Sleeping with your SO
 

This is more for AFTER the Tilted Sexuality...

How do you manage to sleep with another person in the bed?

After staying the night at a girlfriend's place, I'm usually pretty tired because I'm not used to sharing sleeping space with someone. Even if we're not sleeping touching each other, I feel that my space, literally, has been cut in half.

Any tricks (other than sex :) ) for getting a good night's sleep?

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Spooning is always a good option

well what size bed? anything under a double you will ALWAYS be uncomfortable if you need lots of room.

my advice if its under a double, learn to sleep on your side!

if its a double, you should have plenty of room, just learn not to be a spread eagle sleeper :cool:

I had big troubles with previous girlfriends with this... I never had an answer. With the girlfriend I have now, no matter how close and entwined together we are I can sleep like a rock.

Turning on some quiet music probably saved me from absolutely sleepless nights in the past, that might be the only thing I have to share with you.

I actually have trouble sleeping without someone there. Spooning is nice, as is her lying on his chest, etcetera.

"I could never find a place to put my other arm." -- Brodie

Get used to having someone else in your space, is all I've got. I know what you mean. A queen is the minimum for comfortable dual sleep, in my opinion.

I've been with the same girl for almost 3 years now, so I've gotten really used to sleeping in the same bed. I just like putting my arms around her, it really comforts us both.

Spooning or me on my back with her next to me facing me is usually the way we go. It gets pretty cozy like that =)

I never know what to do with the other arm, either.

My ability to sleep with my SO touching or crowding me comes and goes in waves....

For the most part I am fine with her touching me or snuggling up but sometimes I just want my own space... don't touch me!

I learned to sleep on my side right near the edge of the bed. The thing to do is snuggle with her on her side of the bed with both of your on your side (spooning). After a while of this just roll over and sleep on your side of the bed (the key is not trapping your arm under her).

The best thing is to buy a queen or king size bed. Lots of room.

It's probably a comfort level thing.

I've slept with lurkette almost every night of our eight married years, and it's obviously no problem at this point. But occasionally we sleep in the same bed with another couple that is dear friends of ours, and I usually have a hard time falling asleep in that situation.

Of course, they both snore and I've totally got the hots for her, so both of those things sort of distract me from sleep... ;)

I have a hard time sleeping without my wife in the bed. We have a king-sized bed though, so we generally both have room to spread out. Sometimes it is the little thing like noises you make during the night that can keep you up. We can a little fan going that makes some white noise. You would be surprised how quickly you get to where you need that noise to sleep. It also has the benefit of drowning out other noises you hear at night (dogs barking, etc.). Seriously, it just takes time. If you are with different women on different nights, it would be difficult since you aren't used to the mattress, how they sleep, the size of the bed, etc.

Man, I love sleeping next to somebody. Sigh.

I sleep so much better with my GF then by myself, there's just certain things that help me fall alseep so quickly. The warmth of her body, the beating of her heart, her head on my chest, it's some of the best feelings ever. It's after sleeping a night with her that the next night when I'm sleeping alone that I have a really hard time falling alseep.

Whenever Im with my g/f, Ill sleep with her, and we can sleep together on any bed, including my single here in San Diego, more or less comfortably. We spoon, touch, roll, as long as we are together and holding each other I sleep well.

Im less comfortable sleeping without her.

There was no transition though, its always been this way, so I dont know how youd increase your comfort level by anyway other than just doing it and getting used to it.

I've always just laid on my back and let her curl up next to me. I've got a bad shoulder and have been taken to the ER for dislocating it while spooning, the nurses laughed at me!

I've found that learning how to sleep on your back is a must. For me anyways...im 6ft1 and when I sleep on my stomach with my arms above my head, I tend to take up lots of space and my poor girlfriend has no where to hold onto me. And on my side I always have that one arm that feels awkwards. So on my back for me. That way I can spread out and she can snuggle up to me.

it's not a problem for us unless our son wants to sleep i nthe bed with us. we have a queen sized bed, so it doesn't feel crowded until there is three of us in it.

