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Old 12-21-2004, 08:26 PM   #1 (permalink)
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How to go down on a woman

Oral sex is fantastic. It's no secret that 99% of all guys love getting good head (the other 1% is lying), but it's certainly unfair that many of the same fellas don't know the first thing about going down on a woman. I've learned a few things over the years about the art of going down - stuff I wish I knew from the start - which I'd like to share here.

I don't claim to be some guru because my opinions are, obviously, a reflection of the women I've dated. That being said, I invite any female advice, insight or criticism about this article.

Men, if you’re going down on a woman for the first time, the first thing to know is that most (but not all) women are more nervous and self-conscious than you are - so be patient, supportive and take your time. With a new girlfriend, it helps to have a gradual escalation - don’t just dive for the clit frantically like a fumbled football. By being slow at first you can both relax while you make mental notes about what she seems to enjoy. As with all sexual acts there’s no one “right” way to do things.

Below I’ll describe the first time I went down on an ex-girlfriend and make additional notes along the way. I’ve numbered parts just to make it easier to read - Don’t follow this like some kind of “recipe."

1. After a good session of petting and foreplay I placed myself comfortably between her legs at the edge of the bed with her thighs around my shoulders caressing the outside of her hips with my hands. I kissed her inner thighs softly and brushed her with my cheeks (Obviously, don’t do this if you have stubble). This might have gone on for 2 minutes or 15 minutes - I really can’t remember. By being gentle and slow I was heightening her senses, eventually making her very sensitive to any touch (Guys, just think of how it feels to have a woman’s soft hair fall over your stomach as she prepares to give you head).

2. As she relaxed I let her feel my breath on her pussy but I avoided touching it. Then I started to play and stroke he pubic fur softly and slowly with my fingertips. (In my experience this can be very effective at heightening a woman’s senses) I kissed her pubic hair just above her pussy while wrapping my arms around her thighs and hips. *She’ll often tell you what feels good in the way she moans (...unless she’s faking, of course)

3. I spread her thighs gently and gave her superficial kisses all over her outer pussy. (The operative word here is “superficial.”)

4. Up until this moment I kept everything “dry”- (i.e. no tongue, no spit.) Then, without warning, I let the tip of my wet tongue drag once from the bottom of her pussy to the top of her clit. This sudden, unexpected warm, wet and soft violation made her gasp with excitement. You can also try licking from her asshole to her clit. This one can drive a woman wild - I’ve only had positive reactions to that one, but maybe I’ve just been lucky.

*When you do this make a mental note of where you felt the clitoris. This is especially helpful if you happen to be in the dark. As silly as it sounds I find it useful to “index” the site by keeping my finger just north of this spot so I can find it quickly without fumbling around.

5. I then started circling her “inner lips” with my tongue.

*I should mention that I used to do “tongue exercises” in private. The tongue is a muscle so I practised stretching it out as far as possible to increase its reach. I also practised moving the tip of my tongue in smaller and smaller circles for extended periods of time and practised making it wiggle up and down for as long as possible. The important part is learning endurance and breathing without drooling. I’m sure I’m not the only guy who has ever done this. Believe me, it’s worth the time and effort!

6. I inserted my tongue deeper into her pussy making circles all the way.

*Some men have a problem with a woman’s “smell.” I guess I’ve been lucky because I’ve always found a woman’s private scent and taste to be delightful. If you’re not used to it, then I advise you to GET used to it! When you’ve done that you can then learn to LOVE it.

*Don’t slobber all over her pussy. Maybe there’re some women who actually like this but I never met one. In short, plan to be doing more swallowing than spitting. If you like the way she tastes then you’ll want to swallow as much of her as you can and make her cream as much as humanly possible. There’s nothing more exciting than when you’re both worked up in a frenzy - she’s grinding herself into your face and you’re hungrily sucking and lapping away! (But watch those teeth!)

