Horny Naggy Wife
 

I need some advice..

My wife is always horny which is great for me but she nags all the frikin time so it makes me not want to get my groove on. What would you do if your wife nagged the moment you walked in the door from getting home from work and continued to nag till you went to bed.

Anything??? :hmm:

after you give it to her good, sit down and thank god ;)

Your wife is always horny and you are upset??? May I be the first to say WTF?

*Minx scratches her head......very confused......gives up and walks away vowing to never try to figure men out.......

Would you rather be with a woman that nags and ISN'T into sex? Count your blessings.

For everytime you think "I don't want sex now", think of us who aren't getting it everyday (just for a second), and then go fulfill your manly duties and thank the maker for a wife like that.

I can see how the nagging would be a block to enjoying having sex, so let me give this a shot.

Sit her down, and tell her that you find it difficult to perform when she is nagging, because nagging is un-sexy. Having a sex crazed SO is great (I'll admit) but nagging for it completely takes away from the experience.

Tell her this, have an attempt at understanding. Tell her that the best way to get you in bed is _____. Romance, sweetness, a quick feel, whatever gets you going, and tell her that if she tried that instead of nagging, youd be a lot more likely to oblige; hell, you'd be better too.

Hope that helps

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For all of you who are saying "Dude, just do it," thanks. That's really helpful. Seriously.

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Understandably, most consider you lucky because you have a horny wife, but the simple fact of the matter is that if she is always nagging about it, it will get annoying. Really fucking annoying. [/bad pun]

Have you tried talking to HER about it? I know it's difficult, and you don't want to feel like the loser, but if you don't say anything to her, she probably won't stop. If she doesn't stop, I only see this going bad places. Sit her down one night, and tell her how you feel about it. Let her know that you love her, that you love sex with her, and everything wonderful like that, but stress the fact that when she nags you, you simply aren't interested in it. Good luck with that.

Oh... I would also be curious what the ladies of the board respond to this. What have your experiences with naggy husbands been like? You probably have a better idea what to say than I do.

Point of clarification: Is she nagging about wanting sex, or is she nagging about other stuff?

Here is the question I have: Is she nagging you about having (or not having) sex or just nagging in general (e.g., "you never come home on time", "you never help me around the house", "why did you leave the lights on?", etc.) ? If she's simply nagging you about having sex, seems like she would be amenable to curtailing the nagging if you assured her that you would have even more sex (with her, of course) if she stopped. If she nags about everything, but also likes lots of sex, my guess is that even with the promise of more sex she will continue her nagging. All things considered, if I'm going to be continuously nagged I might as well as get some sex out of it.

Damn, lurkette, great minds think alike. Didn't see your reply while I was writing mine.

She is naggy about other stuff.....the sex has never been an issue. She nags about anything and everything. I know I am blessed because she is horny as a mofo but like numist said...it does take away from the experience.

Ok, so the real problem here is that she's naggy in general (and you just told us she's also super horny to make all the men jealous ;) )

You need to address this by COMMUNICATING with your wife. Tell her you don't like to be nagged (suggestion, from experience: women do NOT react well to the use of the word "nag" - try "hounding me" or "bugging me to get stuff done" or else you've got an instant and very negative reaction). If she's bothering you about stuff that you really should be doing but are not, and she has a legitimate point, then suck it up and do what you should be doing and quit resenting her for reminding you. If it's just general nagging about your weight and why you don't bring her flowers and why can't we take a longer vacation this year and blah blah blah, tell her that you feel she's overly critical, and that makes you feel resentful and not at all amorous. If she has constructive things to say to you, great! But if it's just "why don't you ever do this, why do you always do that," it's not really productive.

Ok bonehed1 ask yourself some questions: Do the nags have merit? Is she nagging about things you know you should be doing but aren’t? If the answer is yes, then maybe you should do some of those things.

