I think there's nothing sexier than a dancing girl.

Did someone say dancing!

I love dancing. All kindsd. Swing, ballroom, line, club... everything. My friends always make fun of me b/c I'm prone to bust a move just about anywhere, even if it doesn't look good...

I like to dance at clubs. I used to suck at it and so I hated looking like a fool. But I kept going out onto the floor and now i'm alright at it and it's fun.

A fun way to learn to dance though is to meet a girl in the club and then get her to teach you how to dance a bit. Often it descends into grinding but not before you pick up a few things.

really i only like to dance when my woman is there...cause its damn sexy. other then that it would never pop in my mind to go dancing....come on im a guy :)

i said dancing machine, cause I like dancing....but i don't really do it alot. I took ballroom dancing lessons in high school (mostly swing) and that was pretty awesome. I think that dancing that takes skill is cool, but a lot of the dancing that takes place in clubs is kind of dumb (if you've seen what I've seen you'd agree), and since I have no dancing skills other than swing dance, I don't do it a lot. I wouldn't mind taking more lessons in real dances though.

Me too! My wife and I have been swing dancing (Lindy Hop, East Coast, West Coast, Balboa) for about 2 years. I suspect that most people are thinking of dancing as grinding in rhythm to a beat.

For those of you that don't know - you should take some Swing lessons from a local club - you don't have to go to Arthur Murray or Fred Astaire. In fact, that is a really bad idea if you want to swing dance.

Most importantly, the ladies love it.

I love dancing, and my girlfriend thinks it's hot. suits me fine :-)

I don't necessarily "only dancing when it's with a girl." In fact, I actually prefer it when i'm alone. *shurg*

I love to dance.

This last Thursday I went out with three girls and two guys and we all got dirty on the dance floor at a local bar. Very fun times. :)

I like ballroom, swing and square dancing.

Yes. Square dancing. I took a dancing course instead of a physical education course at the college. It was fun even though I can't dance.

I can play music and have pretty good rhythm for a white boy, but there's some disconnect between my brain and the rest of my body that keeps me from dancing well. If you can imagine Elaine Benes from Seinfeld dancing and having some sort of seizure, you get the idea. Only much, much worse. ;)

Hilarious poll options!! :lol:

You forgot one: I am male/female and I dance like Elaine on Seinfeld but I still think I'm a dancing machine!

:D

Dancing? I don't dance.

What is this "I dance badly" hogwash?

Guess what: nobody's looking. They're all worried about how bad they look!

^ Ratbastid speaks the truth yet again!

Heres 1 DON'T think about it so much just let go and have fun. If people are looking at you and you're having a good time they're not going to think wow that jackass really sucks at dancing they're gonna think haha wow that guys having fun he sure knows how to have a good time. All the other guys girls will wish they're man was like that.

Couple a drinks should help you loosen up but just don't drink too many...loose your coordination haha. DON'T try to do "moves" then you will get laughed at..by your partner...could be a good or bad thing depending on who you're with they could think it's funny or embarrassing....ever seen the movie THE WOOD before? Remember when homeboy was on the dance floor with the girl doin just fine till he tried to do some "moves" then she walked away? Thats pretty true to life my friend. Don't do moves unless you CAN do moves haha. If you can rock to the beat thats pretty much all you need to do for hip-hop dancin. Girls are happy to help you with dancing too if they like you..don't be to proud to get help if you want it. The more you do it the more natural it will become and the more you'll let yourself go when you do it.

Try it out man...if ya lose anything(doubtful) it won't be the end of yer life. Confidence man try not to be too self-conscious and you'll do aight.

Asta!!

Man, i love busting it out on the dance-floor. I can dance like Usher.

I'm a little white guy, so no, no dancing for me

I took ballroom dancing lessons for about five years... I love to dance, especially dances like the cha-cha-cha, the rhumba, salsa, and merengue. I retained only the rudimentary basics of the tango and slow waltz, and for the life of me I can't do the samba (even though it is one cool dance).

What can I say... the ladies love a man who can dance, so why would I not learn to enjoy this activity?

i'm sorry i just dont understand it. i enjoy watching women do but men look gay doing it

I know several people, males and females . . .myself included that enjoy dancing . . . it's relaxing and you can really let go IMHO . . . damn it . . . why does it have to be monday . . . wish it were friday........ :|

Who'da thought men could look gay doing anything other than sharing signs of affection with a member of the same sex...haha not judging I do it to just saying...Kind of behaviour is ruining things for people...if ya dance yer gay, if ya like to dress yer gay, if ya like music someone else finds questionable yer gay..meanwhile those that are actually gay don't always fit these stereotypes to begin with.