*It’s important to discuss your approach to the clit. This is one area where women are completely different from one another. Some women love to have their clit teased and sucked (one girl liked to have it lightly bitten!) while some women are so sensitive you can only apply indirect pressure. First of all, there’s your basic anatomy. The clit is covered by a “hood” of flesh. It’s always nice to start by placing a finger at one side of the clit just north of the “hood” applying pressure downward to her pelvis - this motion will cause the clit to rub against the side of your finger through the hood and even emerge (each woman is built differently so your results may vary). You can vary the amount of pressure and speed of that motion to get a good idea of how sensitive she is. You’ll soon learn that you can reveal the clit by gently pinching the area around it making the hood retract and causing the clit to rise like a cherry on a sundae. In my experience the women I’ve dated liked this better than if I tried to pry her open like a stuck elevator door (ladies, please correct me if I’m wrong). One way to play with a woman’s clit is to rub it through the hood placing a finger to either side. You can then apply a “rolling” motion or a rhythmic squeezing motion. There are a whole variety of ways to rub a clit, both dry and wet. I'll leave that for you to learn for yourself.

*You’ll also discover that an individual woman is capable of a greater variety of sensations in her little clit than you are with your big ol' cock. But, for heaven’s sake, don’t try to make her to explain it to you because she may not know it herself. More often you’ll find it’s something you need to discover together. The feeling she gets from being licked at the bottom of the clit is somewhat different than flicking it from the top... and that’s just for starters. I can write another page on the subject, but the best way is to experiment and explore it yourselves.

7. I next tried a number of different “motions” with her. I can’t recall exactly which ones I did - I usually “shuffle” around the “menu” depending on what she seems to enjoy. Some basic ones are listed below: (I won’t tell you all my “tricks” because some of them aren't easy to describe - besides, I’d be nuts to reveal my best “secrets.” But as long as you remember the basics, you can experiment and make your own repertoire over time).

-Insert your fingers in her pussy and rub the “front wall.” On most women you can find a spot there that drives her wild. You can’t always feel anything but you’ll have to sense her reaction to find it. Your finger should be moving in a “come here” gesture. (Don’t be alarmed if you can’t find the spot. Each woman is different) As she gets more excited then you can use your tongue on her clit at the same time. As long as you did a good job at working up to this moment most women will come easily this way (...but what’s the rush?).

*when you lick a clit learn how to make little circles with the tip of your tongue. You can also try a light rapid up-and-down flicking motion. Sometimes you’ll want to use your lips, too, but you ought to learn to do everything with just your tongue.

-Try applying pressure with the bridge of your nose against her clit while you lick her inside. Some women love this.

-Try inserting a finger in her ass while licking her pussy. You’re taking a chance here. A third of women love it. Another third can’t stand it (potentially ruining the moment). And a third of women will just tolerate it. *As a side note: Anyone who hasn’t discovered the pleasure of rimming doesn’t know what they’re missing!

-You can try 69ing but your technique is going to be much different. I’m sure there are some finer points, but I confess I don’t 69 very often. I prefer going down completely on a woman.

-If your girl is multi-orgasmic then you’ve got it made. You can make her come orally then fuck her while she’s starting to get her breath and work her up to her next orgasm while fucking her. You can’t do this with every woman. One good, strong orgasm seems to be enough for most of the women I’ve known.

-If you know how to use your hands you can drive some women crazy by playing with their clit while fucking her simultaneously. I especially like doing this from behind. Here’s one point that I can’t emphasise enough. If your lady is approaching an orgasm DON’T even THINK about changing your motion, rhythm or (heaven forbid!) stopping. I repeat - DON’T STOP! I don’t care if your hand or tongue is starting to cramp or numb. Continue non-stop as if you were swimming for dear life toward a life raft. Believe me, there’s nothing worse than spoiling a woman’s orgasm. This advice may save your life some day! Some of you guys know what I’m talking about.

As cheezy as it sounds don’t forget to have fun. If you approach it like a chore you’re only going to make it worse for her. Done correctly, this should be something you both enjoy. And try something new each time you go down on her.

It’s definitely worth the effort to learn to do it right and to keep learning because it never becomes rote. I’m always discovering new things only because I like to try new things. For me it’s a special turn-on when you both discover something weird and new. Frankly, some of the most incredible blowjobs I’ve ever had in my life happened right after I went down on a woman and made her come first.

