How many of you straight guys would share a bed with another guy?
 

In cases where if there were 4 guys and only 2 beds in a hotel room. You can't afford your own room, there's an uncomfortable couch or no couch, you know...cases like that. Do you consider it gay? I don't but it seems like a lot of guys are freaked out by the idea.

Well, it might not seem like it but I am the most secure human being in this planet when it comes to sexuality. I once went to DC with two friends of mine. A dude, my beast friend and his cousin, a girl. The girl was a traditional human in that she knew (or more accurately, expected) I would have a problem with sleeping with him so she volunteered to share a bed with me (in the most non-sexual way possible) - I obliged, of course. I would not have had a problem with sharing abed with my best friend. I have no sexual attraction to males whatsoever. I might appreciate their prowess in the "swag" category but thats as far as it goes.

I have shared beds with other males but they were all immediate family members. But I would not have a problem with sharing a bed with another male.

I just think if girls can share a bed together without it being sexual then guys can too. I mean, I've heard guys say it was gay and talk about boners...it's like them saying "if you think there will be boners are you tryin to say you will get one?"

The question seems a bit too theoretical. Having been in the situation before, I'm glad to grab a blanket and take the floor simply out of courtesy. If someone had a gun to my head, I'd obviously do it and I wouldn't consider it gay (though it would be quite strange to have someone threaten my life and provide those instructions). It would only become gay if there was sexual contact between two members of the same gender, which I don't imagine there would be.

Freaked out? Not guys that have played GI Joe for a long weekend. When you're wet and cold and told to sleep in a hole in the ground, you welcome having another human body next to to you. The whole I'm-male-safety-bubble-or-its-gay thing sloughs off pretty quick. Would I sleep in a large hotel bed with another dude? No problems with it as long as he doesn't snore like a chainsaw. It's just a bed and it's just sleep. What's up with the innuendo, society? Makes ya wonder. Is sharing a bench seat with some dude on the metro gay too? Wow, I'm not up with these trends. Everybody sits sideways on their two-person seat to occupy the space for some reason. What if I sleep in a truck on the driver's side with another dude in the passenger seat? Is that acceptable? What about if a few guys are over at my place and one of them falls asleep on the couch after his 19th Budweiser? Is that wrong?

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Okay, let's clear up some stuff first (and this is really important, mission critical, quite crucial):

A: Straight women cannot perform homosexual acts around men. Let me clarify: It's perfectly acceptable for women to make out at nightclubs, Mardi Gras, college parties, and Parcheesi night at your friend's house. It's also okay for women to grope each others' breasts and buttocks and legs and crotches. They're still heterosexual and have nothing to fear. Even a woman going down on another woman isn't gay if a heterosexual man is watching. Women are allowed to grope, lick, or finger another woman and as long as a straight man is within 50 feet, it's perfectly normal. In fact, it's highly encouraged behavior and many men judge their partner's heterosexuality and suitability as a mate on her ability to bring a woman to orgasm.

/sexual behavior trends for sub-30s crowd in the United States circa 2010

Also:

B: If two hetero dudes are sleeping together in a hotel bed, the whole morning wood issue shouldn't be a problem unless they're spooning. Which, in the context of this thread, would be gay. If I'm sharing a bed with some dude, we're both facing away from each other the entire night and there will be no sheet rustling whatsoever. It's part of the genetic code of all heterosexual males along with the desire to eat meat and hatred of pastels.

yup guys can too, but honestly most men out there (in the US anyway) aren't secure enough with their sexuality and are too homophobic to be able to, which is pretty ridiculous if you ask me...as far as the whole boner thing, well, they happen and a secure man would realize this as normal and not be freaked out by it...i have slept in very close proximity to other men before and it only becomes a big deal if someone makes it one

Huh. Used to do it all the time. Going to visit [random campus]? SOP was 2 guys to a bed. It's really not a big deal.

Fine by me. Been there, done that.

Worst case - stay dressed, and really, it's no different from being asleep on the bus next to them, is it?

Very well put....

