Do you cheat? Have you been cheated on?
 

I read this article that says it's natural for a man to want to cheat on his partner while a woman only wants to settle down.

Has anyone in here ever cheated ?
Ever been cheated one? Gotten revenge?
For most people, I think when you get cheated on it hurts your ego more than your heart.

Honestly I think it's okay as long as they never find out .

I've been cheated on, and cheated.

It sucks but it draws you in like a moth to the flame.

I just realized I posted this in the wrong place.

I've come close once or twice but I really didn't want it to blow up in my face later so it wasn't worth it. Only reason I wanted to was I was sexually neglected in that relationship (like once a month) and I was in my early 20's. I decided to end it after waiting wayyy too long for shit to change. I still wouldn't put up with it but I think wouldn't go cheating over it now. I can't say "no, never" but I don't think I would now.

ive been cheated on but never cheated!

about the above statement,i think its in a mans nature to want to sleep with many women!
hell im surrounded by hot women i would love to have a go with! but i dont act on it cause i got a great woman,the greatest actually and i would do nothing to ruin that!
there is a bif difference between wanting to sleep with another woman and actually cheating!

I haven't cheated and have been cheated on (caused me to dump her immediately). Slimm has it right. I'm attracted to many, many girls during the course of the day. I went to the OU-Texas game yesterday, and it was like a supermarket of hot women of all ages. However much of my attraction stems from having an absolutely incredible woman at home that jacks up my libidio just by being around her. I used to notice girls, but it was the relationship with my wife that made me learn to appreciate them.

Never cheated. I have no respect what-so-ever for people that have cheated, I want nothing to do with them.

I have never been cheated on, well, I don't think so :\

i used to cheat; but i really can´t say that since i kind of think the saying, ´once a cheater, always a cheater´, has some merit.... well, i intend to be the one who breaks this.

well, i´ve cheated... and i´ve been cheated on... its a nasty cycle that all involved must break out of.

I would never cheat, because I know what it was like to have it happen to me, and it fucking sucked.

Luckily havent been cheated on or cheated on anyone. *knock on wood*
If you want to be with someone else, dump the person your with. Id rather be dumped for someone else, than be decieved-lied to.

Though, now that you mention it, he does look at other women, and it kinda makes me feel inferior, but then again, he wouldnt be with me if I were, no? Boys are boys after all..and I heard once..

It doesnt matter where you get your appetite as long as you come home and eat.

I cheated on my girlfriend way the hell back in 8th grade. I learned my lesson and now I'll never do that again because I saw the pain that I caused her. I never want to do that again.

I have yet to be cheated on, but I'm sure it'll happen at some point.

Trust --> Betrayal. If you put yourself in a position to be taken advantage of, you will be taken advantage of.

Whether or not it is natural for a man to have his way with as many women as possible is entirely irrelevant. Many things come 'naturally' to human beings that are illegal and/or considered wrong by the majority of society - murder, rape, assault, etc. Killing your enemies is the most effective and permanent way to deal with them - it is very, very natural.

If you only do what comes naturally, you are just an animal, and will be treated like one.

I think cheating can't be compared to killing in any way. Also, almost everything we do has an animal impulse behind it, good or bad.

I have cheated. I cheated on my 8th grade girlfriend...with her best friend. That was a messy one. And I cheated on onodrim about 3 years ago.

I really think it's just a matter of getting to know what you want. Especially when you're younger. I think there's a HUGE difference between cheating on someone when in high school and cheating on someone whilst in your 20s and above. The relationships you're in (theoretically) are much more adult later in life and have much more emotional involvement. Also, as you progress through life you get a better idea of what you want in a mate. That said, one must also be realistic and face the fact that all guys want to have sex with pretty much every woman they see. It's just a matter of having the maturity to turn down the opportunity if it arises when you're committed to someone else.

