Joining a couple for a threesome, would you do it?
 

If you were invited by a fairly good looking married couple to join them for fun in bed, would you go for it? This is obviously a situation with very little emotional or personal relevance. You're there as a sexual object, within someone else's relationship. And you'll also be with someone of the same sex.. who knows how far they'll want you to go.

For me, this sounds like a bit of an adventure. I'd have to put away any desire I have to be loved or cared for. I would have to come to terms with the idea of being objectified. That's not necessarily hard for me, but it might be for someone else.

I'd do it if both chicks were hot. :D

OK, truthful answer - the idea interests me, but not enough to wreck my marriage over, so I woudl want to clear it at home first.

When I was single? I'd judge the case on its merits.

I got invited into one with two really good friends of mine. He.... had a sudden realization of jealousy when his girlfriend and I were simply kissing. Unfortunately he was really weird to me after that, our friendship withered away as he couldn't get the image out of his head. So wasn't a really nice experience for me.

It would depend on the details. I'm not against the idea per se, but it would probably be difficult to work around everyone's dealbreakers. If that could be done, however, I'd be all for it.

Willravel Rule #3: never with a dude.

If it were a monogamous relationship (or marriage) between two women I might consider it, but going in it would have to be absolutely clear that while jealousy is perfectly natural it can quite frankly can ruin the experience or even the established relationship. I would not want to be responsible for such a thing.

I have been with three other people at once but they were men, not a mixed group. I'd have to say maybe, but I think it would be easier if I didn't know them, otherwise the problems mentioned above would be raised. I have heard this is a common fantasy but that peoples' emotions cause the reality to go horribly wrong. Same goes for "open marriages". Nice thought, though.

Sorry, Tulip, I have to ask (and please don't be offended) - are you a guy or a laydee?

The whole 'you'll also be with someone of the same sex' thing is a dealbreaker for me.

The one time t ever happened around me we (the two guys) were friends, but not interested in each other - we both just ended up at different ends of the girl.

It didn't work out well, but mainly because of problems with the girl later.

I have the same doubt, and judging for the last visitors of Tulip's profile, so does most aof the people in this thread. LOL

Daniel and Ironman - I'm female! Apologies for any ambiguity. x

That's exactly what I did. Got puzzled by the "there were guys and me, but not a mixed group" comment, then went to look.

No worries, m'dear. We English have to stick together, after all. :thumbsup:

It's a long-standing fantasy of mine, actually. I've always wanted to be the "guest star" in such a scenario. I'm curious about women, but I feel like I'd be comfortable with a fellow in the room.

I don't know that I'd do it with people I knew well, though. I hear-tell the emotional fallout can get kind of rough.....and I really wouldn't want to bring my emotions into the situation.

Love,
Sabrina

Done it. It was fun. And I did have an emotional connection with them--just I happened to not have my usual um... sidekick by my side that time . Happened with her, and with the "other her" fairly frequently. Not so much the "other him".

Assuming permission of all the appropriate people, I'd do it again.

It's only gay if your balls touch.

It's a risk, yes.

I've been with a couple, but they weren't married.

I was in a similar situation with a straight couple off and on for a little over a year. Sexually it was incredible, even liberating in some ways, as there were no boundries in our search for pleasure. I'll admit there was some apprehension on my part the first time, but I look at any MMF situation as one where it's about her (it's certainly more of a female fantasy than a straight males) so once I was in that perspective I could ignore the other wang and act accordingly. :)

Then again I wasn't competing against ole' White Snake either, but I digress... LOL

The games were endless. Sometimes everything would be planned with all three of us getting together. Othertimes I would get a surprise text telling me exactly what to do to her or make her do to me (or she would get a text). No matter how it came about I would get so turned on knowing they would talk about it (what they want to do, or what they did do) during sex it made me always strive to be at the top of my game to get them as hot for eachother as possible whether all three of us were hooking up later that evening or not.

Would I do it again? With the right couple I would but to say communication is key is the understatement of the year...

Some people aren't as secure with their sexuality and their relationship as they think they are which can lead to resentment, jealousy, and just plain drama if you're not careful in these type of situations and close to both/one of the couple.

I would but not at the risk of my marriage... And given my wife's current rules of engagement, this isn't going to happen.

In the past when the rules where different, I would have tried it out.

Yup. The absolute priority for any kind of sexual exploration, as a married person (or anyone in a long-term serious relationship). No question.

Bad enough, texting while driving. But texting while having a threesome... ?!

:rolleyes:

Oh, you young people!

;)

Nah, it's only gay if you look him in the eye ;)

In some theoretical world where I wasn't part of the married club, I don't really think I would. I just don't really have any interest in being in an intimate sexual situation with another guy, even if the vast majority of my contact is going to be with the girl. I had an opportunity or two to have a foursome in high school with another couple and turned it down. Just not up my alley.

Now, my wife would only be interested in inviting a girl in, if we were to try a third, but even that seems on the unlikely side of unrealistic.

Of course I would.

How else would I pull off moves like the Eiffel Tower?

