Getting head from my girlfriend and her best friend... questions
 

Whoa man...

Looks like you got someone's stash of good karma today.

nice... wish i would get that lucky sometime...

the main thing prolly just make sure your ok with it beeing a one time thing and that you want her to be able to talk about it with you... communication is key...
if she isnt happy about what happend and just keeps it bottled up inside it will prolly come back 10x worse in the future...

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not sure that's something you'd want to tell your girlfriend.

lucky bastard, I wish my girlfriend had friends like that :) So long as you're communicating with her - and it sounds like you are - things seem like they're fine.

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Breathe first, and then realize how great this was for you. Just don't expect it to ever happen again. If you keep bugging her for another night like this, your girlfriend might get pissed.

Wait for her to initiate it again.

Thanks a million Holo. I guess I was reading too much into everything.

I second (or third, etc.) the "I hate you" from all straight males here.

You're a very very lucky man, and be sure not to make a big production out of this, and you might get lucky in the future.

Yeah, I'm definitly not going to bring it up often, if at all. Can't let a girl like that get away over something that was possibly a one-time deal.

Very good post Holo, you beat me to it hehe.

So....I think the question we all want to know is....

Who swallowed?

So, where's the problem?

Congrats!!!!

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Congrats - now the hard part.

Never Kiss and Tell.

Call her up and the her you're really sorry and it'll never happen again.

Unless she want it to;)



lucky shit......

Yes, it's really hard to keep myself from telling everyone I know. I just went out to buy cigars with my friend and it was KILLING me not to be able to tell him.

You are a very very lucky man!

It doesn't seem like there's a problem - just don't go telling anyone about it that knows either of the girls. (after reading your post, I think you're smart enough not to) Keep the happy memories to yourself :)

Definitely keep it between the three of you and don't tell anyone. You have a long life ahead of you and many more surprising things will happen if you kee quiet.

Oh lord, I hope so!

:eek:

I think that smilie says it all for me. Jesus man.

I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but I think something is wrong with your girlfriend and her best friend. If your girlfriend really believes in monogamy, she would not let herself do that.

Re: Getting head from my girlfriend and her best friend... questions
 

First of all.... :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

I WISH I was that lucky sometimes. Fuck it dude, don't worry about it. If she says it's cool then I wouldn't worry a bit. Now, if you or your GF aren't into 3 ways and she and her friend were was just drunk or something, then you might have a problem. But if you're both into it, fuck it go with the flow man.


And keep your damn mouth shut about it unless you never want this to happen again.

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It's amazing that you're not just gloating a ton, and actually THINKING about why she might have allowed herself/her friend to do that.

I wasn't trying to stress you out, but you may want to ask her. Of course, it may freak her out if you confront her about it, but you need to ask her why she randomly became so ...kinky. She might have just done it because she wanted to give you a surprise. Or maybe you just really don't know her.

I hope you'll keep us posted about your relationship with your gf and her best friend.
I wonder if they planned for it to happen, or if they had every discussed doing something like it?

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Well, you can not just blame her. (You did let her, you know.)

Girls are crazy- I should know; I am one. Try talking to her. Communication is the best thing ever. Another thing: since it was her birthday, maybe she was acting out one of her own secret fantasies! ;)

I'll be sure to keep the situation updated. I'll probably be going out with my girlfriend tonight so something is bound to be brought up in the conversation then.

I know, I'm as much to blame as she/they are. I could have stopped them, but I didn't. I do wish I had right now, but at the time, all I was thinking was, "you're young, can't pass up an opportunity like this." I'd probably be kicking myself in 20 years if I hadn't, saying things like "if I knew then what I know now..." and the like.

I'll talk to her tonight. But in the meantime, this thread will keep me from going crazy.

I sure as hell would.......

I don't think you should worry about it too much. It was probably a fantasy of hers. I imagine her and her friend are pretty close?

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Well....... do her already! she's obviously itching for it!

You are overthinking this way too much, bub...

Just enjoy what happened, if it happens again, great, if it doesn't, well , you had that one time...