I love it when a woman has a strong orgasm. I love the way her body spasms uncontrollably and the way her pussy contracts over and over again. I love taking in the flood of juices that follow. I love the unexpected squeals and sounds she makes. And I especially love the way her body seems to “hum” afterward when she is resting relaxed in my arms.

I haven't talked about this with anyone before so I'm open to alternative opinions, insights or corrections.

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Old 12-21-2004, 08:44 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Old 12-21-2004, 08:57 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Excellent write-up! It did gave me some new ideas to try out.
And WHEW at number 5.. I was almost ashamed of "tongue excercising".. thanks for reassuring me.

As an additional tip.. even if the girl is, well, hairy, try to avoid visibly pulling hair out of your mouth.. it seems that gets to them, go figure.
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Old 12-21-2004, 08:58 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Let me be the first to thank you for the time and effort you put into this post.. I'm sure there are a lot of women out there that are now praising you.

Personally, I have never really thought of putting my experiences down on paper/forum but now I think of it.. why not. IMO this article covers most of the basics for any man.. but for me, the most important things are:
  • Take things slow.. this isnt a race and should be approached accordingly
  • This isnt a cock your dealing with.. be gentle
  • Dont underestimate the pleasures of a warm breath or a light touch

Thanks again...
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Old 12-21-2004, 09:23 PM   #6 (permalink)
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*It’s important to discuss your approach to the clit.
"discuss my approach to the clit?" with who? My doctor?
I shall refer to you from now on as the Connoisseur of Cunnilingus, sir.
Brilliant read.
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Old 12-21-2004, 10:21 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Old 12-21-2004, 10:44 PM   #8 (permalink)
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WOW. THAT is FANTASTIC. I think a fair amount of men can really learn something from reading that.

Do you mind if we post this elsewhere with proper credit given? I'd really like to put this on my LiveJournal as well as a smaller college forum if you'll let me.
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Very well put! I can think of nothing to add as you covered all my favorites!

Note to the men: do know your woman's clit; everyone is different and deserves the approach that most pleases her.
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Old 12-22-2004, 01:09 AM   #10 (permalink)
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Oh wow. This guy is good. And I must confess I'm not a fan of the 69er either. I need to give myself totally to the process - either in giving or receiving.
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Do you mind if we post this elsewhere with proper credit given? I'd really like to put this on my LiveJournal as well as a smaller college forum if you'll let me.
Of course.
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"discuss my approach to the clit?" with who? My doctor?
I shall refer to you from now on as the Connoisseur of Cunnilingus, sir.
Brilliant read.
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I don't think anyone should use this as an always do this guide. Women are different and they all like different things. So I say experiment and communicate. That's the key to giving women great oral pleasure. Oh and just a side note.. if you eat pussy like a hampster drinking from a bottle..then ya need to take a few lessons
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That was excellent. Covered everything I want when a guy goes down on me.
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Old 12-22-2004, 10:27 AM   #15 (permalink)
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Very odd...this is the second thread in two different message boards with a guide to cunnilingus today.
This is what was at the other one.....both rock! I hope I am lucky enough to eat at the Y tonight.
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Men suck at eating pussy. Not because they don't like it but because it's really fucking hard. You have to learn it. Giving good head is the key to just about everything in life (including getting good head later on), so it's time we broke it down. Like this.

The secret to giving good head is to read the signs. You could be the best sexual mechanic in the world, but if you can't read the emotional road signs, you're going to end up wandering around in a desolate labial wasteland until, eventually, you drop from exhaustion, hot tears of confusion streaming down your face.

Think of eating the puss as your way of saying, "although I am about to rock your insides with 3 000 lbs. of explosives, here's a little intimate treat session to show you how I really feel." Instead of a screaming "OH MY GOD!!" like her baby has been trapped under a car (which is what fucking should do), cunnilingus elicits a more splendiferous "ooohmygodohmygodohmygod." Kind of like being massaged with exotic fruits by a muscular Arab oil sheik. A good mange (that's French for "eat," you brutes) is like a thousand years of Saturdays or a "Calgon, take me away" ad.

Break it down!

