Condom sex
 

I used a condom for the first time in my life last weekend. My girlfriend's been using pills since our first time, so we haven't needed one before. Anyway, we both were a bit surprised how different it felt. She thought it felt strange and uncomfortable and I only felt the rubber, and the sex didn't feel even close to as good as without one.

So, I became wondering how you feel about using one, do you think it lessens the pleasure you get from sex or not? I for one am glad that I probably don't have to use one ever again. I'm just wondering if people who've always used one even know how much more enjoyable sex is without one.

I'm not encouraging anyone to not use one, I know how imporant it is if you have many partners etc.

I for one no longer need to use one, snip snip. The feeling you get with one vs. without is totally different. There still is pleasure there, it's just different. But it doesn't lessen what you are doing. Wearing a condom is not a bad thing in anyway. You were pretty lucky that you never "had" to wear one before. I almost always wore one, hated the feeling, but wore it anyway. You do what you have to do.

I've had sex without a condom.

I've had sex with a condom.

Sex with a condom is FUCKING FANTASTIC. Wanna know why? Because I know the chances of me getting pregnant or get an STD are greatly reduced. That feeling of security is great.

With my college boyfriend I think we used condoms maybe a half dozen times. If that. I was naive.

I was with a guy who had just been tested for STD's 3 months earlier (he was engaged to be married, ended up breaking up) and he had a vastectomy (probably butchered that spelling) so I knew that was safe and we didn't use condoms.

I used condoms with my last partner. And I had no complaints at all. Maybe he was just better than the other two, but either way, I'm not willing to risk pregnancy or an STD.

Next time I'm in a serious relationship (and I trust my partner not to cheat) we'll get tested for STD's together, I'll get on the pill and we'll stop using condoms. Until then, it's condoms every time.

My wife just started the patch birth control. I can't wait until we can ditch the condoms. She was on the pill before (the pill did not treat her well) so we know what we are missing.

I've always used condoms and I don't really have any complaints about them. Though, yes, the few times I went without one felt much much better than with. However, I don't think that its worth the risk. My girlfriend is on the pill and we still try to use them everytime, we don't want there to be any chance of something getting through.

I always use condoms unless the girl is on the pill and i know shes clean....

their not that bad... im usually just happy to be getting some action :D but it is much better without them...

I used condoms for years - I do like it better w/o one, but it's not bad using one. My g/f hates them tho - I have since had a vasectomy, so in about 3 weeks I should have the all-clear to go bare-back from here on out!

We always used one- except for once we used just foam. Then I got pregnant. But then we wouldn't be blessed with our wonderful 4 yr old son.
But then my husband got fixed and now there is no such things as condoms around here.......and thank God- I love the feel of HIM.

Used to when my wife and I first started going out, but haven't even touched one in a few years i reckon.

MUCH prefer without.

Would i be considered a bastard if i said i prefer without because then the mess wasn't my problem??



Thought so.

it definately feels different. but if also makes a huge difference on what kind you use. I don't like to use ANYTHING but trojan. for a number of reasons. From breakage, to being too thick, to not fitting at all.

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Used them -- they have there pros and cons. Definitely like the lower risk of pregnancy and stds. I also like less mess for me. Don't like not feeling him -- especially not feeling him come.

i wouldn't risk getting pregnant for anything in the world
i like trojans, they're reliable and they feel ok....the ribbed ones at least
but definitely now that i'm on the pill i can say yes sex without is much much better
now only if i had someone to share it with

it lessens the pleasure most definitely. get your girl to go on the pill (luckily, mine was already) if you can

I'm probably crazy, but i prefer condom sex even if hte girl is on the pill. There are a few reasons:
1. I'm ultra paranoid about pregnancy, you have no idea. I mean, i get nervous a week before a girl's period bc i just know that this one won't come...Condoms let me enjoy sex w/out too much worry.
2. there is something about the act of putting or having a condom put on. I guess it's ritualistic, but the smell and feel initially just makes me happy.
3. there is more control over orgasmic response. Without a condom, an hour-hour and a half is about as long as i can go, wtih a condom, it's pretty much whenever she's had enough and i've had enough.
4. Cleanup is pretty easy and i don't have to worry about pulling out or getting it in her hair

