Am I wrong to not like this? (nude modelling)
 

I'm sure I know the answer to this, but my girlfriend is majoring in art, and there's an opening in the art department for a nude model. She's thinking about doing it too. I admit it's good money at $12/hr, but I hate the fact that there will be other people seeing my girlfriend nude. I think in a relationship that only I should have that right/priviledge.

I guess in the end I can't control what she wants to do, but nevertheless it annoys me. Whats everyone elses thoughts?

I'm in the same boat as you, I'd never want my gf to pose nude for anything art or otherwise.

i am in agreement with you and wouldnt want my gf to pose for others

Agreed. I know there are other perverts out there other than the ones that post on this board, and I don't want them seeing my baby! :D

I would definitely have troubles letting other people see my girlfriend posing nude. I think most guys are in the same boat, but there'll be those few people who will probably say that it's art, and people should love the human body for its non-sexual beauty, but I'd still be very bothered if she posed nude.

I wouldn't mind if girlfriend wanted to pose nude.

It's her body, her decision and the in the end she'd come home to me. :)

Yeah, there are a lot of perverts in the nude modelling class, but aren't there perverts just about anywhere. It's nice to see a girl posing nude, but after years of "practice" I can imagine just about any woman I meet buck ass naked.

In the end, she may be nude for them, but she's coming home to me.

After living with an art major for a few years, after a while they stop seeing the models in a sexual way and seeing a naked woman becomes commonplace. It's kinda like being on a nude beach, it's cool for a while but then you get used to it and it loses the appeal.
Just some food for though

I'm thinking about doing this next semester at my college. I think it's a cool idea, your body as art, and it's the highest-paying student job on campus, so it can't be all that bad. :thumbsup:

*my post has been deleted because it was wholly inappropriate to the subject matter herein*

lol i stoped viewing things as porn and now as art, everything is pinup photography trying to express something. Now if it was her doing lewd acts thats a totally different story.

Thats awesome.. Ive seen her pics on the net and they're ~HOT~. Id give my left nut to see her in person.

While it is her choice to do the modeling, you should definitely tell her how you feel. It may not change her mind but at least she can't come back later and ask you why you didn't tell her you were against the modeling. Since you are in an exclusing relationship, she should realize that something like this could jepardize your relationship so she should make sure she is absolutely sure that she is ready for any negative response she may receive.

I forgot to add: Uiberto, its time to grow up. If you want to post this type of crap, find another place to do it. Leave room for someone who will post a serious answer to a serious question.

Well, I thought it was funny.
The comment sort of mocks the 'uptightness' of several of the prior posters by sarcastically confirming their paranoias, showing how silly they actually are.*
That is the problem, right? If you knew absolutly nobody would be getting off in any way by looking at your respective girls naked, would you still have a problem with it?

*or it could just be juvenile psudotrolling, whatever.

I would talk to her about it. Not like you phrased it but in a non-confectional sort of way.

Is it at a college or like local class? I have few friends who are art students and from what i can tell there is nothing at all sexual about being naked in an art studio. The people in the room will most likely be art studio and not there looking to see a hot chick without any close on. If this class is open to a large number of people this might be different, but that is something to conceder if that is the case.

Most likely noone will ever see the painting of her anyways. most of what happens in that kind of environment is studies, or practice. There is little chance she will be hanging in a gallery somewhere.

i'd be cool with it, because my ex was hot. i would look at it as an ego thing...you art students can look but i'm the only one who can touch.

to answer your question, though, you certainly are not wrong - it's just how you feel

BIG difference between letting her pose nude for art class and letting her pose nude for sexual reasons (stripping, internet porn etc). The people drawing her will not be there to get their rocks off, they will be there to draw her plain and simple. Besides which it's not YOUR body it's hers (as she will probably tell you)

my wife has done that before, except they paid $20/hr. well worth it. besides, most of the students were female.

I agree with JSwiss. I was in Art College and we worked with several models over a place of weeks. The very first time it may have been different, but everytime after that you hardly even notice that the person is nude. It's like drawing an animate object. I wouldn't worry about it.

I am glad to see that the tide turned with responses to this question. The "I wouldn't like it" crap directly contradicts the exhibition forum. If anything, I would view posing for an art class much more high brow than taking nude pictures at home and posting them on the web.