Maybe it was a birthday dare for herself, to see if she could go outside her normal personality. She obviously trusts you and her friend -- Just remember the moment - and stop reading into it.

Yeah, dont overthink this. She's stated before she thought about this a couple times. Your intimacy isn't violated, think that this secret of yours will bring you closer together.

This, as stated above, was probably a gift to herself. She feels comfterble enough around you to let her hair down for the first time probably in her life. She's kinky and head over heals for you, you dont know how lucky you are.

Thanks guys, this is what I needed to hear. I always read into things way too much. Just the way I am, I guess.

I don't see why. I have turned down several "opportunities" in the past few years, and I have no regrets about it.

I don't know if this whole situation that you're describing means that much to you, your girlfriend, or her friend but I suggest that you do think about it. What I find curious is that there was a history leading up to this of her telling you that she wanted to have her best friend involved. Why did she want her best friend involved so much? Why did she agree?

What are you going to do if she wants to include her best friend again?

I'm of a small minority here that feels differently about what sex should be used for that you could figure out from my other posts. I certainly suggest that you consider the meaning of these actions and what you want sex to mean for you, as well as having a discussion about what you want sex to mean with your girlfriend.

Well I just got home from visiting my girlfriend, and all seems to be well. We had a somewhat lengthy conversation about what happened last night, and we both made it clear that this was a one time deal. She told me that it wasn't planned at all, and it wasn't a fantasy of her's either -- it just happened. My girlfriend said she wasn't upset about it at all since there was nothing emotional involved between me and her friend and because she was there too. We've both made it very clear that this does not in any way mean we can screw around with whoever we want as long as there aren't emotions involved. This was a one time thing and it's going to stay that way as far as I can tell. Good.

What troubles me a little, though, is her friend. It turns out she's never even made out with a guy, let alone given head. I feel really bad that this was her first experience. I know no one was forcing her, and she could have stopped at any time, or she could have simply not let things escalate to the point that they did, but I still feel bad about it. She's told my girlfriend that she thought it was cool, and that she didn't mind at all since it was us (my girlfriend and I), but I'm just not sure about that.

No, the situation I have described did not mean much to any of us, as far as I know. I can't quite speak for the friend involved, as I haven't discussed any of this with her, but judging from what my girlfriend has said, it didn't mean anything to her either. The "history" leading up to this event feels mostly coincidental to me. She told me tonight that when we discussed a threesome it was all jokingly, as I had thought. The fact that it actually happened is definitly eyebrow raising, but I think it's purely a coincidence. I really don't think it's a matter of why she wanted the friend involved -- from what I've heard from her tonight, she's pretty neutral; didn't want it to happen, but didn't not want it to happen. Why the friend agreed is really beyond me. I guess she figured "what the heck."

I don't know what I'll do if she wants to include the friend again. One day at a time.

I've had several conversations with my girlfriend about what we want sex to mean to us, which is probably why we haven't actually done it yet. I'm not very much into promiscuity, nor is she. I think if there was actual penis-in-vagina action going on, the friend wouldn't have been involved at all.


Anyway, everything feels just like it did with my girlfriend before last night -- we both understand what's going on and are okay with it. As far as I'm concerned, this is all that matters.

Dude thats a thing that fantasies are made of.
KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!! you told people on this forum. thats good enough. If you tell anyone else you ruin the fact that you don't want anyone to look at these girls in a any type of negative light.
Not only that. There maybe more in store for you if you are all able to handle it.
Myself don't think I could but hey I've never been in that situation.
Just be glad someone has to do it. :D

Looks like all will turn out alright. You just read too much into it from the start. The good think is you communicated with her, and kept it clear. Maybe she secretly wants more to happen, but let her do it at her pace, and don't puch her into anything she's uncomfortable with.

that is the coolest thing ive ever heard of.

i wonder if my girlfriend would ever do that

ive always fantisized about 2 girls sucking my dick at the same time... i always thought it would be incredible... lucky!!

