Lap Dance

[griphiam]

So I tried to do a search incase its already been covered, but it looks like I'm new enough that it won't let me.

So what exactly is involved if you get a lap dance at a strip club? Whats expected? Protocol? Do's and Don'ts?

Thanks!

[Yalaynia]

I have never been to one , but I do know some of the rules just from talking to friends and that. I had to a chance to go to a ladies night private party and you were allowed to touch. I was told that the guys came up even so much to grab your face and grind into you with nothing on and if they had an erection so be it.
As far as actual strip clubs 90% of them have strict rules you break one they throw you out on your ass to the curb. I was watching a thing on tv about them and the dos and donts of both the customers and the dancers. The guys can not so much as even get an erection onstage. The girls or guys will and do come up and do table dances and lap dances (have to pay for them), and most likely grab you everywhere possible but you can not even so much as make one move towards them.

[rufgti]

In "gentlemen's" clubs, rules vary. Most clubs do not allow touching of the women. Basically, it's hands to yourself.

[Averett]

Ask what the rules are... From hearing stories from friends, up in clubs in Montreal you can pretty much do anythin you want. Here in NY if you so much as touch a girl your fingers will probably be broken by big huge men. Be careful!

[griphiam]

So basically the girls have free reign to anything they want, and you just sit there with your hands to yourself? Is there any actual contact? Is there a big difference if you get a private room? (not that its probably all that private anyway, security cameras, etc)

Are there preperations (ie clothing choice) you should make before hand?

Thanks! =)

[BCD]

It has been my experience that the more commercial / franchise strip joints will allow you to do nothing but sit there with your hands to your sides or under your butt. That is fine w/ me, b/c I'm not in to groping strange women as much as I'm in to sitting back and admiring a very hot chick rubbing herself and grinding her body on me. Gives me some great material to think of when masterbating later.

In some of the more "colorful" strip joints, you can rub the girls' asses and tits, and sometimes suck their tits (e.g., Mons Venus in Tampa). I think in almost every strip joint, the goal of the lap dance (for both you and the stripper, who wants to keep you for additional songs so she can make more money) is to give you a good hard-on through rubbing through your clothes. This can make things a bit awkward when the song ends and it is time to head back to your seat.

Speaking of clothes, you asked about what to wear. I typically where khakis b/c it isn't as rough on the girls as jeans and you can get some good contact. The real perverts at the clubs wear nylon sweatpants.

[arch13]

Originally posted by BCD
The real perverts at the clubs wear nylon sweatpants.

As my old roomate is a strip club bouncer (can you spell 30% tip out children?), i've emailed him this qoute and i'm really waiting to see how many weirdos have actually tried to show up like that. I'm hoping the girls are taught to ignore those patrons and let security deal with them...

[dogzilla]

It depends on what part of New York. Around Albany, it's pretty much no-touch. It's more liberal closer to NYC

[eribrav]

If you really want to know how good a lap dance can be I have only one word for you.

TORONTO

[BentNotTwisted]

I'd say dont' be embarrased to ask the girl what the rules are. Hell, everyone is a virgin at lap dances, until their first one. The girl is going to be very straightforward with you if you just ask directly. Sometimes they even ask if this is your first time and that makes it even easier.
Wear loose comfortable slacks so it's easy to get an erection if you feel like it. Tight jeans may look good, but you're not there to look good for the other patrons, you're there to enjoy yourself.
edit:
One suggestion, don't pick a girl just because she looks hot. If you have the opportunity, glance at the girls as they give other guys lap dances and pick out the ones who you think have the best moves. Most of all, don't be embarrassed, relax and have fun with it.

[skysooner]

It varies so much. Most don't allow touching, but there is still some touching going on. Touching the outside of their legs, etc. is usually not a problem. Just watch other patrons and see what they are doing. I have seen guys basically getting a hand job at some clubs and in others the girls are 2 feet away.

[hellasnow]

ya usually hands to yourself. i've been to some where they don't really "rub" into ya much but then been to others that i've wondered if i sliped another 20+ if i'd be getting a hand/blow job.

just watch what everyone else is doing for a bit

[jayjay3]

Florida: Here's a list of the cities in which I've patronized some strip clubs

Cocoa Beach -- touch everything but the breast and Vagina
Miami -- Touch everything but the Vagina (unless the dancer moves your hands there indicating permission)
Tampa -- Same as Miami
Port Richey -- Nothing goes inside the dancers
Gainesville -- Hands behind your head, no touching

It's usually a good idea to do one of the following:
1.) ask the entertainer what her dances are like and what's allowed (as every dancer will have her own set of rules)
OR
2.) Simply allow the dancer to move your hands to where it's okay to touch.

A warning for the newcomers to the Florida club scene: Because touching is allowed in almost every club, there will always be dancers who want to push the rules in order to get an edge up on the competition. If that's okay with you, great. If, like me, you're grossed out by the idea of women performing sexual acts on other men right before bringing her mouth anywhere near you, then it's best to get a feel for the dancer before you go back with her.

[curiousbear]

never done it .... may be some day in some other world

[Strange Famous]

Basically just common sense: you cant put your hands on the girl, you cant get your cock out, etc...

