Do yo want kids?
 

As the title says. Do you?

I used to swear that I did not want kids till I was almost 30. Now I am 24 now and I am wanting kids. I have friends that have kids and I actualy envy them. Even worse is that I am now single so it is really not even an option. Oh well. Guess that is how the cookie crubles for me. How about hte rest of you guys and gals?

I'm thinking NO! for now.

Maybe I'll want kids when I'm 30.

nope not really. who knows tho, maybe in the future, that could change. my recently married friend who HATES kids just told me that she thinks life isn't complete until you become a parent. scary.

I think I'd make a good parent, but at the same time the thought is far too scary to seriously debate. What I hope happens is I find someone I can love and cherish, and together we'd end up unleashing our spawn across the Earth.

Okay, more like raising a couple of amazing kids, but "unleashed spawn" just sounds a helluva lot cooler.

I definitely want to have like 2 kids...Not any time soon, I'm 18 lol....so maybe in 10 years....Although I plan on getting married sooner than that. I wouldn't want a family until I could make life for them as good as possible.

I want kids, but not now. Maybe in a couple years once I get out of college and start settling down.

I really do not know what I want to do with my life, but I do know that I want to be a mother. I'd like to raise three children--maybe not have children, I would like to adopt or foster. Granted, none of this will happen in the immediate future, since I'm a 19-year-old college student with plans of going to law school. But, definetly something I want to do in the future.

I want kids when I find that special girl to spend the rest of my life with and I am sure that we could take care of those kids. Babies and toddlers are just so cool.

I need my education to be done before i do the horizontal samba without protection of any kind .. :)

But yeah .. i want kids. Only about 2 though ..

The only reason I would ever want a kid(s) is to show my parents how they should have raised me. I don't think that is a reason good enough to have a kid. I also have a lot of emotional baggage and was raised poorly. It's very difficult to break the cycle and so I choose not to repeat it.

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Pet animals are close enough to children for me.

I was certain for as long as I can remember that I wanted kids. I got married and we had one - now I'm not as certain. Don't get me wrong, I love him in a way I didn't think was possible. But all my preconceived notions about parenthood didn't even come close to the real thing.

It's the most challenging and most rewarding thing I've ever done. And that's coming from a man who's done some pretty amazing things in his short life.

So, yeah. It's a bitch. But it can be breathtaking as well. Go for it.

Nope, almost had a kid once, never want to have them. Ever.

Oh wait, i want to name my first porsche Stacy, and my second one valentine :)

*edit my cars will be my babies/kids, if i didnt make that clear

Oh yes i do, i'm 19 and i already want them now.
Reason takes over tho', and i am going to wait untill i have a job and has settled down

One day *sigh*
In a long term relationship on a long term plan.
Children can be huge bumps in the road when unplanned.

Im only 18...i reckon I wont be mature enough for kids until I am at least 25

I am 25 years old, and live with my girlfriend of 10 years. We both have excellent jobs and college degrees and make about 100k a year together. Neither of us want children. I plan to go to law school next year, and my girlfriend is starting medical school. Sometimes I feel selfish for not wanting children. I am the last chance for my family to have someone carry on my family name. I know that my father would love to have someone to carry on the name. I just don't think I'm that person. Maybe when I'm older I will have children, but right now I enjoy spending my money on myself.

Am I a selfish jerk?

Please provide your feelings.

I know that I want 2 kids. I have known since I was in my mid teens. My fiancee at first NEVER wanted kids, but with my constant questioning, and her and I getting more and more commited to each other, she has finally warmed up to the idea. She's already gone out and looked for names for our kids, hopefully they'll be a boy and a girl. Our daughters name will be Arianna Eve and our sons will be Bowen Andrew. The initials of our daughter would match my fiancee and our sons would match mine also. Fun stuff.

I want some as soon as I can. In my opinion, having kids and helping them to become great individuals is the whole point of life. A lot of North Americans don't seem to think that way though, I find that a little sad..

I've said no kids ever since I started having sex. Heck i almost considered storing some of the baby-batter and getting a vasectomy at 21. Try to find a urologist who'll do that.

But anyways - Now i'm 23. I think that someday I may want to have kids, but I just don't think the woman that i'm in a long term relationship is the one for it. Between her health issues, family issues and workaholic nature, I really don't think I'd be fair to my future, if any, children. Tough situation because I've been with her for quite a while, i know she wants to have children eventually, and I just keep saying no.

