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playboylex23 · 08-06-2009, 10:51 PM

Hey there I'm here now with a big iissue and iam willing to hear many others point of views. I noe I did wrong by hitting my girlfriend which I have now 2 years with...I'm 19 of age so is she, and she the love of my life and I was always afraid to loose her and now its getting to that point in which she those not want anythin to do with me but be friends and try to built things from there but I don't want this because she wants time and I say time is the problem to these situations because time that's been wasted doesn't come back around and I try telling her this and now everytime I see her and I don't get my way I get fustrated and then I want to abuse her and this is what she's afraid of soo then she also thinks I'm a stalker because I don't leave her alone but all I'm tryin to do is tell her that if I get her back and all the missin love and attetion she's giving me I won't touch her ever again in my life because we both have a big future ahead of us plan and I don't want to throw it to waste to start with some one new I invite her to the movies to see giJoe but she onlii wnats to go as friends what should I do and tell her tomo on our date as friends how should I act because she's really thinking I'm crazy and iam always gonna abuse her when I don't get my way.I want to get her back but not as a friend any help here please I want my girlfriend back my old one tnot the one that give me an attitude nowand wants to act different because of what happen I told her were humans and we make mistakes and that she don't believe in chances. I love you babygirl

Xerxys · 08-06-2009, 11:22 PM

A bit of background about me ..., I profile. Race, attire, behavior and in your case e-lly.

Your username is "playboy" and you spell bad. Nothing about you sounds right ... erm, e-right ...

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purplelirpa · 08-06-2009, 11:34 PM

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UnclearContent · 08-06-2009, 11:37 PM

I think this post is fake, and so call shenanigans.

SecretMethod70 · 08-06-2009, 11:58 PM

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Let's keep our responses constructive here.

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playboylex23: You'll notice I had to edit two of the first three responses you got, and the third one questions the legitimacy of your post. Personally, I'm inclined to believe your post is real, but I can certainly understand where the other posters so far are coming from. You say you're 19 years old: take some time to use punctuation and decent spelling if you expect people to listen to you and give you advice. I'd recommend editing your original post to make it more clear.

I think I managed to decipher your post, so I did vote in your poll. Let her go.

You're right, we all make mistakes, but like Xerxys pointed out, your writing style and username do say something about you. In this case, it says to me that you probably need to work a lot on your own maturity before getting into serious relationships with others. If you're so desperate that you're hitting her out of frustration, and that you're behaving in such a way she thinks you're stalking her (which, based on the limited info I see here, you probably are), then you've got your own issues to deal with. There are plenty of other women out there; let this one go, because you've pretty much ruined your chances at a healthy relationship with her at this point.

UnclearContent · 08-07-2009, 12:53 AM

I have no experience grading high school papers but, to me, there's a weird mishmash of correct and incorrect punctuation and spelling. The fact that the first post here is a poll, the first post is something so obviously emotionally charged...I don't know. It doesn't sit right. It feels like a post where the OP intentionally wrote this in a way so it wouldn't sound like him. And the "I love you babygirl" at the end. It feels like pieces, not a real whole.

I may be wrong about the legitimacy, but something still doesn't sit right.

wooÐs · 08-07-2009, 04:18 AM

genuinegirly · 08-07-2009, 04:27 AM

Remarkably similar internal dialogue to one of our friends.
He couldn't let her go.
He stalked her.
When she wouldn't see that he loves her with everything he had - that he felt she was crucial to his happiness...

He murdered her.

This guy seemed like a nice enough guy. He was a guest in our house, he was friendly and helpful with chores. I have pictures of the two of them working in our garden together. But then he hit her and it was over. All of her friends did what they could to keep him away from her, but we weren't there to protect her when she went home to New York.

A few news stories about this occurence:

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/08/08/nyregion/08body.html
Victim's Boyfriend Attempts Suicide, Taken Into Custody - Gothamist: New York City News, Food, Arts & Events
Breaking the Silence on Dating Violence: The life and death of Tumi McCallum, age 20 The Visions to Peace Project

wooÐs · 08-07-2009, 04:32 AM

Just what a poster with a loose screw needs to read lol.

genuinegirly · 08-07-2009, 04:40 AM

I was hoping to show him what his unhealthy obsession can lead to - wake him up to the reality.