1 BE DOWN
Don't go down unless you're down. Unlike fellatio, cunnilingus can never be done as a favor. Doing it when you don't want to will only bring on the dry heaves. Eat like a pig at the trough and a lot of stupid mistakes get forgiven.

2 DON'T SAY HI TO DRY
A dry pussy is an unhappy pussy. If your fingers graze a dry bush, go back to the kissing and hugging for awhile. Just make sure you actually dip your finger between the lips. Sometimes moisture gets trapped between the labia and a little fingerial coaxing is all that's needed to get the honey dripping.

Once you're sure the beaver is wet, give it a few light, teasing strokes with your finger. There's nothing worse than rushing into this, so make sure she's really begging for it before you get under the covers.

Extra tip: Be like Prince and bring up a wet finger that both of you can share like a 1950s milkshake with two straws.

Important: Don't play your trump card too soon by putting your fingers all the way inside. This can detract from the upcoming penetration and kill the tease factor. Try to remember that 78% of a woman's pleasure is about yearning. Poking it in too soon is sure to put out the fire.

3 SUBMARINE MISSION FOR YOU, BABY
Once she's lathered up, it's time to go down. Get your fingers out of there and don't touch anything for a bit. Let your lap do a bit of grinding and get some last-minute necking in like you're going away on vacation.

Though it's very tempting on your way down to pull the blankets over your head like the little mole-man that you are, this is a very bad idea. It gets super hot down there and whipping the duvet off your head and gasping for air ten seconds before she comes is pretty much going to kill the mood.

Start by kissing her boobs and stomach and slowly working your way down. Don't get carried away with those stupid tits, though. That's something you should have taken care of before the pants even came off. Right now it's all about the stomach and inner thighs. A little bit of gentle biting is good, but a sure winner is to start at the knee and move towards the muff in a slow, shark-like swoop. Nibble your way right up to the edge of her cunt, then skip across it and head for the other knee. Repeat. Doing this a few times will get her really hot and save you a lot of pussy-eating time in the long run.

When you're just about ready to do the deed, start practicing on that weird crevice next to the lips. Don't spend too long there or she might start to think that you think that's the actual cunt.

By now she should be dying for you to make your move. If you're doing it right, she'll be moaning and trying to force your head between her legs. Stretch this phase out until she looks like she's been holding her breath for three days.

Extra trick: Hover over the bush for about five seconds before the first lick. If you wait longer than that, she might think you're having second thoughts because it smells bad. Of course, we all knows that motherfucker smells sweeter than a bowl of steamin' crawdaddies.

Important: Never bite the cunt in any way whatsoever. If this needs more explaining you should probably just stick to jerking off.

4 PARTING THE RED SEAS
Isolate your playing field. Pubic hairs are to eating pussy what the Cavity Creeps are to dental hygiene. You're never going to be able to identify all the parts if she looks like that PIL album That What is Not. One hot trick is to get her to spread her lips apart so her pussy is all set up for you like a great big buffet.

5 THE GRAND ENTRANCE
Do your first lick super slow. It's good to groan and moan too. It shows you're digging it while sending microscopic audiophonic vibrations right up her snapper. Start just above the anus and take it all the way to the fur. Do about a dozen of these "St. Bernard licks" before moving on (take it really slow, like four seconds per lick). This is a good time to figure out what kind of clit she has. If it's real sensitive she'll probably convulse as you pass over it and that means you're probably in for an easy ride. If there's no reaction when you graze over her clit, she probably has one of those nerveless little pea clits and you're in for a thirty-minute session of tongue-tendinitis.

6 ROCK THE BOAT
Eating pussy is so gentle it can make you feel like a bit of a fag. If you're getting tired of being ballerina boy, take it out on the clit. Figure out how much abuse it can take without making her uncomfortable and show the little bastard who's boss.

After all, Mr. Elusive is precisely what makes muff diving so difficult. He's surrounded by labia and, even after you find him, all the pressure can pop him over to the side. All of a sudden you're giving the pee hole the seeing to of its life. Think of the clit like a tumor in a pile of ear lobes. When you push down on the area he's the only one that can't be squished. Once one of your tongue troopers finds him, call for reinforcements. Use your lips to get hers out of the way and focus all your attention into getting him alone. Once you find him, give him a bit of a hard time for trying to hide from you. Frisk him and give him a couple of whacks across the head. More on this punk and his bad attitude later.