I would let her go for it. I have always believed that the more open we can be with ourselves only leads to higher levels of self-expression and exploration.

I wouldn't mind if my wife posed nude. If she did it would show to me that she is confindent and proud of her body.

I personally would pose nude. I think it would be fun to show off my junk to a bunch of strangers. I mean, I'll never see them again. But I would probably have a hard on the whole time, and I guess that could be a distraction. Then again, my flaccid penis would probably be a distraction, of a different sort too.

"Would the artists please stop giggling? Our nude poser is getting embarrassed."

Seriously, get over it. She isn't your prize and posing nude for art isn't shameful in any way. She isn't doing it for sexual reasons so even if there are pervs in the class, it's not yours or her problem. We, as a culture, should be ashamed at how closed off we are when it comes to nudity.

Sorry if I come off being harsh, but really, it's not a big deal at all. Actually you should consider yourself lucky that your girlfriend is so comfortable with her body. It surely only makes sex that much better.

LOL, maybe you mean inanimate object. :P

I tend to agree with the other posters who said that they wouldnt object on the grounds that other people are looking, but only they are allowed to touch. I like it when my g/f shows off her body when we go out. I would be proud of her if she felt comfortable enough with herself to pose naked.

What are you losing if she does this? You still have her, as she still comes to you, right? Even if she makes other people drool, what's that to you? Again, you still have her.

I certainly would not mind if my girlfriend or wife chose to pose nude for an art class. It's her body, and posing for an art class is not meant to be sexual. She is not an object to be owned by you, so let her do what she wishes.

However, I would also discuss with her how you feel. Let her know your uncomfortable with it.

Perhaps you could even ask if you could be present somewhere in the room, unobtrusively? They may allow it, or they may not, but it never hurts to ask, right?

:edited for poor phrasing:

of course you would look like an insecure control freak, I reccomend taking a life drawing class yourself, that way you'll see that there is nothing sexual in nature about it

I wouldn't mind my wife posing in the nude. Jeez, I'd post pictures of us fucking right here at TE if she were into that. Alas, she isn't.

I can sort of understand people who are all gung-ho about not letting anyone else see their SOs naked. I can't relate to it one bit, but I can understand it. Kinda.

I don't think you're wrong. Why would what you feel be wrong? Feelings are generally not wrong, just inconvenient.

I say let her do what she wants to do and is comfortable with. It's her body. She may even have a bit of an exhibitionist side to her, who knows. Why try and stiffle that?

Get over it... what she does with her body is her business not yours.

Pretty much the ony thing you can do is tell her how you feel about it and that you woud rather she not do it, it may be her body, but you in a relationship together and she shoud take your feelings into consideration(that is not to say that she should do whatever you tell her to). She may still do it after you tell her how you feel and if she does, you just need to deal with it, it's not a sexual thing and it will probably help boost her self confidence, which could potentially make your sex life more, oh how to put this, ummm, <I>interesting</I>.

So, since it's her body and all, it should then be okay for her to also have sex with whomever she wants?

I've always thought a relationship was based on two people and what they want for each other.

Personally, I wouldn't want my girlfriend posing nude for anyone BUT I'm also a hypocrite and want to see everyone's girlfriends posing nude.

Well said. I wouldn't want my wife to do it. I know that I couldn't tell her no, but I sure would tell her how I feel about it. She would be free to make her own choice, but I would hope that she would be willing to compromise and find another way to make some money.

She's posing nude for ART students. If there are perverts taking the class, they'll end up dropping it anyway because they're too crude to pay attention to the beauty of the body, not just the sexual aspect of it.

The students are there to LEARN from the body, not go: mmm mm mmmmmm.

There is a world of difference between sleeping with someone and posing nude for an art class...

This is a case of projecting your own horny thoughs onto those in the art class.

I've had models pose nude for me in class quite a few times and it was far from erotic.

Um yes she can for that reason exactly. A relationship is not joint ownership, if she did want to sleep with whomever she wanted then she wouldn't be in the relationship

Call me a perv, but I've had nude art classes and have had quite a few perverted thoughts while drawing. The drawings were like a nice reminder.

I enjoy the beauty of a naked woman in many ways, however as hypercritical as it may sound, I don't feel like I want to share my wife's naked beauty in those ways. I do know that it is not my choice in the end and if she does it, I have two choices myself; deal with it or leave.

