G Spot Question
 

My wife l-o-v-e-s having me touch her g spot after she's really turned on. After awhile she displays all the classic signs of someone about to have a g spot orgasm. I feel her expand and quickly fill with moisture. In my experience, she's about 30 seconds from a great orgasm. However, she always makes me stop immediately at this point. When I ask her "why?" it's always something like it's "uncomfortable" or "too intense." I have told her that it's normal, to hang in there, and that it will go away quickly. She's been unwillng to do this.

I know that there is a lot of anxiety for women when their g spot is being stimulated b/c they fear peeing (even though I know it's not pee). I also know the first time I orgasmed, I almost stopped the girl who was giving me a h.j., b/c it was an overwhelming and slightly uncomfortable feeling right before the orgasm.

For the ladies that have had experience with g spot stimulation and orgasm, what do you think my wife is dealing with? If it truly is uncomfortable and will remain that way (i.e., she won't orgasm shortly thereafter), I'll stop trying to convince her to hang in there. I, of course, don't want to bring discomfort to her. However, if it's simply her not being used to the strange feelings associated with the early stages of a g spot orgasm, I want to help her get there through reassurance.

Thanks.

Well I would say that for me I know EXACTLY what she's talking about....it took me few goes to be able to ignore that and let Dave finish, it was such an alien feeling to me I didnt know how to describe it...but it was just seconds before I O'd. All I can say is tell her its normal and she's missing out on the best O of her life lol

After I gritted my teeth and let him follow thru that first time....it was never uncomfortable for me again

Tie her up.

Motion seconded.

And thirded.

After the first time I tied up my wife and gave her a G spot orgasm, she never complained again.


In fact, she bought more rope.

And fourthed :lol:

When I had my first G spot orgasm, I was hesitant too, that feeling you get just before makes you pull back and stop.
Once she realizes what she's been missing, she'll never make you stop again. :thumbsup:

I have been meaning to send Snowy an apology about this subject. I had thought G-spot O's to be second best because I always had clitoral ones with G-spot stimulation being secondary. Then I had one by itself. Intense would be correct, as is Shani.
Whoa...

Sorry, Snowy. I stand corrected....albeit a bit wobbly. ;)

Thanks for the responses. I was almost certain this was the case, but have had some women who found g spot stimulation uncomfortable and didn't come close to having an orgasm this way. However, those women found it uncomfortable straight out of the gate. My concern about the tying up, is that it might really piss her off if she sincerely wants me to stop and I don't. ShaniFaye, settie and ngdawg, what should I say to her to get her to hang in there and when should I say it? I mean, do I tell her early in the evening what I'm going to do and what she needs to expect? Or do I wait until we start messing around? Or do I wait until right before she's about to stop me? Thanks!

My advice is to talk to her about it....if she is truly enjoying it right up to where that uncomfy feeling starts....tell her she is not alone....liken it to losing her virginity lol the first time wasnt so hot but once she got past that sex was a hell of a lot of fun lol.

Does she drink at all? Maybe get her to have a few of her favorite drinks beforehand? I dont mean get her sloshed, just a few to relax her

You may also want to try the Slightest Touch Machine. I've had direct experience with someone who says that it took away all the discomfort.

ShaniFaye,

Love the "losing your virginity" analogy, as well as the couple drinks suggestion. I think that is a good play. I'll let you know how it works out.

Thanks,
BCD

Well, I'm very glad to find out you were able to experience this for yourself.

As Shani suggested, she is just going to have to grit her teeth and get through the first one, but it will be worth it!

That's what the rubber ball is for! :)

Yup, I agree with Shani....talk about it with her. And make sure you bring towels when she gives in :) hehe...she won't regret it. ^_^ Let us know how it works out!

I spoke to my wife about this, as I do about all things of interest or concern, and as I consider her to be something of an expert on orgasms (special thanks to me:D ), this is what we have come up with together ......

This type of orgasm, for many women (not all) can be far more intense than a clitoral orgasm and thusly, in most cases, be a simple matter of similar yet differing intense sensations. There are SOME women who simply cannot enjoy this type of stimulation / sensation / orgasm as the feeling of it is simply too intense, or in some instances, it is simply being done too harsh or rigorous.

