I messed up!
 

So there is this amazing girl that I really dicked over. F*cking amazing let me tell you!!!!! and I want to get back in her good graces . . . any suggestions?

Well, it might help if we knew just what it was that you did her. :rolleyes:

untie her... and let her out of your basement...

and a big sorry is prolly in order


lol :p

yea.... it depends on the situation... give us some more info

lol u can try what i did when I fubared with this chick a long long time ago....

You need the following

1) "I'm with stupid" T-Shirt.... Arrow Pointing Up.
2) Flowers.

Show up wearin that shirt and flowers... if she doesn't let u back... she's a tuffy to break...

hey... that sounds like something i suggested a while back. damn i thought i was being original.

and jfelco, you're really opening yourself up to some smarmy comments with such a vague, open-ended thread. care to clarify?

Flowers + anything from bath and body works. No lies.

How about you first give us more details as to how exactly you "dicked her over"? Maybe then you'll get more concrete an appropriate responses and hints to get yourself out of that bind.

Depending on how badly you did her wrong it is likely she may never view you under a good light again.

Sleep with her sister. She'll start hounding you out of jealousy.

(That's joke advice, by the way. Don't take it.)

Just try being nice and let what happens happen. If being nice and apologizing doesn't work, some weird and ill-conceived make-up attempt isn't going to work any better.

Good luck.

sorry for the vague description, i wasnt in the right frame of mind. long story short, we started sleeping with each other a soon after we met. a few weeks into it, i brought up the fact that i was looking for a physical relationship, the sex was great!! she had asked about past females and i told her that i had a couple successful relationships that was strictly physical. i asked her if that was something she was looking for as well, and she said she would be interested in keeping me as a physical partner. a couple months flew by and i started to realize that she was becoming emotionally attached. our relationship consisted of sleeping with each other 3-4 times a week and going out maybe 4 times a month, like on dinner dates,movies, what not.
anyways long story short, after about 5 months of this relationship, i broke it off because i felt she was looking for a serious relationship. needless to say she was very upset and hurt. its been a 10 weeks since i last talked to her and i was hoping to see what was left between us, maybe she cooled off, perhaps she wants my head on a platter?? any chance of getting her back into the sac?? did i mention the sex was great?

Maybe I'm missing something but it seems pretty obvious to me that your views and her views toward the relationship are totally differet (sex vs. love).

I'd say that if you care about her feelings at all, don't go after her if all you want is sex as you're bound to hurt her again.

if she was, in fact, attached before, then you'd only be disservicing her by trying to patch things up and start over again. it would not only be hurtful, but selfish on your part. utter disregard for others' feelings in order to get what you want sexually or via sex (which i see as malicious) == the makings of a slut. sad, but true.

however, if you broke it off because you were projecting your fears of commitment onto her by imagining she was becoming attached, then that's a whole different can of worms. personally, i don't think being upset and hurt is enough evidence that she was attached in a romantic sense. how you break up with girls alone can determine if she will get upset or hurt, even if there was no romantic emotional attachment. men tend to equate sex with being romantic; women typically do not. chances are more likely that you were confusing a physical relationship for something more and were perhaps frightened. something else that you should realize that inevitably occurs during most extended physical relationships is intimacy and friendship. if you were confusing these for romantic emotional attachment, then that's a fault on your part, not hers.

it doesn't sound like you asked for her opinion on emotional attachment before you broke it off. which, to be honest, is unfair and abrupt.

(please to note: i "verbed" disservice. disservicing is not a real word.)

thanks for the advice and comments, im still trying to figure out whether what it is i want?

That is one hell of a sticky situation. You might want to evaluate this and see if you want what she wants. Because if you don't this is only going to happen again. If you want it go for it...or at least try.

now thats funny

DISCLAIMER - don't read if talking about rape offends you

disclaimer: jokes about rape aren't funny

Ok. That wasn't even funny.


ANYWAYS, If all you want is sex, then you obviously don't give a shit about her. Leave her alone.

It's guys like you, that give guys like me such a miserable time at finding the right women.

Grow up, let her go, and maybe you'll be lucky enough to find someone that fills her shoes