I don't think I want kids, but who knows how things might change. I just don't have that maternal urge, and I really like my life the way it is now. I also have some genetic stuff I'm concerned about passing on. But I think I'll go start a thread about wtf is up with the insane drive for grandchildren - my in-laws are trying not to push but they're doing a very bad job. Lately it seems like every discussion includes "so when are you going to stop fooling around and have some kids already." Not in those words, exactly, but I get the point.

related thread http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...threadid=17683

I'm 24, and I want kids. Not now...I'm not at a stable point in my life at all, but when I do get stable, you better believe I want kids. Thing is that I don't want to get married, so a little catch 22 ;)


MB

I'm 22 and already have one thats 1 1/2 years old, not planned but everything worked out. So I'm very happy and watching my son grow up and getting married next summer to my fiance and his mother.

fuck no, and if i ever get the urge, I will babysit one night for a friend. That'll surely change my mind.

I'm gonna adopt a Vietnamese boy and name him Charlie.

Bigamy!

One of the funniest remarks I've seen in a while. Thanks for the laugh, King.


Anyhoo, kids scare the bejesus outta me. All I can think of is a little me running around, pulling advanced versions of the pranks I performed, with the same malicious disregard that I had when I was a bit younger. Chilling.

My girlfriend wants children, and brings it up constantly. I respond with "Not 'til I'm 30." Her bottom lip quivers every time, so we'll see how long I can hold out.

NO kids. My gf wants some someday however. Married by 26 and possibly think about kids around 28. And then I would only want ONE!! Call me what you want (selfish is the term used most often) but I would rather have a nice boat, acouple dogs, a beach house and enjoy it with my wife. Thanx.

Cheers

Pushing 30 myself now, I find myself thinking about having kids more and more. We are simply waiting to finally have our living arrangements finalized before we start having kids. That should come in a year or so and then. Until then, we both anxiously await the day.

yeppers

My plan is to not get maried till like 28 29 ish and not have kids till I'm like thirty. Who knows thought thats like 10 years away alot could happen.

I've been watching my cousins this summer and that has cured me of any misgivings or reconsideration I might have had. I have always known I didn't want children and just to seal the deal I watch that Maternity Ward show so I can see how much it sucks.... No babies coming out of me!

Heck yeah I want kids. I want 2 boys and a girl. That would be my ideal family. Kids are great.

I think ill wait till like 28-30 to have kids....no pint wasting your prime on a bunch of no good little brats :) im not saying kids are bad they jsut take a lot of your time

i'm 26 just had my first 3 weeks ago......chages your life

YES!

I'm only 18 and in college so now is DEFINATLY not the time. Even though I know children at this age would in no way work, I am still baby/kid crazy. It has even started to scare me (I'd hate to know what my bf really thought as I stopped to smile and play with the millionth baby I saw that day! )

I'm 28 and just had my first kid (well the wife had it, but you know what I mean). Perfect age to start having a family. Long enough out of college/grad school to start a career, but before 30 when women can start having complications during pregnancy...

NO.

I'll wait untill my paternal instincts kick in. Untill then I'm going to make the most out of these years.

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Love kids. Truly. A bit young now, but, well, the gf is Catholic, doesn't believe in ANY form of BC, so... it makes things interesting. Let me just say, she has 5 sisters (no brothers, and 3 unborn sisters :( ). Makes for an interesting relationship. We'll wait a few years when we're married, and then, lord knows if she's fertile she'll be shooting them out like a texan with a cannon.

P.S. 2 is enough kids for me, that way we can play man-man defense instead of zone.

Well, about kids, I don't plan to have more than one if any. And you all should feel the same. Do your part and don't have more than one child. Overpopulation is a problem, and if people continue to average 3.something children per family, the population will increase far too fast for this planet to support it. So, no matter what traditions you may have, do not have more than 2, and try to convince the people around you of it. In fact, the government needs to try to limit the number of children than a family can have, or charge extra tariffs for those that do have more. It sounds horrible, but when you think about it it's really necessary. Also, if every couple only had one child, think of how much the quality of living for the individual would increase since the human population would be lower.

Im a 26 yr old guy that is getting married in april and I cant wait to have kids. We prob. will not start trying for a least a year but I actually think about how it will be to actually try to get someone pregnant when I've spent so many years trying not to get anyone pregnant. It will definitely be a trip .

I'm 26, and my wife is 29. Our daughter just turned 3. We love her to death! She wasn't planned, but she's turned out great. I'd like a boy, but I think we're done. Still some discussing to do on that topic, but I'm content with my little girl.