So I have to disagree, to me nude is nude. I'm not saying being naked is bad; it's just a personal choice of how and where you feel it is appropriate.

I can't say i'd want my girlfriend to do it. It took me time and effort to see that. You should at least let her know how you feel.

I can't see the problem myself, as lots of others have said, ultimately its her body and her choice, you should be able to trust her judgement and accept her decision.

However you do also have the right to tell her that you are uncomfortable with the idea.

Has she asked you for your opinion or did she just tell you she was doing it ??

XDA

well, according to any nude modeling class i or any pervert friend of mine has ever taken, its virtually a prerequisite for the model to be fat and/or old. not to say that your girlfriend is fat and/or old, but art schools typically subscribe to this belief and their classes thus carry the stigma that its students will draw fat, old people.

"what the crap are you getting at?" you say.

hopefully art students aren't as perverted as say, my friends, and hopefully the really perverted ones are really turned off to the class because of said stigma as were, say, my friends.

bottom line, i would personally feel uncomfortable if my girlfriend wanted to be a nude model, but knowing that the class isn't as full of perverts as you'd think would make me feel a little better about it. after all, you need to be a dedicated artist to get by in a nude drawing class, not just a pervert. most artists focus more on lines and curves and realism than the actual situation at hand.

look at your girlfriend as a bowl of fruit; they get to draw it, but you get to eat it. :suave:

Wow, thanks everybody for your support. Great to know that there's enough people here that can handle a mature conversation. Anywho:

Well she's been telling me that she's been thinking about doing it for awhile - it was just yesterday, however, that there actually was an opening in the art department to do so. The whole time I have been against the idea, and I've communicated that back to her. Unfortunately up until yesterday it seemed more like she was joking about it to piss me off, so when she told me yesterday about the opening, i gave the same half-pissed-off, half-joking response. (We were talking online at the time - I'm still living at home while she's at college.) So I just did the immature thing and stopped talking to her for the night.

Label me a hypocrite as well.

I fucked your girlfriend. And your mom. And your sister. At the same time. Without protection. And lots of lube.

Ironic (?) thing is that she's in a life drawing class... drawing fat, old, naked people for the most part... I know it's for art, I know her class is in it for art and not to pick her up, but still dammit, can't change my mind right now - I don't want her to do it.

Dude, your attitude is working against you. My wife told me that a co-worker of hers was going to pose nude (tastefully) for a professional photographer, and I asked her if she had ever considered it. When she said that she had I encouraged her. You wouldn't believe what a shot to the self-esteem that was for her. An admission by me that I feel that her body is attractive enough to pose nude did wonders for how she views herself. It was also a re-affirmation of my commitment to her that I would hold that level of trust in her.

And it did not hurt the sex life one damn little bit ;P

Oh, and by the way, do you ever look at porn or been to a strip bar?

I am assuming you have and I am having a hell of a hard time equating that to your girlfriend posing for an art class. And by the way, I was a complete dog in college, but I never really saw taking an art class as a way to satisfy my voyeuristic desires. Well, probably one reason is I suck at drawing. I would have to believe that the people taking an art class are taking it because they have artistic abilities and not to drool at your girlfriend. There are much easier ways to see real naked women.

And I don't think she'll turn into Bambi the pole dancer either, but thats just my two cents.

True, and I never said they were one and the same, however it is still her body. Why wouldn't she be allowed to have sex with whoever she wants.

As an artist myself I can tell you there is nothing sexual about figure drawing classes. After about 5 minutes the model's muscles are aching which makes him/her start to move, the artist are getting frustrated because the model is moving or because they can't quite get their drawing right. The artist aren't there to gawk but to learn.
As for perverts in the class, every art program I've looked into has figure drawing as an advanced level course. Which means that there is a list of prerequisites to get through before figure drawing. That process weeds out all but the most serious artists, any perverts who want to take the class to see naked people would likely give up and just go online to get their kicks.
Also artist will spend barely anytime at all looking at the model's sexual organs because they are very easy to draw, no real complexity. Most of the time is spent staring intently at their hands, feet, face etc. because those are the body parts that are most difficult to draw.

