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lived2play · 09-03-2003, 04:20 PM

Been thru the same thing, at first I thought it was temporary but she took it very hard and never forgave me for not being ready. But for me I just enjoyed myself while she aint around although she was my ideal girl some good things just dont last when they really dont match dude.

tset · 09-03-2003, 07:16 PM

Hey Wry1,
I read your first post yesterday and it really motivated me to call her. The call went pretty well and I'm happy to say that only after 4 weeks, she's agreed to start dating me again. She wants to start slowly, and that's cool with me. I feel so relieved, my life is good again. Thanks for the motivation Wry1!

Thagrastay · 09-03-2003, 07:58 PM

There is an old proverb that goes: A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
Another that goes: The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
And my favorite: Don't shit where you eat or you'll end up eating shit.

jbrooks544 · 09-05-2003, 09:00 AM

Dude!...

That is GREAT! It sounds like "now you know". I didn't come to the realization that I couldn't live without my beau until she had been away for 3 mo. overseas. The absence helped me realize that I didn't want to be without her and I couldn't risk letting that happen. I proposed and we are still married - for a while - that was back during the cold war... So I'm happy and lucky.

My main point was that if you have doubts then it might not be right - by definition. Your original post said you had doubts - now you say you don't. If you are being honest with yourself now and you can't live without her then go for it dude!

isandro · 09-05-2003, 09:19 AM

Hey tset, I'm just wondering (and maybe I shouldn't bug you about it now, but) are you sure you're over this?
I mean, you miss her like hell and everything, but are you over your curiousity about dating other girls?

Hope you are, cause she sounds like one amazing lady

tset · 09-06-2003, 06:23 PM

I really do feel like I'm over my curiosity over dating other girls. I just want to be settled down with my girl. I'll probably propose in less than 6 mos. Wish me luck!

riptide4070 · 09-07-2003, 07:14 AM

most guys have problems with commitment. The idea you two have proposed is a good one but much harder then just commiting to the one you love.

Life and love and long hard roads. Perseverance is key to finding true love and joy in this world.

GrayWolf · 09-07-2003, 09:31 AM

Good to see something work out.

zenmaster10665 · 08-03-2004, 02:22 AM

hey tset, I am in a similar situation right now....how did it all work out for you??

The Phenomenon · 08-03-2004, 03:33 AM

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Originally posted by tset
I hear what you all are saying, and it makes sense. Problem is.....it's too late. She's already decided to move out. Her mentality is that this break is something that we definitely need if we have any chance to move forward (if that makes any sense). Honestly, for the past 2 years now, I've thought a lot about that awesome euphoric feeling you have when you first meet someone great and what sex would be like with other girls.

A lot of you guys are saying that sex with other girls (other than the ONE) is not that great. I bet you're right, I've heard the same from my friends. I feel like crap now because I think I made a big mistake in letting her go but then again, I think this is REALLY something that I need to clear my head of this stuff.

I realized something else the other day......any girl that start a relationship with from here on has GOT to be better than the girl I'm with because I wouldn't tolerate anything less. RIGHT? I guess the only problem with that mentality is that it might take me a long time to find that person. Oh well. I feel like total crap. Live and learn.

Dude, get on your knees and start grovelling. GET HER BACK. Tell her you are the biggest idiot the world has ever known and that you are sorry and that you have realised your stupid mistake. You want her back and you dont want her to move out.

Ask this girl to marry you.

Bentley Little · 08-03-2004, 05:24 AM

Don't let a good woman get away from you. They are hard to find. Get her back at all costs. Screwing around is fun, but it is like a drug, eventually the effects wear off and you are left with nothing. Take her, her effects will last a lot longer.

william · 08-04-2004, 08:12 AM

Bottom line - honestly - do you love her?
If you do, then you need to realize that the basics are all the same, they're just on a different person. The pups are pups and the puss is a puss. The result is the same.
So here's the twist - do you honestly love her, or the idea of being w/her?