China did the method exactly as you describe. The government, in return for demanding no more than one child per family, takes responsibility and cares for children in boarding schools and whatnot. When it comes to raising children, there really is no right or wrong way to do it, but I highly dislike how they do it.

I gotta disagree - I supposed in an ultra-relativistic sense, there's no right or wrong way, but there are better or worse ways depending on the outcome you want. The researchers I work with are doing research in Romanian orphanages, and let me tell you there's some fucked up shit going on there. They (the Romanians, not the researchers) think there's something wrong with abandoned kids, and that's why they end up fucked up. It just doesn't occur to them that being tied down to a bed, with nothing to look at, and human contact twice a day when you're fed and changed, for the first 2-3 years of your life, is to blame for the massive disorders in the orphanage-raised kids. From what I've heard, China is a little better with their abandoned kids but still far from optimal in terms of early development.

Yes, I most definitely want kids.

Just not yet!

We're only married less than a year, though together for about 5. I guess she wants them within the next 48 months which is OK with me.

She says she wants four, but I reckon she'll change her mind after squeezing out one...

Mr Mephisto

It's one of things you need to work out for yourself. Do you want them at the age of under 30 or after?

I have two kids, first happened when I was 22 and I thought it was going to ruin my life, however that's not the case. I would rather have them young and at a age where I can play with them then too old and not wanting to.

I'm 31 now and have a 7 month old girl, wouldn't change the way my life's gone at all. To start with I would have, thought I was to young but it has a way of sorting out that, "I'm too young to have kids" shit.

Number 2 is the last, we have one of each and that's good for both of us.

You really need to make your own mind up, just remember, when you do have kids they are for life, don't be one of these assholes (like my real dad) who pertend they never happened.

Not to be a dick, but I really don't have to work it out. I am single so it really does not matter what I want in the line of kids. It is sort of hard for me to have them being a guy and all. But in thinking of it more and more one reason I want them is so I do have the energery to keep up with them. But I am also fearfull of being like my parents. They were always working and not really around much. But like it really matters, I am single. Oh yeah, I am not bitching or having a pitty party. I honestly was just wondering how other people felt with or with out kids. Actualy Mortius made me think. How many people have thought "Oh I am too young for kids" and given up theri kid? Maybe some people need to grow up and face the conquences of their actions. Maybe that is what I am doing, in a way. I am no longer thinking "I am too young".

Oh well, continue to discuss.

not now. I'm 28. All I can think about is what I can buy next or where to travel. Can't see myself with kids ever really. My gf feels the same way...we've been living together for almost 6 years. Even after that time we're pretty happy together just relaxing and not having too many worries.

This coming from the same guy who declared he's never going to have sex?

Yes. Paradoxical, isn't it? You just finished identifying one of my daily struggles, MrFlux! Maybe I'll just adopt.

Oooo, bad example imho. Check out this site
http://www.refugees.org/world/articles/women_rr99_8.htm

Can you imagine the consequences of MANDATING that families only have one child? We're talking mass infanticide (slaughtering of unborn AND born babies). That article tells it pretty well. For those that want a quick summary:

"The official sanction for violating the one-child policy is a fine. However, the People's Republic of China (PRC) government acknowledges that it cannot always control how local officials enforce the policy. Because of regional population quotas, local officials have an incentive to keep the birth rate down. Chinese women have reported being forced to abort a pregnancy or to be sterilized. Men have told of being severely beaten and having to send their wives into hiding to deliver children."

"Without permission, a second child cannot be registered and, therefore, does not legally exist. The child cannot attend school (without payment of bribes) and later will have difficulty obtaining permission to marry, to relocate, and for other life choices requiring the government's permission."

"The government generally pays for birth control and abortions (and a woman who has an abortion receives a vacation with pay)."

"Given the longstanding preference for boy babies in China, the one-child policy has made female infanticide common. Baby girls are also abandoned at orphanages and churches. "

Okay, i didn't say it would be short, better to just read the article, i didn't cut much (maybe half?). Anyway, overpopulation actually isn't nearly as much a problem here in the US as in third world countries where birth control and other contraceptive methods aren't readily available (if at all). However, this thread isn't about overpopulation, so i'll stop here. Definitely respect your decision to have only one though. Still, i would prefer two.