In the end I think you need to be an artist, or know an artist very well, to understand it. Sometimes in classes our model will be a no-show. It usually only takes about 5 minutes until one of us is naked and posing. I would have no problem with my wife posing for an art class, because I understand the whole process quite well.

I don't think it would bother me. So they see her nude, so what? I think you are assigning too much significance to seeing someone nude.

In any case, it isn't your right/privilege to control; it's hers. So it's up to her to decide.

My sentiments exactly… :thumbsup:

Ain't no more to be said after that. But it's tempting.

I love this "I would not let my gf pose for others" kind of stuff.

Who on Earth do you think you are?!!

You would not let her?!! Your permission would not be forthcoming?!

My God... Women have not been considered chattels for quite some time.


It's entirely up to an individual if they want to pose for art, and make some good money at the same time (though I think $12/hr pretty much stinks).

You don't own your girlfriend. If she's willing to go through the initial (and presumed) embarrassment, then who are you to step in and say "I'm the only one allowed to see you nude"?

That smacks of absolute and categorical male sexism and chauvinism.

Mr Mephisto

I know in the end I can't control what she wants to do, but nevertheless that doesn't change my opinion.

IMO If this bothers you, you are very insecure.

Ooooh Bad choice of words... the only person you can control is you and your actions.

Why does this bother you? Her doctor sees her nude, if she goes to a spa, they would see her nude, why does an art class, where people in the class are there for a purpose, to draw, not to oogle a woman, bother you?

Why not find an art class that your girlfriend is not posing for, and take a class, and you will see for yourself.

i would also be totally up for posing nude if it presented itself...tho i would prolly be nervous and maybe embarrassed but it would be one hella of a rush!!

anyway i agree that it's her body, tho you dont owe her, you can express your opinion to her which IMO that is the best thing to do cause if ya cant communicate in a relationship then you or her will end up with hurt feelings...i think it would be a good idea if you would take or at least visit one day of one of those art classes.

What's the big deal? Nudity isn't that big of a deal. Plus, it's in a controled environment. If she wants do it, fine. If someone whats to look at a girl, there's easier and cheaper ways of getting your rocks off than taking an art class.

Having spent some time in art school and drawing from nude models believe me it is no big deal. The first time in class you get over the novelty of it in a few minutes. After all it is just the human body and there are billions of them on this planet. As an art student you are far more interested in form and line and expression. I know that our culture is weird when it comes to nudity but there is nothing sexual about modeling this way. In my opinion you should try and open your mind and accept her decision.

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No matter what your girlfriend is doing or where she is, it is likely and reasonable that someone is fantasizing about her. There are perverts among us. I am one of them. Thank me for having the honesty to bring this epidemic to light.

Beauty does not diminish with use. If I had a limitless supply of delectable cookies, I would not squander them so.

My girlfriend poses nude. It is inconsequential to the well-being of our relationship. I love her. And, indeed, I masturbate to her.

I can't see a problem either. To me, jealousy is just juvenile.

reading the postings on this thread it looks like in answer to your question - Am I wrong not to like this? is overwhelmingly yes,
Assuming you admit that this is now your problem not hers I'm interested to know if you will take it on board and try to confront/ overcome these feelings and become arguably a better person. Or are you going to hide in the comfort of your insecurity and impose some sort of nudity embargo? be nice to know how this turns out

I would mind, with similar reasons as the poster. Of course, it would be her decision and I wouldn't stop her, but there's something unsettling about other guys seeing her nude.

You might have a leg to stand on here if she was your wife. Then, I think, you would have a bit more say in this issue. However, she is your girlfriend. Getting bent out of shape over this is a good way for her to not be your girlfriend for very long. Although frankly, if she is interested in this and you are not, it may point to underlying compatability issues indicating you both might be better off if you were not together.

Personally, I would love it if my wife were interested in doing this but then I take great pride in showing her off when she is willing to let me.

I would be fine with it really, if it's for art, I would actually encourage her. The womans body is something beautiful. Drawing a woman in the nude is a great way to learn how to draw abstract. Also I've dated a stripper before, and the usage of a body during a strip show is explicitly for sexual purposes. I had no problems with it.

I'd definitely have a problem with my gf posing nude but in the end, I don't see how I could stop her from doing it.

I think I'd be okay with it if my girlfriend wanted to pose nude. There's a difference between art and pornography. If my girlfriend's body is beautiful enough that someone wants to immortalize it, let them immortalize it. What's so significant about people seeing her nude anyway? It's just a human body. We're all the same underneath our clothes.