If she is just nagging to nag, one way to fix it is to 'do' something every time she nags. It doesn't mean beat her but tickling or something which she wouldn't really enjoy is a good training method. Negative reinforcement works. My wife used to say '...quit being a pain in my ass' or 'you are a pain in the ass'. She doesn't say that anymore *hehe pinch pinch*.

lol trust me...I have tried all the communication in the world....I have written notes, typed out letters, used frikin hand signals, sat her down and talked but she doesn't get it. She likes to nag about things that have nothing to do with me but somehow she brings me into it...The one thing I can't stand the most is when I walk in the door and she starts to go off about how come I am home so late. I get off at 5:30 and I get home around 6:15-6:30 but if I am home later then that she thinks I am going somewhere or cheating on her. She isn't used to California traffic since she has lived in Missouri all her life so she doesn't really know how bad traffic gets here. I frikin hate the 60 and 91 flippin freeways.....

I think I will try that Ustwo...her nagging doesn't have any merit whatsoever but I think I will try the tickling part since she can't handle that.

How about every time she nags you she has to put a quarter in a jar? And then every couple of months you get to use the jar fund to do whatever you want - buy tickets to a game or a concert (and go without her! ha!), or buy her lingerie she HAS to wear for you, or ooh ooh - she owes you a blow job for every dollar in the jar. She can't nag if her mouth is full.



WHERE the fuck did all this testosterone come from?

Uh...yeah...I was kinda wondering the same thing. :hmm:

But...good idea, nonetheless.

Didn't work on me, of course... ;)

That is a good idea Lurkette...hilarious...but good idea

maybe tell her that all the nagging is a turn off?

done that

well i'm fresh out of ideas, tell her you're into domination and invest in gag? The hard part would be getting her it all the time :)

And here i was trying to not be a smart ass and say that. How come you get to say it without seeming sexist;)

Cause I'm a girrrrrl. Neener :p

(It's still sexist, even if I say it. I just don't get in trouble. Who said life was fair?)

have sex with her all day every day til I die with my toes curled up...

I'm a horny bastard too :p

Is she home alone all day? or with kids all day? You might get better results if you relieve her from her daily duties like take her out to a dinner for the two of you. THEN explain that when she brings her problems to you the moment you step in the door you feel attacked. I try very hard not to give hubby even a long rundown of my trials of the day when he gets home. I vent to other friends or my mother during the day so that I'm not desparate to share that in his face the moment he comes in the door. Also I try to let him have some time alone first things after he comes home. You'll have to ask him but I think he appreciates that. Maybe suggest that she can "nag" all she wants later but she needs to give you some space first thing when you get home so you can wind down and be ready to face her. If she can at least give you that then maybe she'll "cool off" too and you both can deal with each other better. Also don't ignore the possibility of a counselor - even for just a couple sessions. Us telling you here what can be done won't be the same as some impartial person hearing the story from both sides and helping you both understand each other and find common ground. Good Luck to you both.

Plug her hole and don't take it out. There you manage to satisfy both conditions.

I take her out every friday night. She is stuck at home with the baby for now because she WANTED that. She wants to go back to work part time but she wants to be a house wife. I buy her jewelry, take her out every friday night, I even went as far as getting her a monthly visit to a local hot tub resort to relax and get a full body massage. Everything was fine before we got married then she started acting like this. I am confused about the whole thing but I got some ideas to try out on her now.

Nagging is what we do best.

Sex is the other thing we are also good at.;)

Quite true.

have ya'll tried marriage counseling? it can really make a difference.

What are some specific nagging examples?

Is she nagging about YOU or just life in general.

When the wife nags I attempt to take care of what is bothering her (if possible) OR leave her alone to be in her own misery. No reason for both of us to have a bad time.

Lier :p

Half the time when we complain about stuff it's only venting. We don't ALWAYS want you to fix it. Just sympathize and understand why it bothers us. Women need the emotional connection as much as we want the problem to go away. Just listening is half the battle.

You said that you guys moved to california, who's ideal was that? Could that play a factor in it?

Yes, my wife and I had this problem early in our marriage. She would immediately start talking at me the minute I walked in the door. It was overwhelming and would seem like nagging. She was actually just venting out her emotions for the day on me. This was her way of connecting with me. I finally told her I couldn't handle it the second I got home as I was still tense and stressed from work. Now we take 30 to 45 minutes to just be with each other quietly without talking about anything stressful. Then we sit down and talk about our days. This has made everything go much more smoothly. She gets to talk about her day, and I'm not stresses out or overwhelmed listening to it.