Things i don't like about condoms:
1. Certain types burn. Trojans are notorious for me for burning. I'm talking weekend in the bedroom, you get up to go pee and you wait and when you can finally pee, it's like fire and it strikes you to your knees. From what i've read, monoxinol 9 (sp?) is basically a cleanser/detergent and i'm not allergic to it, but the constant rubbing and pushing it in and out of the urinary opening causes irritation.
2. Durex condoms...don't ever use these, instead, go out to your car and remove your spare tire and wrap that around your rod of passion...Seriously, these things are so thick, you could go hump a knot hole in a tree and wouldn't be able to tell the difference. Also, they are less flexible, so they break more easily..
3. any ribbed condoms...after 2-3 hrs, they start to hurt and you start pulling hairs. Also, it's kinda hard to "finish" with those bc the stimulation is weird. I, and my partners in the past, prefer somethign like a lifestyles ultrathin or just regular lifestlyes with monox 9.
4. Nothing is scarier than pulling out and shooting over your partners head (doggy style) when you're supposed to have a condom on...They break after a while, so i just get into the habit of swapping them out periodically.
5. ever have one break and get stuck inside a girl? it's not fun...
6. NEVER use KY jelly wtih a condom. Rather, never forget to reapply jelly every 30 minutes. We were given a tube for fun from some friends...so we tried it just to see if it would make a difference...things were going smoothly, then i noticed the friction rate kicked up like 10000%..it was like "stroke stroke oo, this feels good but i'm not close to finishing...stroke stroke...oh my god, what happened...stroke...i'm about to..stroke..OOHHH" and you pull out at the last moment and you realize the condom is hanging inside your girl. It takes quite a bit of tugging and pulling before the condom is dislodged. It makes for quite an interesting scene to see what looks like a baloon opening sticking out of your gf's opening...kinda like she's a rubber doll and they put the nozzle in the crotch :) hilarity ensues, but only after you clean up the mess. Seriously, that stuff turns to superglue after a while.

7...not having one handy. You'd think a girl could put then in the nightstand..but NOOOO, she's gotta keep them in her panties drawer across the room...Sheeeeeeeeeesh..

8. the wrappers...i dunno how, but they always turn up somewhere when someone comes to visit.

Sooo...while i have twice as many negatives as positives, i'll still love my condom. It has seen my through hte good times and the bad times. It has helped me through the rough times...and the really rough times...It's put up with the hard times...and the *sniff* not so hard times (never try to fornicate in the garage of a 17 yr old's house when their parents are inside watching tv..it just doesn't function well in 50 degree weather...)..and it's seen me through those times when no man is an atheist..."Oh please..oh please please please start..i'm begging, pleaasseee please just bleed.." and through thick and thin, big and tall, small and skinny, it's been by my side, ready for action, ready to rumble, ready to throw down, ready to get buck wild, ready to party, ready to dress up for a formal affair, ready to protect and to serve...

Alas, my condom...for a while there, i thought i would never use one again....heck, they were joking that my trojan pack was written in ancient greek..

Have fun, be safe, don't get upset if you get her pregnant bc you weren't using SOMETHING. and above all...make sure the girl gets off first..that's just a cardinal rule

I've never had sex without a condom. I don't mean to offend anyone, but sex without a condom (even if your partner is on birth control) is just plain stupid and totally irresponsible.

But intercourse with a condom doesn't feel very good to me, so we do a lot of oral and hands-on techniques. It's great.

I don't like using a condom, me and my gf of 2 years only use one right before I'm about to cum. Up until then, we go unprotected, we are monogomous and have no stds, shes not on bc right now as we still need to get tests back from her doctor about what she can use because she has family history of health problems related to bc. And if we do end up having a kid together, we'll perfectly well accept it, which is what is happening now, but after 2 years of this. I hate the feel of a condom and she does too, so we just go at it until I'm about to cum then put one on and go at it some more. It's risky, but with us, we're willing to accept the risk.

condoms all the way so far, but she's started taking the pill as of yesterday, so hopefully next time i get to see her, things will be ready to rock and roll.

Condoms are akward but you can get used to them. It's like moving from your hand to a vagina.

Using condoms is great for the security issues. I have my tricks and don't have to worry about std's or getting the girl pregnant. But it does not take away from the questions on hand: It is definitely better without a condom. No doubt about it.

Shop around. I like Japanese-made latex condoms best -- very thin but rarely fail -- but your mileage may vary. Really, try different brands.

That said, I never cared for them much. They were a necessity much of the time, not all the time. They do cut down on sensation, and as you get into your '40s, you need all the sensation you can get, frankly....

Condom sex doesnt even compare to sex without. I love the feeling of him inside me, and frankly I find the feeling of sex with a condom quite uncomfortable and it diesnt get me off at all.

