Ex G/F new B/F making threats....
 

This isn't really a question....just me spreading some info on my current life. So my ex g/f went off to Arizona for school earlier this year (that is why she is my ex...I knew she would have more fun not having a b/f...now she is my best-friend) So she goes to AZ and ends up getting a new b/f which is cool by me.

The only prob I have with the guy is he has threatened me MULTIPLE times....I'm not worried about that....I just hate the fact that he has it down as he don't like me yet he has never met me.

So the ex has come back from school for break and we have hung out....twice. Once the first night she got home, and second was on Thursday, we went christmas shopping together.

So I was talking to her today and she said her b/f wrote her an e-mail and asked if I wanted to hear it....I was like sure, I need a good laugh.

It was him making MORE threats towards me...I guess he is all in a uproar cuz I gave her a bear that is holding a pillow and says "Sweet Dreams" on the pillow (she always says that to me before she goes to bed...I saw it and had to get it....) He said he will gladly punch me in the face when he gets up here this summer and his shotgun is making the visit with him.

They have been going together for 4 months....and I don't see them breaking up anytime soon.

Why he has to threaten me I have no clue....I find it funny because He don't know how we handle business up here in Alaska....God damnit I know mexicans with AK-47's and AR-15's...I don't think his shotgun will bother me.

I'm sorry, I just wanted to share and see what some of your guy and girl thoughts are.

P.S. I already know 3 different guys besides me that will GLADLY help kick his ass because he has threatened them too because they have also talked to her.

:hmm: Major Problems He Has.:lol:

It sounds like this dumbass is way too insecure for it to last too much longer. The fact is, it seems your former girlfriend is already aware of the "dipshit factor" in her new relationship, and is looking to see how you feel about things.

I guess the important thing here is: are you over this girl? If you are, then lay it all out there; how you're offended that this jerk of a new boyfriend feels the need to threaten not only you, but others, for no other reason than your association with this girl. Explain that you like her, but in a "friend" way, and that it might be a good idea to keep "dumbo" down south (where his inbred ass belongs) otherwise things could get ugly....in a missing-person-search-and-rescue sort of way.

If you've still got feelings for her that aren't of a "friend" nature, then tell her that as well. It may be that she's looking for a good reason to dump the new dumbass and get back with a guy she really likes.

Sounds weird, would she really be with a guy that was threatening you?

Obviously, you can't think too highly of him, and if she was your best friend, would she really be with him if he was threatening you?

I wouldn't be surprise if distance wasn't a factor. He's mouthing off because there's _no way_ he's ever going to run into you. If you all lived in the same town, he'd probably back off, because there could be actual consequences. He might be just another loudmouth/drugstore cowboy. Which doesn't answer the question of why your seemingly-together ex is seeing this guy.

If you could take him, invite him up :D

Hahah, sounds amusing. Send him an e-mail asking him why he would punch you in the face, for pure comedy value, you should include a picture of 'yourself' i.e. the biggest most dangerous person you know! People like that make me chuckle, he probably feels threatened because your ex is always telling him how wonderful you are or something!

Guys do this all the time. All he is doing is marking his territory. Just imagine him as a dog walking up to your ex's leg and peeing her, because that is basically what he is doing. There is no harm in it, unless it goes past the stupid email part.

He is probably just jealous that the two of you are still friends. And since your ex is still with him, I am sure that means that this will be over soon, and that he means no harm by it. There might be some reedeming qualities that he has that she doesn't tell you about.

He does sound like a goober, though.

He still knows I lover her, but I won't do anything to rune a relationship that she is in....that's all up to her if she wants to go back out. As for him, I should email him and see what he says....I ain't worried....like I said, He don't know how we handle it AK style....haha

He's just a insecure dumbass from a hick town in colorado(steamboat).

has she told him to stop it? if she is a good friend of your then why is she not telling him to stop?

Without the foundation of trust, any relationship is bound to crumple. Add in a nice whiff of jealousy and contempt, I don't see this relationship lasting for a while, though love can be blinding sometimes.