Never cheated and don't believe I ever will. Had opportunities but never really considered them. I'd never betray someone like that. My girlfriend kissed another guy once while we were fighting. It was kind of one of those Ross and Rachel things on Friend's. She thought we were "on a break" I didn't. It didn't bug me too much since I knew the relationship she had with this guy (on his end) was going to go that way. She was convinced he was just interested in being a friend. She's a gorgeous girl and a great person so there always seem to be some guys hanging around waiting for a shot.

I've been cheated on and it ruined our relationship. I've never cheated, I never will, and if my partner does then I'm gone before she can finish the sentence.

Never cheated nor been cheated on.

been both. I did realize it is no fun being on either side. I guess i'm finally growing up.... damn

I feel the same way. I could never cheat on somebody.

:lol:

I love this analogy! :D

I've never been a cheater
I don't know if I have been cheated on.

But I have been the one others have cheated for.
How do I take this?

Never cheated on a woman nor would I ever. To my knowledge I have never been cheated on. I think cheating is the most unforgivable and worst thing you can do to another person while in a relationship.

Did you knowingly get involved with another girl whom you knew was already taken? I've been wondering why people do this.

I heard this awesome quote about cheating the other day. "Before you decide to cheat you should ask yourself if you are willing to trade half of everything you own, for a 10 second muscle spasm."

i've never desired to cheat. and as such, i haven't cheated.

i have been cheated on. and it hurt. badly.

and now she's with the guy she cheated on me with. all i can say is "Now THERE'S a relationship built on trust!"

perhaps worse, i think she's trying to line me up where she'll cheat the other way with me! but all she's gonna get is a big "nu-uh"

I don't think I've been cheated on. My friends said that my ex had, but I won't believe it till she actually says she did.
However, I have cheated twice. The first time, she threatened to cheat on me. I of course was pissed and the opportunity came along that night so I took it. I did it more out of anger than desire.
Second time was just before we broke up. I just frankly didn't care anymore. Shouldn't have done it, but I was drunk and apathetic.

However, I hope I don't ever do it again.

I know what it's like to get hollowed out, so I could never hurt someone that way. Once you've been really betrayed, everything is different.

I have been cheated on.

I have cheated.

I don't participate in either one these days.

I have never cheated - I have never been cheated on.

One bad situation that I know of: One of my friends' boyfriend was cheated on in his previous relationship. Now he is too paranoid and way over-protected of her. He doesn't want her coming out with her friends because she might cheat on him. And if she does, he won't acknowledge her for a couple of days. So basically he doesn't trust her and punishes her because he got burnt by someone else.

I guess I should ask instead, "What do you consider cheating?".

I dont cheat. I cheated once in high school, felt very bad. Will never do that again.

before anyone cheats they should break it off with their "other". there is good reason to put someone through so much pain. oh, and i have never cheated and have never been cheated on (at least not to my knowledge).

I don’t cheat I will never cheat and above all I loath cheaters, of all kinds and of all methods

I can’t even cheat on a test, let alone another person. I despise cheaters.

The only cheating I can bring my self to do is in a single player game (like solitaire)

Been cheated on - in two long, serious relationships in a row.
It affected my ability to trust women for a long time - about ten years. Thankfully I finally found someone who deserved my trust.
In return, she will <i>never</i> have to worry about me. I respect her (and myself) too much to ever cheat

I was that girl once... I knew that this guy was seeing somebody, yet I slept with him anyway. I think I justified it because they weren't serious. They eventually broke up, and he contacted her months later. They got back together for a bit and broke up again.

well, never really did break up. She just stopped returning his calls both times.

Honstly I didn't feel bad about it. And saying that makes me feel horrible. Weird, eh?

Never cheated on anyone. I have left someone I was with in order to be free to be with someone else, but there was no cheating involved. I was quite honest with the girl I was breaking up with that I didn't see our relationship going where I wanted it to go. I was also up front that there was someone else I wanted to be with, but I hadn't even asked the new girl on a date yet. We've been married for 5 years.

I have been cheated on, by a girl I was engaged to marry while in college. Stopped by her apartment to surprise her with breakfast on my way to work one Sunday morning and her roommate tells me that she and the guy she brought home last night have gone out to eat.

