To Cheat or NOT to Cheat that is the question - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

robertjtucker · 01-14-2005, 10:48 PM

If you have the oppurtunity to cheat on your spouse, girl or boy friend would you do it or not?

bing bing · 01-14-2005, 11:02 PM

you should change it to; would you cheat if you were 100% certain that he or she will never find out unless you tell them.

If that were the case, if it was the right person.

noodles · 01-14-2005, 11:06 PM

i know i'm kind of old-fashioned, but hell no.
i've had it done to me more than once and i know how it made me feel. wouldn't wish that on anyone. if cheating on your SO is really something you want to do, you shouldn't be in that relationship. or at least that type of relationship.

bad jane · 01-15-2005, 01:12 AM

depends on the circumstances. currently, no. but if i was in a relationship that was dying a slow death--i might if the right person and opportunity presented itself.

Willravel · 01-15-2005, 01:20 AM

If Jessica Alba was sitting on my face begging me and I was sure NO ONE would find out...

...I'd still NEVER cheat. Under no circumstances would I cheat. Unless it would save the world, but that scenerio is completly unreasonable. I don't even know why I mentioned it.

Cheaters are the embodiement of dishonor and disrespect. Cheating is the ultimate betrayel. I could not oppose or dispise cheating more. Btw, I've never been cheated on.

Rlyss · 01-15-2005, 01:34 AM

I think the opportunity's always there, we can always go out and do something we wouldn't want our partner to know about. I think if you're going to cheat, try and gain a tiny amount of decency and break up with your partner first, otherwise you're a low-life.

I wouldn't cheat.

slimshaydee · 01-15-2005, 01:34 AM

I've cheated, and it's happened to me. It doesn't mean I love the person any less, it just means that I gave in to temptation.

tuffrr · 01-15-2005, 02:08 AM

I have in the past, but have learnt my lesson. I wouldn't risk my marriage even if Jessica Alba was sitting on my face. Although, i'm sure if i asked the missus it might be alright.

desal75 · 01-15-2005, 03:49 AM

it has ruined too many good things for me already. So therefor i never will on my current girlfriend

Blackthorn · 01-15-2005, 05:27 AM

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Originally Posted by willravel

If Jessica Alba was sitting on my face begging me and I was sure NO ONE would find out...

...I'd still NEVER cheat. Under no circumstances would I cheat. Unless it would save the world, but that scenerio is completly unreasonable. I don't even know why I mentioned it.

Cheaters are the embodiement of dishonor and disrespect. Cheating is the ultimate betrayel. I could not oppose or dispise cheating more. Btw, I've never been cheated on.

There is no integrity in cheating. If you lack personal integrity you would likely answer yes to this question. I agree with willravel.

ninety09 · 01-15-2005, 06:37 AM

If I wanted to have sex with another girl than my SO, I would do it with no hesitation. My SO doesn't own my penis and I don't own her vagina. There is none of that jalousy crap in our relationship.

El Kaz · 01-15-2005, 07:17 AM

Unless the opposite is specified, a love relationship implied a commitment to your partner.. kind of an implicit engagement, which lasts untill a break-up.
Since there are very few things more important to me than keeping my word, well cheating is a definite no.
Of course I have nothing agaisnt "open" relationships, but it has to be specified before-hand (None of that "uuh.. well you never told me I could NOT sleep with other women!" crap) and agreed to by both party.. in this case, it wouldn't really be cheating.

ubertuber · 01-15-2005, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by ninety09

If I wanted to have sex with another girl than my SO, I would do it with no hesitation. My SO doesn't own my penis and I don't own her vagina. There is none of that jalousy crap in our relationship.

Yeah, but if that understanding already exists between you, then it wouldn't really be cheating, would it?

No cheating here.

StanT · 01-15-2005, 07:24 AM

No, I keep the commitments that I make.

Jonsgirl · 01-15-2005, 07:38 AM

Not only no, but hell no.
I learned my lesson, nothing good ever comes from it.

ninety09 · 01-15-2005, 07:50 AM

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Originally Posted by ubertuber

Yeah, but if that understanding already exists between you, then it wouldn't really be cheating, would it?

No cheating here.