Condoms fucking suck. I've done it with and without. Without the pleasure level goes up 10 fold. With i'm protected when i go out in the rain. :p

They don't bother me...
Like Averett said, it gives me extra peace of mind which allows me to get into it mentally. If I were in a very long term, monogamous relationship with someone I imagined a future with...then I'd go bareback, since I'm on the patch. But until then, I'm a "no glove, no love" girl.

One of my friends is on the pill. She also recently was tested positive for Hepatitis C. It can also take upwards of 10 years to show any signs of HPV or HIV/AIDS. So you may *look* healthy *now* you may even test negative now, but that doesn't mean you will in the future.

Condoms don't even protect you from things like crabs and strains of HPV. So even then, condoms aren't 100%, but at least it effectively reduces your chances of getting most for-life STIs.

The feeling of security in the health of you and your partner far outweighs the physical feeling, IMO. While you trust your partner to monogamous, their past can creep up on them. Or, they might do something behind your back, as we've seen in various threads on Tilted Sexuality. A lot of people think, "oh my partner would never..." only find out that they did.

The group that currently has the highest risk of contracting HIV/AIDS are heterosexual women (in MONOGAMOUS relationships, like marriages, because their husbands slept around behind their backs).

What you're doing is like Russian Rullet, only with a penis - and every bit as stupid.

That's called the Hope Method. As in "I hope she doesn't get pregnant. I hope she's clean. I hope I don't get STIs..."

I'll admit, I was one of the stupid peole who have rarely used one when I should have been. I've been lucky, got an STD once.. I've been tested and my SO has been tested and she's had her tubes tied.. I truely think the feelign of using one is almost a detached feeling.. I really don't like it at all. But if my current situtation were to change andi was back dating, i would probablyuse one.. Too much out there and too much to live for.

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i've had a close friend that learned about genital warts the hard way because he never used protection. i'm happy to wear a condom for both STD and contraceptive purposes

LOL! I just starting using condoms! I'm married and my wife_has her tubes tied, no chance getting pregnant or no worries about diseases. I started using them cause i came too quickly. It really does work. I can go alot longer and when i'm ready i take it off and go somemore till im ready to come. Works for me.

Well we're not hoping she doesn't. And we've both been tested and we are both clean. We actually want a child together, we're not exactly trying to have one, but if one happens we're happy :)

CHEEZHEAD!! I'm with you bud...when i first started...umm..it was soo short, i don't remember much at all...that was WITH the condoms...hehe..

practice, less stress and condom use...makes for a great lover :)

I wish I didn't have to wear one. My girlfriend wants to go on the pill but even then I wouldn't really feel safe about the whole pregnancy deal. We've had sex without a condom a couple of times and we've already had one scare.

Sex without a condom feels so much better though, even more so for her apparently. The first couple of times she was able to orgasm were without a condom. Since then she's been able to even with a condom, so it's not so bad. Still...

Sex without a condom feels so much better for the both of us. Also, anal sex without a condom is a hell of a lot more intense than with a condom.

My girlfriend and I decided to go on the pill after we both got tested for HIV and all other STDs.... And we've subsequently gotten tested again. However, now I feel a bit worried even though she takes the pill regularly and we're in a monogamous relationship because she doesn't take the pill everyday at the same exact time (and I'm afraid that this may increase the failure rate for the pill then).

It does increase the failure rate. In fact, agencies that provide b/c pills advise NO SEX for 2 weeks if you missed ONE pill to make sure you're back on schedule. Some recommend double dosing the next day if you missed a day. But if you've gone more than one day without taking it, you are essentially back to square one--breeding grounds. Unless you remember to take it everyday, it's not technically working as birth control.

Taking it around the same time, within the hour, adds more reliability to it.



One of my friends missed only one pill after remembering for several years. As a result, her son was born 19 Oct. 2003. She and her fiance were planning on a kid, the timing was just off.

Well Im not the most experienced guy when it comes to this but I have had to use a condom with my girlfriend

Dont want to but its cheaper than the pill and DEFINATLY cheaper than getting a baby out of it.

Just tell yourself sex without a condom is a special occasion. When you and your loved one are ready for anything even a child then CHARGE INTO BATTLE WITHOUT A HELMET!

Of course there's a world of difference without the condom, but I don't mind using one. We've been using condoms with the pill just for that extra piece of mind (not not mention easy cleanup).