What is her reaction to his stupidity? First thing I'd do personally, if someone was threatening my best friend and his friends, is dump his sorry ass. "Sorry, but I've known them longer than I've known you," ya know?

Ask her about it. See what she says. She obviously wanted to see your reaction and possibly talk about it, and maybe she IS looking for a way out. Can't he email you himself? Why does he need to go through her?

i enjoy the fact that it went rom a "jelous domestic problem" to an all out urban gun war....
hahahaha

Unless you have threatened him back, this is what I would do:

1. Fuck her silly.
2. Forward his threatening emails to the appropriate branch of law enforcement.

This fucktard's "threats" aside, I think you should look into getting back with the girl. He will NOT last.

Fuck not wanting to do "long-distance". I did it for 3 years with my ex- at least you got to live near her at soem point, I started out long-distance. It sounds like you had love. You still talk on the phone and such? C'mon, man. I think you should try making it work... love should not be bound by time nor distance, where such things are reasonable. Keep calling, keep emailing, and let love do it's magic work.

Dammit i'm turning into a softie or something. Don't tell anyone.

In highschool this guy swore up and down for two years that I was trying to steal his girlfriend...even sillier, I was dating a girl at the time. What did I do about it? Once I broke up with the other girl...I hooked up with his girl. It was the best revenge for having to put up with his constant threats and bullshit.

i asked her about it tonight, and she said she didnt think it was too irrational because she would be the same way if he was with a girl at home....so no i think i am leaving her place and goto a party to have some fun. later folks.

I wouldn't have anything to do with the girl unless she called the guy off. He is acting in an extremely immature manner. There is a word for what he is doing. It is "assault", and it is illegal. Alaskan law says that what he is doing is Assault in the third degree and is a class C felony offense.
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If your girlfriend has no problem with her beau doing this to you then she is not a friend of yours. I would tell the guy to cease and desist or you will file charges.
Don't try to tell me that it is ok for people to threaten each other with bodily harm. It is illegal and it is not a hallmark of a civilized society or person. If you and he are under the age of 18 then perhaps this is just childsplay, but if you and he are over 18 then you are messing with serious stuff.

fly over there... find him... stick a gun in his mouth... and shove a broom up his ass... that will teach him a lesson...

... but i guess you can get into trouble like that huh...

dude, most likely he's all talk.... if he really wanted to do something, he would have done it already... what dumb fuck is gonna go to jail over a "girlfriend"... come on man... 99% of the people that talk the shit, aint gonna do shit...

I wouldnt worry about it too much... besides you got the mexicans....

Maybe your girlfriends boyfriend is getting a little fed up because he may love her as do you. Maybe he senses your desire to be with her. Don't know if I could blame him.

I'd say let it go. You had your chance,now it's his.

He mentioned a shotgun? I'm sure the police would get a smile out of that. Not to be a narc, but if you feel like fucking him back, that's what I would do.

Uhmmmm... yeah. Sink to his level... that's the ticket! :rolleyes:

I think I agree with what's being said by some others. If she's okay with it, and he keeps threatening you, call the police. That's probably the most mature way to go about things. Also, stop hanging with her. Because her hanging with you makes it seem like she a) doesn't care what threats are being made and/or b) might like the extra attention or whatever that she's getting because of this.

I mean, come on. Maybe a few insulting emails could be laughed off. But if he's actually threatening bodily harm? Get real. Call the police. Whether you think it's real or not, do it. He'll get in trouble, and you can point and laugh.

I wouldnt quit hanging out with my friend because some dick was making threats.

I'd tell the guy to chill out, and if he's that insecure he needs to date someone who wont give him any competition.

I could understand if the guy said something like "Dude, I don't know you but she's my girlfriend now, so don't get any ideas."
But to throw out threats? What a douche.

I thought about it and I'm not changing my ways....I actually found out he is a controlling asshole...which I guess is what my friend likes. I say he is controling because he drinks every weekend(which is all right) but she asked him not to have around her because she's not like that and he said either she love's him AND his alcohol or she doesn't love him at all.

I have been told he is making these threats because he is afraid of her still having feelings for me. But then again, he doesn't need to be so immature about it.