P.S. If you want to discuss overpopulation, is there already a thread up, or i'll welcome a discussion for a new thread in tilted politics or something. Just PM me the thread name/address. Personally i don't know much about overpopulation in the US

Edit? That's what the 'edit' button is there for isn't it? Sorry to derail but if you want to 'edit' your post (change something around) you can press the EDIT button located down and to the right of your post. It's there for a reason; use it buddy!

-the more you know-

Sorry if that sounded too harsh or mod-like. I'm just sharing the knowledge ;)

want kids? i got kids 6 of them .5 boys 1 girl she is the youngest at 15 just startes high school yesterday.the boys range in ages 29 28 22 21 and 16.my wife and i wanted a big family but was a real challenge to raise them. we started out 30 years ago just us 2 now we have a total of 17 counting wives and grandkids.

Got one, got one on the way. I gotta say you have to be willing to give up a lot...they really take a lot of your time up. But it is definitely worth it. WARNING: watch your s.o. afterwards, postpartem is a bitch.

As scary a thought as it is, I do want kids. My first son will be named Matthew Issac, and the girl will be Amanda Lynn (props to anyone who catches my pun.) After those 2, well, I haven't thought that far ahead.

I want two, a boy and a girl, but not for a long time. Maybe after I finish college, get a nice job, and have a few years to spend with my wife.

I have 2 boys, and I wouldn't trade them for anything even though they can be exasperating.

I dislike babies, I think they're annoying, needy, expensive, and troublesome. However, this is something to be said for having a child, a symbol of love of both its parents.

I am torn. I want kids, yet I would also like to have a life, and money.

I am still young...19...and I have always wanted to have kids, but remember they are expensive. I figure I will do it when I have the money, and wife to do it.

I want kids. Unfortunatly, my girlfriend doesn't want to have kids until we are married for a few years. This sucks only because I don't want to be old when they graduate (if they do) high school and college.
And please please please, no daughters.

Never really wanted to have kids, but fell in love with a woman who did. I knew if we got married we would have kids so I took the plunge (It did take us 10 years to get married!). To add to everything, my wife had a difficult pregnancy (5weeks in the hospital) and our son was born 2 1/2 months premature (2lbs 10ozs) with a number of complications. Long story short, is that I am now a stay at home dad and loving it.

I never would have thought it, but it really is one of the greatest things in life.

no i do not want either kids or a so just not worth the finical problems this man is single and happy for ever

Right now I do not, and suspect I never will.

i dont want kids.... i want clones....


ok just kidding... really... i dont know if i want kids... eventually ill prolly want some... but not now... no way now...

I am only 21 but i think that if i met a cool enough gal and fell in love and got married i would totally want to have a child... maybe a wait a few years, but honestly im pretty anxious to have my life set up and stable.

no not now at least
maby later when im married

already have 4.

nope.

Not right now, but when I do, I think I want to have one, then adopt another.

Definently not, there are enough humans as it is. Regardless of population issues, just turning on the news is reason enough not to for me.

http://www.vhemt.org/art/colorvisualize.jpg


Check out http://www.vhemt.org....
Phasing out the human race by voluntarily ceasing to breed will allow Earth's biosphere to return to good health. Crowded conditions and resource shortages will improve as we become less dense.


This is an interesting site. I agree with a lot of what goes on here.

Maybe you should volunteer Guttersnipe :p

I'm 38 years old. Never wanted em, never will.

No. Children. Ever. I have neither patience nor maternal instinct nor the financial resources (and I will never have them, since I'm a public servant) to raise children. I don't wish them harm, but I don't want any of my own. It was a big bone of contention with Fiance #1, because he was born to be a dad. I also think that pregnancy is the squickiest thing on the planet. I hate doctors, and don't want to destroy my body by becoming pregnant.

I have known since I was 8 that I never want children, and I'm honestly getting a little sick of all the people that say, "Oh, it'll be different when they're your own" or "You'll change your mind when you get older" (I'm 26). Whether or not I want children is no one's business but mine. I don't understand why it's okay for me to say things like, "I don't like dogs," but it's not okay for me to not want children. The world is overpopulated as is, and the last thing we need is more kids. If you have the patience and money to raise kids, that's wonderful. I wish you well. Just don't expect any from me.

Rant over.

I think I'd like to have children later in life. It would come down to what my future wife and I decide and I could go either way. They're cute but they are also one heck of a long term responsibility.

kids? YES, right now? NO.

when I finish university and get a good job perhaps, but Ill have kids, and hopefully, many:D

I've known since as long back as I can remember and my parents have told me that I always said i'm never having kids. I'm 22 now and have never wavered on this. My only caveat: if i'm REALLY REALLY wealthy at some point, then yes i will because i will be able to give them proper education a good chance at happiness.