The decreased sensation isn't really a problem...I prefer lasting longer.
I just hate putting the damn things on. The last thing I need, when the blood has left my brain and moved south, is a task that requires a degree of concentration and manual dexterity!

Definately makes cleanup a lot easier

there is no better feeling than sex without a condom. i've used them and not used them, and there IS a differnce. sex with a condom is not bad, but sex without is just so damn good.

i know this may be a stupid question, but when a woman is using pills does t matter if you ejaculate inside of them?

no birth control is 100%. i think the pill tricks the woman's body into believing it's already pregnant, which reduces the chances of a fertilized ovary attaching to the uterine wall. but there are no guarantees.

the pill does not prevent the transmission of STI's.

i think the lack of pleasure is outweighed by the idea that your going to be safe from getting the hiv or someother disease, or even a dam kid. if anything the best birth control is to do it in the butt ;-)

When I used to use a condom years ago, it sucked. there was hardly any feeling and she didn't enjoy it either. But now there are better condoms that are stronger and thinner where it feels almost as natural as it would with no condom. Check the different brands to find out which would be the best for you and your girl.

Buy large condoms. They aren't so tight and for some reason they feel better.

That said, condoms suck, but it's better latex than never.

Yah it's better without a condom but I would rather have less pleasure then herpes or worse.

If your GF says it feels uncomfortable then she is probably allergic to the spermicide, lubricant or latex. Ribbed condoms can also cause agitation for some girls.

in a condom....... I lose a hardon... dunno why... just reminds me of the feeling you get from walking around in sogy shoes... except its a soggy penis sock... its disturbing...

I'd rather go without than use one personally..

and I get std tested regularly... nothing so far..
if I get one... oh well... you only live once right.. I wouldn't mind living life even if it means living the bad sides of it too....

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I would have to agree with the above statement!!!!

Phantom...haven't you ever heard the saying that the first stuff out of the pipes is the most potent!!!! If you are aiming not to get her pregnant (even if she is on the pill) That method is again called the hope method, it will do absolutely nothing but make clean up easier.

Tell that to the pregnant teenage girls who are still technically virgins because they had anal sex. An outreach speaker from Planned Parenthood said there are quite a few teenagers who think they can't get pregnant if they have anal sex... then they're proven wrong the hard way.

The pill caused my fiance' problems so for the last six months it has been condom city. I hate the things but its better that than the side effects she had to deal with. I find Trojan ultra thin to be the best for sensation but its still a drag. Maybe in a few years should we opt out of having kids I'll get snipped.

use a lubricated condom, and some astroglide, its the way to go, let me tell ya..........i know from experience

hmm....

I also lose a hardon in a condom. The lack of sensation further aggravates this. I also rarely cum when using a condom.

And condomless sex is great.

I'd also rather go without one than use it, but I'm hyper-paranoid. The insanity caused by worrying and waiting for my next HIV test (not to mention her next period) wouldn't be worth it.

cockring

Isn't that an old victorian method to keep you flaccid?

fixed that for ya

No such thing as a stupid question first of all. Secondly, when a woman is on the pill, and takes it precisley as prescribed, it "greatly reduces" the chance of pregnancy. However, it is not 100%. If you cum inside her, you are increasing the odds of pregnancy. The one thing that can really sway the odds, is how she takes the pill...does she take it everyday? Or does she miss a day here and there. Basically if you really want to reduce the chance of pregnancy, don't get off inside her. Does that answer your question? I tend to write very randomly...

I fully endorse protection, but i too dislike using a condom. I do use one though when a "one night stand" occurs (hey i'm a college guy i'm allowed too ;) ).

Don't know if its just psychological, but i just can't get the same satifaction using one.


Oh and regarding the pill, I still pull out even with the gf on the pill. Plus nothing beats a facial hehe :cool:

if all you do is use condoms, you will never notice the difference--that's my case. Quite frankly, i'm very curious what it will feel like without one, since I don't know any better and I can't even feel it when it's on and i'm going at it like crazy.

i know i must sound really stupid, but i can't understand how this is possible. :confused:

A lot of people don't use protection (Birth control like the pill doesn't count. I'm talking condoms and latex etc). If you ejaculate into a girl anally and without protection, some of it does come out despite popular belief that an anus has a watertight seal. This can happen when you are pulling out, since your penis will no doubt be covered in ejaculate, or if she goes to the bathroom afterward, or many other various possibilities.

The point is this: As long as there is ejaculate near the entrance of a vagina (and the anus is a very close neighbor), there is always going to be the chance of a pregnancy.

As long as she's getting hers, too.