why does my boyfriend want me to poo on him?!?!
 

so this is a serious question.

my boyfriend and i are committed to each other and recently he shocked me with a special request: that i empty my bowels onto his chest after sex.

i don't know how to deal with this situation..mostly because I don't understand where he's coming from. How is this sexually appealing?

Can someone please help me to understand where he is coming from? I'd greatly appreciate your thoughts.

hahahahahahaha I'm sorry. It's just the best title ever.

Well, I don't think you should do it if you're uncomfortable with it. Oh, and tell him to watch Two Girls, One Cup; if he isn't disgusted, leave him.

Different strokes for different folks. If it disgusts you (as it would me or many others), refuse. If he can't take that, leave.

I am put off a little... I've heard of things like "Dirty Sanchez" and such -but I've always taken them as just jokes. but he was serious. when i pressed for his reasons he became quickly embarrassed and we haven't really talked about it since.

I guess I'm just trying to understand how someone could find someone shitting on their chest hot. and if they do, i would like to know the reasons why.

Yes, this fantasy exists, and it's usually known as "scat" play. It's not very common, but it's out there.

I think it's extremely difficult to understand the "why" behind people's sexual fantasies and inclinations, no matter whether they are normal or more extreme desires. None of us can really judge what is going on in his mind--but it comes down to you two, and what you in particular are able to handle.

How much have you talked about this together? Does he feel that you are judging him for sharing his fantasy with you? Is he open to compromise, or is he unwilling to be in a relationship where this desire of his remains unfulfilled? This can be the really difficult part of negotiating sexual boundaries... to talk about what is comfortable and necessary for both of you, without making each other feel alienated or "freakish." It's essential, I think, for maintaining openness and trust in the relationship.

I would say that given his particular fantasy, there are going to be very few people who will be able to accommodate his needs. I say that not to judge it, but because it's quite far out of the normal range of human sexual behavior. In that sense, given that your sexual desires probably fall a little more along "normal" lines, it's understandable if you don't like it.

If he is willing to compromise and you two can find a way to both be comfortable and satisfied with the situation (even if it means that he has to tone down his desire a bit, and you have to do a bit more work on your side), then it could work in the long run. But if he is absolutely inflexible and will remain unsatisfied and resentful towards you for not being "into" his fantasy, and if it thoroughly disgusts you on a visceral level (which it sounds like it does), then I am not sure if it can work between you. Sexual compatibility has to have some flex to it... if you are at opposite extremes and judging each other or feeling negative about the most intimate part of your relationship, then it can't really work.

How serious is the relationship? Has he ever talked about this with previous partners, and if so, what was their reaction?

I think only your boyfriend can answer the question you're asking here. Everyone is different and is attracted to things or acts for different reasons. You guys need to talk it out. Obviously, if it doesn't appeal to you, you're not going to do it, but maybe you could explore through watching a few video clips together and he might be able to better explain what appeals to him about it. I would only caution that you handle it in a loving, supportive way. Try to remember not to degrade him in the process. Phrases such as "That's disgusting" are probably not helpful, and can lead him to close up and not share his desires with you in the future. From your description, he already seems embarrassed and insecure about it and you want him to relax and open up to you. No one should pressure you into doing anything you're not comfortable with, but the tone you set now is likely to have long lasting effects on your relationship.

Abaya, I felt everything you said, but couldn't express it as eloquently. Props to you for being so tolerant.

Thanks Joz, though Peaches said it even better and more succinctly! :)
Quoted for truth. Extremely important to remember, even if the relationship might not last.

Not that this is my bag either (not a scat guy haha), but ladies, try to remember that most mens' fantasies are probably far outside of the realm of normality you expect them to be in ;)

However odd it may be, if you take one for the team, he may expect it (or suggest even stranger requests) down the road. I suspect this act is really a form of dominance, because "shitting on somebody" is usually what you mention when someone is being socially dominated, at work or elsewhere. See if he's into less messy (yet covert, because he didn't exactly ask for leather and whips) forms of domination, such as being spanked or anal play, or maybe even being tied up or being peed on. Hey it may not be what you think about when you wake up in the morning, but he might like it, and it might be something you grow to enjoy once you observe his experiences. Point is, just saying "no, honey would be a big letdown, plus a huge ego hit since he's trying to open up in ways he can't in social situations, but "no honey, but I'm willing to try this other thing if you're interested" would let him know that 1) you can't do scat, but in the nicest way possible and 2) that you're still game for some other sexually deviant behavior if he wants to go for it. If your suggestions aren't a turn on for him, see if he'll suggest something else. If he's not playing along, then try to give him a good fucking and he'll get over it. Trust me on that one, when my wife forces me into makeup sex (force meaning strips down, because once I see her my mood hardly ever goes any direction but up LOL) I hardly ever hold onto whatever was making me upset in the first place.

