Infidelity
 

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Marrige after 16 years ?
Where does the love go ?
Thought we were happy but she fucking around .
Do I get over it or do i tell the bitch to go to hell !

In your own words, "tell the bitch to go to hell."

I don't get the "undefined" thing, but if your wife cheated on you, make sure you mention that in divorce court when she tries to take half of all your shit.

compile proof of it for that very reason as well

from personal experience, i'd say tell her to go to hell. i'm sure others will have different opinions, but once she's gone down that road (cheating) the first time, it's just that much easier to do it again.

good luck.

Experience from a painful first marriage: once the thought crosses your mind, it is too late.

Bail out.

First, though, do this:

1. Obtain an address from a mailbox store.
2. Open a new checking/savings account at a completely different bank.
3. Have the statements go to the new address.
4. Have all business correspondence go to the enw account.
5. Have your pay go to the new account.
6. Transfer a absolutely equitable amount of money from the joint account to your new account. Don't cheat or it'll bite you in the ass.
7. Choose a good divorce lawyer.
8. Remove your name from the joint account.
9. Spring the news and leave.


Good luck.

Randyman, can you tell us more about the situation? Like how did you find out she is cheating? Have you had trouble in your marriage (that you were aware of) before now? Do you have children?

I've also been married 16 years.

Revenge is a dish best served cold. Act as nice as can be while you do this, and start doing all the things she's asked you to over the years.

Make her fall for you all over again.

Than dump the bitch. Make sure you get pics, and send them to her family and coworkers.

And any "couple" friends that you have that knew about this when it was going on and never said anything - get new friends.

Sorry to hear it, Randyman. The emotions come fast and furious I am sure... The thing about infidelity that my ex never got was that I didn't remain faithful for 7 years because of her, I did because that was the man I needed to be. Should of tipped me off that she didn't understand the subtlety of that, you can guess the rest. So, I tend to agree with everyone else that unless something causes her to change fundamentally who she is, once is once too many times. Good Luck.

Talk to her. If you love her, talk, and ask what's going on for her. Dont act out of anger, act out of love. Then decide.