Extra important tip: The best way to stimulate the clit is to run your entire tongue over it after you isolate it from the lips. The man in the Boat should feel the texture of the entire tongue pushing down on his body and his boat.

7 IDENTIFYING THE CLIT TYPE
After the slow licks it's time to get this party started. There are essentially two types of clitori. Ones that enjoy a serious going over and ones that don't. The latter suck about as much as a one-inch penis and you should dump her right away.
Extra tip: Clits come in all shapes, sizes and sensitivities, but that doesn't really tell you much. All of them want to be treated slow and soft at the beginning but the only way to tell if you can go fast at the end is by reading her reactions. This is impossible to teach but just do the best you can. All we can tell you is convulsing means take it ease and "Oh my God" means bring it on.

8a) CLITS THAT NEED A SERIOUS GOING OVER
These are the most fun because you can be creative. Pretend your tongue is the bad cop and the clit is the guy who killed your partner. Separate him from his buddies (the lips) and suck him right up into your mouth. Now he's on your turf. Keep him erect by creating an air-tight vacuum chamber in your mouth. Slap the little bugger upside the head with one big tongue bonk. He's not going to tell you shit because he's a clit and he has no idea what you're talking about, but kick his ass anyway. After a few teasers and swirling circles, rat-a-tat-tat him senseless like a boxer whacking a speed bag. If she starts freaking out like it's too much, ease up on the interrogation and go back to the St. Bernard licks. The vacuum is a great way to bring her to orgasm, but it's a bit much sometimes, so mix things up with some circles around the clit and some tongue fucking.

As you're closing in for the kill, go back to the vacuum and give the suspect a relentless head smacking. Up-and-downies are usually the most effective, but your tongue zwill get less tired if you throw in a few side-to-sides. When you feel the inner thighs start to shake, this is it. Be repetitive. Do NOT be creative. You're almost home and this is not the time to start changing tactics.

Extra tip: To keep the rhythm going, try repeating a chant in your head that goes with the movement of your tongue like a Mic Mac Indian (hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya, hi-yi-yi-ya). Any inconsistent action may throw her off, killing the mood or at least setting you back a few minutes, which is bad for morale.

Important: Keep going several seconds after her orgasm. Remember, it isn't over until the hands come down from above and lay you off. If she's multi-orgasmic you'll have to keep going until you've done the whole routine another four or five times. If you're not sure what to do, just keep giving her shit until the magic hands come down to pull you off.

8b) CLITS THAT DON'T
Some clits don't want to be singled out and battered around. These are the boring ones that need to be treated with gentle care. Just do casual St. Bernard licks until she cums, pure and simple. If you're getting bored try going in some different directions for a while. A good way to keep it random is to spell out different letters of the alphabet with the tip of your tongue. You could be looking at half an hour here pal, and that can be problematic. If you go for that long and she doesn't cum, you're going to be in a foul mood, so if it's too much work, move on. On the bright side, going for thirty minutes is something few people have the patience for, so sticking it out will lead to some payback when period week comes around.

9 THE CONCLUSION
Once you're done (totally finished) she's going to want you out of there pronto because the whole area is sensitive. Instead of leaving, stick out your tongue and lay it down on her like a thick, soggy carpet. Make sure you don't move it or anything because that can actually hurt her. Just let it sit there like a dead manta ray for about thirty seconds. Then come up and wipe your face like a pirate. You now have a good minute to get the condom on and take her from the quarters of Prince Muhammad Muhammad Saddat to the cockpit of an F-15.

EXTRA BONUS TRACKS:

1 GETTING FIRED
If two hands suddenly drop from the sky and start pulling you up, you've just been sacked. She'll tell you she never cums from that anyway, but the truth is you suck at sucking. Just give her a jolly good rogering and look at the whole thing as a learning experience. Later you can ask what the problem was so you can get it right next time. If you're really lame, you can ask for a regular play-by-play from the broadcast booth. A bit of the old "slow-down-you're-going-too-fast yeah-there-like-that-oh-that's-perfect" can turn even the John Wayne Bobbit of pussy eaters into a Doug Hart.

