Adopt-a-kink
 

It has come to my attention that you people aren't sexually open enough. Well, we can't have a forum that revolves around sexuality with all of its participants pointing their noses up at deviant sexual practices, now can we? In this thread, we will all pledge to try out a new kink. We might even add our thoughts and previous experiences with said kink. Within a week, we will try out our new kink and then come back and tell all about it.

Here is a list of kinks that you can choose one, or make up your own!
anal play
anal sex
exhibitionism
voyeurism
web cam sex
cyber sex
phone sex
food play
costume play
spanking
whipping
paddling
bondage
blind-folding
peeing
public sex
public flashing
nipple clamps
butt-plugs
anal beads
day-wear vibrators
foot fetish
dominant/submissive
saddles
fisting
enemas
chastity harnesses
group sex
cuckolding
talking dirty
glory holes
strap-ons

Which one do you pledge?

What's a saddle?

Otherwise, I've done and/or participated in most everything on that list, other than fisting and chastity harnesses (does it count that I had an evangelical stick up my ass for most of my sexually formative years?). I don't think I'll ever be in the mood for fisting, but how does the chastity harness work for a woman?

Oh wait, I haven't tried day-wear vibrators... that would be fun, but won't be able to find one in Iceland anytime soon. And what exactly does voyeurism entail, just in case my definition is different?

Voyeurism could be as simple as going to a sex-show... or attending a sex party and just watching.

ahahahahaha Im not sexually open enough? oh god THATS funny

Actually, I've already embraced 18 of those kinks. I've done my fair share!

I'm just not interested in the ones I haven't done.

And you could add group sex to your list...

I have a feeling that the "sexually open" among us are all going to reply to this thread, whilst those who are not so open, will simply lurk and not share--and that's their right. It's kind of a self-selecting bias, unfortunately (even though this is the TFP, which means we all should be talking about sex more often!!!). :)

Is that on Hal's list? :lol:

No, but it should be!!! :lol:

Anal play. Taken.

I added group sex and cuckolding

Foot fetish... but you all knew that.

Yeah, WK, we need something NEW from you.

and Shani, try not to make the newbies uncomfortable. Be encouraging.

I like having my asshole licked while I jerk off.



Does that count?

lol you said "you people", you didnt specify!!

Im always encouraging and I will be MORE than happy to help and encourage on the first 23 things on that list (specially the ones that pertain to bdsm)

Shani, you were a big help to us, back in the day... :thumbsup:

But we knew that about you. Try harder.

Yeah... I got nothing.

You left out switching sexes (straight play gay or vice versa), swapping partners, and threesomes, which are not quite the same as group sex. ;)

This is about where I'm at, give or take a couple kinks. The ones that remain are ones I haven't participated in because they're not my bag, nor are they likely to be.

Sorry, Hal...I'm already kinky enough.

I pledge fisting.

It was the next goal on my agenda anyway....

Besides, I've done everything else on the list.

Well, I've already done many of these, and consider myself fairly kinky. The only one I really never had the opportunity to experience is group sex. So, I pledge to try this one out.

I'm clearly a lightweight - I've only done 11 of them, but there's a few others that don't leave me cold so I may try.

You left out talking dirty whilst NOT on the phone or net...

I think you're all bluffing.

Don't worry Daniel_, I'm lighter than that... I count 8, and that's a POSSIBLE 8. TM is down with the public sex, so maybe that'll happen next. Hmmm...

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Wait, is glory holing a kink? I mean, it seems like a pretty kinky way to get off from both sides. It's not one that I recommend, per se... but perhaps it should be on the list.

Or snowballing?

Um, nope.

Why is "bisexuality" a kink, btw? Does that mean that being gay is "kinky," too? :orly:

You also forgot strap-ons, btw.

Most of the recent threads have been about things like snowballing. I've done plenty of things on the list, but nothing that comes out down there, goes in up top. Ick.

well.. I've tried many of those already..

maybe I can get the wife to try some that she hasn't.

however, I will not do the foot-fetish, peeing or enema. not even remotely sexy to me. feet are just gross.

