Single,Married or Comitted
 

I was noticing that alot of people on TFP are married or are in long term comitted relationships..i'm just wondering how many..and also the current status of relationships..not like oh "i'm going thru a horrible dirvorce" but like in terms of active sex lives and passion..hence why its on the sexuality board :)

I'm single, have no sex life.. or any other type of life.. just your classic loser here

me personally i've been with biznatch for a year on nov 9th..and we can't keep our hands off each other. were thinking about long term comittment (aka future) and it seems shiny and happy :)

I'm in the 3-6 month category. Although we can't quite come together on an actual "when did the relationship start" date...

SIngle again... yeah I know I posted I was getting married a while ago, it disintegrated over the last two weeks. It's one of the main reasons I've been a grouchy asshole lately, hehe.

Loverboy and I have been together for 2 years now and things are going so well both inside the bedroom as well as outside it that it's almost frightening :p

I have been married for 3 years and with her for almost 7 years.

And we are still having a blast.

Been together for 3 years, getting married in May.

Sex is getting better as we go along...I'd imagine we'll peak in about 1 more year.

Just crossed our 10th wedding anniversary last month (whee!) and in a couple of weeks coming is our 17th dating anniversary. We had a child two years ago, so the sex is a bit reduced from pre-pregnancy levels, but it is still generally 1-2 times per week. The love / sensuality / flirting is still where it was, however. I'm very happy.

Single. Casually dating a few girls. Meeting lots of new people. Sex here and there. Enjoying myself right now. It's been a VERY long time since I've been single like this. Taking my time now until I find someone that I REALLY want to be with.

Been with my woman for 3 1/2 years. Not married though, but we plan on it, when we are both financially secure or a bit more better off than what we are now.
The sex had almost diminished until I brought up how it was bothering me. So its been a good 2 weeks. *cues funky porno music*

Married 5 1/2, been with Mrs. Gar since.....let's see....May 1993....so.....shit, 11 1/2 years? Is that right?

Damn.

Just passed anniversary #16 (I think that's the flannel anniversary!?!). It is really a wonderful point in the relationship; as strong and fun now than in years passed. In fact, because we dated for a relatively short time before marriage, just 10 months, the first couple of years were considerably harder than anything since. We went through our challanging phase very early, the majority of relationships have them at some point, and ended up stronger for the experience. I consider myself extremely fortunate.

As far as the "knockin' boots" count, about 3-4 times per week. Have a 20 month old son, but that didn't slow us down any.

Still gettin' more than my single friends, though. Ha ha!

Married, 3 & a half years together, 1 kid. Sex frequency is up and down, we both work full time but different hours and the kid is too young to leave by herself for long. We'd have sex every night if we could though.

I think we're the only married couple that we know, work or friends, that actually likes each other. I just got through listening to 4 of my coworkers complaining about how their wives are all bitches...

3-6 month category here. Only get to see her on weekends and we hump like bunnies. Sometimes literally. We're both very passionate people. I'm sure my neighbors wish we weren't.

Man in the single, still looking, having a lot of fun while trying to find the right one. Have few prospects however nothing seroius. Hey Stone nice to see soemeone else from the Bay always good to see that.

Been with Mel 2 years now :)

I just passed the 3 month mark with my g/f and things are really going great.

Was married for 6 years now divorced and ready to go

been marred for 18

been with my girlfriend for a year and a half, haven't seen her in 80+ days now (i'm away at college :|) but we usually had sex once a weekish and foreplay moreso. seeing as how we're living with our parents still that's pretty good considering the sneakyness.

been with my man for about two and a half years now and the sex is absolutely amazing.

single here, just hard for me to find someone whose semi-innocent but openminded and kinky.

Was married for 12 years, divorced for 4 years, and remarried for 3 1/2 years

nwlinkvxd and i have been dating for almost 18 months. ^_^

He and i have restarted our D/s relationship, and we're both feeling horny ! :lol: Anyway, we have sex every other weekend, since He attends school 3.5 hours away. i think our sex is great. ^_^

Ahh, the good ol' days. Although, I don't know what is harder - hiding sex from your parents while living with them, or hearing them discuss and make jokes about sex when you get older.

i have been with my girlfriend for 3 years, and we are doing the long distance thing, so not that much sex. but it is usually good when i get to see her.