This thread has been closed. OP is a troll.

View Poll Results: what should i do and how to act?
should i let her go?	4	80.00%
should i keep trying to get her back?	1	20.00%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 5. You may not vote on this poll

08-06-2009, 10:51 PM	#1 (permalink)
playboylex23 Banned	I beat a girl for the first time Hey there I'm here now with a big iissue and iam willing to hear many others point of views. I noe I did wrong by hitting my girlfriend which I have now 2 years with...I'm 19 of age so is she, and she the love of my life and I was always afraid to loose her and now its getting to that point in which she those not want anythin to do with me but be friends and try to built things from there but I don't want this because she wants time and I say time is the problem to these situations because time that's been wasted doesn't come back around and I try telling her this and now everytime I see her and I don't get my way I get fustrated and then I want to abuse her and this is what she's afraid of soo then she also thinks I'm a stalker because I don't leave her alone but all I'm tryin to do is tell her that if I get her back and all the missin love and attetion she's giving me I won't touch her ever again in my life because we both have a big future ahead of us plan and I don't want to throw it to waste to start with some one new I invite her to the movies to see giJoe but she onlii wnats to go as friends what should I do and tell her tomo on our date as friends how should I act because she's really thinking I'm crazy and iam always gonna abuse her when I don't get my way.I want to get her back but not as a friend any help here please I want my girlfriend back my old one tnot the one that give me an attitude nowand wants to act different because of what happen I told her were humans and we make mistakes and that she don't believe in chances. I love you babygirl

08-06-2009, 11:22 PM	#2 (permalink)
Xerxys Junkie Location: My head.	A bit of background about me ..., I profile. Race, attire, behavior and in your case e-lly. Your username is "playboy" and you spell bad. Nothing about you sounds right ... erm, e-right ... Offensive response removed by moderator Last edited by SecretMethod70; 08-06-2009 at 11:45 PM..

08-06-2009, 11:34 PM	#3 (permalink)
purplelirpa Crazy Location: Indiana	Offensive response removed by moderator Last edited by SecretMethod70; 08-06-2009 at 11:46 PM..

08-07-2009, 04:27 AM	#8 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	Remarkably similar internal dialogue to one of our friends. He couldn't let her go. He stalked her. When she wouldn't see that he loves her with everything he had - that he felt she was crucial to his happiness... He murdered her. This guy seemed like a nice enough guy. He was a guest in our house, he was friendly and helpful with chores. I have pictures of the two of them working in our garden together. But then he hit her and it was over. All of her friends did what they could to keep him away from her, but we weren't there to protect her when she went home to New York. A few news stories about this occurence: http://www.nytimes.com/2007/08/08/nyregion/08body.html Victim's Boyfriend Attempts Suicide, Taken Into Custody - Gothamist: New York City News, Food, Arts & Events Breaking the Silence on Dating Violence: The life and death of Tumi McCallum, age 20 The Visions to Peace Project __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy

08-06-2009, 11:37 PM	#4 (permalink)
UnclearContent Tilted	I think this post is fake, and so call shenanigans.

08-07-2009, 12:53 AM	#6 (permalink)
UnclearContent Tilted	I have no experience grading high school papers but, to me, there's a weird mishmash of correct and incorrect punctuation and spelling. The fact that the first post here is a poll, the first post is something so obviously emotionally charged...I don't know. It doesn't sit right. It feels like a post where the OP intentionally wrote this in a way so it wouldn't sound like him. And the "I love you babygirl" at the end. It feels like pieces, not a real whole. I may be wrong about the legitimacy, but something still doesn't sit right.

08-07-2009, 04:18 AM	#7 (permalink)
wooÐs Sitting in a tree Location: Atlanta

08-07-2009, 04:32 AM	#9 (permalink)
wooÐs Sitting in a tree Location: Atlanta	Just what a poster with a loose screw needs to read lol.

08-07-2009, 04:40 AM	#10 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	I was hoping to show him what his unhealthy obsession can lead to - wake him up to the reality. This thread has been closed. OP is a troll. __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy Last edited by genuinegirly; 08-07-2009 at 05:11 AM..