Her car was there. Her roommates car was there, but she was not. She denied cheating, but the condom wrappers on the floor told me otherwise.

I've been cheated on,I have never cheated.

I've never been cheated on as far as I know, and have never cheated. I think the impulse is understandable, but to take the action is cowardly and immature. Either leave the relationship you're in, get permission to see other people, or keep 'em zipped. There's little enough trust in the world as it is without hurting people you (supposedly) love.

i have never been cheated on or cheated. my SO and i right now are semi-open (in theory, nothing much has happened), as long as we keep each other involved. the way i figure is if you feel the need to fuck others so badly that you can't resist, then open that option. and if you're with someone who can't open that option, and you're not able to resist, then it's likely to not work out.

I never cheated,

Had an ex girlfriend cheat on me.
But she was moron anyways, so it was no big loss

Yes, I foolishly fell in love with another's wife.
I knew their marriage was a sham, with no love in it.
Our relationship was very passionate, and significant.
But since she was Catholic, she kept trying.
I got tired of hiding, because I wanted her in my life, and I wanted to shout our love aloud.
And I eventually got frustrated and walked away from "the one"

I found out about 3 years later, that she had divorced her husband.
But by that time, I had moved my life elsewhere, never to return.
She won't leave, and I can't go.

I've got to work on my timing.:(

Her memory still haunts me in many ways.
But at least I know I can love again
I just have to make sure, that I find that woman that wants to stick around for awhile.

Interestingly enough, even though she was the only attached woman that I knowingly had relations with.
I seem to attract many that are in relationships already.
As if, I can give them something they are yearning for.

But I learned my lesson the first time, and I do not knowingly start up with an attached lady.
Now, if they don't tell me, I can't do anything about that.
But if I found out, then...I would break it off immediately.

I am now selfish...I want them only for myself
If I give my time & life to them, then the reverse is true.
That's the way it should be...sharing each other.
Love & passion is too significant to waste.

As a guy I really really hate the whole "it is guys nature to cheat." HORSE SHIT! I was in a realationship for 7 years and have to say I never considered or wanted to cheat. The funny thing is that I was so oblivous to the idea of cheating I guess I missed several women almost throwing them selfs at me. It took my x or my firends to clue me in. And as for being cheated on, well that sucks.

1st: I have been cheated on and let me tell you that it hurts your heart alot more than it hurts your ego. I could care less about my ego when someone who I love is involved.

2nd: I believe that qoutes like the 2nd part of your quote up there are totally sick and I really feel sorry for you that you feel that way. Have it done to you from someone who you love and tell me that.

Obviously if the person you love has cheated on you, they just did you a favor by showing you you're loving the wrong person. And I do believe that most people get their hearts confused with their egos.

That's bullshit. People who cheat are weak. That's the whole thing. They are weak because they can't seem to keep their pants on. They are weak because they give in to the easy sex that's in front of them. They're weak because in some cases they are in a relationship that they don't want but they don't have the balls to get out of it.

The only time I have ever cheated on my girlfriend was at two parties here at school, with the same girl. I was way too drunk, and had really no control over what was going on at that point. I did not have sex with the girl. We only fooled around both times. I had enough sense in me to know not to do anything like sex. After it happened I felt really horrible and called my girlfriend and told her all about it. She forgave me. She knows how much I love her and how much it hurt me that i let something like this happen. I promised her it wouldnt happen again.

I have been cheated on once before. My ex girlfriend was fucking this guy pretty much the whole time we were going out. I only found out about it when one of my friends went to her school's prom with one of her friends, and saw the guy and her there together. She ended up saying some really mean shit about me behind my back, that my friend ended up telling me the next day. I broke up with her that night because of what she had done.

been both. if your going to cheat on me make damn sure i don't find out about.

Hail Cheaters!

You are weak and selfish people.