Dude, STOP FUCKING ANALYZING THIS. Shit happens in life. You are going to sully and kill a great memory if you beat the fucking thing to death. You were lucky, you experienced something way cool. File it away so that it can bring you a smile in the future

Re: Getting head from my girlfriend and her best friend... questions
 

Completely unrelated to any other post in this thread, but when I used to play this game you also either punched the ceiling of the car or the arm of the person next to you. :)

Pretty cool .......isn't it....he he he he. I have a secret of my own!

Want to form a support group?

Yeah, we do that sometimes too around here, but one time we played "strip padiddle" and it comes up occasionally now and then.

I can't wait to here about her next birthday party.

I'd have to agree with Holo...

Sexual adventures can take place occassionally and shouldn't negatively affect the relationship as long as both parties were involved happily. If you coerce your gf/bf to do something liek thsi, it can lead to problems. Spontenaity(sp?) can be a wonderful thing sometimes, man!

Congrats! ~_^

You said it yourself "what the heck". Man, sometimes shit happens in life and you got it good. I agree with everyone, stop analyzing it, haven't you ever done something because your reason was "what the heck"? So what if it was your gf's friends first time even before kissing a guy. Maybe she was waiting for an opportunity to go all the way. Who cares, she agreed and it was her choice. Remember it well, you lucky, lucky bastard.

Well, evidently, in some circumstances, she doesn't believe in monogamy. I'm with you about that. Where you and I part ways is when you conclude "there's something wrong with her."

There's monogamy like an empowering and enriching way to relate to a relationship. And then there's monogamy like a straightjacket that prevents you from trying things you might want to try. I'm all for the former, and all against the latter.

lurkette and I are not sexually monogamous, but we are each others' primary lifetime partner. Neither of us would ever think of doing something without the other knowing.

Sounds like she unleashed a wild side you didn't know about, saut! As long as you're ok with that, and the two of you can create boundaries that you're both comfortable with, it sounds like you're in for a ride!

You lucky fucker.

OK, I'd like to chime in and ask a question! Can I get your shipping address to mail you a trophee? :lol:

No seriously, my wife asked me to take her to a strip club once. While we were there she picked out a dancer said she wanted a couch dance. Next party I watched her go down on another girl. Kicker was I was to hammered to participate.

Anyway, point is it happened and life went on. My wife is a lot cooler now. And I respect her for tryin something new.
What happened happened. If it did harm it did. Though, I doubt it did. Think about the risk benefit factor, but only briefly. Risks - little wierdness for a while. Thats it, you both participated so no faults, just a little wierdness.
Benefits - Seriously... you got a double-headed-head-job. Not to mention, explored something new about all of you, and you aren't even dead or maimed. Sounds like a killer' deal to me.

Herk

welcome to the club ;)

just keep your mouth shut and go with the flow. My ex gf (of 7 yrs) was quite experimental also. ..it didnt start off that way, but over time and taking "baby steps" about involving others into our relationship, things worked out just fine. She was a stripper and always bringing women home for us to play with, but nothing was said to my friends about what happened behind closed doors....people knew, it just wasnt talked about.

Also, theres nothing wrong with your girlfriend bro, she may be curious, or she might just be going through a phase in her life where she wants to experiment with her sexuality. Its good that you communicate with her VERY openly about situations like that, things can get turned around easily if assumptions are made. Just remember, keep your mouth shut, and go with the flow! good luck brother.

The reason I was a little worried at first was because of the possibility of weirdness, but thankfully we haven't had any as a result of all this. And yes, I'll take that trophy.

I never said there was anything wrong with her. We've been very open about what happened and everything is cool. Keeping my mouth shut really isn't as hard now as it was right after it happened, so I think I'll be fine in that department as well.

first of all, you should have parlayed that into a full on menage. probably the shock of your first multiple partner experience, but NEXT TIME...parlay that shit and fuck em both!!!!!! and then have em fuck eachother!!!!

secondly, what are the chances her and her friend went back to the friends house and kept on 'experimenting'?

well done, but horribly played.

thats what i was referring to.... :)

I didn't want to do any full on fucking that night, so eh. 99.9% chance they didn't keep "experimenting" when they got to her house.

I got $5 that says her and her best friend went at it when they got back to her place....