I think that one might have been my doing. It's not bisexuality, per se. It's just flirting with or trying what's not the norm for you. If you're gay, then trying someone of the opposite sex would be the kink. If you're straight and not bi, then the same sex would be it.

Wouldn't strap-ons be related as well?

I think bi-sexuality can be a kink, but not necessarily, I suppose.

anal play xx
anal sex xx
exhibitionism x
voyeurism
web cam sex x
cyber sex x
phone sex x
food play x (ended badly with im2smrt4u having a star shaped wound near his eye, reddi whip can)
costume play
spanking xx
whipping
paddling
bondage x do handcuffs count?
blind-folding x
peeing x
public sex
public flashing
nipple clamps
butt-plugs x
anal beads
day-wear vibrators
foot fetish
dominant/submissive x
saddles
fisting (tried did not go well)
enemas
chastity harnesses
group sex
cuckolding
talking dirty x
glory holes
strap-ons xx

We have been wanting to try pony play...I think it looks fun. Does saddles fall into pony play? Problem is to get really into it I wanna buy the pony gear but its expensive.

Yes...saddles, carriage whips, horsetail butt plugs...yes. :)

I've never done it, either, but it's definitely interesting. Especially aesthetically...

meh. can't even get to number two with my SO, as number one there is completely out of the question.

How about for yourself?

Ah, so kind of bi-curious, rather than actually bisexual? I could kind of see that. Related to what?... bisexuality? I don't see it as related at all, really... I can see it being maybe related to domination and power, a kind of role-switching (and it also stimulates a very pleasurable area), but not related to sexuality/gender.
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Someone still needs to tell me about the saddle thing... I have never heard of it.

does analingus fall into the anal play area, or is that just fingers?

I believe analingus is anal play, along with fingers and toys. That's just a guess, though.
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Ponyplay is a subgroup of the BDSM scene that roleplays horses and their masters. Both males and females play both roles, but I am partial to the 'ponygirls.' The scene was popularized by Anne Rice's 'Beauty' books.

Ponies will carry riders and pull carts and carriages (in groups) and generally act very much like ponies.

People who play this way usually take it very, very seriously...as you can imagine. :)

anal play X
anal sex X
exhibitionism X
voyeurism X
web cam sex X
cyber sex X
phone sex X
food play X
costume play X
spanking X
whipping X
bondage X
blind-folding X
peeing (GROSS)
public sex X
public flashing X
nipple clamps
butt-plugs X
anal beads
day-wear vibrators
foot fetish
dominant/submissive X
saddles
fisting
enemas
chastity harnesses
group sex
cuckolding
talking dirty X
glory holes
strap-ons

Does a Sex Swing count? If so put me down for that, if not it's back to the drawing board.

It's playing with the anus, so yes.
Really? You're one of the last people I would expect to not own one of those.

I find it odd on this thread when some feel the need to say something is "ick" or "gross"--I mean, it's a kink thread. I'm sure a lot of things on this list could be considered "gross" by just about everyone, but that's not what the thread is about. Can we all accept that kink is going to be "out there" and possibly "icky" for the average person, and refrain on the judgments when discussing it here?

There was a Bones episode about pony play.

I am around real horses far too much to find pony play even remotely sexy. Yeeeeck.

Well, it wasn't on the list. And my comment didn't stop or inhibit anybody.

I know... but it's just in the spirit of open-mindedness and "evolution" that we all know and love about TFP. If Halx wants to encourage us all to open up more about kinks, then those kinds of comments aren't really that helpful--that's all I'm sayin'.

I found this sweet little picture looking around last night...


http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/members...smut/478-a.jpg

giddyup!! :p

Nice find, MM! Wonder what year that was drawn?

Looks like the 1940s....

Well it's my opinion, and I am entitled to it!! Me thinking something is gross really shouldn't stop someone else from doing it.
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Well if someone were to give me one, I would have no issue with using it:) I guess I just haven't got around to purchasing one.

