Anal sex without the pain
 

Have any females tried anal and found that it hurt but now have found away to make it enjoyable without the pain? Or have any guys done this with a female partner and found a way pain free?

When you give the woman a lot of foreplay (I really mean a whole hell of a lot of foreplay) then she's less likely to feel pain---especially if you've given her oral sex and made her climax first.

Depending on the woman you can penetrate her without even using lube, but your best bet is to lubricate her anus and your penis because the anus and rectum are not naturally self-lubricating structures and are very sensitive.

I think the best way to get a femal to like anal sex is to let her take control of speed and penetration. Lube is also very important (sometime it works without but for the beginning it's pretty necessary).
For the guys: Just let her to what she likes. You'll enjoy it anyway :)

I couldn't have said it better myself.

Best thing is to have the girl poo, and then use spit as lube. No joke.

Also, she has to be relaxed, so don't force it on her.

The only thing foreplay is good for it to relax the girl but believe me if it's her first time doing anal then you can have 2 hours of foreplay and her lewdness will dissapear immediately when you penetrate her!
It'll take a few times before the girl will get used to the special feeling when her ass is being fucked so be patient!
Like la petite moi said the pain/discomfort will be less if the girl gets an enema first (be sure to use lukewarm water or she'll be in for a nasty pain). The best "painkiller" is if the girl masturbates during anal sex. Not only does it lower the pain/discomfort a great deal but it'll also give her some mindblowing orgasms :thumbsup:

agreed. But try different positions as you start as well. Some are less unpleasant for the girl than others :)

use the ammount of lube you think is about right and double it. Seriously theres no such thing as too much.

Yup...lots of lube and a couple of drinks to relax beforehand. Worked best for me initially in the spooning position, and with a couple of fingers to loosen me up. That's the funny thing about anal sex....don't have it for a while and you gotta start from scratch.

Negative on the drinks. You want her completely aware of what's happening so she can pull the plug if necessary. The goal here is to reduce or eliminate pain, not chemically cover it up. Lubes that contain desensitizing agents are a bad idea for the same reason.

I'm sorry, but that sentence makes baby Jesus cry.


-Go slow
-Use lots of lube
-Use a finger first
-Pull back and change angles if it doesn't feel right
-Don't push too hard
-"Stop" can be misinterpreted as "slow down." For anything other than regular sex you should have a safeword. I reccommend something like "armadillo" or "Newt Gingrich" that will kill the mood instantly.

This has two meanings!

I'm sorry to be the one to break the flow of advice here, but could someone please explain to me how anal sex is pleasurable? I'm completely befuddled by it. For the guy, is it more pleasurable than penetrating a woman's vagina? If so, why? And for girls, when you have to poop before "engaging", doesn't that seem a little odd? Please be patient with my post, I'm not trying to be obnoxious or judgemental, just extremely perplexed and in need of some 'splaining. :D

Umm why? doncalypso is right: some women can have anal sex without foreplay and lube. I know because I'm one of them...

The best way to have painless anal sex is to work up to it. It will take a few nights, instead of one night.

First, you need to realize, there are two muscles that close the anus. The first one you encounter can be voluntarily controlled by your woman... but the second one cannot. It has it's own mind, and will tighten up or try to close up if she is not relaxed. This is where the most pain occurs.

SO... it's essential that your woman (or man) learn to relax. It's best to go slow, use lots of lube, and make sure you listen to her if she wants you to stop. If she knows she can trust you to stop or pull out if needed, she's more likely to relax.

Next, start with something really small, like your pinky finger. When she gets used to that, try a larger finger, or a very small toy.

This is where more than one night comes in... you can slowly work your way up to larger objects, until she feels comfortable accepting your penis.

When you get to the point where you're actually going to have anal sex, remember lots and lots of lube. You will probably have to keep adding lube as you go along. Be very very careful, and listen to your woman if she needs you to slow down or stop. Make sure everyone is feeling relaxed and comfortable and give it a try.

ta-dah! ;)

Practice, practice, practice. Start small and work up in size.

Is there after anal sex ichyness???? My gf said she is bloody itchy back there after 2 days after doing it.

is she itchy every time you've had anal sex?

I get itchy as well but only a little and only like in 1 out of 10 times. I guess her anus get's irritated easily. Try using more lube and have her shave off the ass hair. That might work :)

We use
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And she still gets itchy most of the time, I think it could be the hairs arround that area.
I first thought she might have a reaction to the lube.

Hmm.. haver you ever tried switching to another kind of lube just to test her reaction to different products?

oh and how long have you been having analsex? I ask because if you've just started out she may just need some more time to get used to this and then hopefully the itching will go away :)

off and on since 2000
I was thinking of getting some "special anal lube" but there is no place in Australia (online or offline) that sells it.

You don't necessarily have to buy some special anal lube. Sometimes the cheap water-based products can be just as good at the expensive ones.

In your case I think you should get some water-based lube since it might lessen the itching :)

The first girl I had sex with was like that. Sometimes she'd just bend over and say give it to her, good times...I think every guy on here says that about their freaky ex's. However, now that I'm riding bare back, vagina is the ONLY place to cum!