Abaya and Peaches. you are hereby congratulated on the advice you gave in this situation.
It should be handled in a sensitive manner, and he should be looked upon as nothing other
than someone turned by something that has the opposite effect on me.
Like men who like men.
His proclivity just happens to be statistically quite rare, apparently (maybe lots of folks
won't admit it, like homosexuality a long time ago).

GCF, as to where he is coming from, as with everything else in sexuality, only he could
possibly know.
BUT;
To have unusual sexual desires is called Paraphilia.
The clinical psychiatric name for this version is Coprophilia. You boyfriend has a
form of it. He hasn't said he wishes to consume it, only for it to be on his
chest. Slang term for that is a "Cleveland Steamer" (the things you learn on Family Guy!).

HERE IS WHERE POPULAR PSYCHOLOGY (AKA bullshit) COMES IN:
Due to the fact that most folks are squeamish about this type of stuff (Hell, I know I am) the
DSM (the book doctors use to diagnose stuff with) used to describe this type of behaviour
as indicating that the participant wants to be humiliated.

TAKE THIS WITH A MOUNTAIN OF SALT.

I know this doesn't really help.

Abaya said:
Has he ever talked about this with previous partners, and if so, what was their reaction?

This seems to be a really good place to start a dialogue.

Good luck!

By the way, you do know about anonymous postings, right?
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I like the idea here about asking if you could start somewhere else.
Man, we were posting at the same time!

Ok, this one is waaaaay over my line for acceptable, so I'm going to say DTMFA - dump the motherfucker already.

Scat play is dangerous since lots and lots of nasty bacteria like e. coli live in shit. Yes, your shit too. And unlike anal sex, where you can take precautions to avoid disease, you're being asked to avoid those precautions. Its also incredibly messy.

I suppose in a perfect world you could talk through this, but, for me, this is the same as my wife wanting to watch me get fucked by a horse or have sex with a toddler. But that's my own personal boundary, and I won't go past it. If this is past yours, you need to deal with it but realize that if he's serious and its important to him, he's going to find someone else to poop on his chest, and then you're dealing with her gut flora and fauna too.

In a perfect world, human beings would not need to defecate, at all.

:)

Or maybe... they'd defecate all over everybody!

Incorrect. I, for one, take great pleasure in my morning constitutional. Why, I'm sitting on the can this very minute.

As a guy who says "poop goes in the potty" an average of 5 times a day to a relcutant toddler, I think there may be other issues here as well.

Believe me, I'm far more aware of that fact than you might think. I would not have responded in the manner I did, otherwise.
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Would you @#$% quit doing that, Jazz?? You're going to scare away new members. :lol:

That reminds me of an old joke about life in Hell.

EDIT: Here's the joke, in case you don't know which one I'm talking about, or you haven't even heard it before...

A guy in the afterlife is given a tour of Hell, before he is assigned to his specific place of eternal damnation and torment. He is shown into a pit-chamber that is packed with people standing knee-deep in shit. However, the people are standing casually about, chatting while drinking coffee.

"This isn't so bad, if these people get to drink coffee," the guy says to himself.

Then an overseer devil descends into the pit-chamber and cracks his fiery whip. "Coffee break is over!" the overseer snarls. "Everyone, get back to standing on your heads!"

Gotcha. Some women get it, some don't. My wife still wrestles with it from time to time http://texasoverclockers.com/images/smiles/lolhit.gif

Because he loves and trusts you.

In a perfect world you would all exist FOR ME TO POOP ON!
http://img2.timeinc.net/ew/dynamic/i..._triumph_l.jpg

I think there have been some good posts here, but this one is very important to remember. Odds are he doesn't bring this up to everyone especially since you have been together long enough to be committed (how long?) and you didn't hear about it till now. He brought it up not only because he wants to be pooped on, but also because he actually trusted you enough to share something that most people would probably be disgusted by and thought that he had a decent chance of not being turned away by you as a freak. So whether this is something that you are willing to do or not at least talk to him about it as you would have before or as if that it is really something less offensive than the holocaust. Honest and open communication without judgement is the only way the relationship is going to work, feces or no feces.

Win. This has got to be the quote of the year.

Poppinjay: You win. Hands down, you win.

I'm of the opinion that while sexual proclivities and interests MIGHT be explainable, they don't NEED to be explained, and they "why" of why the person is interested in that is probably best left unquestioned. The embarrassment of going into "why you like that weird thing you like" is basically guaranteed to drive the person attempting to broach the subject back into their closet.

You like what you like. Some desires are common and some desires are unusual. That's really all there is to it.

You don't have to choose to indulge him, but if you do, I'd recommend you do some googling on scat play. Presumably there are safety precautions you'd want to study up on.

hey all,

thanks so much for your messages and thoughts... they are very helpful. I appreciate your comments!