Someone you supposedly care for has given a certain level of trust to you and you returned the gift with contempt and disregard. You have a flaw in your character that will grow more serious with time. If the problem is not addressed you will become worthless. When you are gone you will not be missed. The people in your life that you have poisoned will be better without you.
-GH

I haven't cheated. I thought about it had someone to cheat with but didn't do it.
I don't know if I have been cheated on but I don't think so. Ignorance is bliss.

Kinda both, long time ago, but the relationships were questionable/on a break/on their last leg.

Loved the quote about appetite and eating.

Funny true story:
I had just gotten back from my honeymoon, sitting next to my friend, when I hot girl walks by.
"Nice ass"
"Man, I just got back from my honeymoon, I don't need to be checking out other girls"
"Ive been married alot longer than you have, and let me tell you the difference between married and single men. Single guys suck in their gut, puff out their chests, and make sure their hair looks good. Once you're married, you can just stare like a dirty old man. If you start to suck in the gut, you know you're in trouble."

All that because a person stuck it in the wrong hole.

I have never cheated but i have been cheated on...I can't say that i am happy, But at the time my girlfriend came to me and told me.

It's funny cause she has been the only girl that i think i was ever in love with..and she cheated. She was pretty upset about it, She was crying and all that.

I kicked her to the curb.

I came close to cheating on my girlfriend once - but it never mattered, as we broke up before it became something for me to seriously ponder. It was one of those times when she was a year younger than I, and we wound up separated as I went to college a few hours away. But I was faithful! Just tempted. Guess that's what happens when you live in a CoEd dorm, huh?

As for Being Cheated On.....yep. It sucked. In fact, I did a whole thread about it in here already. Messed me up for quite a while when it came to trusting women.

....But I'm much better now.

never cheated, been cheated on once

I have been cheated on, and everyone knew but me for the longest time. It makes you feel like such a fool, which is why I have never done it to anyone else. I once almost kissed someone while going out with the person that cheated, and just about broke into tears just thinking about it. Needless to say, the relationship did not last much longer. But I could never cheat on someone knowing how it feels.

I have been dating a girl for a little over a year now and just recently I had to move to Kentucky for a job and she stayed in Chicago. I have never really cheated before, but since I have been here I met this chick and the sex in GREAT. I feel since my girl aint here and the sex wasnt nearly as good anyway its kinda expected for me to wander. My current girl has a lot of issues.... no head, sex only about once a week, over conscious about her body, everythings gross to her.... so its a great relief to actually be getting satisfied.

Now, I don't mean to be rude or vicious, but why not break up with the girl still in Chicago? You are only hurting her feelings, and stringing her along. If you did, she would also have the chance to see others, and you could still have the great sex guilt free?

I just think that if there is a way to hurt no feelings, that way should be taken.

I consider myself a person who wouldn't cheat. I've been in a place where I was the one cheated on - my GF with my best friend.

One thing I must say.

We say we wouldn't. We say I'm not like that. We say never. Until that one time you just can't control anything and it just happens. Even in your unwillingness to go there, it happens.

We're human. Sometimes it in anger, revenge, hate, lonliness, dissatisfaction, etc. Sometimes it just happens. And it sucks, and it still happens.

But we CAN say, with absolute certanity, that we will NEVER do it again.
Or at least, I can say that.

There are few lessons in life more painfully learned, and few that are driven home as hard, as the one where you learn that you are a lying whore, and that you don't deserve the love of your partner.

ive been cheated on multiple times. only done it once, early in a relationship, after I found out she had cheated on me. I felt like shit for a week even then. its one thing im very against for alot of reasons and will NEVER do again.

Nothing will kill a relationship deader than a little disloyalty. At least that's what my experience has told me. Even when it seems agreed upon... it's not. The girl wants loyalty. I've told a guy before that he can as long as he gives his heart and love to me. DON'T MAKE THAT MISTAKE. it doesn't work. His heart will stray soon after his mind does.

Thank goodness for Hal. Never met a more loyal guy.

Very well put.

I have never cheated. I have been cheated on.

You cheat on me. There are no second chances. Hit the road.


Well, I have been known to get one last Grudge F*** in before leaving. But after that your gone.