I hope those reins aren't tied to their arms. Pulling weight with your arms back like that is a good way to permanently damage the rotator cuff, the force should be distributed across the torso evenly and elbows should be forward of the torso with hands out front to avoid injury.

There was also and episode on Bones about pony play. And an episode on CSI about fuzzies, I think it was about the group that dresses up as stuffed animals.

A great place to get pony gear is JT Stockroom. I drool over that website all the time. Damn I wish I had more money!

You're thinking of furries. Scary people, they are, even if Entourage made it hilarious.

If you look at the Pony Girls waists you'll see the harness attachments in my attached scan from from "The Adventures of Sweet Gwendoline" (from the back of the book, with a series of images included from Coutts' Bizarre magazine) :thumbsup: John Coutts aka John Willie was a professional when it came to this sort of illustration.

wikpedia - John Willie - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

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John Alexander Scott Coutts (December 9, 1902 - August 5, 1962), better known as John Willie, was a pioneering fetish photographer and bondage artist.

Life and work

Coutts was born in Singapore and grew up in England; contrary to some claims, he was not related to the Coutts banking family.[1]

In 1921 he entered Sandhurst and in 1923 was commissioned a Second Lieutenant in the Royal Scots. He was forced to resign his commission in 1925 after marrying a nightclub hostess, Eveline Fisher, without the permission of his regiment, whereupon he moved to Australia; the marriage ended in divorce around 1928 or 1929.

In the mid-1930s, he began working for a Sydney-based fetish club as an illustrator and photographer; around this time he began a relationship with Holly Faram, one of his models, and they married in 1942. He was an early enthusiast for the writings of Jorge Luis Borges, and invited the Argentinian to Australia in 1938, to give a short series of lectures in Melbourne, sponsored by Bohemia magazine.

Around 1945-47 Coutts moved to New York City via Montreal, in order to publish his bondage and fetish magazine Bizarre; Holly chose to remain in Australia. At this time he adopted the name 'John Willie'.

Bizarre was published, somewhat irregularly, from 1946 to 1959 (compare with ENEG's work in Exotique magazine, published 1956 - 1959). The magazine included many photographs, often of his wife, and drawings of costume designs, some based on ideas from readers. There were also many letters from readers; he was accused of inventing these letters, but insisted that they were genuine. The letters covered interests such as high heels, bondage, amputee fetishism, sadomasochism, transvestism, corsets and body modification.

As a bondage artist, he is best known for his character Sweet Gwendoline, which he drew in a clear, anatomically correct style that influenced later artists such as ENEG and Eric Stanton. Other characters include U69 (censored to U89 in some editions) as the raven-haired dominatrix who ties up Gwendoline and Sir Dystic d'Arcy, the only prominent male character and probably a parody of Willie himself.

The comic strip was published by Irving Klaw, who forced Stanton to paint clothes over the whip marks on the originals of "The Missing Princess".

After publishing 20 issues of Bizarre he moved to Hollywood, California. He developed a brain tumor in 1961 and was forced to stop his mail order business. He destroyed his archives and returned to England, where he died.

He was portrayed by Jared Harris in the 2006 movie The Notorious Bettie Page, which featured a (fictional) meeting between Willie and Page.


"Unless a model is a good actress, and has 'that type' of face it's difficult for her to look sad and miserable when working for me. My studio is a pretty cheerful place, and quite unlike the atmosphere that surrounds Gwendoline when the Countess gets hold of her." - John Willie, The Art of John Willie, Sophisticated Bondage - Book Two (Page 1)


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I was given the book The Adventures of Sweet Gwendoline several years ago by a co-worker who was clearing his library. Lovely work.

As for the OP - well, in the spirit of fairness to my Lady, I'm signed on to try anal play. This is before even seeing this thread. So, with no expectation of enjoyment nor interest in receiving such attention, some enchanted evening in the next short while I will find myself at her tender mercies :eek:
Now, what will happen if I find I like it, and she is totally grossed out? :lol:

Thank you for the backstory, kramus. I've seen some of John Willie's Bizarre, but I wasn't aware that these images came from there.