Several times- and always had a great time... (Straight MMF, and a coupe of different times with bi FFM) But as said above, everybody has to be comfortable with what's going on, otherwise it'll go down hill quick. I suppose I wouldn't suggest it for most people... YMMV.

I'd go for a threesome but not with a couple. Because that means MFF. I would only want MMF.

Obviously guys have the advantage in this scenario :p

I'm not interested in other women!

I'd be up for it.

It all depends on the situation but probably. I'd see it more as an adventure, something to be tested, rather than something I'd want to do multiple times.

Probably not.

Wont do it again, lets just say, the donwhill part........ lets leave it at that....

Well, if _that_ isn't a selling point....

Personally, I guess it would have to be the right situation, right couple and boundaries set on the onset.

I've done it several times.. as long as everyone is cool and has a few drinks or dinner or whatever before hand and the chemistry is there and jealousy doesn't creep in.. it can be fun and exciting.

it's always best to be clear on what is and what isn't acceptable as well.

+1

I would if the circumstances were right. I've been asked by a couple before but I felt like they didn't truly understand what they were doing so I said no thanks. If it were a more mature couple and I felt that the odds of success were good I'd certainly go for it.

In addition, I don't think I would marry anyone who wasn't okay with a little sexual exploration on either part so hopefully I'll have the chance in the future even if I'm married.

Done it many times. Will do it again.

I have to say it was some of the best sex I've ever had. It's downright primal. I love seeing a woman take on 2 (or more) guys. A truly confident woman in the bedroom is something I admire.

As long as everyone is consenting, I will never judge what goes on in a bedroom.

I've had occasion to to have several MFM threesomes, MFMF (one of the most memorable experiences of my life). I've also done the FMF thing as well, however, you need to be in shape for that. It's like running a marathon.

No thanks, not for me.
Wouldn't want to cause any harm. Too many opportunities for jealousy and resentment.

i probably would not be comfortable in a casual encounter such as that. however, i would be open to finding a third person for a long term polymonogamous relationship :-D

Since I'm in a relationship, my answer would have to be no. If I wasn't then it would depend.
If the guy in question wanted me to do anything to him, or do anything to me then it would be a "sorry not interested".
If, however, it would just be the two of us having sex with his wife/gf then yes I would.

I'll second that.

FFM is a fantasy. But I dont think it will ever come true. I dont think I will make any such initiative. If it happens as a casual encounter in harmless no-cheating manner, I am sure I will enjoy and cherish the memory :)

Third that...
My SO is a huge part of my live, and i'm inlove with her, and would do nothing that would jeopardize my own relationship (or other)

I'd join if it was ok with GG...

we've been on the couple side of that before... and we had quite a bit of fun.

Being married, I wouldn't without the okay from my wife. She's opened-minded, but I don't see her okaying me participating in a menage a trois without her.

She & I have discusssed the possiblity of including someone for a three-way, we're both open to it, but only under the right circumstances (just as many others have mentioned). Which of us would be willing to do what with the third person in a MFF or MFM would depend on the other person involved, & the situation.

My thinking is a lot of people who are married or in long-term relationship think that they're ready for a three-way or group sex, but don't actually know how they'll react once the action starts.

being in an open relationship I am free to "play" as i see fit. I have also had the opprotunity several times to take part in ffm threesomes and some mfmf foursomes as well. These can be quite interesting and erotic if expectations are set at the very beginning.

Not particularly interested in anything with another guy, so I'd have to talk everything over with them before I knew if I wanted to. However, CT did just legalize gay marriage, so get a couple of bisexual women who want to spice things up ...

If the guy was allowed to fuck me, and I was allowed to fuck the wife, sure. I wouldn't want some stupid restriction, like "I'm only here so the wife can have a lesbian experience". Give me the full-nine or no thank you.

No. I know there are many sex-related weird things out there, and it's hip to try as many as possible and check them off some bucket list, but I've no interest in that. I may be boring and predictable, but for me sex is just between myself and someone I love. I want the emotional attraction to be there first, before anything physical transpires.

I would. But first I would have to talk to my boyfriend about it, and maybe I'd ask him to join in as well.

Nothing wrong with knowing where your comfort zone is and wanting to stay there.

If I was single I'd probably jump at the chance if I knew and trusted the couple.

As a happily taken girl, the idea of group sex intrigues and excites me but not enough to over come the fear that it would ruin what I have always wanted, and finally have.

If I were single, I would do it with an attractive couple I didn't know very well, but probably not with anyone I was good friends with. Been down that road before and there was all kinds of jealousy. Luckily, I'm now with an amazing guy and don't have any interest in being with anyone else.

I've been invited by a couple that are friends of mine on multiple occasions by both of them. Their relationship is really open, so I doubt they'd have jealousy problems. However, I had to decline. I wasn't attracted to either of them and, call me selfish, I just don't like sharing haha.