Well, there's not really any kind of 'understanding'. If I had sex with a girl other than my SO. I wouldn't tell her; it's just none of her business.

gh0ti · 01-15-2005, 08:21 AM

I used to be all about commitment. I was with my first love for 5 years and never cheated on her. I gave her my heart, my soul, and my trust. It turns out she slept with 2 of my so called "best" friends while we were together. After we broke up she went through 2 more of my friends.. SLUT

I turned down every opportunity I had because I was committed to "us". It bit me in the ass pretty bad. Now I just go by the "never turn down an opportunity" rule. At least until I’m married. Granted I havent been in a relationship since we broke up and I'm not really feeling like I want to be in a relationship any time soon. So that may change If I meet the right person.

Averett · 01-15-2005, 08:26 AM

Never. I would never cheat.

Carno · 01-15-2005, 09:02 AM

I've been cheated on, and because of that, I will never ever cheat on anyone.

I get extremely pissed when anyone around me even mentions cheating.

degrawj · 01-15-2005, 09:03 AM

well, i answered no, and somebody can tell me if i was wrong in answering no, because i have cheated once in the past. that's when i figured out it wasn't worth it. all the stress, guilt, and worrying about it made my life hell. she never found out, but that didn't make me feel any better. and besides, i have found that i don't really enjoy having sex with someone unless i am truely in love with them, so that kind of cuts out the possibility of cheating anymore. well, that and the fact that i don't even have an SO right now. :-(

robertjtucker · 01-15-2005, 09:05 AM

If Jessica Alba is already sitting on your face aren't you in the process of cheating?

StanT · 01-15-2005, 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by robertjtucker

If Jessica Alba is already sitting on your face aren't you in the process of cheating?

It means I either need to wake up or put on my glasses.

Willravel · 01-15-2005, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by robertjtucker

If Jessica Alba is already sitting on your face aren't you in the process of cheating?

Let's say that I was drugged and I woke up that way. Still wouldn't. And I'd lose respect for her. Heh.

doncalypso · 01-15-2005, 10:41 AM

Cheating on someone I love and care for is something that goes against my beliefs and the standards I've set for myself. If I felt I no longer loved my girlfriend and no longer felt attracted to her I'd break up the relationship rather than cheat on her.

skier · 01-15-2005, 10:49 AM

If jessica alba was sitting on me begging for it, there would only be one thing to do. Call my girl and tell her to get her butt over here for a threesome. She wants to fuck that girl as much as I do.

Cervantes · 01-15-2005, 11:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Rlyss

I think the opportunity's always there, we can always go out and do something we wouldn't want our partner to know about. I think if you're going to cheat, try and gain a tiny amount of decency and break up with your partner first, otherwise you're a low-life.

I wouldn't cheat.

My thoughts exactly, If you can't find the decency to break it up first you should seriously concider therapy. Extremly rude and extremly egoistic.

Bacchanal · 01-15-2005, 11:11 AM

This question is almost impossible for me to answer. There are too many variables that aren't accounted for. I have cheated in the past alot, and I like drinking, and I'm more open to "suggestion" when I've been drinking.

I'll save someone the time and typing:
"Drinking/being drunk isn't an excuse!"

I dispute that. Not only in relationships, but as far as everyday shit, people do things they wouldn't normally do after they've been drinking. Alcohol impairs many things, judgement included. I'm not saying everyone, and I'm not saying every time just to clarify, but it does happen.

robertjtucker · 01-15-2005, 02:30 PM

It is just a matter of if you would do it or not, no variables. If Jessica Alba was sitting on my face I don't know if I would have the strength to get rid of the pearl necklace. Are you strong enough to say NO. It is a hard thought for a lot, some it is not.

drakers · 01-15-2005, 06:49 PM

No, besides the point that I'm married and my wife would be able to see right through me; what's the point, it would just be sex for me. Sex is not a big enough factor to make me want to cheat because I married my wife for a reason; because I love her. Love conquers all!!

CityOfAngels · 01-15-2005, 08:55 PM

No no no no no no no NO NO NO NO NO NO!
And one more big, passionate NO!

I've yet to feel worse than I did when I first found out I was cheated on. That's not a joke. Now why would I want to make someone I care about feel that way?

I personally feel that if you are bent on fucking someone else, you let your SO know FIRST. Whether or not you keep the relationship going is between the two of you. Who knows? Maybe your SO is up for an open relationship, but if he/she isn't, he/she should at least have a chance to defend his/her own dignity.

Sweetpea · 01-15-2005, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by ninety09

Well, there's not really any kind of 'understanding'. If I had sex with a girl other than my SO. I wouldn't tell her; it's just none of her business.