Thanks for the new pic, too. :)

As a follow-up to the adopt-a-kink . . . my Lady wanted me to want to experiment. It is my desire and my pleasure that drives her interest, and as I have zero desire to explore this particular kink we never followed up on having her do me with a device. I am perfectly happy with the non-experience.
I remain rather Vanilla, I guess.

I am 3/32. I doubt whether I am eligible for Tfp!
note: there are 12 of them that interest me...

I thought it was a Bones episode.

Of the 32 on the list I've tried 27... of the remaining 5 only two are of interest.

I think you need to add smothering or face sitting.

We've tried 17, and some of the remaining activities have little or no appeal. Maybe voyeurism.

+anal play...+anal sex...exhibitionism...voyeurism...web cam sex...cyber sex...+phone sex...+food play...costume play...+spanking...+whipping...+paddling...+bondage...+blind-folding
peeing...+public sex...+public flashing...+nipple clamps...butt-plugs...anal beads...day-wear vibrators...foot fetish...+dominant/submissive...saddles...+fisting...+enemas...chastity harnesses
group sex...cuckolding...+talking dirty...glory holes...+strap-ons

My last FB was down for most of those, but alas, we no longer bump uglies. I've done most of those on there and would be willing to try most of the ones I haven't done. I think there should be (funny/horrible) stories on here about so said kinks. I got a few on anal adventures.

BTW my friend wanted to ask, does pony play count if you had sex on while riding on the back of a horse?

There are a few other things u can do for kinkiness. U can use 9V batteries or if u wish to have a "better Charge" A car battery with jumper cables, or if not. If u are a woman u can always get a saw zaw with a dildo. Just adding to the conversation.

I'm currently up to 22 of the listed kinks

I'm not really interested in the peeing or enemas thing - too work like and cuckolding isn't really my thing either - I suppose we could try fisting again but that was horribly painful last time (I know women are meant to stretch but OUCH!)

Actually I think Halx I have tried everything on your list I am interested in doing - maybe I could just increase the frequency instead?

(Ifd the SO collapses due to dehydration or exhaustion so blaming you either way)

Curiousbear, if your not eligible for TFP then neither am I, the ones with an "x" I've done, the ones with a y I'm open to!! So i'm only 8 up, hah, I feel not so bad!!

anal play-I'm open
anal sex-I'm open
exhibitionism-xx
voyeurism-xx
web cam sex-I feel nothing.......
cyber sex-not really....
phone sex-xx
food play-ohh god yes!
costume play-y
spanking-xx
whipping-sheesh, not that much pain!!!!!!!!
paddling-y
bondage-y
blind-folding-y
peeing-y
public sex-xx
public flashing-y
nipple clamps-I'm open
butt-plugs-I'm open
anal beads-y
day-wear vibrators
foot fetish-xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
dominant/submissive-yyyyy (I will submit)
saddles-see above
fisting-y
enemas-y
chastity harnesses
group sex-y
cuckolding-xx
talking dirty-xx
glory holes-y
strap-ons-y
Now let's add a golden shower-will not do it. Sorry

We tried fisting a few times. It didn't work for us, I got extremely sore wrists, & my wife got an irritated vaginal opening. She is way too tight for my fist, which certainly isn't huge, but on the plus side that's very good news for my penis.

Xerxy, the strange thing is i am open, interested and curious about many of them but havent done yet.

anal play-no interest
anal sex-open
exhibitionism-interested
voyeurism-open
web cam sex-open
cyber sex-open
phone sex-open
food play-interested
costume play-interested
spanking-yes
whipping-interested
paddling-dont know
bondage-interested
blind-folding-interested (sometimes imagine mff)
peeing-nope
public sex-curious
public flashing-curious
nipple clamps-open
butt-plugs-open
anal beads-open
day-wear vibrators-nope
foot fetish-yes
dominant/submissive-open
saddles-not interested
fisting-nope
enemas-nope
chastity harnesses-nope
group sex-nope
cuckolding-curious
talking dirty-interested
glory holes-dont know
strap-ons-open