It's her body so it's up to her!
One positive way of looking at it is that other people get to draw it but you get to explore it.

i've thought about doing it and i'm a guy
i dont think i'd have a problem with a girlfriend doing it. the one lady i'm seeing now is very attractive and i'd probably enjoy showing her off :)

edit- of course they were looking for male nudes at the time.

My ex-girlfriend used to work for an art department as their nude model. I never had a problem with it. She was there to earn money for school and it paid the bills. None of the people painting/drawing what they saw were getting off on what they saw. Plus, she came home to me so why should I have a problem with it?

As an additional plus, while she had the job she actually bothered to shave her legs every day (which didn't happen normally). Hurray!

:lol:

I think it depends on how strongly you feel on this. How long did it take you to see her naked? If it took a while for you to "earn" such a privilige then you can use that as an arguement. Ultimately it is her choice, but I would imagine that if you are in a committed relationship then your opinion has to count for something :D.

And as far as the statements to the effect of "I would not let my gf pose nude" I don't think the meaning is that the gf has to ask for permission, but rather that the person feels so strongly on the matter that if said gf posed against the wishes of her partner, that she would no longer be that persons gf.

I don't "let" my gf fuck other people, it is not that she has to ask my permission to do so, rather it is if she chooses to we are no longer together :D.

I don't really know of any art models in my school that go to the school. I don't think they offer this job to students, and I'm glad. It would be weird to see my classmates naked, I think. You do get used to seeing naked bodies as art but it wouldn't be the same if you knew the person. I would also feel less comfortable posing in front of people I knew. I'd much rather be unknown if I were to do that at all.

I find it exceptionally amusing that so many men project a feeling of ownership over their signifigant others.
To turn the tables, if you got a job being a nude model (this is not a question of if you would!), would you feel that you had the right to chose if you modeled, or if your SO stated they would not let you do this would you feel that they had the right to tell you not to do this?

I am guilty of this at times, but try at all times to look impartitialy at what I am doing to see the falacy of my actions.

You want her to be sexy, but only for you. Many here seem to feel that the body of their SO is only for their eyes or enjoyment.

As for the the intent of this thread, question why you feel so strongly about this issue. Are you projecting feeling of ownership on your loved one?
Perhaps it is best to remember that a relationship is made of two indiviguals who choose to remain together. You have no obligation to stay with her, nor does she have an obligation to you. You have love. You have the right to express your feelings on such a matter as this. She has the right to make a choice of her own without feeling undue pressure from you or fear that you would terminate your relationship with her if she chooses to disagree with your opposition.
A relationship is a commitment of two people to each other, and one anothers interests, but it never means that one partner makes descions for another.

In this case she is not cheating on you, nor breaking any other barrier you two had mutual agreement about.
Instead you are projecting your personal fears about the stability of your relationship and your issues of human sexuality and the body onto her.

I wouldn't like it if my SO said I wasn't ALLOWED to do anything, it would make me want to do it more (and I'm sure she feels the same way, both quite stubborn). However if she said she didn't like the idea I would be quite touched in a way that she felt protective over my body.

I would have no problem with my wife posing for a life drawing class, this is a part of the art students education and not overly sexual.

However, if it makes you uncofterable this is something you need to talk about with her. Every one has there own cofert level and if you are not up front with yours it will only lead to truble latter.

Ah, I remember the days when I thought $12/hour was a lot of money...

He is not trying to own her, it bothers him, is that so wrong? The amount that it bothers him is what matters. And if it bothers him to the point where it could threaten their relationship but she does it anyway, who is at fault here? I don't think his feelings on this is something he has active control over. Cut the man some slack.

One of my friends (male) is doing the same thing for $15 an hour. Tell her she should ask for more money.

EXACTLY! You all get so hung up on 'how dare he tell her what he thinks'. That's brutal. If a man can't have an opinion about what his SO is doing, and or can't tell her about it, than obviously there can't be much of a relationship here...

My only suggestion for you is to take a life drawing class yourself and see how you feel about drawing a nude woman you don't know personally. In my experience, the initial interest in seeing someone you don't know nude (not the usual state for most people we see during the day) is quickly forgotten in the intensity of trying to replicate them in chalk, pencil, clay, what have you.