Ouch . . . so, you have sex with some girl with "YOUR" penis that "YOU" own . . . but then sitck that said penis into your SO when you have sex with her . . and it's NONE of HER business . . . give me a break . . . i would sincerly beg to differ man . . . . You've got to be kidding yourself to believe that . . .

just my humble opinion . . . but you've got to know posting that would bring a response like this . . .

peace,
Sweetpea

Sweetpea · 01-15-2005, 09:05 PM

NO . . . certainly not, my SO trusts me for a reason. And if i felt myself getting close to temptation . . . i would be honest with my SO and tell him that i was feeling tempted and talk to him about it and get out my feelings, people don't just cheat . . . they cheat normally because of an issue in their own relationship . . .
When you are in a realtionship with someone . . . and you call them your SIGNIFICANT OTHER . . . that means . . . they are significant to you . . . hence, you are HONEST with them.

Good things come from honesty . . .

Rlyss · 01-15-2005, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by ninety09

If I wanted to have sex with another girl than my SO, I would do it with no hesitation. My SO doesn't own my penis and I don't own her vagina. There is none of that jalousy crap in our relationship.

Just to clear a few things up here, are you in an open relationship or do you have an agreement with your partner that you forgot to mention to us? Like sweetpea said, a response such as that is guaranteed to get a response such as this.

If you have been with a partner for three years do you really have no hesitation about sleeping with someone else, and do you feel that she has the right to sleep with someone else and not tell you? What happens if she finds out about you sleeping with someone else, are you angry and do you blame her for being possessive when she breaks up with you?

Zephyr66 · 01-15-2005, 10:29 PM

nope, If I'm not content with my SO at the time, I would tell them and try and work towards fixing the problem.

Rdr4evr · 01-15-2005, 10:38 PM

I don't see the point of cheating. If you want to cheat, then don't commit yourself to one person. And if you're ever attraced to someone else and want to cheat on your SO, than don't be a coward and dump the person first.

lite campfire · 01-15-2005, 11:12 PM

Well, I probably wouldn't cheat exactly. However; if given the right motivation, I can't say for sure my SO wouldn't recieve a call along the lines of "ThisisntworkningoutandIthinkweshouldseeotherpeopleitsnotyouitsmeokaybye".

uptown · 01-16-2005, 04:08 AM

I used to be all high and mighty and say "no, never" now after awhile of receiving sex of the perfunctory, bi-weekly, 5 minute grope and poke variety, I don't know.

What good is fidelity if it isn't valued ? What good is fidelity if you only have sex with your partner because you're obligated to do so ?

biznatch · 01-16-2005, 08:32 AM

What's with the face sitting fetish? I'd tell Jessica Alba to get the fuck off it. lol

sexymama · 01-16-2005, 08:39 AM

I answered no, because I have absolutely no good reason to cheat on my hubby. We have a wonderful sex life and a true respect for each other that includes an understanding that sex outside the marriage is not okay.

That said, I've also learned over time to never say never. So, I'm not to quick to judge those who said yes. Until I walk a mile in his shoes, I won't understand.

Frowning Budah · 01-16-2005, 06:26 PM

I answered no. My wife has told me she would understand if I got lonely or just went temporarily insane and fooled around on her. And she meant it. Still I love her very much and I know it would hurt her so I would sure resist like hell. So far so good.

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01-14-2005, 10:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
robertjtucker Upright Location: Durham, NC	To Cheat or NOT to Cheat that is the question If you have the oppurtunity to cheat on your spouse, girl or boy friend would you do it or not?

01-15-2005, 03:49 AM	#9 (permalink)
desal75 Psycho Location: Western New York	it has ruined too many good things for me already. So therefor i never will on my current girlfriend __________________ The Man in Black fled across the desert and the Gunslinger followed.

01-15-2005, 07:38 AM	#15 (permalink)
Jonsgirl Semi-Atomic Location: Home.	Not only no, but hell no. I learned my lesson, nothing good ever comes from it. __________________ Someday, someone will best me. But it won't be today, and it won't be you.

01-15-2005, 08:21 AM	#17 (permalink)
gh0ti Crazy	I used to be all about commitment. I was with my first love for 5 years and never cheated on her. I gave her my heart, my soul, and my trust. It turns out she slept with 2 of my so called "best" friends while we were together. After we broke up she went through 2 more of my friends.. SLUT I turned down every opportunity I had because I was committed to "us". It bit me in the ass pretty bad. Now I just go by the "never turn down an opportunity" rule. At least until I’m married. Granted I havent been in a relationship since we broke up and I'm not really feeling like I want to be in a relationship any time soon. So that may change If I meet the right person. __________________ I ain't often right but I've never been wrong It seldom turns out the way it does in the song Once in a while you get shown the light In the strangest of places if you look at it right

01-14-2005, 11:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
bing bing Addict Location: Melbourne, Australia	you should change it to; would you cheat if you were 100% certain that he or she will never find out unless you tell them. If that were the case, if it was the right person.