This is Waaaay more intriguing than the Presidentail Debate last night.

Just saying.

poopin-jay?

Wow...yea I could NOT do that to JStrider. I would seriously probably never do #2 again anywhere near him! It was for a great laugh though hahaha sorry. The title is priceless as well as the comments. Hope you work it out!



Make sure to put a tarp down!

Reminds me of the one about the constipated mathematician... he had to work it out with a pencil ;)

you gotta give kudos to the guy for having the guts (or whatever you'd like to call it) to share a fantasy like that!

guts?

well not his guts anyways :D

I don't know what I'm more amused by. The thread itself or the serious replies it's getting.

All i can say is....OMG EWWWW. Sorry, no imput here that already been suggested. Gonna go throw up now.

It crossed my mind that this was a troll, although the OP has commented a couple times. Even if it is, the topic is worth honest consideration.

I just wonder if it would get the same serious replies if it was about bestiality or sex with kids.

It wouldn't, for obvious reasons. Namely those are illegal and done without the consent (or with meaningless consent) of the other party. The whole point of this thread is how you deal with a...surprising...sexual request from your significant other.

I have done my best to do my usual job of seeking the lowest common denominator and trying to reduce it further.

If you do decide to do it, make sure he understands that he gets to clean it up.

Either that, or out in the backyard with a shovel and a hose handy.

The worst case scenario here, I think, is her finding some other girl's shit on his chest. Talk about awkward.

Do you think male animals give a flying crap if the female wants him mounting her? You could argue that they do it during the mating season...so would it be okay for people to do it during mating season too?

Anyhoo, this thread is just amusing. Mostly because of the paragraph long replies on how to deal with your SO wanting to take a dump on your chest. I'm sure there are fetish boards with members who have done it and would give better advice.

Honey, is that corn stuck in your chest hair? I DIDN'T EAT ANY CORN!!!

Sorry if I take questions seriously.
NOT

I guess I can forgive you this one time, but don't do it again.

Agreed. Just because the OP doesn't fit into your own normative sense of sexuality, doesn't mean that it's an invalid question to be asking around here. Given that this is a porn-based board, I'm not terribly surprised about anyone coming here to ask this kind of question. Why do you feel a need to belittle it?

Because it's taboo even on this forum.

LoganSnake, really? I didn't know. Can you show where in the rules it is?
Or are you trying to be cute?

I don't have to try.

And here you go (from Titty Board rules):

You mean it's taboo to the heteronormative male mainstream porn user who is the average member of this forum? Maybe. But fortunately, those aren't the only people who are members here. It's not a taboo topic of discussion for me or for several others here. If you don't like reading about it, the familiar recommendation is to just not click on the thread.You said it yourself. That's for the TITTY BOARD, which means that you cannot post porn pictures/video of scat, etc. A discussion of the mindset behind a scat fetish, however, is not against the rules. It's par for the TFP course in terms of discussing various kinks and aspects of sexuality.

So people cannot express their legal kink visually because it's gross/icky, but it's okay to discuss it. Gotcha.

Why don't you allow it in the Off The Wayside (tons of pissing girls there) and enforce the "don't click the thread" rule?

Hey, we'll allow all the discussion you can handle, LS. We just don't allow pictures. Those are two very different things.

The only time a discussion has been hemmed in that I recall is where the OP started out asking for stories about his particular kink that weren't allowed and were illegal pretty much anywhere. There was a very good discussion afterward about the topic, but no one told stories. See the difference.

Don't bump your head climbing off that high horse. ;)

Nah, I'm good up here, thanks.

I don't see much of a difference between a discussion about scat fetish and scat fetish pictures/video. If you allow one, you should allow the other.

But, who cares? I'm wrong, you're right.

OK, nobody here is going to give any practical advice, so this is the best I can offer:

http://www.insidesocal.com/tv/everybody%20poops.jpg

Eat a bowl of chile the night before and answer his wish the following day after taking a laxitive, bet it would be the first and last of that request

Dude. My brain hurts from just thinking that.

Damn you, mind's eye!

i´m impressed by his courage to make such a bizarre request. was there anything that led up to this? i´d consider something like pee play (i think it´s called watersports) a sort of stepping stone towards this. has there been anything like this before that could lead to such a request or was it out of the blue? if it really was out of the blue then i´d say it is fairly out of order although now that it´s in the open dealing with it is the priority. i don´t agree with jazz one bit that you should dump him but since such a serious difference has now been bought into the open some serious talk is required.

Hello, GCF
 

Wow.

Understatement.

I'm staying away from the New Posts button for a while.

So if the converse were true that your woman would have those same "reasonable expectations." If that meant taking it up the ass either by strap on or male on male sex, it's something you'd fairly have to consider as well right?

