Need some advice

[cj22009]

Ok here is the deal. Im getting a divorce I posted all about this in another thread im to lazy to look for. So any way I have been talking to this girl I work with for about 7 weeks or so just friends.
She has helped me alot with everything that has been going on in my life. Well the deal is she has told me she doesnt want anything to happen until im divorced which I understand I said the same thing. But im starting to get mixed signals monday night we talked about comentments and I told her ive been hurt alot but I cant let myself be afraid of having another relationship and being dedicaded to it . Ever since then she been kinda distant I dont know iff I scared her or what tueday night she was real short and didnt have much to say so I figured what the hell I wont bug her I talked to her wendsday during the day for just a min and didnt call her around 9:00 she called me wondering why I havent called I told her I was busy which I was I had to fix a few pc's last night but I called her back and we talked about bullshit but it was like something was missing but im not sure what. I think what may have went wrong is that she asked me iff the divorce is what me and my ex really want I told her all I can answer is for myself and I told her yes But the thing is she has been in two serious relationships and was hurt pretty bad in both of them so im not sure iff she is scared of being hurt and dont want to get close or what. Im just wondering iff I should just ask her were do we stand only thing about that she is going to say your still married because she has said it before or should I tell her when the papers are filled listen this is going to happen the proccess has been started we are just waiting on the court to do there job sorry so long

[maleficent]

I'd wait until the divorce is final before anything.

You've been honest with her and told her that you aren't sure that you want another commitment yet, or if at all, for pete's sake, you are coming out of a marriage, why would you want to?

She sounds like she wants a commitment pretty soon.

Two people on different pages right now.

Plus you still need to go thru rebound girl, and she surely doesn't want to be that...

Good luck

[gar1976]

Don't date work chicks.

Don't fish in the company pond.

Don't take home supplies from the office supply closet.

Don't dip your pen in company ink.

Oh, and did I mention don't date work chicks?

First rule of Don't Date Chicks from Work Club is: Don't date chicks from work.

Second rule...ah shit, you know what I mean.

[cj22009]

We dont directly work to geather she's in a diffrent location than me she is a state employee and im a contractor its just one of the places I go to just figured Id mention that

[Cimarron29414]

I was separated. I started hanging out with a girl and nothing happened. However, I could tell that something would happen if I stayed around her. I was waiting for the papers to be signed and get everything finished up. Out of the blue, my wife decided she changed her mind. I decided I should honor my vow and work on it once more. 6 months later, we were moved back in together and have been blissfully happy ever since.

The moral: Nothing is final until the ink is dry. Show your appreciation to this girl for the assistance she has given you by NOT hurting her. Only you can know what steps to take to ensure that happens. Communicate.