01-14-2005, 11:06 PM	#3 (permalink)
noodles Psycho Location: sc	i know i'm kind of old-fashioned, but hell no. i've had it done to me more than once and i know how it made me feel. wouldn't wish that on anyone. if cheating on your SO is really something you want to do, you shouldn't be in that relationship. or at least that type of relationship.

01-15-2005, 01:12 AM	#4 (permalink)
bad jane Insane	depends on the circumstances. currently, no. but if i was in a relationship that was dying a slow death--i might if the right person and opportunity presented itself.

01-15-2005, 01:20 AM	#5 (permalink)
Willravel ... a sort of licensed troubleshooter.	If Jessica Alba was sitting on my face begging me and I was sure NO ONE would find out... ...I'd still NEVER cheat. Under no circumstances would I cheat. Unless it would save the world, but that scenerio is completly unreasonable. I don't even know why I mentioned it. Cheaters are the embodiement of dishonor and disrespect. Cheating is the ultimate betrayel. I could not oppose or dispise cheating more. Btw, I've never been cheated on.

01-15-2005, 01:34 AM	#6 (permalink)
Rlyss The Pusher Location: Edinburgh	I think the opportunity's always there, we can always go out and do something we wouldn't want our partner to know about. I think if you're going to cheat, try and gain a tiny amount of decency and break up with your partner first, otherwise you're a low-life. I wouldn't cheat.

01-15-2005, 01:34 AM	#7 (permalink)
slimshaydee If you've read this, PM me and say so Location: Sitting on my ass, and you?	I've cheated, and it's happened to me. It doesn't mean I love the person any less, it just means that I gave in to temptation.

01-15-2005, 02:08 AM	#8 (permalink)
tuffrr Registered User Location: On the internet	I have in the past, but have learnt my lesson. I wouldn't risk my marriage even if Jessica Alba was sitting on my face. Although, i'm sure if i asked the missus it might be alright.

01-15-2005, 06:37 AM	#11 (permalink)
ninety09 Flavour of the Weak Location: Canada	If I wanted to have sex with another girl than my SO, I would do it with no hesitation. My SO doesn't own my penis and I don't own her vagina. There is none of that jalousy crap in our relationship.

01-15-2005, 07:17 AM	#12 (permalink)
El Kaz Crazy Location: Canada	Unless the opposite is specified, a love relationship implied a commitment to your partner.. kind of an implicit engagement, which lasts untill a break-up. Since there are very few things more important to me than keeping my word, well cheating is a definite no. Of course I have nothing agaisnt "open" relationships, but it has to be specified before-hand (None of that "uuh.. well you never told me I could NOT sleep with other women!" crap) and agreed to by both party.. in this case, it wouldn't really be cheating.

01-15-2005, 07:24 AM	#14 (permalink)
StanT © Location: Colorado	No, I keep the commitments that I make.

01-15-2005, 08:26 AM	#18 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Never. I would never cheat. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

01-15-2005, 09:02 AM	#19 (permalink)
Carno Junkie	I've been cheated on, and because of that, I will never ever cheat on anyone. I get extremely pissed when anyone around me even mentions cheating.

01-15-2005, 09:03 AM	#20 (permalink)
degrawj I'm still waiting... Location: West Linn, OR	well, i answered no, and somebody can tell me if i was wrong in answering no, because i have cheated once in the past. that's when i figured out it wasn't worth it. all the stress, guilt, and worrying about it made my life hell. she never found out, but that didn't make me feel any better. and besides, i have found that i don't really enjoy having sex with someone unless i am truely in love with them, so that kind of cuts out the possibility of cheating anymore. well, that and the fact that i don't even have an SO right now. :-(

01-15-2005, 09:05 AM	#21 (permalink)
robertjtucker Upright Location: Durham, NC	If Jessica Alba is already sitting on your face aren't you in the process of cheating?