Yep I definitely want kids...

When I grow old I don't want to be lonely. Also you sort of want to leave something in this world when you go.

Ideally I'd like to have about 4 kids but that's only if finances permit.

To late. Already have 2 girls. The S.O. wants to have another one, but I'm not so sure. A 3 (almost 4) year old and a 1.5 year old is hard enough to keep up with :)

I love all 3 of my girls tho (kids + S.O.).

I've always said that I don't want to go through childbirth. Growing up, I used to say that Id adopt.

Now, at 25, I know that I don't want kids at all. I like most kids, most babies. But I could not handle being a mother. Frankly, Im scared to death that I'd become one of those people who drowns their kids. I don't deal well when babies cry at all.

So no kids for me.

Not anymore. Anybody want mine? (17, 14, 11) They're hardly used and get straight A's in school. :)

At least not right now. I am schizoaffective and still getting on a stable set of meds, and we live paycheck to paycheck.. Maybe in the future me and Shyla will agree on kids, who knows.

if i can afford to raise them properly (both fiscally and time-wise), maybe I will, but my limit's two. I won't even think about it [more] until I found a girl I'd want to have kids with.

I think I could handle children if they came out 18 years old (birth canal size problems nonwithstanding). I can't stand children screaming. It seems like an epidemic. Kids nowadays just scream all the time. When they are happy, scared, sad ... anytime is a good time for a three year old to open their maw and let out a high-pitched wail. I don't remember myself or my sister doing that.

i have video footage of me running around and screaming.

i'd either want two or none. but i'm not even thinking about that right now. i think i'd be an awkward mother anyway :P

Yeah, I really do. The guy that lives next door was teaching his son to ride a bike w/o training wheels today... I just watched in awe. It was beautiful.

I do, though, want to wait untill I can properly support them finacially.

/ How's that for bringing a thread back from the dead?

I most certainly do want kids. However, I don’t want any until I’m financially very secure and I can’t see that being the case for at least 8 to 10 years, particularly if I head in the post-grad direction. I guess I just want to be a good provider.

I’d like a daughter and a son, or two daughters and for them to be very close in succession. That is, a year or two apart.

Never. Can't see the point of the little bastards; I'm really far too selfish to have kids.

I would never do that to somebody i didnt know, you know what i mean? Would YOU choose to be born into this country right now? i know i sure as hell wouldnt.

YES!!! My wife and I have been trying now for over six years. We're kind of stuck now until we can come up with $15k though.

I've always wanted kids. I'm 27 and have 4 boys. They're loads of fun! I'm glad I didn't wait very long, because now I can enjoy parenthood while I have the energy to keep up with them.

I think so, eventually. Definitely not anytime soon.

Yep, it appears I do based upon my track record. Three girls, ages 14, 12 and 9.

And, an "oops" on the way, due in July

i've always wanted kids, but a few years ago discovered i may have trouble getting pregnant. now, i'm not so sure. it took a long time to come to terms with the idea that i won't have children (hell, i still struggle with it some days). i would definitely need help from a dr--which means a lot of expense. plus, i am at an increased risk for miscarriage and i'm not sure how well i'd handle something like that. but mostly, i just don't think i could emotionally handle getting my hopes up trying to get pregnant and not succeeding (or worse, miscarrying).

adoption is an option, but i've hit a point in my life where i just don't have much urge to get married (and when it hits it tends to be very short-lived). i don't think it would be fair to a child to not provide two parents.

the bf wants kids but he says he wants me more...i feel a little guilty about that but he's a big boy and can make that sort of decision for himself. besides, at the moment finances aren't where i'd want them to be for kids anyway.

I have never had the least bit of desire to have children. It seems that when the paternal instincts and longings were being passed out, I must have been in the line for beer or something. Don't get me wrong, there's absolutely nothing wrong with having kids, but people these days shoot them out like it's some sort of sport. I refer to today's CNN item:

http://www.cnn.com/2005/LAW/01/05/ch....ap/index.html

If I were going to do it (God forbid) I would ensure that I was financially stable, emotionally mature and mentally and physically able to raise them correctly before my partner and I even consider it. Very few people do that anymore, and at the risk of being flamed crispy, I will go on record as saying that parenthood is a crapshoot at best.