During my art minor I took a photography class in which I shot some fairly erotically charged nudes of my then girlfriend as my final project. It was an excellent experience and even though every single person in my class saw her in fairly intimate detail, it was what it was. An art project. It didn't give them any rights on her, she didn't start having sex with any of them. We all went about our business, graduated and that was that.

I fully support everyone who has said that you should have a conversation with your g/f about it. But if she chooses to do it, you can't morally or ethically do more than say that you wish she wouldn't.

The point isn't that he can't have an opinion. The point is that he can't "forbid" her from doing it. Every one is entitled to have an opinion, but you can't use emotional blackmail to enforce it.

If she wants to pose and he doesn't, then it's still her choice because it's her body, just as it would be his choice if she objected to him posing. The strength of their relationship will be in whether she chooses not to do it because he objects, or in what he chooses to do should she decided to pose even after he objects.

But all this talk of "allowing" and "forbidding" is just a bit too "Me man, you woman" for me, at least.

When you're in an exclusive relationship, it's your responisbility to take into consideration your partner's wishes when making decisions. While you can not tell each other what to do, you certainly may let each other know your feelings about something.

If you don' t think you are wrong to feel uncomfortable with her modeling nude, then explain why you feel that way. Maybe her response will set you at ease, or maybe she will better understand your perspective and factor your feelings into her decision more.

Don't focus it on her. Deal it as a couple thing and ask her how would she feel about you posing. I think this conversation will lead to the solution of the problem.

I'd find it very arousing. I'd want to go watch the dynamic. But I bet they don't let anyone who's not in the class enter the room, including the boyfriend. Oh, well.

I wouldn't have a problem with it. In all honesty I think a lot of guys fantasize about stuff like that and won't admit it. It would be very interesting to see the response of other people to her body. I'm sure not in the same way I respond to it, but rather their interpretation through art.

Regards

A few things, so I'll make a list:

1. If my wife desired to pose nude for an art class, I'd automatically tell her to go for it. Anything else, I'd prefer her and I discussing it, but it is her body and her decision.

2. I am an art major. Most art geeks are not getting their rocks off staring at the woman or man that is posing. Most are saying to themselves, "dammit, the human body is fucking hard to draw!!!".

3. For people who like looking at my art, I do display a few of the better figure drawing pictures I do. This is not to revel in the nudity, but to revel in my ability to replicate what I saw on a two-dimensional surface. Since we are talking about people who want to appreciate my art and not a buch of horn-dogs, they are looking at the same thing.

4. There is a lower (read: near non-existent) chance of people seeing and pleasuring themselves to the images of your naked SO because of the fact that they are posing for an art class than if they were to, say, post their naked self on the internet.


Vale,
Kalnaur

Edit:5. Most female models from the figure drawing classes I have been in take the pictures as a serious complement. Esspecially when fledgling male artists enhance their bust line to unimaginable proportions. It makes them laugh.

What constitutes "forbidding"? If he feels strongly about this subject, then he has every right to tell her that there may be negative consequences if she chooses to go about doing it anyway. That is not "emotional blackmail" that is him telling her his true feelings (if he has some to that effect). I fail to see how this is any different than her say, kissing another man. This might not bother some, but it bothers others, the fact that your gf posing nude does not bother you has no bearing whatsoever on if it bothers him. Obviously this bothers him, so why is it wrong? Is he rendered so impotent by it being her body that he can not have an opinion? If this was any other subject (say not one that people percieve as being akin to "a womans right to choose") then people would be telling him to express his true feelings to his partner, and to determine how strong he feels about it, not "It's her decision, you just need to deal with it".

Like I stated earlier, this depends entirely on how strongly he feels about this. If he equates it as nearer to cheating, then he has a right to state that, and to state that the consequences may be similar to those associated with cheating. There is no right or wrong here, only opinions. Stop trying to make him feel like he is doing something wrong (emotional blackmail) for stating his.

As for me, I wouldn't mind it if my wife did it. She can take care of herself. And it's not like she'll be publicly masturbating or anything. She'll just be nude.

Yup, you would want your girl to be yours, not the publics.

But what if she wants to share the beauty that is her body? You might have the ability to state your opinion, but how can you deny her something that will not harm anyone?