I'm right with ya there on that one! When I was sharing a house with friends, my ex was there almost every night, and I got REALLY used to having him there... before that, I was staying at a dorm, and it was the same thing. Then I moved back home. It's been a few months now, and I STILL don't sleep the same without him, which is strange, because the entire time I was married I basically slept alone, curled up by myself on one side of a King-sized waterbed, while my husband was stretched out on the other side.

heh my gf is comming to visit me this weekend, that means my twin sized bed in my dorm will be even smaller! ahhh lol.

Me and my bf have a hard time sleeping together, because we have muscle spasms as we start to fall asleep, so we acciedently end up waking each other up.

I've found back-to-back, full contact, sleeping on the side to be good for either (1) a small bed or (2) a crappy mattress. For the arms: put the "lower" arm bicep out, elbow at 90 degrees, forearm up next to the pillow. "Upper" arm can pretty much go anywhere.

Perhaps that's obvious to most people, but I made it to 33 years old before figuring out a good arm position.

I have no suggestions for you. Hubby and I have been together for 4 years. He is such a heavy sleeper and hogs the bed so badly on some nights that I end up in my daughter's full bed or on the sofa depending. Daughter is 3 - used to co-sleep with her so no big deal to her. Usually though I can sleep anywhere and in any position. Sleeping on my back though I often find my arms go to sleep up to my shoulders sometimes.

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I don't!!!
I cannot manage to sleep in the same bed with my bf! i wish i could but there always comes that moment on which I have to, kindly push him a bit over, and claim my own space!!!

The worst part is, when he comes over to my place, I don't even have a double-sized matras. We sleep on our own, separate matrasses... so after the cuddling and the sweet caressing, there always comes a time -when I'm getting way too tired or i feel he's falling asleep- that I have to show him to his own, cold sleeping-place (kind of like a dog, now I think about it :p)!

As with the spooning-trick... I HATE the other arm!!!

You eventually get to the point where it's weird to sleep WITHOUT someone else in the bed.

My front to her back, both lying on one side. Lower arm (the shoulder touching the bed) until her neck and either left hanging straight out or folded up. Upper arm wrapped over the top of her (sort of with the forearm between her breasts). The only problem here would be a crappy pillow or hair. I've just learned to deal with both. If I have a really bad night of sleep, I just make it up the next.

you know, when i was younger i always had the same questions. How on earth can you sleep with someone else in your bed.
of course, it was always the random hard ons while spooning that I was worried about that would wake them up lol....

then i was with a chick for 5 years and slept with her for most of those nights.
now that we are no longer together, i'm finding it very difficult to adjust to not having someone in bed with me
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I know what you mean. I don't get to sleep next to my girlfriend as often as I'd like, but on the lucky occasions when I do - no problems falling to sleep. I feel very comfortable lying next to her, wrapping my arms around her. It makes me feel all fuzzy inside. :D

It's the next night, when she's not there - that's when problems start. Takes me forever to fall asleep, if I manage to at all.

I never did learn how to sleep with the ex, even after 9 years. With Lebell it is completely different. I sleep much better when he is with me! It must be a comfort level thing. I love to sleep with my butt touching his. *Sighs*

You can put one arm under her pillow and throw the other one around (over) her.

I found that it is partially a size issue. It is so much easier with anti fishstick because she's only 5'2" so she can lay on me and get entangled with me and it doesn't make anything fall asleep like it would have with previous larger ex-girlfriends. I couldn't ever figure out what to do with my arm with one of those ex-girlfriends, it was a casualty of war every night.

I love sleeping with someone, its compforting and its the greatest feeling to wake up and see someone else. I share a bed with my roomate, but that really isn't the same, though it is a big bed and I don't mind it at all.

I miss my ex....

I THOROUGHLY enjoyed curling up with her... the spoon position sucks... I hated her hair in my face all night long... and YES I did have a kingsize bed, but we didn't even need a full-size, we figured out how to do it where her and I would scissor our legs, put arms under eachothers necks and had big pillows to keep the circulation from getting cut off... I was able to see her all night if I couldn't sleep, and it was comforting to be there to protect her and know she was safe with me... if I wanted to kiss her on the cheek while she asleep.. no problem... if I wanted to massage her shoulder I could.. I never had to worry about it being cold.. we would both sleep naked and the body heat... yumm.... anyways... yeah I miss sleeping with my SO.. Ive been single almost 28 months now.. and well... lets just say I've re-accustomed myself with the face-first-spread-eagle-pass-the-hell-out-syndrome.... I soo can't wait til I meet another woman I can share my bed with... we were a very intimate couple.. and shared just about everything together.. and god how I miss it... :(

i love sleeping with my boyfriend. Theres nothing better than the warmth comming off of his body as i sleep, getting little kisses on the forehead when he thinks im sleeping:) I love it:) After we cuddle up with a blanket I always sleep with it while im alone because it still smells like him:)