Single, always on the look out :-)

wow impressive (aimed at forehead, clark, red lemon, gar and scrub) i'm a little suprised at just how many more people were in comitted relationships here then single (by the poll). i have to ask of teh people who have been together over 10 years - do you feel your relationships have been so sucessful because you share a common intrest? and for the rest of you long term and happys..how many of you both spend time on the TFP(aka la petite moi and nwlinkvxd? i know having a place to show my interests and thoughts and knowing that biznatch will be checking out what i'm saying has helped me feel more secure and less shy with him. also since this site is obviously very open toward sex i wonder if the people on here are diffent then teh general populace ...at least in terms of being aware of their sexuality maybe aiding in keeping a sex life fresh after years?

Dating but nothing overly serious so I would classify myself as single.

i've been dating the same girl for about 6 months and we're happy and enjoying life.

Been married for alomst 11-1/2 years. We didn't spend alot of time together the first few years. I was in the military and deployed alot. I never thought we could be more in love than when we were first married, but I was wrong. Two kids later and our sex life is still good and hot.

My boyfriend and I are coming up on 3 years in December.

been married coming up on 6yrs in December ... things are still fantastic and the sex just keeps getting better!! and thats sayin alot as its always been mind blowing :crazy:

thank you guys so much! i really appreciate the response and i really think that teh peopel here are much more well balenced and content with them selves then people not of teh tfp..its interesting..

Xepherys and I met last August and got married this May, and the sex is awesome! :thumbsup:

SCrubjay, I could've written this except for the short dating part. My wife is Dutch, and I am Texan. We knew each other for 5 years before we got married, but we lived on different sides of the Atlantic. I saw her three times in three years, and on the third time we got married. We, too, just passed our 16th wedding anniversary. The first years were the hardest. Today, there is no doubt that our relationship is stronger than ever. One thing you didn't mention: sex. Sex with my wife is definately better than ever. We also do it more now than we did in the first ten years of marriage. Like you, I think I'm more blessed than I deserve. I'm just about the happiest person I know. Life is good. :thumbsup:

I am married for 7 years and the feelings and sex have never been better. I got lucky and met the right one the first time. I am lucky at nothing else, so I count my blessing.

Been with my guy for a little over two years. We're getting married in July. Our feelings and the sex are just as great as they were in the beginning.

Dating the love of my life for 1 and a half years. We are waiting till we get out of college before marriage.

Been with my girlfriend for about 4 and half years she wanted to get married and does bring up the subject once in awhile but I don't see it any time soon.

Coming up on 10 years soon, but I have to ask, aint married being committed in all senses? :D (You other long termers will really feel that idea!) :D

Don't get me wrong, I love the one I'm with, have two awsome kids and a nice life! There are absolutly no "buts" in that statement either!

I would think that the people here, me included, have a natural tendency to fully understand sex, from how to do things better so it drives our partners crazy, to how it affects people. This is the most respecting, level-headed group of people I've had the opportunity to acquaint myself with in many years.

I find TFP allows me to bounce ideas, thoughts and feelings about things that I may not be prepared to share with my wife. I don't think she's ready for me to share with her on some subjects too, so TFP is a real outlet for me to talk frankly about what role sex plays in my life and how it reflects on my relationship with my wife. We've been married for almost 7, but known each other for nearly 9.

We had challenges in the first few years of our marriage too, as we were learning how each other operated and what each of us could be flexible on. We're in the groove now, I'd say. We even had sex BEFORE work the other day. I think that's the first time that has EVER happened. Sex at 6:30am on a Monday morning. What a way to start the week! And we had sex that night. This isn't typical as we're both worn from work and 3 kids, but I certainly welcomed it.

I know I've used advice here to keep my sexuality fresh and exciting for my relationship.

In 13 days it will be 19 years. The poor poor girl....

TFP is how I met my boyfriend :)

For my wife and I we had very similar life experiences. We both had spent or late teens though early 20’s experimenting and both realized what we like and didn’t. By the time we got together we both had a very clear understanding of our own selves and our boundaries. I remember one of the early conversations we had when we started dating was the two of us laying out what we needed to be comfortable in a relationship and what was out side our boundaries. We both were looking for similar things so happily it worked out.

As for common interests I would say that is about 50/50 we have many interests in common but many things that our just our own. For us it is important that we have parts of our lives that are for ourselves. Not that they are secret in fact it is this things that we spent much of our time talking about.

As for the sex side having both experimented we have continued to explore the avenues that we enjoy and that part of are life has only gotten better.

Not to be trite but for us it is all about communication, from the start we have been completely open with each other and that more then anything is the underpinning of our relationship.