Played GI Joe for way more than a long weekend and never had an issue. Worked in circumstances that required close quarters for extended periods, and never had a problem with it.

You take rack time where you can get it. It's just sleep. Shit can turn nasty awful quick under those circumstances, and you want your team close.

yeah I used to take trip with my friends all time time, I've filled a hotel room with like 10 guys before, another crashing in a bed wiht me is no biggie as long as he doesn't try to get fresh

slept on the same bed as a friend for months at a time, was just better than us sleeping on other ends of the house.

not a big deal, not anything gay about it.

I generally take the couch or floor whenever I am at another person's place or in a hotel room with other people. The first thing I say is "the floor in that corner is mine" and I grab a pillow/blanket and crash.

I just grab a spot on the floor. I just don't like sharing a bed with anyone, male or female.

i've got no issues with sharing a bed.

that's your side.. this is my side... no harm done.

I've shared a bed with another guy, frequently. Didn't care, didn't even think about it. Perhaps it says more about the guys that say it's gay than the guys who actually do it. I'd say they are the ones with the issues.

It's sounds like a maturity issue, as well. Are the "a lot of guys" that you speak of all the same age demographic? Around high school, early college age?

Same here..

Fuck that. I'm too bony. I've slept on the ground in the frickin' desert (*) because I had to.

I'm not going to sleep on the floor because I'm some mamby-pampy insecure with my sexuality.

Been there, done that. Didn't bother me.

Yeah not an issue. Been there done that.

again, what's the problem?

Gangsta!

I've done it, and haven't felt the least gay about it. I've even slept in a bed with a gay fella, well bisexual, and he didn't grab my ass, and I slept the whole night.

I prefer to sleep alone though.

Plan 9, while I agree there is nothing wrong with sharing a bed with another guy, I feel differently about the "behavioral trends for the sub-30's". For one, most girls I know act out in disgust toward other women if any hypothetical mentioning of intimacy is brought up in public between her and another girl. Also, your assessment saying eating meat and hating pastels is a hardwired prerequisite for the male genetic code is silly (joke?).

There is a huge diff between "can I share half the bed?" and "mind if I rest my cock between your creamy thighs for a bit?"

I've done it plenty of times and probably would again, especially in hotels. When you're poor as dirt, 1000 miles from home, its 20 below outside and you have choice between sharing a bed in warm hotel room and sleeping in the van the last thing on your mind is "On a scale of 1 to fabulous how gay is this?"

Not really a big deal.

Welcome to Tilted Forum Project.

Are you SURE you meant to link these two clauses?

Okay, grammar Nazi jokesters, I've friggin' had it. Y'all are pissing in my cornflakes.

How are they linked? They are two ideas. They are separated by a period and a new goddamn paragraph.

Everybody here knows what the dude is saying. This type of humor is a waste of valuable page inches.

But what if all the parts line up?

Okay, I'll indulge your sick fantasies involving Shia LeBouf:

Nobody "I ACCIDENTALLY THE WHOLE THING" with a dude.

/double rimshot

When I was in high school I lived with a bunch of dudes at a children's home. 4 guys per room. While we had separate beds, sometimes my friend and I would sleep in the same bed, me under my blanket and him under his, his feet to my head. It never bothered us, or really our roommates. We'd stay up talking about bullshit, then nod off.

Another time all 16 guys in the house laid 2 mattresses down on the floor and everyone stacked crisscross like lincoln logs, 4 per layer. I was on 3rd layer, and actually fell asleep until about 2AM. It was retarded but funny.

So sharing a bed is not a problem, really. I'm secure in my preferences.

it amazes me how much concern there is with body contact.

I am so fluid with my sexuality. If I couldnt sleep in a bed with a representative member of a group I could/would/did have sex with, I would be sleeping on the floor all the time.

Or they would since I am the lady.

But then some of them are as well, regardless of their gender.

I read where many of you are fine sleeping in bed with another man...but only as long as no body contact is made.

God forbid body contact is made.

Comfort of any kind could be misconstrued as homo-sex-ual-it-y....

and even in its weakest expression, its still sickening to hear being said out loud...

like a dirty little secret that is still thought of as perfectly acceptable...