Heh.
I always wondered why so few guys think of this. After a bit of experimentation I've stuck with putting the odd arm under mr.pillow

My ex liked to lay under my right shoulder, laying her head on my chest or arm and laying her right arm and leg across my body. That way I could wrap my right arm around her and still have my left free to put behind my head or down my pants or whatever. It worked out well for both of us.

Jas likes that whole spooning thing but it feels awkward to sleep on my side wrapped around her. I usually do it until she falls asleep and then just lay on my back and sleep like normal.

She has a big bed so it works out.

Thanks for some good ideas. I tend to be a stomach-sleeper so any other position has always been difficult, even by myself. And, I have a water bed and hers is regular.

I wanted to keep this generic, but another specific to make things interesting is that she has two dogs. Before I came along, they slept on the bed with her. Now we kick them off but they always make one or two attempts during the night. I love her and them, but 4 on a queen size bed is too tight.

Hopefully it's just a matter of getting used to it.

A few different ways. Spooning, snuggling facing each other. Sometimes spooning with my wife putting one leg on top of me, over my side.

When i sleep on my stomach i often sleep further down on the bed with her waist just below my shoulder level and put my arm around her waist.

My last g/f had a queen size bed, and she STILL slept right on the edge because she had a hard time getting close to people. So she said it was very akward to have me in bed with her. So i slept as far away as possible. Bothered me, but was good for her, so i didn't care.

I have never had a problem sleeping with someone else beside me. When my ex and I were together it got even more squished in the bed when our son would get up in the middle of the night with a nightmare and want to curl up inbetween us. When we broke up I would always lay on "my side" of the bed forgetting that I have the whole thing to sleep on. But when you do have a kid your not alone for long there will be the odd night of having them come in cause something woke them up. So you kinda adjust to having someone always there. Course there have been times with my son that I thought about going to sleep in his bed cause he ended up being upsidedown backwards or sideways in the bed and I had no room.
When I went to see Tenchi069 we were sleeping in a king size bed we ended up with a mile between us there was so much room...lol. When he stayed with me for 3 months I loved having him curl up with his arms around me. I just felt safe.

Haha that was a great scene.
Anyway, to the point. I don't really have anything new to add, just to reinforce the whole "just get used to it" mantra. I didn't have to too much but I imagine it can't be THAT hard, it's really enjoyable sleeping with your SO...except sometimes if I'm moving too much she gets mad (in her sleep, I swear), steals the covers and bolts to the other side of the bed! No joke. But still, I love it. So warm.

I used to do the same thing with my girlfriend, but I had surgery about 1 1/2 years ago, and sleeping on my stomach feels very awkward now.

My girlfriend and I have never had a problem getting a good night's sleep together, even though we both have dorm room beds, which we all know are not big at all. I'll put my left arm under her neck, and my right arm over her, with her facing me, or even facing away from me. Either way works for us. We'll just pull each other close and fall right to sleep. Pretty much spooning.

I have to admit I am in that damned ex boat too. When I was with the x we could sleep any where. When we were in college we slept in my single matress in a loft just fine, small couch, no problem. It helped that she was really small, it counter acted my being fat. Another wierd thing was that I am a person who needs my 8 hrs of sleep. Having only 7.5 hours is enough to screw up my day. But when I slept with the x I could function perfectly on 4-6 hrs, no problem.

I assume it's something you'd have to get used to but I must say that I really like my space...when they are with you it is fantastic but when time comes to sleep I like to roll over and let that be it (I waste no time when sleep comes a calling :) ) As she is away though travelling atm for a few more months I must say I do miss it though!

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I would have to say my fav sleep position with a chick is me on my back and her on her stomach next to me....head resting on arm....her arm across my chest.
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