Adventures of this type are alwways dependent on the couple. When I was between relationships I was often a "third" in the bedroom. I am by no means gay or bi, and had no interest in anything involving the other guy, and made that CLEAR from the start. You have to just let things flow how they do, remember that in most situations like this the woman is the one who makes the rules, and you hope that their relationship is strong and ready for such a thing. Not all are, and you have to learn to detach yourself from the emotional part. It is just that: SEX, not lovemaking...so enjoy what you can, and have fun..and ALWAYS practice safe sex!

Not me ( and not that anyone would ask, oh wait they did (yeesh, not attractive) ). I have only enough attention for one, other than myself. Being that even if porno is playing, I lose my focus on what I'm doing, and that leads to disaster, I don't think dragging someone else in would help me much.

One on one's all I got

Agreed.

I would definitely enter a situation like this. I thought I had the opportunity to a while ago... but it seems to have "fell" through. I would have to be attracted to the guy though too in order for me to completely enjoy everything. And his penis! haha. I guess I am pretty elitest in the fact that if his dick doesnt look like mine I dont want much to do with it... b/c I wouldn't be attracted to it.

So ya. I would.

I am working pretty sincerely on our sex life. There are no secrets between me and my girl.
I am willing to venture this with three conditions. firstly , I shall know the couple (or at least one of them) for quite some time through online or forums exchanging views, opinions and guidance. Basically I know them to some extent. secondly, they cant be any of my existing close friends or family. thirdly, I should not be the center of activity at anytime. If I can intensify thier sexual experience with each other I will be glad. And I will take my girl's consent to do this.

Talked to the SO and my best friend about it actually - inviting her into bed with us that is.

They're both very pro the idea, but then again they have both been in a similar situation before - she was previously in a very open marriage ( they asked me to join them in bed but I very much disliked her hubby) and he had an ex who used to frequently invite a friend to join them. Both are more worried about how I will handle seeing the two of them together.

They're both more worried about me emotionally then they are about whether or not they get to be together which actually makes me alot more comfortable with the idea. So while intellectually I'm fine with it I worry my posessive, insecure side will come to the fore screaming "maybe he likes her more then you, maybe she's better in bed then you are, they have more in common then you two" even though I am certain that he loves me.

I have been with both seperately (the SO knows and was quite heartily in favour of the act) and enjoyed both so maybe if the situation comes up. He has also said that he thinks we (as in the two women) would probably be more comfortable if he was just watching at first.

ATM things are somewhat untenable for setting up the situation though, with the two of us moving and her having to organise someone to watch her kids (she has two boys who I adore!)

I have faith that one day it will happen, just not sure when.

Sorry I guess that's kindof from the opposite side of the fence isn't it? More would I accept someone into bed with us rather then would I join another couple.

I guess that woul depend on the couple, I HAVE to have some emotional connection with the people I'm with to get any enjoyment out of sex, even if it's just affection or an initial liking and " yeah I think we could be friends if we got to know one another well enough" otherwise I just don't get aroused.

If it was with two people I honestly liked and trusted and I was single I most definitely would, I believe that those type of arrangements like FwBs all rely entirely on each party being completely honest with themself and the others involved.

It sounds like a lot of fun, but will probably stay in the realm of fantasy.

I would say that I was damn close to an MMF in college. I would have done it, no prob, because at that time I was very into new things, wasn't tied down, etc. However, I am glad it didn't happen, because the girl in question was a psych case. The guy was a friend of mine in the dorms, and I think he would have been game as well. And, for all the doubters out there, its only gay if you reposition it for him!

Nowadays, being married with children, I would have to say "no". My wife is almost certainly NOT any such experience - be it MMF or MFF. I wouldn't mind seeing an MFF, but I am a typical male. I also now recognize that my retarded jealous streak would seriously hamper any enjoyment, and most likely be a problem in the future. Hell - my jealous streak might be a problem even in an MFF!

I'd do it, as long as I didn't have to play with the dude.

Life is to short not to...

I would just worry about the chasing amy threesome thing (end of the movie)thing, aka ruining their relationship.

*shrugs* I try it.

I wouldn't do it if there was another guy present, two women no problem, but another guy.. nooo way..
The whole idea of two guys having sex with the same woman weirds me out, don't really know why but it doesn't sit right in my mind.

It is a fantasy of every guy to have another woman in the bed, but if given the opportunity...i'd decline.

My sisters marriage was ruined after her and her husband invited another woman into the bedroom.

2 kids suffered for that mistake.

I don't have kids but I love my wife too much to take a chance on something going wrong.

I could do it, assuming no male on male interaction was expected. Not that there is anything wrong with that....

MMF FFM combo's do nothing for me fantasy wise but I would be open to the idea if she wanted it.

I admire the couples who have such strong relationships that allow them to be so open and explore mutual fantasies!

Hello,please exuse my typing form ! I am thrilled to be in a place where curiosccty is ok and willing to be disccussed.My husband and i are toying with the idea of a threesome.i have never been with a woman before but as weve widend our intrest of sexuaual pleasures we enjoy watching porn together surprisingly ive found my self turned on by watching women together . They ARE SENSUAL AND SEXY and i beleive it when my man says women know what women want. im curious any advice??

curious_georget, first try FF before truing 3some