Let her do it!! At least in the class you know where she is taking clothes off vs. her sneeking around taking her clothes off behind your back. It is a good experience for her and will likely help her career in the art world. I think anyone who feels comfortable enough to take their clothes off and sit still while people draw them should be admired. Most guys would be too nervouse and have a complex about the size of their penis to be drawn, especially if the air conditioner is on in the room. Or just the opposite, if there are pretty girls in the room, they may have problems keeping things under wraps.

I have a degree in fine arts and in the 3 years of life drawing I took no one ever reacted sexually to a model...the thought of anyone acting so juvenile in class is ridiculous. Art students deal with the nudity from from day 1, and treat it for what it is: a study in anatomy.

Well said Dood!!

Holy shit, I didn't think this would produce such a huge response...

Let me reitterate again: I highly disapprove of her doing nude modelling, but I know I can't stop her from doing it. I have nothing against art like that, and for me it's alright for anyone else to do nude modelling. Just for some reason I hate thinking about having other people seeing her nude.

In retrospect, perhaps asking this in the sexual forums was wrong. I don't think there's too much of a sexual subtleness to this, as it is that she's doing something that I really don't like, and there's nothing I can do about it.

so is she going to do it or no>?

I think any man can tell you why you feel this way. You are jealous.

Before you deny this, think about some of the synonyms of jealousy: covetousness, protectiveness, resentment, suspicion, distrust. You covet your SO, and desire to protect her, but in this you are so extreme that you create a sense of suspicion and distrust. Do you not think she can take care of herself? Why must you be the only one who sees her unclothed?

Webster defines being jealous thusly:

Main Entry: jeal·ous
Pronunciation: 'je-l&s
Function: adjective
Etymology: Middle English jelous, from Old French, from (assumed) Vulgar Latin zelosus, from Late Latin zelus zeal -- more at ZEAL
1 a : intolerant of rivalry or unfaithfulness b : disposed to suspect rivalry or unfaithfulness
2 : hostile toward a rival or one believed to enjoy an advantage
3 : vigilant in guarding a possession [new colonies were jealous of their new independence -- Scott Buchanan]
- jeal·ous·ly adverb
- jeal·ous·ness noun

You are being vigilant in guarding the woman you feel could possibly be led astray.

i personally would not feel comfortable posing nude for an art class, but say i were, and my bf had issues about it and told me about his strong feelings against it, depending on how meaningful our relationship is, i would definitely take his opinion into consideration when making the final decision as to pose or not. so i can totally understand why Wingless was upset and i think it\'s perfectly fine and necessary for him to communicate this to his gf. letting his gf know how he feels is better than holding it to himself yet hating it secretly. sure, she might still decide to pose, but i would want to know how my bf feels about it, if anything, if i were her.

beauty is what it is, female:male, both sides have some extremely attractive attributes to the opposite and sometimes same sex. Let beauty be free. just because she wants to sit naked for people who have a creative mind and truly appreciate the beauty, doesn't mean that she's going to hop in the sack with someone there, because its all a matter of choice.

She is her own person. She has the right to do as she wishes. You have the right to vocalize how you feel too. She can make a decision based upon you input and her financial needs as well. Look at it this way, can you afford to give her the money yourself? We all have needs and desires. Most of the time the needs outweigh the desires...

Hmmm sounds like she wants to do it but feels like it might harm the relationship if she does b/c you're so uncomfortable with the whole situation.

This is a predicament that sucks (to say the least)... believe me, I know.

To some men, the naked body of their woman isn't "art" in the least. It's purely sexual or they just simply believe her body is just for them to enjoy.

She's stuck--I feel for her.
I say let her do what she's interested in doing--it's HER interest.. not YOURS and it is her body.
If she fears it'll ruin the relationship, she may just say "ok I wont do it" but believe me, she'll never forget and it may build resentment.. who knows.

This is really about how you see the human body. This is a tough one.

Kalnaur,

True, jealousy could be why he's not comfortable..

I think it's safe to say that most people that tend to get jealous are a tad bit insecure for whatever reason. That's human.. we all have insecurities..well..most of us anyway. :) Myself included.

I think being open minded is key.

Jealousy is a matter of trust. If Iw ere in a very trusting relationship, I'd tell her to go wild.

I don't think so. At least not in every situation.