I also know she likes the attention so I'm going to just lay low...and do my work thing.

I almost feel like taking a condom and spitting a milk lugi in it(nasty white one) and mailing it to him, just to play games...but I ain't like that so I'm not going to.... although it would be some funny shit.

What an insecure dipshit. Guys like that need to act macho to hide the fact that they are true cowards and weaklings at heart. And hes got that girl completely fooled, she probably thinks its out of total love for her that he makes these threats and bosses her around. Classic scenario of a woman mistaking a mans weakness for strength. Put him in his place and smack the girl upside the head for involving herself with such a tool:). But then again mabye thats what she wants. Some people like being used and abused because its comfortable.

She is your best friend? Why is she purposely showing you his threats and telling you about them? God only knows what she is saying to him about you. Take a step back and think about that. Sounds like you could use a new best friend.

I totally agree with these last 2 post. So that is why I said I was laying low and do w/o seeing her for a little bit. I already know that he is just talking shit....cuz if he were here, he wouldn't do nothin. Its amazing how distance can make someone think they are stronger...you know?

He swears up and down that he loves her and she loves him...so let them have there foolish love, when they live together and it don't work....not my fault :hmm:

I wrote a nice little e-mail today that told her to tell him to grow up, talk to ME instead of makeing threats towards me through her. I also told the whole class C felony thing and that if he wants me to Respect his wishes he has to Give me respect first...and I haven't gotten any so.

I also let her know that there were plenty of people that would love to kick his ass if he came up to visit, I not being one of them( I'm a lover, not a fighter) but I wouldn't object if it happened.

Go me. Show that biotch who's boss.

Was that the right thing to do?

Perhaps a little more compassion for your female friend may be in order, though I can see why you would be upset. I know I would if put in your situation. You did nothing wrong. Removing yourself from the "problem" was the best thing you could do and you have done that perfectly.

sillygirl - I was just playing around... i didnt really mean that...

I truly feel the guy isnt gonna do shit... Ive been in that situation, and the guy lived in the same town as me and he NEVER confronted me.... so i wouldnt really worry too much.... but if the threats become serious, 5-0 is the best way to go!

some one has trust issues

keep us updated on how this goes, i'm damn interested now
as for what you should do...like was said earlier, if he wants to hurt you over a girl, he's obviously just immature and insecure, and his (YOUR) girl will see that soon enough

Well she got really pissed at me and told me to Fuck off and said I was the one who needed to grow up. So obviously she is stupid and so is he....I'm gonna get his MSN name and mess with him, just to say hello :lol: it would be great.

Nah. Let it go, man.

It sounds like she's in desperate need of the attention she's getting right now, and that since you're no longer willing to play along she's kicking you to the curb.

Sorry, but that's life.

Let her and her asshole boyfriend go. Don't bother messing around with the guy, as it makes you no better than either one of them....and frankly, they're just not worth it in my opinion.

yea i aint talked to her since that email...does this mean the $100 she lent me a few days b4 does not need to be repaid? :lol:

She was a fat girl in grade school who could not get the time of day. Now she is an Anorexia Girl who is trying to catch up on attention she never got before. You said she tried to play you the same way. Best bet is to walk away and enjoy life. It is to short and can end at any time as you well know. (Think about that and stop playing games)
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whats he gonna do....shoot you? I wouldnt be afraid of him. hes gonna come up to alaska by himself when you have all your buddies with you, id kindly invite him up to see whats up.

ahahaha ive heard how you alaskans handle your buisiness

well since your not seeing her at all anymore... id say no... but if she finds you and asks for it back id give it back...

He is to controlling and i think she needs to leave him. It should have been clear that you are just friends. If he cannot understand that then he does not understand her needs to have male friends besides him. This is unhealthy behavior to be this suspicious/controlling.

Dil, I'm getting the impression that she's not putting forth much effort to make that distinction with him. So I'd say that while he's trying to be a controlling little bastard, she's helping him along by not clearing things up. If she was to tell it like it is, and set the record straight, and he still was such a jerk, then I'd agree with you.

But until she does her part, she's as much to blame for the situation as he is, IMHO.