Gariig

Backdoor frolics
 

When it comes to butt sex the magic word is lubrication. Nothing makes the job easier than a little KY jelly smeared on the condom. If that doesn't work for you try puting a condom on your fingers. Guess what LUBE IT slip one finger in and move it around till shes comfortable. Graduate to two. When shes comfortabe with that move on to three. When shes comfortable with three shes ready to take it all.

Itchyness could be if she's been shaving the hair in that area. It could be an allergic reaction to the lube... or even your sperm! ha! :)

Or she could just be overly sensitive. Make sure she washes really well afterwards with a nice soak in the tub.

I'll be trying this for my first time, her second time with my gf soon. The first time was with her only other guy for her and she didn't like it that much, but is willing to try it again.

I bought gel and a small (i think) anal plug to try out with first. Are there any possitions people could reccomend to make it easier/more pleasurable, esp for her.

We have by the way a nice sex pillow that we bought which has worked really well for vaginal sex. I'd name it but I think that's against the rules.?

Thanks in advance

Hmmm I've never tried a sex pillow so I can't tell you if that works wonders or not. I guess there's only one way to figure that out eh?

Personally I relax the most when I'm penetrated from behind as I lie down. Try that position first and see how she feels about that. :)

We are all different, that's for sure. I like anal penetration when I masturbate, and I can take alot back there and never have pain, only pleasure. Also, the only girl I ever did it with didn't seem to have any pain at all. She wanted it hard and fast, and it was her first time, too. I just can't imagine that it would hurt unless I tried putting a soda can up there.

Something to be careful about:

*If the person on the receiving end of anal sex is reluctant in any way, it is best to skip out on the whole experience. Not only will he/she have a hard time relaxing, but he/she will almost undoubtably not enjoy the experience. If the partner is reluctant, please remember that his/her toosh is part of his or her own body, and you must respect any choice they make that affects the body.

This situation is most popular in male/female relationships, and I blame porn. I think a lot of guys look at porn and think "Wow, those girls like it! My girlfriend will too!" But as Aladdin Sane said, everybody is different, and some bodies just can not handle items inserted rectally.

To be more on topic:

I have heard that inserting a very well lubricated pinky into the rectum while a girl is having an orgasm will open her up to the idea of anal sex.

:crazy: You're such a tease. :D

It looks like most things have been covered, but I believe also that a good position to help her open up to the idea of anal sex is on her back, legs spread and up by her shoulders (or as far back as she can get them).

A good way to open a girl up to anal sex is to finger fuck her ass with one (or multiple) fingers as you lick her/she masturbates :)

that was the position for my first time and it was great--we used no lube and i had no pain. i've since found that to be the best position for me (sitting on his lap being second). the spooning position really doesn't work for me--even if it isn't painful, it's not particularly pleasurable either.

as for why anal is a good thing--lots and lots of nerve endings back there! plus there is just something "naughty" about anal...and naughty is always good when it comes to sex! :thumbsup:

My favorite is her bent over holding onto the kitchen counter. Somethin about buttsex in the kitchen that I just love... I mean, the kitchen has to get used for something. It sure as hell never gets cooked in.

I think it's easier if she's had a bowel movement that day. My gf has a fear that she'll start pooping, so the second she gets that "gotta go" sensation, no more bum play.

But having gone that day, it's a load (no pun intended) off her mind.

Lube and foreplay, if that fails, upgrade to a freak in the sheets! all those things failing, call mary jane. ROFL. OKay, for real now.. Take it easy, and grease that puppy up good with a decent water based lube. like everybody else said.. damn, it sucks only having time to get on here once in a while, all the good advice is already given!

If so, why? And for girls, when you have to poop before "engaging", doesn't that seem a little odd? Please be patient with my post, I'm not trying to be obnoxious or judgemental, just extremely perplexed and in need of some 'splaining. :D[/QUOTE]

Bodily functions always have an ICK factor, no way around that :D Just got to be comfortable with your body . . . The point is just make sure you have already gone number 2 that day, not you rush into the restrooom right before you have sex ;) . . . But just to note, we gals and guys all already pee before engaging in normal sex positions and that is considered normal, why is going number 2 earlier in the day so much worse than peeing before sex? Is it more taboo or something to mention?

[QUOTE=Epiphanies]I'm sorry to be the one to break the flow of advice here, but could someone please explain to me how anal sex is pleasurable? I'm completely befuddled by it. For the guy, is it more pleasurable than penetrating a woman's vagina?

It can be a huge turn on and very pleasurable for some gals . . . me included. Hubby and i include it often and it creates mind blowing Orgasms for both, you really have to have an open mind and try it a few times and you might really like it . . . I think it really depends on the individual woman, some woman just don't like it, some woman . . it's the only position they want. Everybody's different . . . being penetrated anally is more sensitive and hot than being penetrated vaginally IMHO . . . So, yes, it's tight and hot for your man, but tight and hot for you too . . . make sense? :) :thumbsup:

Jane, do you have a sister?
:love: your attitude!