I'll take the chance and be the voice of reason: Yes, you have every right in the freedom of your home to perform this act for one another. However, it is a sad indictment against modern society that we have come to this.

There really is no point responding with moral relativity posts - I get it. The fact is, one human being is asking another to defecate on them, and that is a terribly sad state of affairs.

Cyn: I can't believe you're going to try to interact with that post. I took several stabs at it and ended up just saying "Wow".

EEEEEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWW:eek:
that is so disgusting. Ive heard of people that like peeing on each other, but pooing? Wow that is just weird. Well I guess that some people just like that stuff. If you find it as disgusting as I do then don't do it. Tell him that you just cant do it. He should understand.:eek:

Hey, who dropped the Baby Ruth?

zxyw,

that level of committment can NEVER...yes NEVER be usurped. your comments are the brightest thing ive heard all day, and will probably be the brightest thing ill hear for the next month. keeping in mind that im expecting a child in 2 weeks, i think thats one big statement you just made

ill think of you the next time im laying my turd.

I would like to welcome ZYXW to the forum and look forward to more posts.

old members too.......

zyxw,

you do realise that GCF was a member with us for a total of about 5 days. she hasnt been online for about a year. her only contributions were in this thread only, so its quite unrealistic to think she'd be back in any given light year.

that said, id like to see why you'd be so interested in this thread and what makes you tick

Why is this thread not already in the Hall of Fame???


Wait a second, where did the zyxw posts go???

^^ Hehe, it appears he was a spammer and got "one touch ban and clean"'d. :lol:

Wasn't me.

How come the posts had to be removed. The happenings in this thread today make very little sense without them...
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Also, this is a simple one.

If your partner wants you to do something, decide whether or not it's something you could do. If so, try it. Hey, you might even like it. If not, be straightforward and let them know you're not for it...

Thoughts of this thread leading to Bear Cub's masturbation in three, two, one...

*observes Bear Cub's opening, as it widens slightly

Blast! The ones that excite me never seem to live that long.
Goodbye ZYXW, I wish you the best of results.

If I have to be abducted and probed at any point in my rather boring life... I hope it's by the OP.

take the next best thing cromp..take zyxw. im sure zyxw would love to try. i could forward him your details if you wish...

what was that about singledom?...

Singledom. You know... like James Bond without the tiny guns and nice cars.

What you need is a nice girl undressed from the waste down
positioned on top of you facing the opposite direction.

I wish you the best of results.

What is this "waste down" that you speak of? Is that a gravity joke? I did rather poorly in middle school science.

It was a Freudian cut and paste. You deserved better.

that is a phrase that is good enough to steal.....
and I intend to. :thumbsup:

I love Freudian slips. The fat people thread had a great one.

I read it, what is a troll, anyway? (forgive my stupidity...)

A person that posts with the intent of causing mayhem or some other form of trouble.

Trolls are people who say things they know will get everybody riled up for the sole purpose of doing so...

Do it for the lulz!

ah! thank you both,,,

Trust your instincts.

You should just do it. I try and keep an open mind to sex and will do anything once. Sometimes you find you like things you thought you would hate before hand. Also I have looked up a bit on this fetish he has and apparently its another way of showing how much the person loves their mate. To them it's like showing you that they love you so much they are willing to come in contact with even the most nasty parts of you and still get off. Or something like that. But then again for some its just they like to be humiliated and whats more humiliating than having someone take a dump on you.

if you are so openminded about sex, why start the thread about your boyfriend peeing in your ass?

Cuz I would do it but I am worried it could hurt me. Pooing on someone doesn't seem to dangerous as long as you wash up after. There is noway to wash out your asshole after someone pees in it.

Please don't ask me to poop on you..

How about he wants a BJ while you're on the can?

A reverse Blumpkin?

hi Cynthetiq
 

Yes no doubt Cynthetiq, thank you for asking. I appreciate the question, and apologize for the delayed response. As you may presume (judging on the level of loyalty I indicated would be be applicable from me in regard to the woman that is for me,) the level of my commitment to this woman will be of such a level that I shall desire to assist her with fulfilling her interests without concern for what they might be, provided they exist within the context of the both of us within a private setting. My female is to be, entitled to do whatever may be of interest to her, as is relevant with me in a private setting. This dedication of mine would not however extend to include homosexual activity involving another male; I in turn, would not make such a request of her unless she was comfortable with it, for her feelings are of great concern to me. Again Cynthetiq, I appreciate you asking, and thereby giving me the opportunity to offer this clarification, in regard to the extent of my commitment, to the very special woman that is to be, for me... My search for this highly suitable, loyal and dedicated woman is currently in progress. Just out of curiousity, I was wondering if you would like to share with me your status, in terms of finding a loyal and committed man? I would be interested to know.

OMG!
 

I guess I'll pass on lunch today!