Been with my woman for 23 years...how she puts up with my BS I'll never know, but am eternally grateful.

What, did he see pictures of you in the wayside or something?

Excuse me?

Common interests are nice, it allows us to go do things together for long periods of time. However, having our own set of hobbies and skills for some "alone time" is nice as well.

We have a continuous evolution of our sex life, no TFP needed. She spends more time looking at parenting websites and chatting with other mothers, and getting recipes for nice dinners, and looking at pictures of her new boyfriend.

http://i.cnn.net/si/2004/baseball/ml...dsox.os_ap.jpg

She's never been a baseball fan before, but might be now.

Been with my guy a little over a year....things couldnt be better...we still have some form of sex almost everyday...I wouldnt change a thing about him and cant wait for our wedding!!!

I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years and sex is still fun and exciting, life's good but the experience is always better when you've got someone to share it with...

averet thats amazing..and brings up another thought..how many of you met over the internet?

once again i'm amazed at how many of you have been with your life partners so long..its really wonderful and somthing i hope biznatch and i can oneday say about ourselves

also..how many of you met before age 18? age 21? 30?

I met my guy thru an online personals site....answered his ad on tuesday nite...he got it and responded thursday morning....talked online that morning...had our first date that nite...and we havent been apart one single day (cept for when he's out of the country working) since

My 11 year wedding anniversary was last June and we have been together for a total of 16 years now... not too long until I've know my wife for more than half of my life...

shani and averette..was there any hesitation in haveing a relationship formed online..(not saying theres ANYTHING wrong with it-just curious) i know alot of people women especially are worried about the dangers of the internet...what aare your thoughts (imma start anothe rthread on this too)

nope....Dave wasnt my first one either...before him I'd had a 3 year relationship with a guy in New Zealand that I met online...I got to see him once a year for a month at a time...things came to an end when he decided in the end he didnt want to move to the states and I wasnt taking my child 10k miles away from all her family. In the end it worked for the best because she completely loves her step father to be....

I've gone out with many guys I've met online.....my 6th sense works very well and I just always "knew" which ones to never agree to meet in person. I also never agreed to meet someone in "private" with the others I went out with they were always public dates...they didnt have my home telephone number and were never invited to my house...I like to think I covered myself pretty well on that level

I've been with my girlfriend for three years now... However we have no plans for marriage since I'm heading to grad school (probably in Canada) and she wants to stay in rural western Pennsylvania and get a job in a small town after we graduate from college.

Well, I posted more in the thread you started on online dating :)

Actually, I just thought of more to say!

KK, it's not necessarily that we share common interests, but we have a common outlook on life. We answer the fundamental questions of life in the same way. We believe in the same things. Our list of the 10 most important things in life, so to speak, are about the same. As for our interests, they aren't the same for the most part. She exercises regularly, and I'm a couch potato. I love computers and the internet (especially TFP :thumbsup: ), and she hardly knows how to email. I'm into porn, she's not. She likes to cook, I like to eat. We both share a passion for our children, travel, fine dining, good beer, tasty wine, and gardening. After 16 years of marriage, our sex life is better than ever. I think people in this forum are more sexual than the general populous. I am a more sexual person than my wife, and she's not a member of TFP. I love her more than ever. She has become more sexually oriented as the years have passed, mostly because of being "exposed" to me (no pun intended). I hope this answers your questions.

I met my wife when I was 25, almost 26. She was 19. We had a summer fling, and didn't see each other for a year. I moved to Amsterdam the next year and we became a couple for a year. I moved back to the States. After that, we saw each other 3 times in 3 years, and the third time we got married. I was a few months from being 30 years old. She was 24.

I get committment phobias anything over 2 weeks. lol.

Single and loving it. I am seeing several women and having a lot of really, really good "safe" sex.

married 3 years in Feb.

wow..interesting and impressive all of you...how do you guys feel about long distance dating/relationships (since it seems a decent number of people here are in them)?

I HATE it. Hate Hate HATE. I was hesitant getting into this relationship in the first place because of the distance. But here I am. We're about 6 1/2 hour drive apart which isn't too bad... I get out there every 2-3 weeks. But it still really sucks :(

I'll be moving there in the spring, God willing!

Well, there is a match made in heaven ;)

My wife and I have been married almost 5 years. Sex is significantly less since bub came along, but I think that is because we are both tired...

We have lots of differences (for example: she is a christian and I am not), but I think we are quite similar in a lot of ways. We are comfortable together.