01-15-2005, 10:41 AM	#24 (permalink)
doncalypso TFP Mad Scientist Location: Philadelphia, PA	Cheating on someone I love and care for is something that goes against my beliefs and the standards I've set for myself. If I felt I no longer loved my girlfriend and no longer felt attracted to her I'd break up the relationship rather than cheat on her. __________________ Doncalypso... the one and only Haitian Sensation

01-15-2005, 10:49 AM	#25 (permalink)
skier Rawr! Location: Edmontania	If jessica alba was sitting on me begging for it, there would only be one thing to do. Call my girl and tell her to get her butt over here for a threesome. She wants to fuck that girl as much as I do. __________________ "Asking a bomb squad if an old bomb is still "real" is not the best thing to do if you want to save it." - denim

01-15-2005, 11:11 AM	#27 (permalink)
Bacchanal Laid back Location: Jayhawkland	This question is almost impossible for me to answer. There are too many variables that aren't accounted for. I have cheated in the past alot, and I like drinking, and I'm more open to "suggestion" when I've been drinking. I'll save someone the time and typing: "Drinking/being drunk isn't an excuse!" I dispute that. Not only in relationships, but as far as everyday shit, people do things they wouldn't normally do after they've been drinking. Alcohol impairs many things, judgement included. I'm not saying everyone, and I'm not saying every time just to clarify, but it does happen.

01-15-2005, 02:30 PM	#28 (permalink)
robertjtucker Upright Location: Durham, NC	It is just a matter of if you would do it or not, no variables. If Jessica Alba was sitting on my face I don't know if I would have the strength to get rid of the pearl necklace. Are you strong enough to say NO. It is a hard thought for a lot, some it is not.

01-15-2005, 06:49 PM	#29 (permalink)
drakers Psycho Location: IOWA	No, besides the point that I'm married and my wife would be able to see right through me; what's the point, it would just be sex for me. Sex is not a big enough factor to make me want to cheat because I married my wife for a reason; because I love her. Love conquers all!!

01-15-2005, 09:05 PM	#32 (permalink)
Sweetpea Fade out Location: in love	NO . . . certainly not, my SO trusts me for a reason. And if i felt myself getting close to temptation . . . i would be honest with my SO and tell him that i was feeling tempted and talk to him about it and get out my feelings, people don't just cheat . . . they cheat normally because of an issue in their own relationship . . . When you are in a realtionship with someone . . . and you call them your SIGNIFICANT OTHER . . . that means . . . they are significant to you . . . hence, you are HONEST with them. Good things come from honesty . . . __________________ Having a Pet Will Change Your Life! Looking for a great pet?! Click Here! "I am the Type of Person Who Can Get Away With A lot, Simply Because I Don't Ask Permission for the Privilege of Being Myself" Last edited by sweetpea; 01-15-2005 at 09:08 PM..

01-15-2005, 10:29 PM	#34 (permalink)
Zephyr66 My custom title's the shit! Location: Canada	nope, If I'm not content with my SO at the time, I would tell them and try and work towards fixing the problem.

01-15-2005, 10:38 PM	#35 (permalink)
Rdr4evr Banned	I don't see the point of cheating. If you want to cheat, then don't commit yourself to one person. And if you're ever attraced to someone else and want to cheat on your SO, than don't be a coward and dump the person first.

01-15-2005, 11:12 PM	#36 (permalink)
lite campfire Crazy	Well, I probably wouldn't cheat exactly. However; if given the right motivation, I can't say for sure my SO wouldn't recieve a call along the lines of "ThisisntworkningoutandIthinkweshouldseeotherpeopleitsnotyouitsmeokaybye".

01-16-2005, 04:08 AM	#37 (permalink)
uptown Insane	I used to be all high and mighty and say "no, never" now after awhile of receiving sex of the perfunctory, bi-weekly, 5 minute grope and poke variety, I don't know. What good is fidelity if it isn't valued ? What good is fidelity if you only have sex with your partner because you're obligated to do so ?

01-16-2005, 08:32 AM	#38 (permalink)
biznatch Junkie Location: France	What's with the face sitting fetish? I'd tell Jessica Alba to get the fuck off it. lol __________________ Check it out: The Open Source/Freeware/Gratis Software Thread

01-16-2005, 08:39 AM	#39 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	I answered no, because I have absolutely no good reason to cheat on my hubby. We have a wonderful sex life and a true respect for each other that includes an understanding that sex outside the marriage is not okay. That said, I've also learned over time to never say never. So, I'm not to quick to judge those who said yes. Until I walk a mile in his shoes, I won't understand. __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

01-16-2005, 06:26 PM	#40 (permalink)
Frowning Budah Slave of Fear	I answered no. My wife has told me she would understand if I got lonely or just went temporarily insane and fooled around on her. And she meant it. Still I love her very much and I know it would hurt her so I would sure resist like hell. So far so good.