09-03-2003, 04:20 PM	#41 (permalink)
lived2play Upright	Been thru the same thing, at first I thought it was temporary but she took it very hard and never forgave me for not being ready. But for me I just enjoyed myself while she aint around although she was my ideal girl some good things just dont last when they really dont match dude. __________________ Funny, all the people who know how to run the country are either busy driving a cab or cutting hair!

09-03-2003, 07:58 PM	#43 (permalink)
Thagrastay Crazy Location: Handrail, Montana	There is an old proverb that goes: A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Another that goes: The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. And my favorite: Don't shit where you eat or you'll end up eating shit. __________________ "That's it! They've got the cuffs on him, he's IN the car!"

09-05-2003, 09:19 AM	#45 (permalink)
isandro Crazy Location: Groningen, Netherlands	Hey tset, I'm just wondering (and maybe I shouldn't bug you about it now, but) are you sure you're over this? I mean, you miss her like hell and everything, but are you over your curiousity about dating other girls? Hope you are, cause she sounds like one amazing lady __________________ -Life, liberty and the pursuit of hamburgers.

09-07-2003, 07:14 AM	#47 (permalink)
riptide4070 Addict Location: Boone, NC	most guys have problems with commitment. The idea you two have proposed is a good one but much harder then just commiting to the one you love. Life and love and long hard roads. Perseverance is key to finding true love and joy in this world. __________________ "the greatest trick the devil ever pulled, was making the world believe he didn't exist" -Kevin Spacey 'The Usual Suspects'

09-07-2003, 09:31 AM	#48 (permalink)
GrayWolf Tilted	Good to see something work out. __________________ They are too young when you start worrying that they might be too young. 18 is my lowest limit. I'm going to be 25 next month.. No piece of ass is worth getting pounded in my own. - Johnny Rotten (I laughed for so long when I read this...)

09-03-2003, 07:16 PM	#42 (permalink)
tset Upright	Hey Wry1, I read your first post yesterday and it really motivated me to call her. The call went pretty well and I'm happy to say that only after 4 weeks, she's agreed to start dating me again. She wants to start slowly, and that's cool with me. I feel so relieved, my life is good again. Thanks for the motivation Wry1!

09-05-2003, 09:00 AM	#44 (permalink)
jbrooks544 Addict	Dude!... That is GREAT! It sounds like "now you know". I didn't come to the realization that I couldn't live without my beau until she had been away for 3 mo. overseas. The absence helped me realize that I didn't want to be without her and I couldn't risk letting that happen. I proposed and we are still married - for a while - that was back during the cold war... So I'm happy and lucky. My main point was that if you have doubts then it might not be right - by definition. Your original post said you had doubts - now you say you don't. If you are being honest with yourself now and you can't live without her then go for it dude!

09-06-2003, 06:23 PM	#46 (permalink)
tset Upright	I really do feel like I'm over my curiosity over dating other girls. I just want to be settled down with my girl. I'll probably propose in less than 6 mos. Wish me luck!

08-03-2004, 02:22 AM	#49 (permalink)
zenmaster10665 Bokonist Location: Location, Location, Location...	hey tset, I am in a similar situation right now....how did it all work out for you?? __________________ "Beware of the man who works hard to learn something, learns it, and finds himself no wiser than before. He is full of murderous resentment of people who are ignorant without having come by their ignorance the hard way." -Kurt Vonnegut

08-03-2004, 05:24 AM	#51 (permalink)
Bentley Little Insane Location: In my head...	Don't let a good woman get away from you. They are hard to find. Get her back at all costs. Screwing around is fun, but it is like a drug, eventually the effects wear off and you are left with nothing. Take her, her effects will last a lot longer. __________________ That is my 2 cents. Last edited by Bentley Little; 08-03-2004 at 05:28 AM..

08-04-2004, 08:12 AM	#52 (permalink)
william Psycho	Bottom line - honestly - do you love her? If you do, then you need to realize that the basics are all the same, they're just on a different person. The pups are pups and the puss is a puss. The result is the same. So here's the twist - do you honestly love her, or the idea of being w/her?