My advice is to talk to her about it in a nonsexual setting and get her input on the subject BEFORE attempting this again. Then, with her consent, use the same technique you have before, only go slower and use a lighter touch. If your efforts yields the same results, it is most likely she is in the minority of women who simply are unable to enjoy this sort of stimulation.:thumbsup:

We both LOVED the rope trick and had a good laugh about that, but in all sincerity, your fears of her anger at that prospect is not an unreasonable concern. So you should consider fine-tuning your technique first, and add the rope later .. trust me when I say this, it truly enhances the experience. :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

If she's anticipating it, it won't happen that first time. She has to get past that funny pain feeling thing that preceeds it. I can't give advice how to proceed-mine was happenstance-totally unplanned.

Get a copy of Tom Leonardi's book "Secrets of Sensual Lovemaking", it has a few tips on building the trust necessary for her to abandon herself to the intensity. It can be very scary!

I'll second the importance of trust. She has to trust you to handle her. She doesn't know what can happen. She is feeling like she is gona pee the bed. Also, it so intense that "other" accidents can happen too :paranoid: She has to know that you would be cool with that. Whatever happens.

I don't have anything new to add, other than to echo what everyone else has said. mandy had the same problem letting go the first few times. In her case, however, it was the determination to have full-bodied squirting orgasm experience that she'd heard and read about.

It does take trust - that goes without saying - but she also needs to know that you want her to have it as bad as she does. I remember mandy's first time quite vividly. She started to hold back like she usually did and I took her by the back of her neck, pulled her closer, stuck my fingers into her that little bit deeper and gave her a look that told her how badly I wanted her to cum.

Now, she can't get enough. :)

I'm gonna put in the request that when the two of you go all the way through with this, that you must tell us every little detail.

Yeah it's a pretty intense feeling. I can understand why she'd be hesitant. Plus, the amount varies - but it can be REALLY messy. Maybe she doesn't think you're prepared for it (towels, etc.).

Honestly, the only way to figure it out is to talk to her. And when she gives you a vague answer, tell her to elaborate. Try to get her to open up.

Thanks again everyone for the quality responses.

Sharon and Mantus, I actually own the book you referenced. I have tried the author's suggestions re. "trust". However, my wife is a bit of a control freak, so it's really hard for her to give in - so to speak.

World's King, I think it is only fair that I share all the dirty little details given the help you all have provided. May not be for a few more weeks, b/c she generally likes this sort of stimulation around the time she is ovulating (and very horny).

Kahn, good advice, except I'm not sure about the lighter/slower touch suggestion. I've essentially done that before, but the feeling going through her body at that particular time is so intense that it doesn't matter how I touch her g spot then. Based on what I've experenced with other women, seen how my wife's body responds, and hearing the comments from ShaniFaye and the other ladies, I'm pretty convinced that the key is for me to keep up what I've been doing that got her to this point but get her to "tough it out" and "trust me" during these last few seconds. Had she not enjoyed me touching her g spot prior to this point, I'd be more likely to agree with you. Ladies, what do you think?

I tend to agree with you here on this, but had to at least attempt to cover both sides of the coin as it were. Still, we're all waiting for the details of how this works out .. so .. off with you .. get to it .. we're waiting. :thumbsup:

BCD, can I hug you? Thank you for starting this thread. It sparked a conversation between my boyfriend and I that led to a very good night.

From my very recent experience with this, make sure your wife is relaxed. Then, when she tells you to stop...don't. It was uncomfortable for me because its a feeling I usually stay away from as well. After reading this thread, my boyfriend and I were both pretty determined that there was a better orgasm out there for me. :crazy: We were right.

If she is relaxed, and you keep touching that spot, she is going to feel fantastic. :eek:

Thanks Again, and good luck to you both.

BlueEyes, Isn't it great how this whole TFP works? Glad my post sparked your conversation. Reading a post two days ago in the Ladies Lounge re. rough sex resulted in some great new stuff for my wife and I as well. Wouldn't have really thought about it otherwise.

Ok, as enlightening as this has been for me, it is still somewhat maddening to hear this feeling described as "intense," "alien," and something women "usually stay away from." I'm sure it's difficult, since all of the descriptions I have read or heard (including those outside the TFP) have been similarly vague, but can anyone give me a more detailed description of the feelings associated with this sort of stimulation and orgasm? I'm really having a hard time trying to relate to what she is feeling.

Thanks.

hmmm you want to relate? let her massage your prostate, if thats not something that you've experienced it will put you "in the same boat" so to speak