2 THE POWER LUNCH
Nothing keeps you in the game and makes her cum harder than a mid-fuck munch. Pulling out in the middle of the race may leave her a bit confused, but it's a great way for all you premature ejaculators to simmer down a bit and it reminds her neglected clitoris that he's a somebody. If, after a few seconds, she still isn't into it, you can save face by pretending you just couldn't resist. Give it up and get back to the boff.

Extra tip: Unless you like the taste of your own latex-covered dink, keep your mid-fuck snacking to the upper clit region and stay away from the hole.

3 THE BOTTOM
Fingers: If you are dealing with a particularly saucy vixen she may want something in her bum. A thumb gives you the best leeway, but keep in mind you are doing a raunchy thing and this should be saved until the end. Incidentally, if you're trying to introduce a bum finger as a good thing, try eeking it in during orgasm. If it doesn't wreck everything you could have a Pavlovian response on your hands for the rest of the relationship.

Hole: We're not going to get into licking the actual hoop in this article because if you're into that, you're way too advanced for this seminar and should have graduated with a PHD in pussy years ago.

Cheeks: Bum cheek rubbing is always good. There are over five hundred thousand nerve endings on those cheeks, so giving them a good squeeze or a slap while you lick the pussy will get you instant results.

4 THE DOUBLE WHAMMY
Though some idiots say it takes away from when you actually put in the dink, simultaneous fingering is a great way to totally blow her mind. Think of it as the crack cocaine of cunnilingus.

5 BEING KNACKERED
Tongue exhaustion is the number one cause of abandoned manging but there are many ways to avoid it. Like we said, using your tongue as an inanimate object is a great way to give it a rest. Stick it out as far as it can go and tense it. Then bite into it with your teeth and move it around the cunt using your neck muscles. Another solution is simply to use your fingers on the clit while you give your mouth a rest.
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Old 12-22-2004, 02:17 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Time is irrelevant if you both are enjoying yourselves. I love doing this, so if the wife wants 40 minutes of oral, I am certainly ready to perform. Communication is most helpful. I don't completely agree with the advice to never stop when the o is approaching. Every once in a while we have a session where I alternate eat/fuck/eat/fuck. It drives her completely bananas. It would probably drive her nuts if we did that all the time, though.
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Old 12-22-2004, 04:44 PM   #18 (permalink)
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Good write up!

I use a lot of those methods myself. One of my faves (after you have gotten into it for a while) is to apply pressure to the clit with my lips and suck it in and out, sort of "popping" it in and out. It is WONDERFUL because I can feel my gal's legs twitch everytime I pop it.

You obviously have to be very careful and very in tune when you do this and not get your teeth involved. You need to be sure to cup your lips over your teeth to be sure.. (If that makes sense.)

I recently discovered the "pulling the hood back with your thumb" method, and my gal just goes crazy when I tease the exposed love button. I will sometimes moisten my fore finger and lightly tap or rub the exposed clit, driving her nuts. But again,the key to this is to pay close attention to her reactions if she is writhing in pleasure then you know you are doing the right thing. Keep in mind though too much of a "good" thing can be bad, so don't get too carried away on the exposed clit stuff.

The best advice I can think of though, is the fact that every woman is different, and you need to 1st enjoy the experience of "giving". Like the writup says, take your time, get used to the smell / taste, and pay attention to her! If she is just laying there and not reacting, then chances are you need to change up what you are doing.

Bottom line for me is - I love to pleasure her sometimes moreso than I like to be pleasured by her. I think I just enjoy being in control of her ecstacy.. ;-)~
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Good post. I've always found that simply paying attention to her body while you're down there will tell you everything you need to know. Pay close attention to breathing, grinding, etc. and you'll soon know what she likes and does not. Don't forget that not all women are the same. And be sure to communicate, even if it is only through grunts and moans, as those can be just as effective a method of communication.