Asta!!

I cannot dance. I don't care if nobody is looking. I am very self-conscience (sp?) anyway. I can't stand the thought that people might be looking and/or laughing at me.

I can enjoy slow dancing and grinding but i don't get regular dancing. I want to because i have rythem, i just dont know what to do with it. I'll put it like this. With baseball you have a purpose and mechanics to acheive it ie. hit the ball, feild it and throw it to first. With hockey you have to score on the other team or prevent them from scoring. With dancing they just put you out on the floor and yell "Go" :confused:

I'm sure most of the time thats all it is man. Just a thought in your head. The only one looking at you is whoever it is you're dancing with...maybe the company you came to the venue with but other than that...everyone else is too busy looking at themselves and their partner to look at you. If your friends try to make fun of you ignore them. They're just doing it because they don't have the guts to do it themselves and are trying to discourage you from doing it so they aren't the only ones. You'll never learn how if you don't try it ya know?

Asta!!

I love dancing, but I don't do it nearly enough.

I've had some of the best nights out just hitting a bar or club, downing a few drinks, and getting off my ass when the DJ spins a hot track. It is funny though, while I love dancing with girls, I never really went to get up on complete strangers. Usually I went with a group of friends (mostly girls) and got plenty of action acting as a safe base. I'd dance with one or two, and while others went off and if some creepy guy was getting way too gropey they'd just shimmy up to me and I'd help him get the message by basically being in the way.

Dancing is the most sensual thing you can do besides sex, and I think its best -like sex- with some one you at least know at little bit, enough to be comfortable around.

Besides bar dancing, I like to slow dance with my lady friend, and I like to crank the stereo and dance with myself. Billy would be proud.

it depends on how much i have had to drink

Maybe you missed the whole elaine/seizure thing, but believe me at 6'3", husky (do people even use that word anymore?) and with my dancing "skills," everybody is looking at me and most likely estimating safe escape routes from the dance floor.

If only it were a question of confidence.... :)

learning to love it. i've never been "good" and i've still probably got a lot to learn. but at the last dance here at school...

i told myself that i was going to have a good time, and asked someone to dance everytime i felt like it. even learned the basic swing step despite being less than sober at the time. for me, i enjoy dancing as much as i'm willing to trust myself.

in high school, like every other male, i thought dancing was stupid and made sure everyone knew i thought dancing was stupid. then one night i decided that wasn't much fun... so i started dancing as if no one was looking. over 5 years later, i still dance like no one is looking... but i don't care if they are b/c i'm damned good at it now. ;)

back then i danced to try to win over the girls, but now i really don't care... i dance because i enjoy it. i think its fun, especially when i'm dancing around other people who think it's fun... or especially when i'm drunk.

when i go dancing at the bars, i think my favorite part of the night is right before close... when everyone still on the dance floor is there because they're having too much fun to stop, not caring how bad they're dancing or who they're seen with. those are the people i like dancing around. :)

Just feel awkward and gawky out there. And the last time I ask a gal to dance (actually, I cut in), she fled to her seat as soon as I started. Now adays, I've been taking some kung fu, so I got some rythme. I might just brake out in to my "Drunken Master" impression :D

But come this spring, I might take a dance class at school and see what can come out of that.

I would enjoy it if I felt I could do it well. ;)

I can't say I enjoy dancing the modern Disco-bleg.. It brings up too many associations of monkey and ape mating behaviour.

But on the other hand I most certainly enjoy the more sober dances like Tango and Walz for some reason...

Hmm... Discovery channel generation?

I love to dance...LOVE IT...and it is soooo sexy when a guy is a good dancer...there have been a few times it has gotten too "hot" on the dance floor so we took it home.

I can dance the salsa, merengue, tejano, I'm one of the best 2 steppers I know, and am currently learning swing. I've never taken a class for these in my life.

Honestly guys, one of the EASIEST pickup lines is "I've never done this before, would you mind teaching me how to dance?"

This is good because even if you DO know how to dance you have an instant excuse to be bad at it. It's also great because you can make her laugh by constantly cracking jokes while doing it. Ever since college started I've met EVERY single girlfriend of mine (have 3 at the moment) from dancing.