[chinese crested]

What you are asking. Is it basicaly 'can I get a fuck out of this'? If that is the real question, I think maybe you need a slightly different shop. As to what to wear - in either event, I should imagine smell clean, but not overpowered with aftershave and such, and clean comfortable clothes - by comfortable I dont mean out of the rag bag.
I myself have never been to such an establishment, but my ex did visit a couple of ladies in Antwerp. He thought he was paying for a threesome, but they made him kneel on the floor, lick their boots, and wank himself off. He didnt think he got his moneys worth - I thought it was priceless myself. He wasnt untraveled - he was a captain on a small coaster owned by a dutch company flying heaven knows what flag. And he was 'frugal' to an extreme.

[james t kirk]

Originally Posted by eribrav

If you really want to know how good a lap dance can be I have only one word for you.

TORONTO

LOL...or Montreal.

Yes, you beat me to it.

Canadians are more relaxed about sexual behaviour between consenting adults. Nobody's business but yours, and the naked girl in front of you.

It's whatever the both of you agree to. Touching her is a given though. And that means anywhere - but please be polite about it.

Everything is on the menu usually. It's only a question of you wanting it and being willing to pay for it.

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Originally Posted by Strange Famous

Basically just common sense: you cant put your hands on the girl, you cant get your cock out, etc...

Not in Toronto.

You can definitely put your hands on, and you can definitely take your cock out.

And the women - Bay Watch quality.

(BTW, I've never had sex in a strip joint (honestly) but it is the readily available. The reason is that you're sitting in an easy chair in the darkened VIP lounge and the idea of pulling my pants down and sitting my bare ass down on a chair that is probably slathered in cum spots and shit stains from a thousand other guys really doesn't appeal to me in the least. But yeah, I have had my cock out once or twice in my younger years in Strip clubs over the years. (You can keep your pants on.)) It's actually quite sureal in those VIP lounges. You're with your dancer of choice and you look around and there are 4 or 5 "couples" doing pretty much everything under the sun together. Everything from just a straight dance to fucking.

[raging moderate]

That's it! I'm moving to Canada. Every time I hear anything about Canada I like it more.

[Craven Morehead]

Or Detroit, the gateway to Canada. Was there last fall at the Penthouse Club and it was pretty wild. If you have the cash, you can have whatever you want.

[chinese crested]

Antwerp. Just outside of grand central railway station - bear to right I believe on exiting.

[kutulu]

The phrase is Your Mileage May Vary (YMMV). It varies by customer, dancer, club, city, and day. Some girls keep their distance and air dance, others are actively trying to get you to cum. I've never asked for rules. My rule of thumb was to start out placing my hands on her hips. If she moves away your done, don't get another dance because your wasting your time. If she's cool, start moving them down her legs, across her back, or to her ass. If she's still cool, go for the stomach, then the tits. I rarely progressed beyond there because rubbing the front of the thong is somewhat akward, but she's responsive and acting cool, go for the front of the thong. If she still hasn't stopped you try sticking your hand inside. If your really lucky she might reciprocate and give you a hand job.

[ASU2003]

Originally Posted by kutulu

I rarely progressed beyond there because rubbing the front of the thong is somewhat akward, but she's responsive and acting cool, go for the front of the thong. If she still hasn't stopped you try sticking your hand inside. If your really lucky she might reciprocate and give you a hand job.

Why go to a club where they wear anything? I know some places are hundreds of miles from a fully nude place, but unless it is a bachelor party with bad planning, wait for the real thing.

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Originally Posted by raging moderate

That's it! I'm moving to Canada. Every time I hear anything about Canada I like it more.

I agree. I've been there a few times, and it is a great country. They just need to watch out for global warming, because if it ever gets hot up there I will be migrating north.

[kisabex]

im from the uk and have ben to a few strip clubs and even had a lap dance of a gal (even though im straight i was interested) found it quite awcward bt funny, although a man or lezbian may find it more seductive. you cannot touch the girl unless she may say smack her arse once lol again it was funny for me. You normally get taken into a room where the girl dances or two may go in and you and a friend watch. I must say the girls over here arnt much to look at, if i were a man i would go to stringfellos where the girls are like beauty queens but expects bug bucks in return to look!!
overall its a laugh on a nite out with a bunch of people : )

[Ultrabum]

I'm from the UK too. I went to a club in Nottingham when I had my stag night. I have to say I felt particularly disappointed. The girl was a very sexy English Indian girl. After she writhed around on my crotch for a few minutes she took her knickers off and writhed around for a few more minutes. It did nothing for me. Not even so much as a twitch downstairs. I was spectacularly hammered that night and had only just started to sober up. Might have had something to do with it. I'd go again just to see if it was a better experience but to be honest I could think of more exciting ways to spend my cash.


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[Kookookachoo]

No matter what the stripper tells you...there's no sex in the champagne room. NONE!

[duckdong]

I always ask what the rules are as to touching. If your nice, they will tell you and even take your hand to put it places. This one club I went to had a no touch policy but I went back to the same club a couple years later and you could touch everywhere but in the panties. Of course the girls see what they can get by with just so they can get more money from you. My wife usually has more fun than I. Women can touch or do just about anything at that same club. Just go there and have a good time.

[james t kirk]

Originally Posted by Kookookachoo

No matter what the stripper tells you...there's no sex in the champagne room. NONE!

Oh yes there is.

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[Ultrabum]

I just checked the website. Imagine my disappointment when I checked the menu only to discover it was an actual food menu. Ha ha.