Long term relationships are difficult, but if you're interested in discovering if the relationship is worth it, a LTR will do it. We had a LTR before the days of the internet and cheap long distance telephone rates. She was in the Netherlands, and I was in Texas. We (*gasp*) wrote letters. The physical part of the relationship had to be put aside. We really, intimately, got to know one another. We wrote about everything. We knew each other's innermost thoughts, dreams, and desires. As I said previously, three years before we got married, we only saw each other three times. On the third time, we got married. That was 16 years ago.

aladin...thats AMAZING!..seriously...you should write a book..i don't know if i'm strong enough to handle a long distance relationship..isnt it hard not t9o get jealous when you know that there are some men/women that get to be near them all the time? biznatch lives next door to me and i have enough of a problem trying to keep from following him to school..or monitoring his front door...were there every any worries about cheating or mistrust? do you find that having to put aside the touching feeling fun was a good or bad thing to your relationship?

and thank you guys :)

couple months for me. sex is full steam ahead and the passion is getting there. its nice to finally be on the same page as someone.

Pointless, in the long run.
A long distance relationship is an oxymoron, like jumbo shrimp, honest thief, dry ice.
Unless its something deliberately casual, like pen pals or phone buddies, etc...

My wife and I have been close friends for 17 years (since junior high), a comitted relationship for 6 years and now married for 6 years. She has been a significant part of my life for over half of it. We have 2 great kids, and I tell you our sex life has had its ups and downs, but since I've been snipped its grown in both quantity and quality (practice makes perfect!).

I was married for 10 years, then she left me for another guy. Dated a girl for about 8 months, now I'm attemting to date again. Not very good at it, though. I'm pretty shy. Have a hard time making the first move.

I'm in the married category :cool:

awwww ... your stories are really sweet:) thank you all of you :)

Ditto Averett on all those accounts. Long distance relationships are brutal. They're hideously hard work. I've been in one for over a year, and I'm definitely not a fan, but I'd take this any day over not having Homey_V in my life at all.

Today is our 3 month.

^ Ditto :| I more than likely have it worse so don't feel bad. My story is rather pathetic.

Asta!!

God I feel so old sometimes. OK, we have been married for 26 years. The sex is usually great, but does get kind of old (no pun intended) sometimes. The relationship is so great that the sex hardly matters. It is like we are one person. OK I will quit now I am starting to get mushy.

I've been dating my girlfriend for a year and almost two months now (2 months on the 12th). It is actually my first relationship and despite lots of turbulances along the way, it's been a great experience for me. I love her, and she loves me. Sex life is going fine, I always suggest trying something new, and she's often willing to explore. Part of the fun is exploring, right? :icare:

I chose the 5-10 years option. Onodrim and I have been dating for *almost* 5 years, but I chose 5-10 since we're not going to be breaking up any time soon, so we'll be entering into that range in a couple months anyway ;)

i fall in the 1-5 yrs category... Just passed the 3 yr mark sometime recently... I am with Averret, in the sense that we don't really know when we became a couple..

we started dating sometime between late August and October.. yes, almost a three month period of uncertainty, but we both know we were dating before Halloween.

1-5 year range here. Just passed our wedding anniversary last Wednesday :D
Of course, I haven't been home for one of those in a few years :( but we're still good, and getting better!

strcrssd and I have been dating for a little more then 8 months now.

I've been w/my gal for just over 4 years now. Not only is the sex still great, we have a great life together.

We've been married about forever. (I believe it was during the Carter administration.) Like RMMsGirl said - Our feelings and sex are just as great as they were in the beginning.

well i voted for 1to 5 years for being married but have been with her for 7 years now but only married for 3...

Wedded Woman
 

Awww, I'm so glad to be in the company of MEN who are are happy to say they're married ! You're awesome, I'm excited :thumbsup: I'm married as well, 15 and a half years together ... I deserve a medal... and he deserves ear plugs ;)

What a sad way to look at a relationship, especially since you aren't even married yet! Why would you marry anyone when you feel the "peak" in your relationship is this side of the horizon? I've been married for eight years, (together for ten), it gets better every day and I certainly see no end to the good times.

And the sex? Holy shit!

Been with my boyf for nearly six years, and loving every minute of it :)

Met my perfect partner on my masters degree course having gone through my bachelors completely dry so to speak. We've been together about 1 month which is such a short time but we are both really happy with each other.. and to be honest, this is better than any of the other relationships I've been in before so I know this is the one...

Who knows, things happen that can turn even the best things sour but I'm sure I'll be in that totally committed category soon enough :)