It was a miracle....I walk in the door and she was taking a nap with my 6 month old daughter. I did some cleaning and made dinner and as soon as I set her plate on the table she walked into the kitchen and was all smiles. She didnt nag once at all that night. The entire night was awesome and I guess all it took was ME making her dinner for once. Let's see what happens tonight!!

give it to her raw... butt nekkid...

last night I did......from 10 to 2.....its all good

I just wonder who she has to talk with during the day besides the kid. If she's only getting to talk to the kid until you come home, she could be kinda starved for normal chatter. Yes? No?

She talks to her friends and her mom. So she does get to talk to someone other then the baby.

i understand; sometimes my girlfriend gets like that and it's a little disconcerting when I'm not in the mood (yes, that DOES happen! hehe)

since it's your wife, you can do this, because I do this with my girlfriend. I just tell her to relax and that it makes me feel less inclined. she shuts up pretty quickly; good luck and let us know how it goes

ummm put something in her mouth to shut her up. I'm sure you can think of something. LOL.

Like Chef said... "Damn woman, I just gave you sweet lovin 5 minutes ago"

Watch someone get me because I probably got the number wrong...

My wife is perpetually ON. Sometimes you just have to say "Uh, If I don't sleep, I will die"

You know....some women nag for the hell of it. They just do. They seem to love the sound of their own voices. My brother's girlfriend is one of those women... I think this plays a big part in why they've two kids together but aren't married. To be honest, unless she switches the nag off every now and then, I don't see the relationship lasting long. I could not live with a "nag"... What makes it worse for my brother is that the nagging gets worse when they have company...she loves to tell the guests about how he cannot do anything right etc. It's bloody awful to witness.

Anyway...I'm glad you had a nice evening and she laid off the nag factor...however, you should not have to worry each day coming home as to whether she's going to be on your case. This makes coming home feel unappealing and isn't good for the relationship in the long run, IMO.

If I had to nag to get it I think I would probably wind up or perhaps already be in an extra martial affair

Its not just women that nag (gripe) all damn day. I truthfully believe that they naggers (gripers) enjoy getting disappointed just for a reason to bitch.

Not nagging here, this is verbal abuse. Its demeaning and henious on a persons self esteem. When it happens at a friends house I look for an excuse to leave.

Well she hasn't nagged since that night. She seems to have cooled down and I tried the if I dont sleep I will die thing and it frikin worked ROFL....last night she was tired as hell (wink wink) so she went to bed early but we had a great weekend.

EruptiveDreamz...she doesn't nag because she doesn't get it. SHE does all the time...she nags because she can and to piss me off.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

hello!

i have the idea for you that costs not so much money!

have you tried the earplugs! these special babies come in the flesh color so she may not guess the ear condition!

or you can wear the hat to cover the plug!

then you may have superior sex and enjoy for sure!

What a naughty suggestion! :D

LOL I think I am actually gonna try that to

Okay, so I came in kind of late on this one... but I just wanted to say, that if I don't get sex...I get a lot more naggy. Something about the hormones not getting released, I guess, they build up and make me all bitchy :)

Then again, if you're having regular sex, that's not an issue...

damn you should be happy

You lucky bastard.

I have a nagging wife too but she's not as horny as i would like her to be.

Re: Horny Naggy Wife
 

Personal experience with my girlfriend has shown me that when a woman is horny and hungry it's a very volatile combination. In her case it may be that some other need isn't being met (apart from her sexual desire). But it could also be that she is so horny that the only way for her to express her frustration is to nag---my girlfriend can get very bitchy when she's horny and I'm not giving it to her.

Just tough it up and give her one hell of a sex session one night... that should calm her down a bit.

I understand what your saying, but damn, I wish I had that problem! It has dropped off bad in the past few years. Count your blessings....

My wife gets mean as hell if it's been more than a few days since she's gotten lucky. She doesn't acknowledge the fact but after 5 years I've figured out the connection.

Wow, You are a lucky man