I think this internalized homophobia that exists in our culture and is amplified far heavier amongst the male population is deadly to male homosexuals and bisexuals, intesexed folks and FtMs and MtFs. They are all potential preys to the heterosexual predator who feels threatened by the prey's mere existance in their territory. So they seek to kill them off.

For spooning them in in their sleep. A subconscious behavior someone might make while asleep.

I think most men would not kill anyone for accidentally spooning someone in their sleep. I do think someone might beat them up. Call them names. Degrade them. Make them feel bad.

there are many ways to die.

One way is to be gay in america and to face ritualistic insults on a daily basis for being the man you are.

the man you are.

the man you are.

yes, the man you are.

I have fucked straight men, gay men (yes they fuck women too), bisexual men.

they are all men.

holding them

doesnt make you gay

anymore than me fucking them

made me a gay man

it just made us

more accepting of them

and allowed us to be

better uses....

Host?

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Are you male or female? Regardless, you're friggin' confusing. Anyway:

Do you live in America? If so, this shouldn't amaze you. It's how Americans are. They like personal space. You can see it in their cars, their homes, and how they walk down the street. It's a cultural thing and has little to do with sex/gender. I work with African men all day. They have no problems flopping on each other, standing crotch-to-ass in lines and occasionally they are seen holding hands as they talk. They're cool with it. It's a cultural norm.

It has way less to do with sexuality than it does personal space. Let's say I'm racked out in an army tent on the ground with a dozen other dudes. I don't want a leg over top of mine, I don't want an arm on my chest. Gimmie my damn space. See my first paragraph for background on this behavior.

MC Hammer couldn't touch this glitter-encrusted hyperbole.

Too legit. Too legit to quit.

Actually, a gay man wouldn't be a gay man if he regularly engages in sexual activities with women. Current social nomenclature for sexually omnivorous people is based on these things. We, society, call people who do both, flip-flop between the two sexes or can't make up their mind "bisexual." You can claim that titles are bullshit all you want but they're necessary for identifying and protecting special classes as seen in various equal rights laws. If everybody is equal on paper, you can't say X did something to Y. And if anybody is making sexual preference identification titles a problem these days, it's every little group out there trying to make themselves unique because of how sensitive they are and what type of things they do in the bedroom.

I'm sorry you can't get married yet. I'm sorry you can't get benefits yet. Keep pushing the system.

Until things change? Get your damn sequined strap-on dildo thong out of my sight, fruitcake.

Honestly, I don't care who you're banging with what; just pay your fucking taxes.

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Take that trash to the curb.

Depends. I wouldn't share a bed with a guy I didn't know, but if I knew him then why not? We're all adults; I'm not gay, the other guy wouldn't be gay, so what's the worry.

when my cat wants to say something without saying anything, he simply lifts up his back leg and licks his balls.

I am so envious....

I want to party with you. You're subtle in how you use nonsense comments and totally rub me the wrong way.

hehe, ya'll killing me here,

truly, If I am tired theres a bed I'm down for it. queen or larger, I will share,
If I get attacked,
just charge their visa in the morning........:thumbsup:

been there, done that, what's the problem?

that is soooo not gansta, Gangstalious.....

http://i269.photobucket.com/albums/j...ondocks_lg.jpg

with or without my strap on, Sir?

OOOOO...::::eyes widen:::: I just was informed you asked for replies from men!

:::soft pleading green eyes look at Plan 9 before I depart, taking all of me with me, embarassed at overstepping the boundaries unintentionally:::::

if you call "no homo" first, you're in the clear.

*rimshot*

and the spotlight fades......

It always fascinates me which threads gain legs. I wouldn't have thought this was a two-pager.

Nothing wrong with two men sharing a bed together
 

and there is nothing wrong with two horny straight men getting each other off while sharing the bed together.

I am straight, my friend is straight and when we were on a long hunting trip together, we gave each other mutually satisfying blowjobs. It did not change our sexuality...we are now both married with children. At the time, we were both 23.