When I go to the country-western bars I dont even get to leave the dance floor usually because girls will grab me as I'm walking off (for some reason in Austin no one can 2step worth a damn). In salsa bars I'm one of the only straight white males there, so the competition is very small.

Look, I dont care if you think you dont have rhythm. I never danced till I was a junior in HS, I was horrid at it at first, then I developed how to listen to the rhythm of the song, and suddenly BAM I could dance. Give it a shot, give it another, give it another, eventually you'll be comfterble enough and confident enough to do it well. And we all know nothing turns on women more than confidence.

Hmmm.. You might be on to something there. Maybe I should try that one out. Thanx for the tip!

I am so bad at dancing, that I can't like it. You would think being a drummer would enable to have some sort of rythm...guess not.

Love like you have never been hurt before
Dance like no one is watching
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This is a question that has always befuddled me. Why guys don't like to dance or make an attempt to learn how to dance.

I too was in a breakdancing crew back in the 80's and then just learned how to dance with a partner.

Guys, I'm telling you when you're out there dancing with a friend, as someone who knows how to move on the floor and acts like you're having a good time, it is unbelievable the amount of girls that will ask YOU if YOU want to dance. Even old fat guys..... like me. :lol:

The only thing I don't know how to dance, as far as mainstream dancing goes, is two-stepping. And that's the biggest thing up here in the TX panhandle,that and spanish dancing.

I've taken a few dancing classes for fun or class credit, and enjoy it, but I don't do it often enough to really remember the steps. So I end up taking the beginner class over and over again.

I can't dance well, but I like to skank, and rudimentarily swing. What I really like to do, though, is to be at home with just me and a girl, turn up the music, and dance in the bedroom. Just bounce around and have fun.

Now I gotta go find another girl. :-/

I absolutely love to dance. Given, at first there's usually a "I'm gonna look like an idiot" feeling, but once I'm past that, there's no turning back. Once I start dancing, it feels like falling in love.

I love dancing. My hubby hated it when I first met him but he's coming around now, and has said he wants to take a swing class or something :) Neither of us is the best dancer in the world, but we still have fun when we do go (not enough).

I (currently) can't stand dancing.

dancing is a wonderful form of expression. its the movement of mind that cannot be expressed by words. its calming and liberating.

but thats just me, and ive been dancing since i was three years old. and for all you guys who hate it, you shouldnt. if you suck, whatever. what the real question should be is - when you dance, are you having fun? cuz thats what we see.

^ See told ya fellas :thumbsup:

Asta!!

Most people I see in clubs dancing look like retards. I just like to sit down and enjoy a drink and conversation so I would prefer a pub of some sort.

female dancing machine :)

(ok, it's been a couple years since i've really done it ... but I know I can move ...)

A couple of my best lays were with guys who could really boogy.

(my experience has been strictly with 'dance' type music, club stuff, but not the real mainstream shit. no slowdancing or any crap like that. I really have personal space issues when i dance).

I love to dance and don't get the chance to do it often enough at clubs, but have been known to boogie around my 'puter desk from time to time...

Dancin helps burn off the be-ahhs

Dancing machine (male) here. I dance even when there's no music playing alot of times.

I dance damn good too.

i like dancing with chicks... but i only ever dance when im a bit drunk, as i am too shy otherwise... i hate being shy :/

Ugh. Fuck that. I look like a total ass when I try to dance. Plus I have a horrid memory of me trying to dance at the sophmore homecoming back in high school.

Not a pretty sight, let me tell you.

okay, don't have the time to catch up on all the posts...

everybody i know likes to dance. why? because we are a group of people who encourage each other to make a fool out of yourself, in other words, put yourself on the line.

the human body loves moving in a rhythm. why deny it just because you think you look stupid doing it? anybody who thinks they look stupid whenever they "let go" needs a head check.

I'm a guy. I fucking love to dance. It's self expression through your body. Sometimes i'll break dance to some loud ass music to get things off my chest, other times i'll just be at the club and get it mug with a girl...

It's always fun to see how I can manipulate the rythm and coordinate my movements to the beat. So....dancing is a big up for me. :D

P.S. When a girl can dance very well, i like it alot too... I hate it when girls just shake their ass randomly. There *IS* a beat, and you're not hitting it. And they won't adjust to match you either.

Well Im a guy. Im not good at dancing, but I do it anyways. Its good to feel loosy goosy.