Now everyone go out there and show 'em what you've learned!
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Old 12-22-2004, 05:13 PM   #20 (permalink)
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Old 12-22-2004, 06:29 PM   #21 (permalink)
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What a great set of posts. I don't know if there is some kind of post of the year award, but I hereby nominate thee! Thanks a million.
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Old 12-22-2004, 06:43 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Old 12-22-2004, 06:46 PM   #23 (permalink)
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Have those instructions printed on a t-shirt and hang out in any local bar -- they'll be lining up....
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Old 12-22-2004, 06:58 PM   #24 (permalink)
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lol maleficent =D
Thank you for the pointers though longbough. I'll keep those in mind when I'm diving in there =D
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Old 12-22-2004, 07:02 PM   #25 (permalink)
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Thank you for the pointers though longbough. I'll keep those in mind when I'm diving in there =D
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Old 12-22-2004, 08:24 PM   #26 (permalink)
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oh my good sweet hombre! My legs were locked in a semi-orgasmic deathgrip while reading your most excellent lingual arts guide.
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Old 12-23-2004, 09:55 PM   #27 (permalink)
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Wow. Reading that made my mouth water.
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Old 12-23-2004, 10:07 PM   #28 (permalink)
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Have those instructions printed on a t-shirt and hang out in any local bar -- they'll be lining up....
So....where might I find you garnering your favorite adult beverage whilst out and about???
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Old 12-23-2004, 10:12 PM   #29 (permalink)
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you mean not all guys do it like this?

damn you got my mouth watering!
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Old 12-23-2004, 10:53 PM   #30 (permalink)
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Old 12-24-2004, 01:09 AM   #31 (permalink)
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Old 12-24-2004, 11:27 PM   #32 (permalink)
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HAHA.....give that man the 10,000 dollars!
Seriously though, thanks for the advice....perhaps i'll be using it really soon
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Old 12-25-2004, 11:56 PM   #33 (permalink)
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Might seem cliche, but tracing the alphabet with the tip of my tongue around the clit has never let me down. It's a long pattern that you don't even have to think about, a good balance of repetition vs. variance.

May seem a bit mechanical, but it gets the job done well.
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Old 12-26-2004, 06:57 PM   #34 (permalink)
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I realize these are good tips for general practice but the fact is that the guys who are bad at head are the ones least likely to be interested in reading up on it.

Also, the women like to be touched so differently...I would say these articles were crap if they didn't mention that fact over and over.

Personally, my own girlfriend had trouble orgasming in the past and we're just working up to the point where it can be achieved without penetration or a vibrator so it's hard to gauge just how much my natural talents have improved.
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Old 12-27-2004, 09:25 AM   #35 (permalink)
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I'll just add one point that I don't think has gotten quite enough attention, and that is not to press hard with the tongue. Very very light pressure is the key, so that the motion of the tongue is what is doing the stimulating. At least, I have had success that way.
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Old 12-28-2004, 06:44 PM   #36 (permalink)
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great post!

my only addition would be to throw in some communication about going down in general. if she's not into oral (some girls just aren't) and you really want her to be--spend some time kissing the thighs and mound but not using your tongue. it may take a few times, but getting her used to the idea of you being down there may be enough for her to let you go further.

when i talk about this topic with partners, i like to mention frozen treats...if i'm feeling sensitive, i want him to treat it like soft-serve ice cream--soft licks only...be gentle! if i can take a lot, it's more like a popsicle--lick it, suck it, nibble on it...be rough, i can take it. if i'm somewhere in the middle, i want him to think of it like hand-dipped ice cream--soft licks, hard licks, gentle sucks...not too gentle, not too rough. it gives him a starting point and i don't have to worry about having the mood spoiled because i want it rough and he's trying to be soft and gentle (or vice versa).
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Old 12-28-2004, 11:25 PM   #37 (permalink)
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Excellent write up, paints a pretty good picture.
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Old 06-05-2005, 12:12 AM   #39 (permalink)
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All you guys - thanks for a well written, educational and inspirational post!
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Old 06-05-2005, 02:22 AM   #40 (permalink)
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Oh, I will add this...

While all of these tips are a good general guide, women are all different: I, for instance, LOVE having stubble/facial hair rubbed along my thighs and snatch. I LOVE a stubbly chin rubbing right into my clit. That, for me, is what makes oral sex.
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