If two young straight women can get each other off and be viewed in a positive light, why not two straight men that just happen to be horny?

Dude, I was just kidding in post #5.

John3303, that makes you bisexual, or at least bi-curious. I know labels are imperfect, but the straight your talking about only exists in gay porn.

Andrew Dice Clay regarding homosexuality: You either suck dick, or you do not suck dick.

Did anyone else hear Willie Nelson playing while reading tasineah's post: To all the girls I've loved before. No offense to you, tasineah, it just popped in there and it's so obscure I wondered if I was alone.

Look! They ones that worry about it might be bi and in the closet. There is nothing wrong with it. My buddies and I share hotel rooms 2 times a year when we go to Vegas and most of us sleep naked. ITS NOT GAY! Having sex with the guy is!!!

John 3303 is also describing Brokeback Mountain... (duh).

It's amazing to me that some men (boys?) are so insecure that this is even an issue that needs discussing.

I disagree. I would say that I am bi if were more than those few times. It has been years and I have not been aching to suck a dick. So no, I would not even call myself bi. I was just horny at the time when I was young. How do you label that? It was bi or gay act but today I am not bi or gay.

Ok, now did i confuse everyone? LOL

John,

I've been around guys on a trip. I've been really horny for a general lack of sex. That has never compelled me to suck a dick. Sorry, man....er, not that there's anything wrong with that. It is what it is.

John... that's the behaviour of a bi-sexual person. You are fine having sex with either gender. You may not wish to fall in love with anyone other than a woman but that just means you are in a different place on the sexuality spectrum. It's no big deal, but I wouldn't call you straight.

Yeah going to have to go with the crowd here. I spent 4yrs in the Navy, lots of horney time alone with no one around but other dudes. Not once did I think "hey, giving or recieving head from another guy would cure this case of the "gotta have its."

I think you fall into the Bi category. Of course that's a big category and where you are in it is debatable.

if John did not further engage in any other male to male sexual activity, I would chalk this hunting experience up to sexual experimentation. Many people do this at different times in their lives. If however, there were more experiences, then perhaps he needs to revisit his sexuality orientation.

I am not your typical woman. I do not call myself bisexual even tho I have enjoyably had sex with males and females. Bi implies two genders and I know there are more than two genders and I have slept with many of them. I am pansexual. But, until CD, I labeled myself as a lesbian because that is who I pursued. I did not pursue men. CD just fell into my lap, so to speak. Thankfully so.


And I have had sex with women who did not ID as bi or lesbian. They were "curious". What they really wanted was kinky sex and when I figured that out, I stopped topping those girls because if they just wanted a performance, I was going to get paid for it, not be someone's chemistry experiment. I can kink with the best of them but its with who I am engaging with on other levels....

Labels suck. Sexuality is a continuum. That being said, most guys wouldn't even go there...

Straight is a label that wouldn't really apply in John's case. Not that it really matters, but yea...

John: don't sweat it. Enjoy your experimentation, but consider your motivation. There are other ways to get off without involving the other guy. There must be some curiosity there. Nothing wrong with that.

I dont see a problem, i wouldnt prefer it but i could manage if its due to the situation like you described above. I would just make sure he stays on his side of the bed and ill stay on mine...maybe put a division/barrier in the form of pillows & blanket.

Just to clear the air. I only want sex with women. After all those years gone by after my sex with my friend, I do not desire to have sex with men. I do not fantasize about men.

I am with Tasineah and I just think that I was super horny which I was and I would call it sexual experimentation. At the time, I had occasional dick sucking fantasies when I saw a big cock whether it was in the gym showers or elsewhere. I satisfied my curiosity with my friend and realized afterward that I was still into women. The encounters did not cause me to become attracted to men and it did not cause me to crave dick.

If society says that I am bi because I tried it a long time ago, well then label me bi. Who cares ......LOL

Obviously you care, since you've made it a point to mention it no less than 3 times in the last hour. It's okay, bro. Nobody is judging you.

He doth protest too much...err, not that there's anything wrong with that.

Lighten up John3303, we don't care where your mouth has been. :)